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Sure. Both of my grandmothers got married in their teens. 16 or 17. Wasn't anything unusual in those days. and my mom got married in her early 20's.
In Western PA
Found NC in 2004. CG since 2-05, going grey since 9-05. 3B with some 3A.
Hair texture-medium/fine, porosity-normal except for the ends which are porous, elasticity-normal.
Suave & VO5 cond, LA Looks Sport Gel, oils, honey, vinegar.
http://public.fotki.com/jeepcurlygurl/ password jeepy **updated Feb 2014**
https://www.facebook.com/lifetheuniverseandtodd
Hey all! I just discovered this grey hair discussion! I haven't read these boards in quite some time; probably since before I stopped coloring my hair, which was November 1st of 2009.
I am 42 years old, and have been going grey since I was about 18.
I finally got so tired of having to color all the time, so I quit, with lots of encouragement from my husband.
I grew the skunk stripe until it was about 2 inches, then I couldn't stand it anymore, so I cut it short. Pixie short. It killed me to cut my curls, but 12 weeks later, all the dyed color was completely gone!
And now I have been trying to grow it back to my curly wedged bob ever since. a couple more inches! The problem is that my hair is so thick that it gets really bushy fast, so I get it trimmed on the often side, so it's taking much longer than I expected.
The picture in my profile is from about a month ago (that's my 6 yr old son; it was Halloween and we had our faces painted).
I am so glad I decided to stop coloring!
I get compliments on it non-stop, and its SOOO liberating!
your hair looks great!
that happened to me, i was getting my hair cut too often (due to my friend, who goes to the same place and she would urge me to drive into the city when she needed it cut. i stopped last summer when i realized after a year my hair was still the same length! you may have to bite the bullet and just hold off. however, from what i see in your picture, it looks cute now.
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3a, some 2c & 3b, medium texture, porosity normal, low elasticity
washing/cowashing, conditioning, protein tx: curl junkie products
leave in:cj conditioners and treatments as leave in
styling: cj pattern pusha, cj honey butta leave in, cj cccc, cj ciab, lalsg. cj aloe fix gel is my high dews/summer HG!!
sealants - spiral solutions emollience butter, jane carter nourish & shine
Hey, everyone. I wanted to join in and say that I've decided to go gray (again), too!

I'm 43 (will be 44 in June) and have had gray hair (and hence, have been coloring) since I was about 25. I'd say I'm fairly salt and pepper at this point, with more gray up front around my face. A couple of years ago I had a short haircut, and I let it go gray thinking that I could carry it off. I felt good about it, until I saw pictures of myself and thought I looked old. So back to the bottle I went, but I wasn't really happy about it. Here I am with hubby and my short gray 'do:



I've always pretty much hated the process, the smell, the money, the time investment - everything about it - but I couldn't take the thought of looking "old."

Last time I colored, about a month ago, in an effort to use a more hair-friendly product, I used Garnier Herbashine thinking it would be better on my hair and would wash out (like the box says). Not only was it not better, it faded on my dark brown hair to a sort of medium brown color and has stayed that color. At that point I got fed up with the whole process, read this thread, checked out Going Gray Looking Great, and decided that I'm done with coloring my hair. Liberation!! I think, as someone pointed out a couple of pages ago, that hairstyle will make all the difference - I think my short cut wasn't doing me any favors anyway, and with the gray, it was Old City. I am thinking (hoping) that having longer gray hair will not make me look or feel as old as I did with the short cut. My hair right now is at the same length as in my avatar, and I'm hoping to get it to about shoulder length, eventually.

I have, right now, salt and pepper roots (about a half-inch), a half-inch below that of medium brown, and the rest is dark brown. I am about 2 weeks or so past the point where I normally would have colored to cover up the gray, so this four-toned hair is quite an interesting look. My "racing stripe", as I saw one Going Gray poster call it, is quite noticeable along my normal part, but I realized last night that I have significantly less gray showing if I part my hair on the other side. So I did a reverse part this morning (talk about feeling WEIRD!!) and it looks much more tolerable.

