Our Gray Journey Diary

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That is a pretty look, isn't it? (at the link)


My husband asked me a few weeks ago, "why not go all the way natural?" meaning stop coloring my hair. My immediate thought was, "Are you out of your MIND?!" I think I even asked him as much.

But the more I thought about it the more appealing the thought was so I went to the hairdressers and stated my goal.

He wasn't happy with it because there really is no easy way to go grey with as dark as my hair was without chopping it all off.

My hair, however, isn't thanking me. I have deep conditioned it to the point it should be limper than a well cooked noodle and it's still like straw. (we'll see how it feels after I take the plastic off my head tonight)
Originally Posted by RoseMadder
I don't agree with that statement. My hair now is below my shoulders, dark chocolate brown and I stopped coloring my hair almost a year ago.

My hairdresser suggested low/high lights but I didn’t go for it for fear of looking like a calico cat so I instead went cold turkey. Now that my grey is pretty much showing like fresh snow on a roof - I get asked "where did I get my highlights"? Don't you just love mother nature for that freebie!

I should add that I'll be 50 tomorrow, live in swanky LA, work in corporate america and really don't care what others *think* of my hair including my hairdresser.

I have a full head of healthy curls and if I listened to what others thought - I wouldn't of gotten here. But thats just me.

Rose, your hair looks fabulous and you have to do what you are comfortable with as thats all that matters.


Last edited by SilverCurls; 10-02-2010 at 02:36 PM.
Hi ladies! I have recently decided to stop coloring my medium brown graying hair, after 20 years. I'm really inspired by the stories on this thread, and in the web site "Going Gray Looking Great" that I joined.

NaturallyCurly has helped me get control of my 3b shoulder length curls, and now I just want my hair free to be what it is!

I know it will be challenging and I know I'll appreciate all of the tips and wisdom on NaturallyCurly and Going Gray.
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Welcome, anitac!!

Are you just going to cold-turkey stop coloring? Or will you do a big chop? Or maybe blend in high lights as your roots grow in?

My hair is completely natural at this point and is probably about 50% gray, give or take. It's really hard for me to tell. I love that it feels wonderfully healthy. I have one dear friend who keeps telling me I should color it. (She's 66 and dyes her hair. I'm 48.) Most of my other friends don't say anything. And my husband is completely supportive and encouraging, telling me that it makes me look like I'm comfortable with myself. (Of course he's bald, so I'm never allowed to complain about my hair, LOL!!) Some days I wonder if I should color it again, but most days I'm just so glad to not have to deal with the smell of the chemicals, the upkeep, the cost and time involved, and how dry and damaged it makes my hair. And on windy days especially, I'm sooooo glad to not have to worry about roots!!
2Poodles Southeast PA
fine, med porosity, normal elasticity
Currently using the following 2 - 3 x/week:
Living Proof Perfect Hair Day suphate-free Poo, cone-free CO and styling treatment, plus KCCC

hi anitac! i will tell you what helped me. my hair was the same length as yours when i started. it's a matter of choice if you cut off the color, how much you cut. i read somewhere that the reason many people start coloring again is that they cut their hair too short and it is the length that they are unhappy with. it looks as tho your face would be great with a short cut if that is what you decide to do. my face could not handle that.
i cut off about 2 inches maybe 6 weeks into the transition, just to make it feel like not so far to go for myself. then about 5 months into it, i cut a couple more off. by 9 months i had pretty much cut off most of the color, altho my hair was above chin length by then. now i am growing it back in, almost there (that is taking longer as i have a friend who gets her hair cut with me in the city and she has straight hair and wanted to go in more often, so i did. then this summer i realized i was at a standstill with the length, so i stopped that, and am happy i did as it is noticeably longer.)
the back of my hair grew faster, the front was the slllooowwessst go grow! i did not do lowlights as i felt i'd still be battling color with that, and the fading..... and i am happy i did not.
the best trick for me was headbands. at first it covered the gray, then i just pushed them back to a normal place, and the white/gray framed my face. i got soooo many compliments the first time i showed up with a group of people who knew me for several years. even men came up and complimented on how well the natural color looked around my face. of course, the back of my hair was black! it was weird. throught i'd get compliments, from total strangers and friends, about my hair, and they were usually people 45 and under who loved it. older people hated it.
i did not care as i was determined not to spend another wasteful minute/hour coloring my hair.
and i am soooo happy with it. i still get lots of compliments on the color. (and of course, the curl!)
so, just stay with it, don't get discouraged. you will get there.
good luck!
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3a, some 2c & 3b, medium texture, porosity normal, low elasticity
washing/cowashing, conditioning, protein tx: curl junkie products
leave in:cj conditioners and treatments as leave in
styling: cj pattern pusha, cj honey butta leave in, cj cccc, cj ciab, lalsg. cj aloe fix gel is my high dews/summer HG!!
sealants - spiral solutions emollience butter, jane carter nourish & shine

