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Old 11-12-2009, 05:45 PM   #1
 
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would you wonder if you need a different more flattering hairstyle? What do you think?
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Post a picture. We will be honest. And complimentary
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Maybe you never get compliments because your hair has always looked great. If you've once had an awful style then changed it, people would notice.
I never get compliments but when i first transformed from straight to natural, i got them all the time, now nothing, unless I ask. Do you like your hair and do you think it looks good?
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my husband told me yesterday he thinks my curls are vey unflattering on me... but then again, i have seem women on tv etc that have GORGEOUS curls and i ask him if he thinks it looks good and he says, "ehh".
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Wavy Wonder, tell your husband that straight hair never gets that gorgeous tousled bed-head look that you KNOW he loves :]

and maybe it is time for a switch up, it depends on how long you've had the same style.
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Well that wasn't very nice of your husband, wavy wonder!!

In regard to the original question - it could be just because people are used to how your hair looks - but not because it looks bad.

I think it's time for me to get a trim - not looking forward to it...
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my husband told me yesterday he thinks my curls are vey unflattering on me... but then again, i have seem women on tv etc that have GORGEOUS curls and i ask him if he thinks it looks good and he says, "ehh".
I hope he enjoyed his stay on the couch.
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Maybe people are used to the way my hair looks and that is why. BUT I also think my hairstyle doesn't flatter my heart shaped face. The style kinds of drags my face down. I think a style for a heart shaped face should either frame it or somehow make the face shape look more oval. I am an artist and a bit of a perfectionist and it really seems off to me. Granted, I am growing out a bad cut but it shouldn't take a year to find a flattering look!

Wavy, why on earth would your husband say that to you?? How did you respond to him when he said that?
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Maybe people are used to the way my hair looks and that is why. BUT I also think my hairstyle doesn't flatter my heart shaped face. The style kinds of drags my face down. I think a style for a heart shaped face should either frame it or somehow make the face shape look more oval. I am an artist and a bit of a perfectionist and it really seems off to me. Granted, I am growing out a bad cut but it shouldn't take a year to find a flattering look!

Wavy, why on earth would your husband say that to you?? How did you respond to him when he said that?
I wasn't offended....hmmm, maybe I should have been. i don't know, i asked what he thought of my hair that particular day and he sort of beat around the bush and said it. But when i question him....NOOOOOO he doesn't want to talk further about it. I don't get it , for sure. Especially when i see a hot girl with hot curls and for him to say Ehh says something. oh well, I like um.. the curls, I mean oh and i guess the hubs ,too
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LOL, just asked him if he liked my hair tonight and he said yes. He's worse than a girl
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I think your waves for sure flatter you, wavywonder, as far as I can tell from your siggie pic.

Men think girl hair is straight hair.
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Default I get complments from strangers, but my friends rarely say anything except

If I compliment their hair, they'll say "you hair looks great. Your hair always looks great". So while they don't regularly say something, I don't worry that that means mine looks bad.

I'm sure you're beautiful!
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LOL, just asked him if he liked my hair tonight and he said yes. He's worse than a girl

guys are so silly sometimes
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Maybe people are used to the way my hair looks and that is why. BUT I also think my hairstyle doesn't flatter my heart shaped face. The style kinds of drags my face down. I think a style for a heart shaped face should either frame it or somehow make the face shape look more oval. I am an artist and a bit of a perfectionist and it really seems off to me. Granted, I am growing out a bad cut but it shouldn't take a year to find a flattering look!

