Some words about curls, hair health, coloring and going gray.

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I decided to let my hair go gray. Since then, I have not been getting any root touch ups. And, since then, I have seen a huge change in my hair. It looks way fuller, more volume, better curl, better all around. So my words of wisdom to those who have struggled and struggled with products, styling, humidity, dew points, etc are: do you color your hair? that could be the problem.
That is really good to know! i am currently growing out some old color and can't wait to cut it all off.
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Excellent point! I hope I grow a full head of silver curls some day. I think it oozes confidence and beauty.
Mustangbunny, I was actually in disbelief. My husband kept commenting on how much better my hair is looking, fuller, like I have more. HE said he thought it was because I stopped coloring it; I thought it might be my new product routine, and styling routine. but, I have changed, alternated products, and my hair still looks really nice. So I put up a post in a "Gray" facebook forum, and others agreed that they had had the same experience, including more new growth and less hair in the shower drain. One person is a stylist and she said for sure this is because of not using hair dye. I am thrilled. Maxi, I hope that more of us - at whatever age or stage of life we start going gray - will embrace it, not as "looking older", but rather, like the metamorphosis a cocoon makes to the butterfly.
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Personally I lack the confidence to go grey. I am in my mid-thirties with no wrinkles, not even crow's feet (and yes I'm slightly vain about that), my hair has been going grey for about 4 years and I've been dying it the whole time (actually I used to dye it anyway because my natural color is very ashy and doesn't match my skin tone, but now I have to use perm dyes and before I used demi), my natural color is dark brown and the greys are bright shiny silver and really stick out. It's probably less than 1% grey, but you notice that 1% because of the contrast.
Wavy, I started getting gray in my 30's too, a strand here and there that looked like piano wire, or a strand from a horse's tail, if you get my drift. I think before ANYONE uses permanent color, you need to ask yourself, or your stylist needs to ask you, how will you feel 20 years from now? because 20 years from now, it will be much more difficult to stop color. I used to use henna. Now, for me it is not really about confidence. I am 62 and dont really crow's feet either. I just dont want to be at the stylist's every three weeks. I am tired of it. And, I am tired of seeing women my age who color their hair and think it makes them look younger. At some point, it actually makes us look older/incongruous. We need a gray forum here, and I have said this many times but the moderators for some reason dont think it is important. And it is.
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Now I dye it myself, I'm low income and can barely afford a haircut, much less professional dye. I'm sure that's even worse for it. I've definitely seen the older women who would look better with grey rather than dyed, in fact my mother is one of them, but maybe now that she's retired she'll let it go. I always thought maybe I'd do it big chop style, like stop dying late fall, wear hats all winter no dye and then come spring chop off all the old dyed hair, but it's probably not that easy and I honestly still have nightmares about the last time my hair was short and I had a jewfro for more than a year.

I think it is about confidence for me, but also how vanity is intertwined, trying not to get too personal I'm disabled, but it's an invisible disability (chronic pain), I'm single, I'm poor, my health continues to deteriorate, basically lots of things in my life are not going well, but the whole looking years younger than my age is one thing that is, if I let myself go grey now I give that up.

Honestly though I go long times between dyes now because I just don't have the energy to do it or find it or whatever. But then I can still tell myself, ok if I use that dye I won't have this problem. And then there's the dislike of my natural color mixed in (which as I said before is very ashy and doesn't match my skin tone). I've had a box of dye for weeks now, but haven't used it yet and the last time I dyed was probably 3-4 months ago.
Wavy, I am not trying to convince you of anything. This is a very personal decision/choice. But years ago, I was working for Christmas in a mall shop and a woman walked in with show-stopping long, slightly wavy, platinum silver hair. I could not take my eyes off it, and I am sure she was also not that "old". I hope my hair looks like that when it all grows in! What I have learned about going gray is that many women have to change our colors ( makeup, and what we wear); and get a different style, to compliment the silver. I expect that when I am all silver, color will be even more important than it is now. You might consider highlights or lowlights; a good colorist consultation. It might cost (or check into your local beauty school) but highlights last a LONG time. If I was a young 'un, I would have purple and blue in my hair... : ) yes, I think I would.
I started going gray in college. It runs in my family, if that's possible. I'm just hoping for a skunk stripe of gray hair.


