Our Gray Journey Diary

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I haven't noticed ageism in the workplace too much since going gray, I also work in the design field (mascot costumes) but I am self employed.
I have noticed it slightly in the social realm. My husband and I love dancing, and its funny to me that
when we go out to dance clubs the same guys who
even a year ago would have asked me to dance don't come over.
I've also noticed a weird phenomenon of helpfulness, for instance salespeople offering to lift heavy items for me. Can't be all bad.
Originally Posted by crwritt
crwitt -- that is interesting about the dance club, as i had the exact opposite experience. first time i went to one of the dances with my transition clearly visible, headband so front is white, back is black, so many people came over to compliment me, and the men were especially complimentary, saying how well the white goes with my face. i danced as much as always, which could be the entire night. it was my first 'public' appearance with the clearly visible transition and i was literally blown away by the feedback/reception i got. bottom line is, i guess you can never anticipate people's reactions! it was a big help to me, not that i needed it, it was just very nice.
Originally Posted by rbb
You know, I wore that same headband style you describe a few times during my transition, and got a bunch of compliments.
There are always so many more ladies than men at these dances, I guess if I want to dance with anyone other than my husband, I'll have to be more bold.
He's nice about it and always says yes when the other gals ask him.Which means I dance more than most get to, but I sit out quite a few as well.
thanks so much--maggies a darling girl for sure. love seeing all your gray curls. i think curly makes us look young, gray or no gray. the 2tone look is not quite so pronounced when my hair is down, it blends better but in the ponytail it is very obvious. oh well....not willing to go short yet ...
Susan suburban NY
3b going gray, not thick, waist length when wet, a bit below shoulders when dry
CG since 11/11/04
http://public.fotki.com/banjolady/
PW: banjo
HG: suave and honey for co-wash, deva, i use garnier fructis regular CO's or boots pink or white as leave ins and LA looks sport gel. plop w microfiber turban, then curl towel scrunch, then another turban.i sleep with the turban on. little one minute hair styling videos http://www.youtube.com/user/lazycurls
hello ladies.

Again, i have questions hoping someone has suggestions as this is quite annoying. heres the scoop: the 'bang area' which on me is more of a side sweep of graying curls( often unruly) keeps popping out tiny unruly grays that dont want to blend with the rest. I've been managing it for months now and so i think eventually it will all grow out and blend but i'm not sure ????

my real concern is that *this* is how all that bunch of hair at the bang area wants to come in; crazy, kinky-like and unruly SO, i'm wondering if anyone has had the same issue and if so what did you do?

I've already begun to think i might straighten the bang area if i can because sometimes it's getting real scary looking.

thanks
Laura
fine texture, porous,2c,3a&b (depending on humidity and length)Going gray

Wash: KCCC
Co wash~ Acure conditioner,JM Citrus Neroli
Leave in: KCKT, beatiful curls shae butter
Stylers: KKCC,
have you tried giving it extra moisture? at night, i'd really coat that area with a deep conditioner, (i personally love spiral solutions dd) and sleep with it on. and during the day i'd leave in a lot of very moisturizing conditioner, then add some moisturizing styler for the day.
also, the hair may settle down once it's reached a certain length. but you can not go wrong with conditioning.
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3a, some 2c & 3b, medium texture, porosity normal, low elasticity
washing/cowashing, conditioning, protein tx: curl junkie products
leave in:cj conditioners and treatments as leave in
styling: cj pattern pusha, cj honey butta leave in, cj cccc, cj ciab, lalsg. cj aloe fix gel is my high dews/summer HG!!
sealants - spiral solutions emollience butter, jane carter nourish & shine
The last time I got my hair cut, my stylist told me to continue with the weekly DT's I'd been doing, as that would help to soften the new grays coming in so they (hopefully) won't stick up as much. It's easy for me to do that, as a medium-coarse curly, but you'll have to watch to make sure you're not overconditioned. As rbb said, spot-treating with the DT on the problem areas should help a lot.
Sulfate/non-water-soluble silicone free since 8/16/10
Northern VA
Med-coarse, normal porosity, low elasticity
Dye-free since 11/2010

