Our Gray Journey Diary

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Hello Ladies~ been popping in here now and again as my hair continues to change. I'm 43 and am gray/silver at the crown, temples and some in the back. I never thought i had fine hair but do see that now especially in the front and where the gray is. Is it because of the loss of pigment cells? It seems when i had it highlighted and low lighted approx 2 yrs ago the curl held better and was less 'fly away' and i see this kind of effect so to speak in women with obviously colored hair even. Anyway, i'm not wanting to deposit color or anything, Just simply needing good reccomendations on stylings products for fine hair.
Thanks so much and keep posting your journeys please,
soon i will get up some decent pics of my hair as it really is.
fine texture, porous,2c,3a&b (depending on humidity and length)Going gray

Wash: KCCC
Co wash~ Acure conditioner,JM Citrus Neroli
Leave in: KCKT, beatiful curls shae butter
Stylers: KKCC,
Hi LL~2009! I also have fine hair and low porosity. I don't have thick hair either - more normal to thin. Lately, with the dews so low, I've been using CJ Daily Fix to cleanse 2 - 3 times a week followed by either no CO (my hair tends to be well moisturized and can easily get weighed down) or CJ Beauticurls Strengthening CO that I rinse out completely. For styling I use a light product - again so my hair doesn't get weighed down. I use either CJ Curls in a Bottle or AG Foam Weighless Volumizer. On days I don't cleanse, I usually just spritz with water to re-activate the product and scrunch. HTHs!

And I've got to take a new photo, too. My hair looks different these days as well.....
2Poodles Southeast PA
fine, med porosity, normal elasticity
Currently using the following 2 - 3 x/week:
Living Proof Perfect Hair Day suphate-free Poo, cone-free CO and styling treatment, plus KCCC

Thanks 2poodles! I 've been looking into CJ products-- i definately dont need anything like a lot of oils weighing me down and i think i need to pay close attention to the glycerin. so, I'll keep those products on my list ..
Any other advice anyone?
It used to be so easy to have beautiful hair but now, even though i get compliments still I struggle with the look of the unclumpy and fuzziness that comes at my temples and crown.
fine texture, porous,2c,3a&b (depending on humidity and length)Going gray

Wash: KCCC
Co wash~ Acure conditioner,JM Citrus Neroli
Leave in: KCKT, beatiful curls shae butter
Stylers: KKCC,

Sorry this picture is big, I had a trim at the local beauty school($6!)and she did a nice job. I just told her that the last time I'd had a uniform layered cut and now I'd like a trim. I think my hair is now about 8" all over, root to tip. All of the old color is now trimmed off. Since I am 2c a blunt cut worked well, no fancy texturizing.
Last night we went to a dance party. We saw quite a few people we hadn't seen in a year. I got a number of compliments, including one "hair hug". I'm sure you've had it happen, someone exclaims that they "love" your hair and proceed to muckle on!
My hair did not look so great after that but I didn't have time to fix it, so I just avoided mirrors.
Today I slathered on some Walgreen's biolage knockoff conditioner stuff and let it set for a couple hours, then massaged and rinsed,
Rinsed through 1t baking soda in a tumbler of water, rinsed out, rinsed through 1t ACV in a tumbler of water, rinsed out.
Scrunched in a little Alaffia hair lotion and LA looks Cashmere curls, clipped up the front and watched a movie (1 1/2 hrs) then sat under the "robot" for 10 minutes while it dried the rest of the way. You can see the robot in the background, my Babyliss Pro Ionic hardhat dryer.
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Last edited by crwritt; 01-09-2011 at 10:01 PM.
Ok, you guys have inspired me! I'm ready to start this graying journey! I think I'll go the shade lighter route. But after reading about all of your experiences, I'm still a bit unclear as to just how that works. Can one of you ladies who chose this method tell me how it works? I have medium brown hair now.
Ok, you guys have inspired me! I'm ready to start this graying journey! I think I'll go the shade lighter route. But after reading about all of your experiences, I'm still a bit unclear as to just how that works. Can one of you ladies who chose this method tell me how it works? I have medium brown hair now.
Originally Posted by lionese
the first time i was going to go gray, several years ago, i started with the shade lighter technique. my original hair, before gray, was darkest brown, some people called it black. each time i got the roots touched up, she went a shade lighter. after a few times i hated the look and went back to coloring.

almost two years ago i decided to bite the bullet and just go cold turkey. i thought i might do lowlights somewhere along, but then decided not to color in any way as then i'd have fading, touchups, etc., everything i wanted to avoid.