I am planning to go cold turkey with this - no lowlights or highlights or what have you, and I am feeling pretty strong about it right now, but I know that when the stripe gets to be a couple of inches, I'm going to have a rough time of it. I will be back for support, for sure!!
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Sulfate/non-water-soluble silicone free since 8/16/10
Northern VA
Med-coarse, normal porosity, low elasticity
Dye-free since 11/2010

Rustina - I agree with you about short curly hair looking older than longer curly hair. That's exactly why I've been growing my hair out. I'm still waiting for the front to reach my shoulders, but I'm getting there. My hair is a dark blonde/light ash brown with gray sprinkled thoughout. I'm happy with my decision to not color - especially when I consider the time and $ it would take. And it helps a lot that my husband is very supportive.

Best of luck to you, Rustina!! Maybe ask for some cute hats and headbands for the holidays?!!
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2Poodles Southeast PA
fine, med porosity, normal elasticity
Currently using the following 2 - 3 x/week:
Living Proof Perfect Hair Day suphate-free Poo, cone-free CO and styling treatment, plus KCCC

Thank you, 2poodles! I think your hair is lovely, by the way, and I sooooo wish that I had never colored in the first place. But, you know, at 25 I really never saw going gray as an option. I am lucky, too, that hubby has no problem with me going gray - he was fine with it the first time I did it, so his reaction this time is more like, "That again? *shrug* Whatever makes you happy, dear."

And yes - I think lots of headbands and cute clips are definitely in my future!! I saw a really nice selection at Ulta last time I was there, so maybe I need to swing by on the way home from work one day this week.
Sulfate/non-water-soluble silicone free since 8/16/10
Northern VA
Med-coarse, normal porosity, low elasticity
Dye-free since 11/2010

Hi y'all! I just discovered this thread...I have been coloring for the longest time, and I've gotten to the point of having to color my hair every 5 weeks. And my roots are tellling me that I am naturally more white than not. My hair was originally a very dark brown, even darker than what it's colored now. My issue is that I don't want to go all white yet...I'd like it to be a more gradual process. Has anyone tried lightening their color gradually? To allow the white/gray to gradually blend in? If yes, how did you do it? Any suggestions?
3a/b
Wash: CJ Daily Fix, KM shampoo bars, Giovanni 50:50 Clarifying
Co-wash/Condish: Curls Coconut Sublime Moisturizing Conditioner
LI & Styling: KBB milk, CJ Beauticurls LI, CJ Coffee-Coco Curl Lite cream, CJ CIAB
DT: CJ Hibiscus & Banana Deep Fix, Shea Butter

http://public.fotki.com/sharon5152/
sharon -- i had dark hair like you, darkest brown/black. i was told by several different haircolorists that i could not strip the color, it would just turn red, and my skintone is not good with red hair.
so, many years ago i decided i'd do that - each coloring i'd go lighter, to make it easier -- what happened is that with my color, the lighter colors would have definite red tones to them, and i'd look sick. plus it definitely was a weird look, so i gave that up. and always though i'd have to do a pixie once i was ready.
my other option suggested to me is that i lowlight as the new hair grew in. glad i decided to go cold turkey, as the problem with lowlights is they fade and would get that red tone, and then you do more, and then all of a sudden, most of your hair is colored! lol
happily, i discovered goinggraylookinggreat website and decided to bite the bullet and just stop coloring. i would frequenly go to that website and look at the transition photos and read their stories for support. i am soooo happy. i was looking at my daughter's wedding photos last night, i was still coloring my hair then, and saw how wrong my hair looked. it's not an easy transition for women who have dark hair and lots of white underneath, but it will pass and is doable. use this thread as your sponsor!! lol we will support you.
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3a, some 2c & 3b, medium texture, porosity normal, low elasticity
washing/cowashing, conditioning, protein tx: curl junkie products
leave in:cj conditioners and treatments as leave in
styling: cj pattern pusha, cj honey butta leave in, cj cccc, cj ciab, lalsg. cj aloe fix gel is my high dews/summer HG!!
sealants - spiral solutions emollience butter, jane carter nourish & shine
I think it's been four months since I've colored and three since I've had the bleaching.