Last edited by rbb; 10-31-2010 at 06:34 AM. Reason: spelling
What a fun look, crwritt!!
2Poodles Southeast PA
fine, med porosity, normal elasticity
Currently using the following 2 - 3 x/week:
Living Proof Perfect Hair Day suphate-free Poo, cone-free CO and styling treatment, plus KCCC

What a fun look, crwritt!!
Originally Posted by 2poodles
"Tis the season!
I've been torn over coloring my hair. I know all too well what goes into hair color. My hunny bunny loves grey hair and wants to see me stop being a slave to the bottle.

I've been going grey since I was 19. I think I started coloring at 20. I'm in my 4th decade now and I've not stopped since. I can see my roots and I know how much of my hair is grey. It's fairly significant.

I don't want to look old. I don't feel old. I still skateboard....
TIA,

Morrignu

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if you wear a young style, not an old lady one, you won't look old. in fact, i've gotten many compliments on my hair, at least half from men, many of whom were complete strangers.
i stopped coloring because i got tired of all the time it took up, all the scheduling around it. i am pleasantly surprised at how much i love my natural color, gray, white, and some black mixed in the back.
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3a, some 2c & 3b, medium texture, porosity normal, low elasticity
washing/cowashing, conditioning, protein tx: curl junkie products
leave in:cj conditioners and treatments as leave in
styling: cj pattern pusha, cj honey butta leave in, cj cccc, cj ciab, lalsg. cj aloe fix gel is my high dews/summer HG!!
sealants - spiral solutions emollience butter, jane carter nourish & shine
silvercurls can we see pictures please?? monighu if you are on a skateboard you will NEVER look old no matter how gray you are ! awesome---i would never DARE get on a skateboard (former class klutz)...

I stopped coloring my hair almost a year ago.

Now that my grey is pretty much showing like fresh snow on a roof - I get asked "where did I get my highlights"? Don't you just love mother nature for that freebie!

I should add that I'll be 50 tomorrow, live in swanky LA, work in corporate america and really don't care what others *think* of my hair including my hairdresser.

I have a full head of healthy curls and if I listened to what others thought - I wouldn't of gotten here. But thats just me.

Rose, your hair looks fabulous and you have to do what you are comfortable with as thats all that matters.
Originally Posted by SilverCurls
Susan suburban NY
3b going gray, not thick, waist length when wet, a bit below shoulders when dry
CG since 11/11/04
http://public.fotki.com/banjolady/
PW: banjo
HG: suave and honey for co-wash, deva, i use garnier fructis regular CO's or boots pink or white as leave ins and LA looks sport gel. plop w microfiber turban, then curl towel scrunch, then another turban.i sleep with the turban on. little one minute hair styling videos http://www.youtube.com/user/lazycurls
banjo, your new avatar is fantastic!!

