Are You Embracing or Running Away From Your Gray Hair?

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embracing now. i stopped coloring in june 2010 and now have the 2 tone look which is not too bad when my hair is down. i was coloring with robt craig golden blonde #18 which was as light as i could get without any color lifting, it only deposits. so for my 61 yr old face the color was too dark, therefore i am going gray. when i started coloring at age 52 my hair surrounding the gray was very mousy and my face looked washed out, so i brightened up the brown and it looked really good for years. so time marches on and i have lots of gray now, the brown is the nice colored color so it is all mixing in. i am keeping it long and just allowing it to grow in slowly. when i put part of it up it looks REALLY gray, when all down not so gray. the pony tail is totally brown and the other part is all gray/streaky. it is going to be an interesting few years. figure by 65 i will be all gray. luckily my vanity is fading along with the hair i've got a videolink in the gray journey thread for those who would like to witness the 2 toned ponytail in action...i also put up some new pics on fotki
Susan suburban NY
3b going gray, not thick, waist length when wet, a bit below shoulders when dry
CG since 11/11/04
http://public.fotki.com/banjolady/
PW: banjo
HG: suave and honey for co-wash, deva, i use garnier fructis regular CO's or boots pink or white as leave ins and LA looks sport gel. plop w microfiber turban, then curl towel scrunch, then another turban.i sleep with the turban on. little one minute hair styling videos http://www.youtube.com/user/lazycurls

Last edited by banjocurl; 04-05-2011 at 11:18 AM.
Running, but getting fed-up of it. I don't have enough grey for it to look good if I let in grow in but feel my natural brunette is becoming unflattering to my pale and ageing skin. Would really like to go a bit lighter but I fear bleaching, or whatever I'd need to do to get it lighter, will damage my poor hair. And whilst I think the brown is too dark I also feel, like Curlypearl, that grey generally just doesn't suit me - have never looked good in grey clothing.
3b in South Australia.
starmie thats exactly where i was in 2002--so if u want to try some robt craig golden blonde #18 its great, i just got too old for it. it made my mousy hair a very rich golden brown and very lively--you can see on my fotki from 2010 and before the color. i have some extra boxes of it if u want to try it...PM me
Susan suburban NY
3b going gray, not thick, waist length when wet, a bit below shoulders when dry
CG since 11/11/04
http://public.fotki.com/banjolady/
PW: banjo
HG: suave and honey for co-wash, deva, i use garnier fructis regular CO's or boots pink or white as leave ins and LA looks sport gel. plop w microfiber turban, then curl towel scrunch, then another turban.i sleep with the turban on. little one minute hair styling videos http://www.youtube.com/user/lazycurls
Going gray has given me such freedom! Hoping it would come in a platinum shade all over but instead I have the lightest shade framing my face and then more of a silver everywhere else. It doesnt make me feel or look old because that is probably a state of mind. I think Nature knows best.
"'m running and have been since my late 20's. I actually think gray hair looks fabulous with some complexions. My very pale skin has a yellow (ivory) undertone and I look totally washed out with gray hair. My mom and sister have much more color in their pinkish skin and they look terrific with gray hair. I've also seen some women with very dark skin who look sensational with gray hair.

I think if you have good contrast between the gray and your skintone, it makes a big difference. I look washed out in gray clothing also. If I looked well in gray hair I would definitely do it but since it makes me look like I've been in a crypt for a month, no way."

Running, and will be for a very long time LOL! I'm in exactly the same boat, except that my skin may be a shade or two deeper than yours. No grey for me, thank you very much! The rest of me looks young, and I'm fit and like to wear interesting clothes, so why should I look like death-warmed-over with grey hair. I get a LOT of compliments on my color jobs(including from my haircutter)and how it suits me(rich coppery auburn brown achieved with 3 shades of Revlon Colorsilk). Fortunately my hair doesn't grow really fast, so my color jobs last a lot longer than people whose hair grows fast.
starmie thats exactly where i was in 2002--so if u want to try some robt craig golden blonde #18 its great, i just got too old for it. it made my mousy hair a very rich golden brown and very lively--you can see on my fotki from 2010 and before the color. i have some extra boxes of it if u want to try it...PM me
Originally Posted by banjocurl
Ah, that's kind of you but I'm not sure we can get RC here in Aus and I wouldn't want to find something I love only to find I have to pay shipping all the time!
My usual colour has gone MIA here in South Australia so I'm trying different ones. After a disaster last month when I ended up way too dark, I actually bought a dark golden blonde yesterday to try this week. Maybe it will turn out as light as it looks (not my experience generally I have to say) and I can gradually blend the grey away as a lighter brown. Here's hoping.
Thanks again for the offer.
3b in South Australia.
When my hair was straight I embraced it but now that its curly I want to cover it up.

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When my hair was straight I embraced it but now that its curly I want to cover it up.