Banjo, I could finally watch the Youtube video - your hair looks fantastic!! I love that two-toned look; as cute as Maggie is, I couldn't stop staring at your hair every time you turned your head!
Sulfate/non-water-soluble silicone free since 8/16/10
Northern VA
Med-coarse, normal porosity, low elasticity
Dye-free since 11/2010

have you tried giving it extra moisture? at night, i'd really coat that area with a deep conditioner, (i personally love spiral solutions dd) and sleep with it on. and during the day i'd leave in a lot of very moisturizing conditioner, then add some moisturizing styler for the day.
also, the hair may settle down once it's reached a certain length. but you can not go wrong with conditioning.
Originally Posted by rbb
yes, thanks rbb- I am admitting to not moisturizing enough as in deep treatments or anything beyond the leave in and when i co-wash. I just did a serious deep moisturizer last night and noticed there was a difference. I have asked the same question in the past and forgot that was the answer. I guess i'm harboring some fear that i will be wild-frizz head if i continue to let the gray all come in, lol.
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fine texture, porous,2c,3a&b (depending on humidity and length)Going gray

Wash: KCCC
Co wash~ Acure conditioner,JM Citrus Neroli
Leave in: KCKT, beatiful curls shae butter
Stylers: KKCC,
Rustina, thank you for your reply too- as i do have med-fine hair i do have to watch the over-condish but the spot treatments and the weekly dt's i can do certainly. :-)
fine texture, porous,2c,3a&b (depending on humidity and length)Going gray

Wash: KCCC
Co wash~ Acure conditioner,JM Citrus Neroli
Leave in: KCKT, beatiful curls shae butter
Stylers: KKCC,
has everyone seen tonya's latest article??

Gray Hair Versus Sunshine and UV Radiation | NaturallyCurly.com

so good to be recognized on nc!

ll~2009 -- you're welcome! glad the conditioning worked! no, you won't end up with a head of frizz, you just have to learn about your hair now that it is graying. it will respond to the right care. :-)
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3a, some 2c & 3b, medium texture, porosity normal, low elasticity
washing/cowashing, conditioning, protein tx: curl junkie products
leave in:cj conditioners and treatments as leave in
styling: cj pattern pusha, cj honey butta leave in, cj cccc, cj ciab, lalsg. cj aloe fix gel is my high dews/summer HG!!
sealants - spiral solutions emollience butter, jane carter nourish & shine
Ooh, great article!! Thanks for linking!
Sulfate/non-water-soluble silicone free since 8/16/10
Northern VA
Med-coarse, normal porosity, low elasticity
Dye-free since 11/2010

one of the things in the article that particularly struck me is that gray hair loses moisture more quickly.
validated my experience, let me know i am not crazy!! lol and, that i am on the right track with my products.
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3a, some 2c & 3b, medium texture, porosity normal, low elasticity
washing/cowashing, conditioning, protein tx: curl junkie products
leave in:cj conditioners and treatments as leave in
styling: cj pattern pusha, cj honey butta leave in, cj cccc, cj ciab, lalsg. cj aloe fix gel is my high dews/summer HG!!
sealants - spiral solutions emollience butter, jane carter nourish & shine
Me, too. I'm only about half gray so far, but I had been wondering if my frequent DTs would lead to overconditioning the grays - guess I don't have to worry about that!
Sulfate/non-water-soluble silicone free since 8/16/10
Northern VA
Med-coarse, normal porosity, low elasticity
Dye-free since 11/2010

Hi. I'm new here. I'm learning to embrace my silver.

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My hair has always felt dry but I don't think it actually is. I think it's just the texture of it. The grays feel stiffer/coarser but again I'm not sure they are really dryer. hmmmm.