And morrighu, gray hair isn't what makes us look old. it's just another color. it's all in the attitude. I'll ride on the back of a Harley going over 100 mph, but a skateboard? No way! I too am a klutz. : )

I still get many compliments on my hair, mostly from men of all ages. But the other day at the store I overheard a teenage girl, whose hair was dyed black and flat-ironed into submission, tell her mom "Look at her hair! I want it!". Then she walked over and told me she loved it. Made my day.
In Western PA
Found NC in 2004. CG since 2-05, going grey since 9-05. 3B with some 3A.
Hair texture-medium/fine, porosity-normal except for the ends which are porous, elasticity-normal.
Suave & VO5 cond, LA Looks Sport Gel, oils, honey, vinegar.
http://public.fotki.com/jeepcurlygurl/ password jeepy **updated Feb 2014**
https://www.facebook.com/lifetheuniverseandtodd
Hello, beautiful ladies,

I'm here for any words of wisdom/advice you may have for me. I'm 29, and I think I spotted my first grey at about 14! I've been dyeing it since then, and I am so extremely frustrated and sick of the expense and putting chemicals on my scalp monthly and feeling embarrassed when my roots come in. The greys come in really fast. I'm not sure how grey I really am overall, but I know that the area that frames my face is at least 30%-40% grey.

I'm struggling with stopping the dye, but my hair is pretty long and I don't want to have to cut it all off. I'm also struggling with what kind of impression it will make on people. I'm graduating this year and will begin work next August in a profession that requires me to maintain an extremely conservative appearance. I don't think obvious roots will work.

I don't know what to do! I was thinking about really lightening up the front section where the greys are most prominent, but again, I'm not sure how well a two-toned look will go over in my work environment. I'm naturally a brunette and although pretty pale, blonde does not look too hot on me. Hair stylists, naturally, tell me I'm too young to go grey. Any suggestions? Thanks for reading this 'til the end!
pw: curlie
Hello, beautiful ladies,

I'm here for any words of wisdom/advice you may have for me. I'm 29, and I think I spotted my first grey at about 14! I've been dyeing it since then, and I am so extremely frustrated and sick of the expense and putting chemicals on my scalp monthly and feeling embarrassed when my roots come in. The greys come in really fast. I'm not sure how grey I really am overall, but I know that the area that frames my face is at least 30%-40% grey.

Hair stylists, naturally, tell me I'm too young to go grey. Any suggestions? Thanks for reading this 'til the end!
Originally Posted by StormCloudCurly
at 29 gray hair would look striking with your nice young face. your colored hair is also beautiful. if u really want to grow it out you might want to try growing it out some and then getting some low lights to blend it in. you've got some time till u start in the corporate law firm or whatever job u will be doing. i am growing out mine now and it is much less 2 toned than i expected. our hair is somewhat similar tho i've got 30 years on you. your hair is not a typical corporate "do" (not the straight blonde cap of totally straight hair we think of as corporate) but you do not have to change your look irreparably to fit in. you can always put it up or back and then let it fly when not working. another option is after u grow out some gray, do a rinse and let it fade, see what happens. it might look really fabulous. mine looks much better than i anticipated, tho it's only been since june i am growing it out... good luck and have fun...
Susan suburban NY
3b going gray, not thick, waist length when wet, a bit below shoulders when dry
CG since 11/11/04
http://public.fotki.com/banjolady/
PW: banjo
HG: suave and honey for co-wash, deva, i use garnier fructis regular CO's or boots pink or white as leave ins and LA looks sport gel. plop w microfiber turban, then curl towel scrunch, then another turban.i sleep with the turban on. little one minute hair styling videos http://www.youtube.com/user/lazycurls
stormcloud, I will ditto everything banjo said. Your have gorgeous hair and I think I will look great gray.

banjo, you are looking fab with your 'new' hair.
In Western PA
Found NC in 2004. CG since 2-05, going grey since 9-05. 3B with some 3A.
Hair texture-medium/fine, porosity-normal except for the ends which are porous, elasticity-normal.
Suave & VO5 cond, LA Looks Sport Gel, oils, honey, vinegar.
http://public.fotki.com/jeepcurlygurl/ password jeepy **updated Feb 2014**
https://www.facebook.com/lifetheuniverseandtodd
I'm getting all sorts of comments on my chosen method.

Some of them make me cringe, others make me grin.


I think Banjocurl offers some good advice.

