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Old 03-06-2011, 06:35 AM   #261
 
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+1!! Can't wait to see your progress!
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Thank you, Ladies. I've posted about it on Facebook, which means that I *have* to stick to it, right?
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Old 03-06-2011, 11:25 AM   #263
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good luck! remember -- you are already this far into it, this much closer. i've never regretted my decision to stop coloring my hair, just wish i had done it sooner.
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Alright, girls, I just got my first negative comment about my gray roots. I was in the check-out line at the grocery store, and the cashier, after saying hi to me, looked at my hairline and said, "Who's got you so stressed out these days?" (Now, I should specify that this is my neighborhood grocery store and that I go through this guy's line quite often. He is always nice, and even though this comment reads as if it could be very sarcastic, it wasn't delivered that way at all.)

I knew exactly what he was talking about, but I played along: "I'm not stressed out at all." He said, "You know, I'm just not used to seeing your hair.......like that." (Sidebar: I found it amusing that he would be afraid to say the G word, but had no problem asking me about it in the first place!)

Me: "Oh, I'm letting it grow in."
Him: "Really?"
Me, smiling: "Yeah, I've been coloring it for years and I'm just done."
Him: "You should keep doing it..."
Me: "Oh, it's expensive, and it's damaging, and I'm just tired of coloring all the time."
Him: "It's just that you look so young with it...the other way. You can do it at home."
Me: "Oh, I was, and I'm just done with the whole thing."
Him: *crickets* "Okay, well, have a nice day."

So. I am still resolved to let this gray come in, so there's no worry that I'm going to run out and buy the nearest box of Miss Clairol. But I am wondering what I should have said. I was thinking in the car on the way home that I should have said something snappy like, "Young is not a hair color - young is an attitude." Or something similar. But as usual, I thought of it too late. And that made me think that I need to have some stock phrases ready for people if/when I get more "innocent" comments telling me I should color again. Not to make myself feel better - I'm totally confident in myself, no matter my hair color - but more to start a tiny shift in the thinking of the person making the comment. So my question to you guys is: what do you say to people who tell you you're too young to color, or that you look better with your dyed hair, or just that you shouldn't go gray? I am curious to know how you handle(d) this!

(Note: I've had some good comments, too - one girlfriend, who's maybe 5 or 6 years younger than me, said it was inspiring. And one of my 8th grade students, a boy, told me that he thought it looked really cool! So it hasn't been all negative, thank goodness!)
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Old 03-09-2011, 06:22 PM   #265
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ah, i just lost the entire reply i wrote!! here it is again:

rustina-- regarding the clerk's comment -- when my aunt first saw my gray hair she was horrified! thought something was wrong. then she proceeded to tell me, in detail, how she colors her own hair, how easy it is, i could do it too! i just listened, not much else you can say.

that was the only negative comment voiced to me, in the midst of soooo many positive ones. i love my hair, so i am happy with my decision, not asking anyone's opinion.

funny story about comments -- my daughter, like me, and my dad before me, started graying when she was 17. a 3rd grade student recently told her, " i see that you got lights in your hair. i like the way it looks." clearly, he thought she had highlighted her hair! btw, her husband loves her silver 'lights,' and was very supportive when i stopped coloring my hair, said he wished his mom would stop coloring hers.
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Old 03-11-2011, 03:01 PM   #266
 
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Thanks, rbb! I guess maintaining a sense of humor about the whole thing will be key. It's funny, now that I'm letting my natural color grow in, I seem to notice other people's fake color so much more. Like, there are women I work with who are at least the same age or older than I am, and they all have brown, blonde, highlighted, whatever hair. I know they must have grays, and I find myself wondering just how much gray they're hiding under those dye jobs!
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Thanks, rbb! I guess maintaining a sense of humor about the whole thing will be key. It's funny, now that I'm letting my natural color grow in, I seem to notice other people's fake color so much more. Like, there are women I work with who are at least the same age or older than I am, and they all have brown, blonde, highlighted, whatever hair. I know they must have grays, and I find myself wondering just how much gray they're hiding under those dye jobs!
To my mind healthy natural gray hair, no matter what pattern it takes, looks a whole lot better than faded, damaged dyed hair.