That was a good article and my hair does get yellow in the sun and wind. I remember one of the products I use on my hair saying it had a sunscreen. I can't for the life of me think of which product it is tho. Old gray haired lady with a bad memory. : )

The only thing in the article I take exception to - "really well-kept gray hair can be quite attractive". So is really well kept black/blonde/red hair just 'quite attractive'. No, for those colors they would probably say 'gorgeous, stunning, beautiful'. But gray hair is only 'quite attractive'. Makes me grumpy.
: )
In Western PA
Found NC in 2004. CG since 2-05, going grey since 9-05. 3B with some 3A.
Hair texture-medium/fine, porosity-normal except for the ends which are porous, elasticity-normal.
Suave & VO5 cond, LA Looks Sport Gel, oils, honey, vinegar.
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i've been thinking about the recent curl chemist article, and that grey hair does lose moisture more easily.
and, serendipitously, i've purchased and been using the new cj conditioner, argan & olive oil. i use it as a leave in and have been noticing my hair stays moisturized throughout the day. now, dews are higher than the very low they were, but still, it is a noticeable difference.
i was using jane carter nourish & shine, and while it worked and kept moisture in, it did leave my hair looking 'heavy.

any other leave ins that seal in moisture that anyone loves?
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3a, some 2c & 3b, medium texture, porosity normal, low elasticity
washing/cowashing, conditioning, protein tx: curl junkie products
leave in:cj conditioners and treatments as leave in
styling: cj pattern pusha, cj honey butta leave in, cj cccc, cj ciab, lalsg. cj aloe fix gel is my high dews/summer HG!!
sealants - spiral solutions emollience butter, jane carter nourish & shine
I have GOT to get some of this new CJ condish! Everyone who's tried it is giving it rave reviews, and I just know my hair will drink it up. I am noticing that the more gray I have coming in, the more resistant to moisturizing it is. Weekly DT's will help, but I really need some super-moisturizing daily conditioners, I think, to tide me over between DT's.

I like Jessicurl's Too Shea conditioner, and I also like CJ's Hibiscus & Banana condish. I find them both to be very moisturizing.
Sulfate/non-water-soluble silicone free since 8/16/10
Northern VA
Med-coarse, normal porosity, low elasticity
Dye-free since 11/2010

Sooooo....the wannabe in me discovered that I didn't have as much gray going on as I'd hoped. To help the process, I had my hairdresser put a few new highlights in (I still have old color and highlights, too), and then she toned my hair to give the new highlights a cooler cast.

YOu can't really tell in this photo, but the highlights in my new growth are awesome. After I get "all growed out"...probably a year and a half down the road, I think I may want to sparkle my not as gray as I wanna be ash hair with gray cast highlights.

Meanwhile, you can now see that the line of demarcation between old haircolor and new growth is more blurred, now:

It took almost two years and now I'm going to grow back to my shoulders. How often do we curly girls need haircuts?
Barbarosa, your curls and silver is gorgeous! Your hair looks shiny and healthy!

I go by how my hair looks and feels to determine how often I need to trim. My ends get very dry, and I have layers on top to add fullness, so I go every 8 weeks. Definitely slows my growth progress, but I am hoping that it also minimizes breakage, so it's a swap of sorts.
Location: Texas
Type: 3b/3c (i), below shoulder length.
CO wash: A-O GPB LYY, Salon Care Honey Almond, Devacurl OC, Acure Argan Stem Cell+Argan Oil, Mill Creek Botanicals Keratin Repair
Leave-ins: BWC, KCKT, cno overnight
Styling: BRHG, MGA Sculpting Gel, A-O Mandarin Magic Gel, LOTD AVG, LALSG
DT: Kiehl's Olive Fruit Oil Deeply Repairative Hair Pak, Curl Junkie Deep Fix, Briogeo Don't Despair Repair!

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