i am happy i did the cold turkey way. for you, with a medium brown, it won't be as bad as mine was. and, i don't know what percentage of gray you have. if it is more of a salt & pepper, the grow in won't be terrible.
i used headbands to pull back my hair. at the very first it covered the roots, then i let the white show around my face, the back was black. for some very strange reason i got tons of compliments on it -- the whole weird look i mean! of course, i also got a surprising amount of friends and strangers voluntarily coming over and saying how great the white/gray looked against my face.

all in all, it's not as bad as it seems, tho i will admit there were tough days.
in the end, i am very happy i did it and very happy i did not bother with any color at all.
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3a, some 2c & 3b, medium texture, porosity normal, low elasticity
washing/cowashing, conditioning, protein tx: curl junkie products
leave in:cj conditioners and treatments as leave in
styling: cj pattern pusha, cj honey butta leave in, cj cccc, cj ciab, lalsg. cj aloe fix gel is my high dews/summer HG!!
sealants - spiral solutions emollience butter, jane carter nourish & shine
rbb-Yup! That's what I keep thinking! Better to bit the bullet and go cold turkey. Thanks for the help! Think I'll wait for a while longer on the big chop. By the way, love your hair! So pretty! Hope mine looks that good!
thanks!
i don't know what your curl type is, mine is 3a and too short leaves me with no curl and funky hair going east-west, so i waited til it was a decent length to cut off the color. i've read that many people start coloring again when they cut their hair too short and are really unhappy with the length, not color. if you have very curly hair and a face that looks good with it short, then you can go for it. but if the transition doesn't bother you, then wait.
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3a, some 2c & 3b, medium texture, porosity normal, low elasticity
washing/cowashing, conditioning, protein tx: curl junkie products
leave in:cj conditioners and treatments as leave in
styling: cj pattern pusha, cj honey butta leave in, cj cccc, cj ciab, lalsg. cj aloe fix gel is my high dews/summer HG!!
sealants - spiral solutions emollience butter, jane carter nourish & shine
i was in my local beauty supply store today and she was trying to sell me xtend simply smooth shampoo for blonde/silver hair.
at a quick glance nothing in the ingredients jumped out at me, but there were in the middle that i had never heard of, so i decided to wait. i cannot find the ingredients online.

anyone ever use this?
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3a, some 2c & 3b, medium texture, porosity normal, low elasticity
washing/cowashing, conditioning, protein tx: curl junkie products
leave in:cj conditioners and treatments as leave in
styling: cj pattern pusha, cj honey butta leave in, cj cccc, cj ciab, lalsg. cj aloe fix gel is my high dews/summer HG!!
sealants - spiral solutions emollience butter, jane carter nourish & shine
Have been following this thread for a while now so thought it was time to post up! There are some truly fabulous grey curlies on this thread and your stories and pics have inspired me - so thank you!

Decided to embrace the grey! Have been deliberating on it since late summer and had my last hi/lo lights on 17 August 2010 (although I didn’t know they’d be my last at the time!) Did have a toner applied to tone down the 'yellow' highlights at the end of December (was sooo dark!) but has faded completely now. Not sure whether I'll repeat tho' as it fades so quickly and starts off so dark! Seeking a way of toning down the yellow at home whilst growing out.

Jeepcurlygurl's suggestion of using the Ardell red/gold corrector to counter yellow in grey hair sounded very interesting as I really like the fact that it can be added to your own choice of condish. Wasn't sure if it be a good option for me now (for the highlights) so went along to a central London Sally's to ask. Unfortunately, they no longer stock this product and the staff had no suggestions or ideas for me (Sally's in the UK is c**p!). I can purchase online but was wondering whether I should go ahead and give it a whirl on the highlights? Any suggestions much appreciated!

