Our Gray Journey Diary

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Well, CurlyGray, its because women are useless unless we are eternally beautiful, thin, no wrinkles, active, no gray hair, and no complaining. We are only valued by our looks. This is still as distressingly true, maybe even more so, than when I was a young woman. Our culture does not value growing old gracefully, with wisdom and dignity. The only thing we can do is swim upstream. Billions of dollars are spent each year on "miracles" to keep us looking young. Never mind how we feel; the pharmaceutical industry has made billions on anti depressants and anti anxiety drugs to keep us from feeling the depression that comes with feeling that our only worth is in our attractiveness - and that is synonymous with youth.
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Well, CurlyGray, its because women are useless unless we are eternally beautiful, thin, no wrinkles, active, no gray hair, and no complaining. We are only valued by our looks. This is still as distressingly true, maybe even more so, than when I was a young woman. Our culture does not value growing old gracefully, with wisdom and dignity. The only thing we can do is swim upstream. Billions of dollars are spent each year on "miracles" to keep us looking young. Never mind how we feel; the pharmaceutical industry has made billions on anti depressants and anti anxiety drugs to keep us from feeling the depression that comes with feeling that our only worth is in our attractiveness - and that is synonymous with youth.
Originally Posted by Myrna
Eh, screw'em all.
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Salt & pepper wavy mix 2B/2C
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Conditioners: Renpure MPHIP, CJ Smoothing Lotion, AB LI, CJ Curl Rehab, CJ Argan/Olive, Darcy's Pumpkin
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I like your style, Curlygrey
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ok, ready set GRAY!!! I'm going to do it Now for some questions...
my hair is a little longer than chin length, FINALLY have curl at this length, did most you cut your hair as it was growing out or did you just keep it long and let the BIG roots/gray show ? I know some people did one thing and some did another, just trying to figure out what would be best. The last time I did it, I had a pixie length and dyed it blond first, so the change was easy. Also saw way back on p.23 I think of this thread that there's a book and web site about gray hair. I tried to sign up on the site, but never heard back from anyone. Is it no longer working?
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Working on finding my inner curl.
I chopped my hair off into a chin length bob and kept it there while the grey grew out. I didn't mind dealing with the skunk stripe for a year while it grew out but I wouldn't have wanted to deal with for years if I kept my hair long. But others have done just that! And others have cut their hair super short and had no skunk stripe at all!

The Going Gray Looking Great website isn't the same as it used to be. But they do have a nice facebook page. https://www.facebook.com/pages/Going...t/334857020776
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Found NC in 2004. CG since 2-05, going grey since 9-05. 3B with some 3A.
Hair texture-medium/fine, porosity-normal except for the ends which are porous, elasticity-normal.
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I just let it grow. My hair is medium length. I think it took around 18 months total to be done, but my hair grows pretty fast,
Salt & pepper wavy mix 2B/2C
Low to normal porosity, coarse, kinky, normal elasticity
Current favorites:
Low poo: Yes To Cukes Color Protection (the no sulfate one)
Conditioners: Renpure MPHIP, CJ Smoothing Lotion, AB LI, CJ Curl Rehab, CJ Argan/Olive, Darcy's Pumpkin
Style: FSG, BRHG
Pre-poo/DT: Conditioner with honey & coconut oil

iHerb discount code: PNQ285
This is why we need a gray forum. I went on other sites to see what other women were doing. Some of it depends on your "natural" color; it is far easier to go gray if you are blond or light brown, AND if you never colored. I am a brunette. I tried a few different things a couple months ago, and now I am just going cold turkey, and you know what? I dont much care how it looks. I still have nice long curly hair. I am not cutting it at this point because I want the option of pulling it up and off my face as the gray deepens. I may eventually cut some of it off, but three months into the process - no.
I've been coloring my hair since I was in my early 20's, that's when the gray started showing, I'm a natural red-head. Doing box colors for years, then that wouldn't last, then salon colors. Did go gray for about 3-4 years, so this will be my 2nd try and I'm planning on this being permanent. Thinking I may do some kind of cut, BUT I'm loving my waves/curls... decisions, decisions, lol
2C * Normal Porosity * Medium Density * Chin Length

Still playing with products ( using mostly Deva right now)

Working on finding my inner curl.
^ Myrna, you can start as many "goin' grey" threads as you want right here on over 40!
In Western PA
Found NC in 2004. CG since 2-05, going grey since 9-05. 3B with some 3A.
Hair texture-medium/fine, porosity-normal except for the ends which are porous, elasticity-normal.
Suave & VO5 cond, LA Looks Sport Gel, oils, honey, vinegar.
http://public.fotki.com/jeepcurlygurl/ password jeepy **updated Aug 2014**
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No, Jeepy, I dont think that is sufficient. There are tons of issues; makeup, colors, style, products. I dont want threads buried in the over 40 threads - and besides, some people go gray when they are in their 30's. It is not just an "over 40's " issue. Its a big change.
No, Jeepy, I dont think that is sufficient. There are tons of issues; makeup, colors, style, products. I dont want threads buried in the over 40 threads - and besides, some people go gray when they are in their 30's. It is not just an "over 40's " issue. Its a big change.
Originally Posted by Myrna
myrna, i agree. just look at this humongous thread! in the past i have referred it to several nc people with questions. however, i have to admit i would not want to sit and read through all of this! and, even if you do a search, all it brings you to is this thread, not the exact posts.

