Our Gray Journey Diary

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The site that used to be goinggraylookinggreat (or whatever) is now The Silver Sister's Cafe Gray. I found it thru facebook and joined last April 2012.

I am still learning my way here at naturallycurly. I just read this entire thread and hope it will continue as I have been going gray since January of this year... If I should be following another thread, please let me know.

Most of the dye is cut off and my hair is way shorter than my liking. My bangs are 4" and layered throughout, going longer down to my neck. I have only been practicing cg/nat.curly methods since July of this year. My hair has not been this short since high school (29 yrs)!!! The pics on my sig/avatar are before I did my LAST trim/cut.

I want to find a headband like the one "rustina" had in her pic on this thread, page 11 post #218 "rbb" called it a satin covered plastic headband. It appeared to have teeth (in 2nd pic) as to separate the hair. I think it is the type I am looking for to pull my short bangs/sides back during this grow out period. Any links to this type of headband would be appreciated. I have looked all over the web.

What are you currently using for yellowing (I haven't had that yet)? I do a once per month baking soda/water followed by WHITE vinegar/water rinse to brighten/clarify. Is the soda wrong to use for naturally curly girls? Is once a month too damaging??? I don't do ACV because I have heard it can stain grays. Is white vinegar wrong for naturally curly girls???

I know rbb and jeepcurlygurl told me about the red/gold corrector in another thread. I see the discussion was here and I am still unsure about it...

Thank you for this thread. I enjoyed hearing the transitions and it really helps to know what lies ahead.

Well, I'm 8 months going gray and I have a LONG road ahead of me!!! Keep me on the gray/curly path...
Originally Posted by curlygoinggray
Like this?Meein | Solid Color Zigzag Wide Tooth Headband-Black
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i did not use a clip like that, hurt my head! LOL. i just regular head clips with satin wrapped around the band. i got them mostly online, jcrew, and some dept store accessory sites, i would go to the brands they offered website. nothing expensive. i also had stretchy material ones from rite aid, a bunch of those. they were easier on my head. i can wear a head clip band one day or two, but by the 3rd and 4th day they really annoy/hurt my head, so i'll use the stretchy ones in between. the stretchy ones gave my hair a different look, more like it was somewhat up. i liked both and occasionally on a bad hair day (like a 2nd day) or a very hot day, i'll pull my hair back with them.

as far as yellowing, i stand by ardell red/gold corrector in any conditioner you chose. the blue conditioners i bought irritated my head, made it itchy, made my hair dry and if i wasn't careful, tinted it blue!!
ardell corrector keeps the yellow out, never tints my hair blue, and because i pick the conditioner, makes my hair soft. i dump a bunch of it in an almost full bottle of conditioner so it's always available depending on my whims.
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3a, some 2c & 3b, medium texture, porosity normal, low elasticity
washing/cowashing, conditioning, protein tx: curl junkie products
leave in:cj conditioners and treatments as leave in
styling: cj pattern pusha, cj honey butta leave in, cj cccc, cj ciab, lalsg. cj aloe fix gel is my high dews/summer HG!!
sealants - spiral solutions emollience butter, jane carter nourish & shine
The headband crwitt (heh, autocorrect changed your name to "critter") is very similar to the one I was wearing in that post on page 11, except mine was sort of wrapped in narrow satin ribbon. I'm not sure how else to describe it. It didn't have those little short teeth on the scalp side that so many headbands seem to have, so it was fairly comfortable. I can't remember where I got it - probably either Sally's, Target, the drugstore, or the grocery store.

You guys, my hair has grown so much since those last photos - the gray is about a half inch from the ends! I really need to take another photo so you can see.
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Sulfate/non-water-soluble silicone free since 8/16/10
Northern VA
Med-coarse, normal porosity, low elasticity
Dye-free since 11/2010

^ Yes you do!!
In Western PA
Found NC in 2004. CG since 2-05, going grey since 9-05. 3B with some 3A.
Hair texture-medium/fine, porosity-normal except for the ends which are porous, elasticity-normal.
Suave & VO5 cond, LA Looks Sport Gel, oils, honey, vinegar.
http://public.fotki.com/jeepcurlygurl/ password jeepy **updated Feb 2014**
https://www.facebook.com/lifetheuniverseandtodd
I stopped coloring my hair several years ago, and although I'm 65, the gray is filtering in and I still have more brown than gray. It's so freeing to let things go totally natural....speaking of which, this is the first time in my life I've let my natural curl do its thing. Spent the summer getting used to my new wavy/curly look. It's so wonderful not to bother with drying/styling tools.