Of course that's my current opinion. When I was coloring I couldn't tolerate a quarter inch of white roots on my own head.
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Old 03-12-2011, 05:16 AM   #268
 
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To my mind healthy natural gray hair, no matter what pattern it takes, looks a whole lot better than faded, damaged dyed hair.

Of course that's my current opinion. When I was coloring I couldn't tolerate a quarter inch of white roots on my own head.
I agree, no question! Natural hair always looks better than faded and damaged hair to me, too. The ladies I work with have pretty nice-looking hair, though - they clearly spend a lot of money to have their color done at salons - and while I can't know for sure that they color, I guess the only reason I feel like they must be is because if I have gray hair and they're older than me, most of them must have it, too!

There's one woman who I work with pretty closely, in her early 50's, and I can tell when her roots start coming in that she's pretty much gray all over her whole head. And every time I see those roots start to show, I remember when that would happen to me and I would grudgingly buy yet another box of Dark Brown #4 to take care of it at home. And I am so, so, SO happy not to be doing that any more!!

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Old 03-12-2011, 07:11 AM   #269
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i knew many years ago i wanted to stop coloring. i had seen older women and how bad it looked, and then i started noticing the difference in how the complexions of younger women looked compared to the ones who did not color -- it struck me that not only could i pick up immediately that someone colored their hair, but even bigger is how hair color made their skin look drab compared to the women who did not color their hair.

it just took me a long time to brave the transition, i knew it would not be easy. but then, i started, and knew this is what i wanted, and the time passed and my hair is color-free!

on the plus side, it is even waaayyy better than i ever thought it might be. so those of you considering it, go for it!

rustina -- you're hair is coming along nicely!! 4-5 months was the pivotal mark for me, after that, the gray seemed more prominent. and 9 months was huge!
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"I seem to notice other people's fake color so much more. Like, there are women I work with who are at least the same age or older than I am, and they all have brown, blonde, highlighted, whatever hair. I know they must have grays, and I find myself wondering just how much gray they're hiding under those dye jobs!"

Exactly! It's a little amusing to me, but my friends who still color just aren't ready to go natural. And that's okay, too.
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Old 03-12-2011, 01:03 PM   #271
 
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rustina -- you're hair is coming along nicely!! 4-5 months was the pivotal mark for me, after that, the gray seemed more prominent. and 9 months was huge!
Thank you! Yes, it's definitely showing up a lot more now. Like, it's obvious that I'm letting it grow in and not just overdue for a root job, lol! Of course, it's most obvious when I have the bangs pulled back, like in my signature photo, but I'm even starting to see it show up around my face when I have all my hair down, too. I'm encouraged by the fact that when I hold my hair back from my face and see myself framed by the silver and brown instead of just the brown, I really like how my skin looks with the silver. I can visualize how it's going to look when it's all in, and I just can't wait!
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Old 03-13-2011, 04:43 PM   #272
 
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Hang in there and keep a sense of humor, Rustina. We've all been programmed to dislike gray hair--at least, the general public has. I'm loving the coloring going on in your hairline.

My gray isn't easy for anyone but my husband and me to see, yet, so imagine a coworker's dismay when I announced to her, after she made a comment about gray hair being so distinguished on men, but so haggardy old on women, that I was just now planning to go gray.

She's just two years older than I and probably has never considered trying to bless the process of going gray and looking great.

Keep on inspiring the ones who get it!
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Besides me I know of only one other woman who is just allowing the gray to grow in. She and I both used to highlight our hair back in our 30's when it seemed to be the thing to do. Then we both just got tired of the expense and hassle and stopped. She's probably about 40% gray and I'm about 30% gray. My hair is extremely healthy -- but I wish the gray would come in faster!

