Our Gray Journey Diary

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Thanks, ladies. And yeah, I'll do something. I cut my hair last week in preparation for the grow out so it is too short for an up do.
Here I am and now that I have taken a picture, I may change my mind. When I look in the mirror, I don't see this thin scraggly hair that will look even more so when it goes all gray/white. The bald spot in the part is the white coming in. It looks bright and shiny in the mirror not scraggly like this pic. However, I'm sure the pic is the truth.

At least I hope this pic posts, it has taken me an hour to figure out how to upload it.
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Curly: WHAT dont you like? You have lovely blue eyes, and I think they will look lovely with silver and vice versa.
I agree! I love your cut - it's very modern and young, and your make up is good, so I don't see that the white will age you.
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Thank you, I need encouragement. What the white hair does is wash me out and then make all the wrinkles show up even more. But I have so enjoyed every minute in that sun damaging outdoors. Then when I color it back my eyes become more dominant. But now at 67 I am just going to accept it, I just can't dye my hair forever.

My daughter hates it and thinks she needs to council me as to what looks best on me. I am really enjoying this site tho and everyone here looks really really good.
i agree with the others, love your cut!

have you read the book, "going gray, looking great," by diana jewel? it's a great book, i got mine from the library. has lots of suggestions regarding colors, makeup, etc. she has a website but it is a newer format now, less of one than it was. however, you can join the website (it's free) and will probably get more info. i found both her book and the website supportive as i went thru this.

i stopped coloring my hair 5 years ago and there are still one or two who tell me i should dye it again. most people love it. i love it and that is all that matters. it sounds like this is something you want to do, so don't listen to others.
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Curly: this is why we often need to make adjustment in our "look" when we go gray. I live in the madison, WI area, and I have not been able to find such a person, but I know there are professional image consultants that assist with this sort of thing. They are probably pricey , but so are endless salon treatments. I also think we have gotten used to thinking that dyed hair looks "young" when in fact, past a certain point it really does not. I was in a Panera's weeks ago and ther ewas a table of about 6-8 women, all with dyed hair - except one. Guess who looked stunning. She had short, pixie- like hair, and big blue eyes. The rest of the women looked washed out and dull. Start by looking around you, but have a more open "lens" or attitude! you will find, I think, that you see m any great looking women with silver hair.
Here I am and now that I have taken a picture, I may change my mind. When I look in the mirror, I don't see this thin scraggly hair that will look even more so when it goes all gray/white. The bald spot in the part is the white coming in. It looks bright and shiny in the mirror not scraggly like this pic. However, I'm sure the pic is the truth.

At least I hope this pic posts, it has taken me an hour to figure out how to upload it.
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My pics never come out looking like real life. The light goes through any gaps which are actually fuller in real life. Go by real life.
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Curly, I had that issue at first too with the new silver. I thought it lookd like you could see my scalp, because the new growth was white, and looked like my hair was thinning. That is a temporary issue. When more silver comes in, you dont see that any more.
RBB, yes, I have read that book, there is another one that I like better but of course I cannot think of the title. It is more about the journey and less about tips.
i tried to copy photos from goinggraylooking great that were on the internet. if they don't show up here, just paste in the link

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myrna -- you are correct about seeing your scalp. in going gray looking great she says that will happen at first, something about the absence of color. and it is temporary.
i know the other book you are talking about, read it also. i preferred the going gray book because what i wanted was tips! LOL
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styling: cj pattern pusha, cj honey butta leave in, cj cccc, cj ciab. cj aloe fix gel is my high dews/summer HG!!
sealants - spiral solutions emollience butter, cj CIAB
Is this the other book you ladies are referring to? It was definitely about the journey, not tips about looking good with gray hair. I liked it.

http://www.amazon.com/Going-Gray-Mot...+looking+great

I am very salt and pepper now, and I constantly get compliments on my hair. Young, old, men, women - and I have had SO many people ask if I dyed my hair like this, lol!
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Rustina, that is the one I liked, rbb mentioned another. I liked reading about the woman's journey. Also: she took an academic approach and at one point, filled out the same profile on a dating site, one with a gray pic and one with brown; and she got more interest from the gray pic! I thought that was interesting.
Yes! I thought that was interesting, too.
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i just got onto curl talk, scrolling down, and there is a NEW forum, GOING GRAY!!
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styling: cj pattern pusha, cj honey butta leave in, cj cccc, cj ciab. cj aloe fix gel is my high dews/summer HG!!
sealants - spiral solutions emollience butter, cj CIAB
Had ankle surgery from a motorcycle wreck and don't want to color my curly hair my hair is 3b and long don't want to cut it cause I ride a harley
I'm very proud of my Chrome Accents! I don't have a ton of grey/chrome yet, but having just turned 39 I'm embracing what I do have. Of course we had the interns start this week at work, young, pretty girls and boys with no wrinkles or grey hair. One of them asked me why I don't color my greys.. I told her that I earned every single one of them and I wear them like a badge of honor!
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Bumping with an update. I fully transitioned in 14 months with a chin length layered cut. I'm only 42 but I wanted to point out the pros and cons of going gray for others. I haven't been on this forum in years, it seems, but I'm still CG and loving it!

Pros: I like that my hair is different/not mainstream. Not having to color is very low maintenance. My hair is much healthier now. I feel free.

Cons: my younger friends mostly don't like it, nor does my husband. I think I look frumpy (although this could be improved with more makeup, but that's not really my thing). I have been offered the senior discount more than once.

I'll try to post an updated pic soon (my avatar pic is when I was dyeing).

I am evenly salt & pepper, still more pepper than salt, with the face framing hair being the lightest. For me, the pros outweigh the cons and I have no plans of going back to the bottle, though I have considered it on many occasions.
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welcome back! and congrats on the transition. i love salt and pepper and unfortunately i waited too long to transition and mine was all gray/white (except for the very back bottom, still black).

if your hair is moisturized and in a good cut, i can't imagine it looking frumpy.
i think well-conditioned hair is crucial to avoid the 'old' look of gray.

as far as makeup goes, i did change up my eyeshadow, not nude taupes, but more of a blue/gray shadow, light. and, clothing -- i canont wear white (look like a ghost) or pale colors, i need dark, vivid colors.

the gray does emphasize our face more, so if you wear a skin moisturizer that should help.
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styling: cj pattern pusha, cj honey butta leave in, cj cccc, cj ciab. cj aloe fix gel is my high dews/summer HG!!
sealants - spiral solutions emollience butter, cj CIAB
Oh, HI, CHLOE! its good to see an old familiar face here. And I dont mean "old".

I would love to see you with silver. Ill bet it is beautiful.

I could not do silver without makeup. But thats just me, and I am 64. I think sometimes when we go silver, we need to change our makeup and the colors we wear. Also, I find I cannot do patterns like I used to. A patterened scarf, perhaps, or a summer dress - but mostly solids that compliment the silver. There are FB groups to help you - Going Gray and Loving it; Going Georgeously Gray; and there is also Curly Silvers.

I am sorry you lack emotional support for this change. I understand about being pleased you are not "mainstream"; I feel that way too. Most women my age dye their hair - and most look terrible. After all, none of us has the color now that we had in High school, but that is the "look". Once you start noticing - you really notice.
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