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LOL, Mustang, I have a small "cap" of gray at the crown of my head, and an "aura" of silver around my face (I like the silver around my face). I guess I will have to change my profile pic here soon.
That sounds pretty! When it was trendy to dye your hair gray I was so into it. I think it looks sophisticated.

Forgot to mention earlier that I loved Kelly Osbourne's gray hair, and here she is
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Styler: Giovanni LA

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Last edited by mustangbunny; 01-17-2014 at 04:16 PM. Reason: Edited for clarity
GREAT hair, Mustang, you are a lovely woman.
I found a few gray hairs about 6 months back. It was just one or two here and there (actually my dad noticed them). I blame it on all the stress from Grad school, but I've been looking for them ever since! I'm only 26, so I'm hoping I don't start going gray this early. If I do, I may dye for a few years and then embrace it. Though, I haven't dye my hair in over a year and love how my hair acts without it.


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How does your hair act without the dye?
GREAT hair, Mustang, you are a lovely woman.
Originally Posted by Myrna
I WISH that was a picture of me. That's Kelly Osbourne, haha.
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Condish: V05 Tea Therapy, Body Shop Banana
Leave in: Giovanni Direct Leave In
PT: My hair needs very little. I use Suave Naturals Coconut when I need a little bit and follow up with a moisturizing conditioner.
Styler: Giovanni LA

Go Red Wings!


How does your hair act without the dye?
Originally Posted by Myrna
It isn't as dry and, this may sound weird, but it reacts better to the products. When I used to dye my hair, it would take more product to get it to frizz less and look less dry. It also felt stringier with the dye and less defined. And definitely wasn't as soft.


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Conditioner: Tresemme Naturals, Trader Joe's Tea Tree Tingle
Co-Wash: As I Am Coconut Co-Wash
Leave in Products: As I Am Leave-In, SM Smoothie/Milk, KCKT, Giovanni Direct Leave-In
Air Dry

Looking for new products and methods to try!



Same here, DaniGirl, exactly. It does not seem to matter now what I shampoo with, what I condition with; even my styling products dont seem to matter. Yes, I too had stringy hair with dye. Sure has been an eye opener!
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Permanent dye is hugely damaging to hair and skin, isn't that common knowledge?

Absolutely some of my styling challenges are due to the increased porosity and decreased elasticity related to dye use. That is why I switched to roots only (no refreshing the lengths for five minutes each time), and why I focus on proven patch repairing/ penetrating ingredients.
2a-2c, medium texture, porous/ colour treated. Three years CG. Past bra strap length heading for waist.

CO-wash: Inecto coconut/ Elvive Volume Collagen
Treatments: Komaza Care Matani, coconut/ sweet almond/ fractionated coconut oils, Hairveda Sitrinillah
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Styler: Umberto Giannini jelly, Au Naturale styling gelee
Flour sack towel, pixie diffuse or air dry.
Experimenting with: benign neglect
I am 33 and I am currently about 30% *white*! It's not gray or silver, just white. My natural hair colour is level 2! My sis found my first one at 10. I started dying my hair at 16. Except for years 2006 - 2009 my hair has not been it's natural colour since.

Of course, I don't get lucky enough to have a streak either. It's just scattered all about. It looks horrible! I'm waiting till it turns all white. Growing out my hair won't bother me at all. Done that a few times already. I just want all white hair 'cause this tweener stage looks awful. I'm hoping I'll be mostly white by 40. I think I'm being too hopeful, 50 is probably more realistic considering the rate I'm going. I was right about 25% when I was 27.
Very fine, high porosity, currently dyed and growing out the relaxed portions. I'm pretty sure my hair's 3b something IIRC. We will be finding out for sure as time goes by.

It's official: My hair just loves Shea Moisture. I use a mixture of products from the Raw Shea Butter, African Black Soap, and Coconut & Hibiscus lines.
Foxfire, I was only having my roots done. No color pulled through. But I was having it done every 3 weeks, because I have a lot of silver. That is why I questioned whether or not the change in my hair could be due to stopping the root touch ups. Apparently the answer is yes. And, judging from the responses here, we need a "Going Gray" forum.
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