i also feel there is valuable info here, too bad it is pretty much inaccessible. i have stopped referring it to others as i feel it is useless. who is going to sit and read thru all of this?

and, myrna is correct about people can gray at any age. I, like my dad, starting graying at 17. my daughter followed along same path. why would a person in their 20s, 30s, decide to look in the 'over 40' forum for help with her hair?

having said all that i do feel there will never be a gray hair forum. i've been a member here a number of years and it's always 'considered,' never done.
it's just like it was for all curlies back in the 80s. well, maybe it's the 90s for gray -- some people are informed.

a poster somewhere on nc asked what happened to the website for grays she read about here. if she reads this, it no longer exits in the format it did. i think you now become a member and there is a 'cafe gray,' which is probably similar to our curl talk. if i were newly transitioning i would do that as that website was so helpful for the gray part of my hair. unfortunately, not the curly.
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I dont know what the resistance is on the part of the site, but surely there are ways of contacting the administration. Perhaps the webmaster does not want to re-design the site. I dont know. but I do think this is important, as important as any other issue here. After all, there is a forum for "Recipes" and books, and swapping non -hair products - WTF? pardon me, but if THOSE issues have a forum, surely Going Gray should have a forum.
Well considering there are forums on here with tens of thousands of threads I don't see the issue of looking through the few hundred here on this one, many of which already have to do with grey hair.
I'd rather we had fewer forums, not more, but if they decide to make yet another one I'm sure I'd look at it as I do most of the others.
In Western PA
Found NC in 2004. CG since 2-05, going grey since 9-05. 3B with some 3A.
Hair texture-medium/fine, porosity-normal except for the ends which are porous, elasticity-normal.
Suave & VO5 cond, LA Looks Sport Gel, oils, honey, vinegar.
http://public.fotki.com/jeepcurlygurl/ password jeepy **updated Aug 2014**
https://www.facebook.com/lifetheuniverseandtodd
Jeepy, I dont think a member should have to hunt through so many threads to get basic information about going gray and being curly. I think this is really easy; the forums that are not well posted could be eliminated. Much as I like recipes, for example, and I did get a fine one from a member, this is a curly hair website.
Newbie here. My first post. So hi, girls! I am in the process of growing out my gray hair for the third time. I am 67 yo now tho and I think whether I like it or not, it's time. I had almost black (and of course curly) hair as a child and young adult. It started to get gray hairs on top at 24 but by that time I was "frosting" as we called it then. And I would tell the hairdresser to make it silver because yellow looked bad with my very dark hair. And then I would put Roux temp rinses on it to silver it more. At 35 I let it grow in gray and it really did not look bad since it still had lots of dark but I was not in the mind set to be gray and I looked very very young so had lots of comments from friends and co workers to color it dark. So I did.

Fast forward to around 2006 and I had a very high level corporate job and I don't know what possessed me but I let it grow out again. White as snow by this time and I refused to cut it off short and my memory of it is that it looked really bad to be in that environment. I let it go for about a 1 years and then colored the roots dark and it really looked good as the white on the ends gave it a very conditioned looking highlighting job. Nothing you can keep up tho as that grew out since I would have had damaged hair to re-create the look.

So now I am retired and hubby and I go nowhere but church and Home Depot (LOL). We have a small ranch that keeps us busy. I am going to do this again (grow out gray) no matter what it looks like. White/gray hair tends to wash me out and make me look older but whatever. I am physically fit, weigh 110 lbs and can still canter on my horse so in my mind that keeps from "being old".

Main problem is that my granddaughter is getting married in May and my hair will probably be at its ugliest at that point. She wouldn't tell me but told her Mother that I should wait until after that due to the pictures being taken. Well, it's not my wedding so I am not waiting. I will try my best to do something to look my best that day (root paint or something temp from Sally's).

Sorry for the book. Great to read the postings on this thread and you all have beautiful hair. I have nice curls just not so much a good look when its white, but it'll be ok.
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CurlyinParadise: you should post a pic for us to see! Thank you so much for the spectacular post!
I'd get a professional updo for the wedding. I'm sure it would make a difference.
How sad is it to have to wait to retire (some of us won't get to ever retire - raises my hand.) to go natural. Just wrong
Oops early send. I was going to say It is just wrong. Do you see men waiting?
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one of the styles i got from a website that is still there but different now is to pull the the front of my hair back. you could do it with a fancy headband for the wedding, or with those tiny braids just to go back away from your face.... the white shows around your face, and of course, the black is in the back. it still can look pretty. i'd start now and just find creative ways to wear it for the wedding.
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3a, some 2c & 3b, medium texture, porosity normal, low elasticity
washing/cowashing, conditioning, protein tx: curl junkie products
leave in:cj conditioners and treatments as leave in
styling: cj pattern pusha, cj honey butta leave in, cj cccc, cj ciab, lalsg. cj aloe fix gel is my high dews/summer HG!!
sealants - spiral solutions emollience butter, jane carter nourish & shine

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