CoilyEboniqueMe
Originally Posted by CoilyEboniqueMe


That's interesting - I'm the opposite. When I would blow it out straight, the grays bothered me. Now that I just wear it wild and curly - the grays seem to belong.
2Poodles Southeast PA
fine, med porosity, normal elasticity
Currently using the following 2 - 3 x/week:
Living Proof Perfect Hair Day suphate-free Poo, cone-free CO and styling treatment, plus KCCC

Love my grey hair (and everyone else's too). My grandmother went grey in her 30's, my younger sister in her 20's, so I don't associate it with 'being old". I just think of it as another color.
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[QUOTE=Starmie;1628277
Ah, that's kind of you but I'm not sure we can get RC here in Aus and I wouldn't want to find something I love only to find I have to pay shipping all the time!
My usual colour has gone MIA here in South Australia so I'm trying different ones. After a disaster last month when I ended up way too dark, I actually bought a dark golden blonde yesterday to try this week. Maybe it will turn out as light as it looks (not my experience generally I have to say) and I can gradually blend the grey away as a lighter brown. Here's hoping.
Thanks again for the offer.[/QUOTE]

you're welcome. i checked robt craig site and they dont seem to ship to australia. maybe you have some great hair color down there?
hope you're doing ok with all those earthquakes--yikes!
Susan suburban NY
3b going gray, not thick, waist length when wet, a bit below shoulders when dry
CG since 11/11/04
http://public.fotki.com/banjolady/
PW: banjo
HG: suave and honey for co-wash, deva, i use garnier fructis regular CO's or boots pink or white as leave ins and LA looks sport gel. plop w microfiber turban, then curl towel scrunch, then another turban.i sleep with the turban on. little one minute hair styling videos http://www.youtube.com/user/lazycurls
I'm running and have been since my late 20's. I actually think gray hair looks fabulous with some complexions. My very pale skin has a yellow (ivory) undertone and I look totally washed out with gray hair. My mom and sister have much more color in their pinkish skin and they look terrific with gray hair. I've also seen some women with very dark skin who look sensational with gray hair.

I think if you have good contrast between the gray and your skintone, it makes a big difference. I look washed out in gray clothing also. If I looked well in gray hair I would definitely do it but since it makes me look like I've been in a crypt for a month, no way.
Originally Posted by curlypearl
Same here. I wouldn't wear gray clothes on a bet, so why would I want gray hair?

My mom had fair but pink-toned skin (and it looked amazing because she avoided the sun), and she rocked salt and pepper hair. I think skin tone (pink vs. yellow) is the key factor in whether gray hair looks good.
I'm running and have been since my late 20's. I actually think gray hair looks fabulous with some complexions. My very pale skin has a yellow (ivory) undertone and I look totally washed out with gray hair. My mom and sister have much more color in their pinkish skin and they look terrific with gray hair. I've also seen some women with very dark skin who look sensational with gray hair.

I think if you have good contrast between the gray and your skintone, it makes a big difference. I look washed out in gray clothing also. If I looked well in gray hair I would definitely do it but since it makes me look like I've been in a crypt for a month, no way.
Originally Posted by curlypearl
Same here. I wouldn't wear gray clothes on a bet, so why would I want gray hair?

My mom had fair but pink-toned skin (and it looked amazing because she avoided the sun), and she rocked salt and pepper hair. I think skin tone (pink vs. yellow) is the key factor in whether gray hair looks good.
Originally Posted by Verity
I totally agree that you need to have an undertone that will look with gray. I've always looked great in cool colors - pinks, blues, silver, grays - so I'm just letting the gray come in as it wants. Kinda wish it'd hurry up....
2Poodles Southeast PA
fine, med porosity, normal elasticity
Currently using the following 2 - 3 x/week:
Living Proof Perfect Hair Day suphate-free Poo, cone-free CO and styling treatment, plus KCCC

I'm kinda of the opinion that everyone looks good in their own natural colors, both skin and hair - even your natural gray, but then again that is just my opinion.

I think it is the uniqueness of each individual that is the most interesting.

I WAS running but discovered that I was not moving fast enough (LOL). I am graying in the temples and my hair is short so it IS visible. I am thinking about Henna. My mother is about 90% gray and it is a VERY shiny silver color. Hopefully when mine is that gray it will look the same.
I am recently embracing it, with a twist. This week, I had my hairdresser highlight and tone my hair, so that we could blur the line of demarcation between old color and new growth. Seeing those toned (grayish-cast) highlights in my new growth makes me look so forward for things to come.

Since I'm not as gray as I had hoped, I believe that when I lose most of my old color (which may take a year and a half), I will want to continue to highlight with some toned platinum in front.

So I'm not a purist, but I'm a wanna-be!
Here's a photo of the new toned highlights mixed with old color, old highlights, and new growth. Excuse the wild...Saturday-at-home-hair. The light from a window shows the grayish cast, while the shadowed side does not. Still, hopefully you get the idea. My hair's an illusion..........you CAN see just a few natural silver strands in the very front:


Last edited by Gracings; 04-16-2011 at 05:30 PM.
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Running. Or walking might be a better description.

Henna for me; I get a lot of compliments on the color, my hair is still mostly very dark brown so the grays hide when hennaed and stick out like nobody's business when they aren't.

I'm terrible about touching up though, and my hair does grow pretty fast so there are usually some sprigs of gray.

Ideally, would like to have a squeeze bottle of already mixed henna in the freezer so I could just thaw and retouch on weekends, but of course I've let it go too far already so not this time, it will be full redo again.
2c / C / iii (FIA)
Med-Coarse, LowPorosity, NormalElast (LCLF)

Shoulder-Length now.

Wash: DevaCare Low Poo
Detangle & Rinseout: Walgreens or Sally's Conditioning Balm (always)
Leave-in: DevaCare OneC (budget choice is GFTN)
Style: ReCoil & DevaCare Arc Angel (budget choices are HESMU or Got2BSpikedUp)

Henna!
Yeah... walking...

I got my first gray hair at 28 and plucked it out. It didn't appear again for many years! Now at 47, there are maybe 5 or 6 thoughout my head. (Yes, it's very, VERY gradual!) Most of my curls are dark brown 3C-4A, but the few grays are wiry and wavy, and stick out quite obnoxiously. I tried to color, but they're terribly stubborn. Unless I get paint from the Home Depot, I guess I'll just have to let them stick out. *Sigh!*

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