I'm delighted to be done with coloring - it's so nice to not worry about roots!

One of my nephews made a comment about my ... racing stripe ... about a month ago and when I told him I was growing it out and going gray he didn't say another word.

I do look a bit like my calico cat but that's okay with me. I actually LIKE the look of a lot of different colors! I may be sorry to see that end when I'm done growing it out.

I just wish the bleached parts (blond to white) weren't so damaged. The use of silicones has helped though.
2C, maybe
Biolage Conditioning Balm
Deva Curls One condition
GF Triple Nutrition conditioner, deep conditioner and leave in spray
anGell and Set it Free
thanks rbb for your tips! I actually look good with red in my hair, so if that's what might happen, I wouldn't be unhappy! I'm going to take your thoughts to my hairdresser in a couple weeks, see what she has to say...meanwhile, thanks for answering my questions!
3a/b
Wash: CJ Daily Fix, KM shampoo bars, Giovanni 50:50 Clarifying
Co-wash/Condish: Curls Coconut Sublime Moisturizing Conditioner
LI & Styling: KBB milk, CJ Beauticurls LI, CJ Coffee-Coco Curl Lite cream, CJ CIAB
DT: CJ Hibiscus & Banana Deep Fix, Shea Butter

http://public.fotki.com/sharon5152/
Just wanted to post this pic of my grandmother when she started to go grey. She was in her late 30's in this pic (the baby is my sister). She never dyed her hair. The grey streak just got bigger over the years. Then the dark hair finally disappeared and she had gorgeous white hair. I always admired it and I think that's why I accepted my grey hair so easily (even tho I didn't get the streak I loved so much).
Originally Posted by jeepcurlygurl
Wow, thanks for sharing! So classy and beautiful. I have a hair appointment on the 21st - I'm crossing my fingers that the stylist can offer me some options to make this work.
pw: curlie
i tried the aveda (now loreal) white violet yesterday and it did a good job. i used the conditioner only, not the shampoo. it has dimethicone in it, but figured that was easier to remove with a low poo, then using sulfates in a shampoo.

now, i was told that if use a good clarifying shampoo, good chance it will remove the yellow. that would be preferable than masking it with color deposits.

have any of you successfully removed yellow this way, and what did you use? a regular clarifying shampoo, if so, which one? or something harsh like prell watered down?
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3a, some 2c & 3b, medium texture, porosity normal, low elasticity
washing/cowashing, conditioning, protein tx: curl junkie products
leave in:cj conditioners and treatments as leave in
styling: cj pattern pusha, cj honey butta leave in, cj cccc, cj ciab, lalsg. cj aloe fix gel is my high dews/summer HG!!
sealants - spiral solutions emollience butter, jane carter nourish & shine
Sharon,
I always hear from women who have tried the whole low-lighting thing that they end up regretting it. Go to the website Goiing Gray Looking Great for support and tips! Dont be surprised when you go to your hairdresser if he/she try to talk you out of it.
checking back in--it is now over 6 months since my last coloring, hair is still below shoulder length. it is interesting since it is kindof growing in underneath. i have lots of streaks and multicolors but i am keeping it long. so far so good. anyone want to buy some robert craig golden blonde #18??
you guys look awesome with your gray and growing in. i was the only one at my husband's office party with natural hair. everyone else had straightened and colored. i think at my age 61 hair dye is not looking right on me any more, so here come da gray!
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Susan suburban NY
3b going gray, not thick, waist length when wet, a bit below shoulders when dry
CG since 11/11/04
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PW: banjo
HG: suave and honey for co-wash, deva, i use garnier fructis regular CO's or boots pink or white as leave ins and LA looks sport gel. plop w microfiber turban, then curl towel scrunch, then another turban.i sleep with the turban on. little one minute hair styling videos http://www.youtube.com/user/lazycurls
I think it looks great - the lighter overall color really flatters your skin tone!
Sulfate/non-water-soluble silicone free since 8/16/10
Northern VA
Med-coarse, normal porosity, low elasticity
Dye-free since 11/2010

I'm almost finished growing out the old color. One more cut will take several inches off, and I'll be all natural. It's taken a good two years since I wanted to keep my hair long.