I think your hair is very pretty.
2C, maybe
Biolage Conditioning Balm
Deva Curls One condition
GF Triple Nutrition conditioner, deep conditioner and leave in spray
anGell and Set it Free
i agree with what they've said -- you should go for it. i think you will be pleasantly surprised at how much younger you will look. i personally think hair coloring can be aging -- something about it is a little off, never looks right with a person's skintone.

look at this website, goinggraylookinggreat.com and you will find many good gray tips, not curly, but that is okay.

there is also another woman who does a fashion online website, wardrobe911, and she has stopped coloring and shows before and after photos -- wow!
here is the link with one of her articles (she wrote a few as an ongoing process when she was transitioning):
http://www.wardrobe911.com/platinum-...of-going-gray/
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3a, some 2c & 3b, medium texture, porosity normal, low elasticity
washing/cowashing, conditioning, protein tx: curl junkie products
leave in:cj conditioners and treatments as leave in
styling: cj pattern pusha, cj honey butta leave in, cj cccc, cj ciab, lalsg. cj aloe fix gel is my high dews/summer HG!!
sealants - spiral solutions emollience butter, jane carter nourish & shine

Last edited by rbb; 11-08-2010 at 06:21 AM. Reason: spacing
Thanks for all your guidance and kind words, everyone! All your hair looks really beautiful, and so soft. I wish I could skip over where I am and get to where you all are right now. And banjocurl, you're right, our hair is so very similar!

I am just about at that time when normally I would do my roots - they are about an inch right now. I'm already kind of freaking out - I've been wearing a headband! And ball caps, yikes. I think I'm going to see if I can go to a hairstylist over the holidays to help me with the transition to grey. I hope they don't just tell me to colour but I have faith that the stylists at this particular salon I have in mind like to work with the hair you have, not against it.
pw: curlie
Thanks for all your guidance and kind words, everyone! All your hair looks really beautiful, and so soft. I wish I could skip over where I am and get to where you all are right now. And banjocurl, you're right, our hair is so very similar!

I am just about at that time when normally I would do my roots - they are about an inch right now. I'm already kind of freaking out - I've been wearing a headband! And ball caps, yikes. I think I'm going to see if I can go to a hairstylist over the holidays to help me with the transition to grey. I hope they don't just tell me to colour but I have faith that the stylists at this particular salon I have in mind like to work with the hair you have, not against it.
Originally Posted by StormCloudCurly
if you don't want to color, go with that mindset. they may suggest lowlights. i decided against them when i was transitioning as i'd then have roots from the lowlights, the color in the lowlights would fade, and the more often you get it done, then all of a sudden most of your hair is once again colored. just remember, the time will pass. once i got to the point where the headbands did not cover the white, i used the headbands to just pull it off my face and let the white show around it. of course, the back was black, which i hated, but i got sooo many compliments on it, it was actually freaky!!
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3a, some 2c & 3b, medium texture, porosity normal, low elasticity
washing/cowashing, conditioning, protein tx: curl junkie products
leave in:cj conditioners and treatments as leave in
styling: cj pattern pusha, cj honey butta leave in, cj cccc, cj ciab, lalsg. cj aloe fix gel is my high dews/summer HG!!
sealants - spiral solutions emollience butter, jane carter nourish & shine
Just wanted to post this pic of my grandmother when she started to go grey. She was in her late 30's in this pic (the baby is my sister). She never dyed her hair. The grey streak just got bigger over the years. Then the dark hair finally disappeared and she had gorgeous white hair. I always admired it and I think that's why I accepted my grey hair so easily (even tho I didn't get the streak I loved so much).
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In Western PA
Found NC in 2004. CG since 2-05, going grey since 9-05. 3B with some 3A.
Hair texture-medium/fine, porosity-normal except for the ends which are porous, elasticity-normal.
Suave & VO5 cond, LA Looks Sport Gel, oils, honey, vinegar.
http://public.fotki.com/jeepcurlygurl/ password jeepy **updated Feb 2014**
https://www.facebook.com/lifetheuniverseandtodd
Just wanted to post this pic of my grandmother when she started to go grey. She was in her late 30's in this pic (the baby is my sister). She never dyed her hair. The grey streak just got bigger over the years. Then the dark hair finally disappeared and she had gorgeous white hair. I always admired it and I think that's why I accepted my grey hair so easily (even tho I didn't get the streak I loved so much).
Originally Posted by jeepcurlygurl
Tell me again...she became a grandmother in her late 30's? (I do like her hair, but just checking)

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