This site is one of the reasons I decided to go curly. Now I'm reading to learn more and trying various products.

Since going naturally curly, I've noticed that people smile at me more. Students in my community college classes....strangers in stores....and isn't that just sweet?! Maybe the curls make me look like more of a fun type person.
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Okay, here are a couple of fairly recent photos:

Our Gray Journey Diary-imageuploadedbycurltalk1347230190.386186.jpg

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I like how my hair looks now that it's grown out. My chief complaint is that there isn't MORE GRAY! I really thought I had a lot more, based on the roots I used to always cover up, but that is not the case. I guess I need to be patient - it will be here soon enough! In the meantime, I get a ton of compliments on it, and when I'm all dressed up and with makeup on for work, I think it really works on me. Whatcha think?
Sulfate/non-water-soluble silicone free since 8/16/10
Northern VA
Med-coarse, normal porosity, low elasticity
Dye-free since 11/2010

It's looking good, Rustina! I like the length and curl pattern, too!!
2Poodles Southeast PA
fine, med porosity, normal elasticity
Currently using the following 2 - 3 x/week:
Living Proof Perfect Hair Day suphate-free Poo, cone-free CO and styling treatment, plus KCCC

Thanks, 2poodles! I found one more pic that's much better - taken with our iPad instead of my crummy iPhone, lol! It's a little overexposed, but you can better see how much gray there is. I wish it were more clumped and streaky than sprinkled evenly throughout, but oh well:

Our Gray Journey Diary-imageuploadedbycurltalk1347831509.969502.jpg
Sulfate/non-water-soluble silicone free since 8/16/10
Northern VA
Med-coarse, normal porosity, low elasticity
Dye-free since 11/2010

rustina, you hair looks great!! nice salt and pepper, i love it! and the length looks good, too!
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3a, some 2c & 3b, medium texture, porosity normal, low elasticity
washing/cowashing, conditioning, protein tx: curl junkie products
leave in:cj conditioners and treatments as leave in
styling: cj pattern pusha, cj honey butta leave in, cj cccc, cj ciab, lalsg. cj aloe fix gel is my high dews/summer HG!!
sealants - spiral solutions emollience butter, jane carter nourish & shine
Okay, here are a couple of fairly recent photos:

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I like how my hair looks now that it's grown out. My chief complaint is that there isn't MORE GRAY! I really thought I had a lot more, based on the roots I used to always cover up, but that is not the case. I guess I need to be patient - it will be here soon enough! In the meantime, I get a ton of compliments on it, and when I'm all dressed up and with makeup on for work, I think it really works on me. Whatcha think?
Originally Posted by Rustina
Your hair is siimilar to mine, varigating from white in the front through silver, salt and pepper, to very dark brown/black at the very back.I think it looks great!

Last edited by crwritt; 09-16-2012 at 06:45 PM.
crwritt and rustina, both of you are my hair idols with these pics! I want your length and thickness. Alas, I will have to settle just for the length at some point in the future because thickness I am no longer blessed with.

crwritt, you almost look like you have 2 different heads of hair from front to back. That is so awesome-looking!

I am growing out my shorter top layers. I loved them for about a year including the trims to keep them that way, but now I want to have more of a long bob look and I really need to get those shorter layers down to chin or at least cheek length. Patience needed; not a virtue of mine.
Location: Texas
Type: 3b/3c (i), below shoulder length.
CO wash: A-O GPB LYY, Salon Care Honey Almond, Devacurl OC, Acure Argan Stem Cell+Argan Oil, Mill Creek Botanicals Keratin Repair
Leave-ins: BWC, KCKT, cno overnight
Styling: BRHG, MGA Sculpting Gel, A-O Mandarin Magic Gel, LOTD AVG, LALSG
DT: Kiehl's Olive Fruit Oil Deeply Repairative Hair Pak, Curl Junkie Deep Fix, Briogeo Don't Despair Repair!
I too am jealous of all the thick hair. Thanks to Mr Thyroid mine isn't nearly as thick as it used to be. But thankfully curly hair makes it much less noticeable.
In Western PA
Found NC in 2004. CG since 2-05, going grey since 9-05. 3B with some 3A.
Hair texture-medium/fine, porosity-normal except for the ends which are porous, elasticity-normal.
Suave & VO5 cond, LA Looks Sport Gel, oils, honey, vinegar.
http://public.fotki.com/jeepcurlygurl/ password jeepy **updated Feb 2014**
https://www.facebook.com/lifetheuniverseandtodd
Crwitt - wow, your hair has really grown! Your color dispersion is what a lady at my work has and what I wish I had, with all that white in the front. Patience is not my virtue either, but I know someday it will get there!
Sulfate/non-water-soluble silicone free since 8/16/10
Northern VA
Med-coarse, normal porosity, low elasticity
Dye-free since 11/2010