Pic below, of where I'm at right now!
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UK - 3a/b med/coarse - mix normal/ high porosity.
Currently in my rotation:
Cleanser/Cowash: CJDF,
Tresemme Naturals, DGJ Hairjuice clarifying, Urtekram Lavender
Conditioners/DT's: CJH&BDF, CJCR, DBPSC, AOWC, Y2C
Protein: AOGPB, Joico Reconstruct Condish (regular not PT)
Leave Ins/Curl Creams: CJCCCC, CJ Smoothing, KeraCare/JCAC
Gel: FSG, BRHG, Giovanni LA Natural Styling Gel, L'Oreal Studio Mineral Control Invisi'Gel
http://www.flickr.com/photos/41240927@N03/
crystal tips - I don't have any suggestions re:toning down the yellow/highlights, but I just want to complement your hair - it's awesome!!
2Poodles Southeast PA
fine, med porosity, normal elasticity
Currently using the following 2 - 3 x/week:
Living Proof Perfect Hair Day suphate-free Poo, cone-free CO and styling treatment, plus KCCC

crystal tips - I don't have any suggestions re:toning down the yellow/highlights, but I just want to complement your hair - it's awesome!!
Originally Posted by 2poodles
Thanks so much 2poodles!
UK - 3a/b med/coarse - mix normal/ high porosity.
Currently in my rotation:
Cleanser/Cowash: CJDF,
Tresemme Naturals, DGJ Hairjuice clarifying, Urtekram Lavender
Conditioners/DT's: CJH&BDF, CJCR, DBPSC, AOWC, Y2C
Protein: AOGPB, Joico Reconstruct Condish (regular not PT)
Leave Ins/Curl Creams: CJCCCC, CJ Smoothing, KeraCare/JCAC
Gel: FSG, BRHG, Giovanni LA Natural Styling Gel, L'Oreal Studio Mineral Control Invisi'Gel
http://www.flickr.com/photos/41240927@N03/
Hello hello,
Just wondering if anyone could weigh in on my little dilemma.
I posted a while ago about stopping the dye and letting the grey grow in. I haven't dyed since the end of October. It was pretty uncomfortable to have the roots just all out there, especially over all the holiday events, but I managed. I've been wearing headbands/ball caps to school. I did cut it into a bob over the holidays - I chopped off at least 12 inches!

Here's the issue: I just found out that I have to attend an event for work in March. I was counting on not having to see anyone for work until August, when my start date is. I figured by then I could properly evaluate how the grey looks and cut out any of the dyed hair left, if need be. I have to wear a suit for the event and a headband or scarf just won't work. Do I have any options? If I do a semi-permanent dye, will I just set my progress way back? Will it wash out completely?
pw: curlie
Hello hello,
Just wondering if anyone could weigh in on my little dilemma.
I posted a while ago about stopping the dye and letting the grey grow in. I haven't dyed since the end of October. It was pretty uncomfortable to have the roots just all out there, especially over all the holiday events, but I managed. I've been wearing headbands/ball caps to school. I did cut it into a bob over the holidays - I chopped off at least 12 inches!

Here's the issue: I just found out that I have to attend an event for work in March. I was counting on not having to see anyone for work until August, when my start date is. I figured by then I could properly evaluate how the grey looks and cut out any of the dyed hair left, if need be. I have to wear a suit for the event and a headband or scarf just won't work. Do I have any options? If I do a semi-permanent dye, will I just set my progress way back? Will it wash out completely?
Originally Posted by StormCloudCurly
i think you will be sorry if you use any color, semi permanent or not. my daughter had semi permanent put into her hair to cover gray, was supposed to wash out in a few weeks... it's almost 3 years, and the last few inches of her hair are an orange...

try experimenting with styles. i saw one, i think on goinggraylookinggray.com once that i thought was so cute. she had very narrow braids just in the front part of her head, and then her hair, grey, fell into the back, black, but the style was soooo very pretty. if i can find it, i'll post it here.
for one night, it is not worth setting yourself all the way back. and, lots of people are letting their grey come in now, so it's kind of 'in.' honestly, i thought my hair look weird, scary, but i had many, many people friends, and STRANGERS, walking up to me to tell me how much they liked it!
and, confidence is really all you need!
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3a, some 2c & 3b, medium texture, porosity normal, low elasticity
washing/cowashing, conditioning, protein tx: curl junkie products
leave in:cj conditioners and treatments as leave in
styling: cj pattern pusha, cj honey butta leave in, cj cccc, cj ciab, lalsg. cj aloe fix gel is my high dews/summer HG!!
sealants - spiral solutions emollience butter, jane carter nourish & shine
i think you will be sorry if you use any color, semi permanent or not. my daughter had semi permanent put into her hair to cover gray, was supposed to wash out in a few weeks... it's almost 3 years, and the last few inches of her hair are an orange...
Originally Posted by rbb
THIS!! I did the same thing when my gray roots started coming in - bought a semi/demi/whatever permanent color that said it would wash out in 3 weeks but didn't. I got so disgusted that I decided to stop coloring cold turkey. But now, I have 2 inches of gray roots, a weird orangey-brown stripe about an inch wide, and dark brown to the ends. Not attractive!! I would be so much happier if I hadn't done that semi-permanent color.