Anyone else just allow their hair to gray? Or did you all have a significant percentage of gray before you transitioned away from coloring it?
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After all of our discussion of letting our hair go gray, and over a year of growing out my color, today on a whim I colored.
I used semipermanent ION color brilliance mixed with a good amount of GVPCB. I put it on my dry hair and combed it through, let it set half an hour. Rinsed, followed up with Queen Helene Jojoba hot oil treatment, toweled dry, scrunched in GVP Potion9,then Ecostyler with Argan Oil. Dried under the hard hat dryer 10 minutes.
I am surprised at how well it took to my whitest hair,
and also at how much I like it. It took better than when I used it prior to CG.
I know it will fade out pretty soon.Semi colors used to last me one shampoo, which is why I started with the Miss Clairol.
I kind of like it for a change. What do you think?
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After all of our discussion of letting our hair go gray, and over a year of growing out my color, today on a whim I colored.
I used semipermanent ION color brilliance mixed with a good amount of GVPCB. I put it on my dry hair and combed it through, let it set half an hour. Rinsed, followed up with Queen Helene Jojoba hot oil treatment, toweled dry, scrunched in GVP Potion9,then Ecostyler with Argan Oil. Dried under the hard hat dryer 10 minutes.
I am surprised at how well it took to my whitest hair,
and also at how much I like it. It took better than when I used it prior to CG.
I know it will fade out pretty soon.Semi colors used to last me one shampoo, which is why I started with the Miss Clairol.
I kind of like it for a change. What do you think?
that is literally a nightmare i have --- that someone has colored my hair and now i have to start the transition phase all over again!!
i am curious to see how soon your color fades. let us know. the reason is that my daughter had a semipermanent to cover her grays almost 3 years ago, and the bottom few inches of her hair that have not yet been cut still have the color. the stylist had told her it would wash out in a few shampoos.
as long as you are pleased with it, that is the only thing that matters.
maybe it's not yet the right time for you go gray.
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After all of our discussion of letting our hair go gray, and over a year of growing out my color, today on a whim I colored.
I used semipermanent ION color brilliance mixed with a good amount of GVPCB. I put it on my dry hair and combed it through, let it set half an hour. Rinsed, followed up with Queen Helene Jojoba hot oil treatment, toweled dry, scrunched in GVP Potion9,then Ecostyler with Argan Oil. Dried under the hard hat dryer 10 minutes.
I am surprised at how well it took to my whitest hair,
and also at how much I like it. It took better than when I used it prior to CG.
I know it will fade out pretty soon.Semi colors used to last me one shampoo, which is why I started with the Miss Clairol.
I kind of like it for a change. What do you think?
that is literally a nightmare i have --- that someone has colored my hair and now i have to start the transition phase all over again!!
i am curious to see how soon your color fades. let us know. the reason is that my daughter had a semipermanent to cover her grays almost 3 years ago, and the bottom few inches of her hair that have not yet been cut still have the color. the stylist had told her it would wash out in a few shampoos.
as long as you are pleased with it, that is the only thing that matters.
maybe it's not yet the right time for you go gray.
I'll let you know how it goes. My experience with this product in the past is that it washed out very quickly.
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I hope your color washes out, or doesn't depending on whether want to keep the color.
I put a semipermanent streak in my hair for Halloween. It's still there 5 months later. It's growing out but certainly not fading out. I like the streak so I don't mind, but if I had done my whole head I would be crying.
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I hope your color washes out, or doesn't depending on whether want to keep the color.
I put a semipermanent streak in my hair for Halloween. It's still there 5 months later. It's growing out but certainly not fading out. I like the streak so I don't mind, but if I had done my whole head I would be crying.
What product did you use? Did it have peroxide?
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If I remember right it was either Garnier Herbashine or Clairol Natural Instincts.
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Garnier Herbashine is the one I used the last time I colored in October/November - I bought it specifically because I thought it would wash out and I could use it periodically to ease the transition process. No such luck!! The frustration I had over that experience was what made me decide to quit coloring cold turkey.

crwitt, I think you look lovely either way - both hair colors flatter you. Fingers crossed that it will wash out this time as easily as it did last time, if that's what you're hoping for.
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