Banjo, looking good!
rbb, I've already commented on your beautiful color.
To all the ladies giving up the hair color cycle - you won't regret it!
2C wavy with some spirals. CG since April 07. Medium texture and porosity.
COs: Yes to Cucumbers
Stylers: Krystal Ecostyler, KCCC,


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doesn't it feel good to be almost finished with the color? at this point i am sure you are mostly natural color.
i think it takes about 2 years to get back to a reasonable length, whether you keep it mostly or cut it off.
will you post pictures when you are done?
i have to confess that i have had several nightmares that there was some kind of a mixup when i went for a haircut (not my normal place in my nightmare) and i wind up with someone accidentally coloring my hair!! i wake up pretty upset, with that feeling you get when you've gone to a stylist who just cut your hair waayy too short! then relieved it was only a dream.
anyone else have that nightmare??
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3a, some 2c & 3b, medium texture, porosity normal, low elasticity
washing/cowashing, conditioning, protein tx: curl junkie products
leave in:cj conditioners and treatments as leave in
styling: cj pattern pusha, cj honey butta leave in, cj cccc, cj ciab, lalsg. cj aloe fix gel is my high dews/summer HG!!
sealants - spiral solutions emollience butter, jane carter nourish & shine

Last edited by rbb; 12-17-2010 at 01:57 PM.
i just started using artec (loreal) white violet conditioner to get out some yellow in front/top of my hair. it is okay, but i need to do it a second day to get better results. and, i hate the dimethicone in it, altho the daily fix does remove it.
i was wondering if anyone has used the one n only ultra shiny silver conditioner from sally's? does it remove the yellow? has anyone used both conditioners and can compare.
i looked at the reviews on sallys and all except one had blonde hair, so that does not tell me a lot.
if neither of these, what do you use and are you happy with the results and how it leaves your hair?
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3a, some 2c & 3b, medium texture, porosity normal, low elasticity
washing/cowashing, conditioning, protein tx: curl junkie products
leave in:cj conditioners and treatments as leave in
styling: cj pattern pusha, cj honey butta leave in, cj cccc, cj ciab, lalsg. cj aloe fix gel is my high dews/summer HG!!
sealants - spiral solutions emollience butter, jane carter nourish & shine
I'm not sure if the Artec or Ultra Shiny conditioners are reviewed on this thread but there is lots of info here - Anyone with gray hair use a violet shampoo?
In Western PA
Found NC in 2004. CG since 2-05, going grey since 9-05. 3B with some 3A.
Hair texture-medium/fine, porosity-normal except for the ends which are porous, elasticity-normal.
Suave & VO5 cond, LA Looks Sport Gel, oils, honey, vinegar.
http://public.fotki.com/jeepcurlygurl/ password jeepy **updated Feb 2014**
https://www.facebook.com/lifetheuniverseandtodd
thanks! i had already bookmarked that.

since that thread, i did try the deva blondes one condition (which is no longer being made) but it seemed to make my hair worse. i was told that violet instead of just blue (which is what is in the devablonde) is better, so i switched to artec and like that better, but it is not great.
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3a, some 2c & 3b, medium texture, porosity normal, low elasticity
washing/cowashing, conditioning, protein tx: curl junkie products
leave in:cj conditioners and treatments as leave in
styling: cj pattern pusha, cj honey butta leave in, cj cccc, cj ciab, lalsg. cj aloe fix gel is my high dews/summer HG!!
sealants - spiral solutions emollience butter, jane carter nourish & shine

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