crwitt,love your hair! that is exactly how mine came in, more and more in the front, then eventually some in the back.
now i am about 85% white/gray, and the bottom back of my hair which is usually covered is totally black.
my sister's came in fairly evenly, nice salt and pepper. but i think for most people the front first, then the back.
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3a, some 2c & 3b, medium texture, porosity normal, low elasticity
washing/cowashing, conditioning, protein tx: curl junkie products
leave in:cj conditioners and treatments as leave in
styling: cj pattern pusha, cj honey butta leave in, cj cccc, cj ciab, lalsg. cj aloe fix gel is my high dews/summer HG!!
sealants - spiral solutions emollience butter, jane carter nourish & shine
The headband crwitt (heh, autocorrect changed your name to "critter") is very similar to the one I was wearing in that post on page 11, except mine was sort of wrapped in narrow satin ribbon. I'm not sure how else to describe it. It didn't have those little short teeth on the scalp side that so many headbands seem to have, so it was fairly comfortable. I can't remember where I got it - probably either Sally's, Target, the drugstore, or the grocery store.

You guys, my hair has grown so much since those last photos - the gray is about a half inch from the ends! I really need to take another photo so you can see.
Originally Posted by Rustina
I just saw that same headband at Target, the satin wrapped one, if anyone is still looking for one.
You all look great - it's amazing how variable the graying process is. Not just among women, but also on the same head of hair! My grays are scattered about, perhaps a bit more in the front, but fairly evenly. It's just harder to see because my natural hair color is a dark blonde/light brown shade. The grays look like highlights, at least they do from a distance!
2Poodles Southeast PA
fine, med porosity, normal elasticity
Currently using the following 2 - 3 x/week:
Living Proof Perfect Hair Day suphate-free Poo, cone-free CO and styling treatment, plus KCCC

For some reason, i can't see your pics. I would love to see your progress!

Never mind- I just wasn't patient enough to wait for the download. Looks terrific! You gals are so much braver than I am. I am still coloring the grays because otherwise I would be dirty blondish gray. Yuck.

Thanks for the inspiration!

Last edited by CurlyBoomer; 09-19-2012 at 05:40 PM.
The headband crwitt (heh, autocorrect changed your name to "critter") is very similar to the one I was wearing in that post on page 11, except mine was sort of wrapped in narrow satin ribbon. I'm not sure how else to describe it. It didn't have those little short teeth on the scalp side that so many headbands seem to have, so it was fairly comfortable. I can't remember where I got it - probably either Sally's, Target, the drugstore, or the grocery store.

You guys, my hair has grown so much since those last photos - the gray is about a half inch from the ends! I really need to take another photo so you can see.
Originally Posted by Rustina
I just saw that same headband at Target, the satin wrapped one, if anyone is still looking for one.
Originally Posted by crwritt
I bought one at Walmart, however, I only wore it twice cuz I went to put it on and it snapped!!! I barely opened it (I have a small head). I was not very happy. I think it was scunci brand with the black ribbon. Maybe I can find it in a different brand... I will check to see if Target has the same one...

Mostly: Wen Cleansing Conditioner: Lavendar & Tea Tree

Occasionally: DevaCurl No-Poo, One Condition, & Angel; KCCC, KCKT & KCCC
Last Dye 1/4/12; Started Curlygirl Method 6/2012; Final cut to remove dye 3/30/13
wow! all of you have some gorgeous unique heads of hair! here is my updated photo album
september 2012 hair album | banjolady | Fotki.com, photo and video sharing made easy.

no color since june 2010 last cut 10/11 w ana at devachan. iwill be 63 in november so there are some other over 60s in the group as well as those who are coming up on that BIG birthday...
but just an FYI--being over 60 is really fun as long as you stay healthy and dont let the superficial signs of aging get to you!!
Kitschy and curlygoinggray like this.
Susan suburban NY
3b going gray, not thick, waist length when wet, a bit below shoulders when dry
CG since 11/11/04
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PW: banjo
HG: suave and honey for co-wash, deva, i use garnier fructis regular CO's or boots pink or white as leave ins and LA looks sport gel. plop w microfiber turban, then curl towel scrunch, then another turban.i sleep with the turban on. little one minute hair styling videos http://www.youtube.com/user/lazycurls
Your natural color is very flattering, Banjo.

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