Wavy, why on earth would your husband say that to you?? How did you respond to him when he said that?
I wasn't offended....hmmm, maybe I should have been. i don't know, i asked what he thought of my hair that particular day and he sort of beat around the bush and said it. But when i question him....NOOOOOO he doesn't want to talk further about it. I don't get it , for sure. Especially when i see a hot girl with hot curls and for him to say Ehh says something. oh well, I like um.. the curls, I mean oh and i guess the hubs ,too
My SO is not a lover of curly hair. I think it is just his personality. He likes neat and I think to him curly has the appearance of messy. But, I do not cater to his like of straight hair either so he must have decided he liked the curly hair enough to stick it out. We have been together for 10 years and out of those 10 years my hair has probably been blown out or straightened maybe 20 times. I do not think we have to love everything about our significant other but as long as the good parts outweigh the parts we do not like so much-we are good.
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Like others have said, I normally only get compliments if I have a new cut or style. Or I might get a "your hair is getting so long!", something like that. I get the occasional random compliment, but not often. As long as I'm happy with the way it looks, it doesn't bother me.
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I think my issue is I am not happy with the way it looks. My face is longish and heart shaped and my Deva Cut seems rectangular. It really drags me down and makes me look older. I am supposed to wait another month for a cut. Maybe it will be shaped differently as my old butchered cut grows out more or maybe Deva Cuts are not for me. I hope the latter is not the case though!
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I think my issue is I am not happy with the way it looks. My face is longish and heart shaped and my Deva Cut seems rectangular. It really drags me down and makes me look older. I am supposed to wait another month for a cut. Maybe it will be shaped differently as my old butchered cut grows out more or maybe Deva Cuts are not for me. I hope the latter is not the case though!
I was really feeling like you before I got my hair cut last week. I have an oval shaped face which supposedly can take just about any style (is that right or am I making that up??). Anyways, as my hair got longer and pulled out the wave/curl at the top I felt dragged down too. Now that I have some fullness on the sides and my top is fuller because it is not being pulled by the length I feel much perkier. Can you get just a trim maybe?
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I think my issue is I am not happy with the way it looks. My face is longish and heart shaped and my Deva Cut seems rectangular. It really drags me down and makes me look older. I am supposed to wait another month for a cut. Maybe it will be shaped differently as my old butchered cut grows out more or maybe Deva Cuts are not for me. I hope the latter is not the case though!
I was really feeling like you before I got my hair cut last week. I have an oval shaped face which supposedly can take just about any style (is that right or am I making that up??). Anyways, as my hair got longer and pulled out the wave/curl at the top I felt dragged down too. Now that I have some fullness on the sides and my top is fuller because it is not being pulled by the length I feel much perkier. Can you get just a trim maybe?

This is exactly why I've lightened up my top, gotten some loose bangs, and try to focus on volume over definition. I just felt like the straight down, even curls were making me look a little '90s. Now I like to wear my hair a little messy, instead of gunning for those perfect spirals every morning.
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Maybe people are used to the way my hair looks and that is why. BUT I also think my hairstyle doesn't flatter my heart shaped face. The style kinds of drags my face down. I think a style for a heart shaped face should either frame it or somehow make the face shape look more oval. I am an artist and a bit of a perfectionist and it really seems off to me. Granted, I am growing out a bad cut but it shouldn't take a year to find a flattering look!

Wavy, why on earth would your husband say that to you?? How did you respond to him when he said that?
I wasn't offended....hmmm, maybe I should have been. i don't know, i asked what he thought of my hair that particular day and he sort of beat around the bush and said it. But when i question him....NOOOOOO he doesn't want to talk further about it. I don't get it , for sure. Especially when i see a hot girl with hot curls and for him to say Ehh says something. oh well, I like um.. the curls, I mean oh and i guess the hubs ,too
My SO is not a lover of curly hair. I think it is just his personality. He likes neat and I think to him curly has the appearance of messy. But, I do not cater to his like of straight hair either so he must have decided he liked the curly hair enough to stick it out. We have been together for 10 years and out of those 10 years my hair has probably been blown out or straightened maybe 20 times. I do not think we have to love everything about our significant other but as long as the good parts outweigh the parts we do not like so much-we are good.
yeah, I think he thinks it looks messy... especially on days I don't really do anything with it. And it's always the same. I don't think he hates it by any means, although, him saying, "it's not flattering on you", pretty much means.... hmmm.
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