I agree with rbb - if you just find a cute yet professional style to wear your hair in and ROCK IT, you'll be fine. I tried on a headband last night and loved how it looked - gray hair up to the headband, wild brown curls behind it to the ends - it looked fierce, and I can't wait to wear it to work like that. At this work event you have, people will form opinions of you based on your personality and confidence, not your hair color. If you go in there and rock what you got (TM justajesuschick), you'll be fine!
Sulfate/non-water-soluble silicone free since 8/16/10
Northern VA
Med-coarse, normal porosity, low elasticity
Dye-free since 11/2010

Hello hello,
Just wondering if anyone could weigh in on my little dilemma.
I posted a while ago about stopping the dye and letting the grey grow in. I haven't dyed since the end of October. It was pretty uncomfortable to have the roots just all out there, especially over all the holiday events, but I managed. I've been wearing headbands/ball caps to school. I did cut it into a bob over the holidays - I chopped off at least 12 inches!

Here's the issue: I just found out that I have to attend an event for work in March. I was counting on not having to see anyone for work until August, when my start date is. I figured by then I could properly evaluate how the grey looks and cut out any of the dyed hair left, if need be. I have to wear a suit for the event and a headband or scarf just won't work. Do I have any options? If I do a semi-permanent dye, will I just set my progress way back? Will it wash out completely?
Originally Posted by StormCloudCurly
Yes - agree with rbb and Rustina! Am sure you will be able to find a style/accessories that you can use for the night that will look great! Hang in there!
UK - 3a/b med/coarse - mix normal/ high porosity.
Currently in my rotation:
Cleanser/Cowash: CJDF,
Tresemme Naturals, DGJ Hairjuice clarifying, Urtekram Lavender
Conditioners/DT's: CJH&BDF, CJCR, DBPSC, AOWC, Y2C
Protein: AOGPB, Joico Reconstruct Condish (regular not PT)
Leave Ins/Curl Creams: CJCCCC, CJ Smoothing, KeraCare/JCAC
Gel: FSG, BRHG, Giovanni LA Natural Styling Gel, L'Oreal Studio Mineral Control Invisi'Gel
http://www.flickr.com/photos/41240927@N03/
I was debating the same thing last month when we were going to a "gala" event and a friend of mine asked me why I would consider such a change for one evening. I didn't have an answer for her, so I just left my hair alone. I'm very happy that I did!
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2Poodles Southeast PA
fine, med porosity, normal elasticity
Currently using the following 2 - 3 x/week:
Living Proof Perfect Hair Day suphate-free Poo, cone-free CO and styling treatment, plus KCCC

Hi, girls! Well, my roots have been growing in since about September or October (I can't actually remember when I did my last coloring!), and I thought I'd post an update. Here are my silver lovelies:




If you look carefully, you can see the light brown bits from when I did that semi-permanent coloring we were just talking about. Blech, I'm SO mad about that, I can't even tell you.

I could not take a good shot from the front to save my life, but I have to say, I kind of like this 2-toned look with the headband. I think rbb mentioned wearing it that way when her gray was starting to come in, so I've been waiting for it to get long enough to do that. I'm kind of psyched to wear it like this!

In looking through all of my hair, I'm noticing that I have a lot of gray at the front, and just a little sprinkled around everywhere else. What keeps me going is trying to imagine when it's all in and I have the white framing my face and the dark all around - I'm hoping it'll look as cool for real as I think it will in my head!
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Sulfate/non-water-soluble silicone free since 8/16/10
Northern VA
Med-coarse, normal porosity, low elasticity
Dye-free since 11/2010


Last edited by Rustina; 02-12-2011 at 06:31 AM.
Here's one; it's not great, but it'll have to do. I couldn't get a straight shot unless I put the camera up in front of my face!

Sulfate/non-water-soluble silicone free since 8/16/10
Northern VA
Med-coarse, normal porosity, low elasticity
Dye-free since 11/2010

Rustina - It's coming in GREAT!! Love the headband look and how the silver is framing your face!
2Poodles Southeast PA
fine, med porosity, normal elasticity
Currently using the following 2 - 3 x/week:
Living Proof Perfect Hair Day suphate-free Poo, cone-free CO and styling treatment, plus KCCC

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