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Old 07-30-2013, 06:12 AM   #1
 
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Hey guys. I'm just going to pour my heart out and hope someone understands.

This year has been horrible for me.

Last February, I got married and I was very happy. But 9 months later, my husband changed. We were together for 6.5 years before we married and he wanted me to be someone I was not. He became very critical about my clothes, hair, and makeup. He'd fly off the handle at the smallest thing and I felt like I was walking on eggshells.

Long story short, we separated and our divorce though imminent is still pending.

I thought this new year would bring new opportunity. I had gotten what I though was going to be a great job and get me away from retail. Then I fell head over heels for one of the guys I was working with. It was whirlwind to say the least and ultimately he decided that he wanted to go back to his ex. I was heartbroken to say the least and even though it's been about 2 months since I left and spoken to him, it still really affects me. I still find myself crying over him. A part of me feels that I found my soulmate and he was too scared of change that he went back to his comfort zone.

So, here I am broken and in pieces. My heart's in shambles and I don't know if I can put it together again.

I was unemployed for the 2 months that I left my "really great new job." I finally went back to my original retail store about 2 weeks. I'm happiest at work, around people I know, connect with, and love dearly, but I'm alone at home and I think.

So, what does this have to do with my hair? I guess I just needed a change. So, much has been out of control in my life that I wanted a say in that control. I wanted a change that was based on my decision alone and it came down to my hair.

Turns out I'm not any happier than I was before, I am in fact a little more upset and miserable. I'm working on my life one baby step at a time. I think curlie girls understand what it's like to have that "bad haircut."

There's nothing wrong with the cut except I didn't take my curls into consideration.
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Old 07-30-2013, 08:13 AM   #2
 
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All I can say is that at least hair grows. (And yeah. I've cut my hair off or dyed it many a time in "angst". It never does seen to fix anything. Angst exercising is probably better.)
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Old 07-30-2013, 10:29 AM   #3
 
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You're right. I should probably exercise instead of cutting.
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Old 07-30-2013, 11:01 AM   #4
 
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Me too.
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Old 07-31-2013, 03:06 PM   #5
 
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Chupie: went for a run yesterday. It's hot and humid all the tine in the deep South, but it was awesome!
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Old 07-31-2013, 03:32 PM   #6
 
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w00t!
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Old 07-31-2013, 04:21 PM   #7
 
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Hugs!!!!

Sounds like life is hitting u with the one two punch. I hope things vetter better for you soon.

I agree, exercise helps.

Can u pin it up or try some new styling techniques until growd out?

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Old 07-31-2013, 04:25 PM   #8
 
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Hugs. I went through a divorce last year, and it's pain that just cannot be out into words. It starts long before the divorce proceedings and hangs on long after. The other things just feel like you're being kicked when you're down. I went through a lot in the last year as well and I understand. BIG hugs.
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I am sorry for the rough time that you have been having. This is the time to grow out: Grow out of past relationships, grow out of hair cuts, grow out of everything that is weighing you down. I know it doesn't feel like it, but this too will pass and when you grow out of this stage you will be stronger and wiser and happier. We curly girls are here for you! <3 Big Hugs!
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Old 08-03-2013, 08:22 AM   #10
 
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Thanks guys!

Luuuuucy: thanks for understanding. Some people don't realize that even though a divorce is coming doesn't mean one or both parties are happy about it. I wanted to work on the marriage and unfortunately he didn't.

I read somewhere that eating is an over used treatment for depression and exercise is under used. I think I'm going to incorporate more exercise.

I started eating better and healthier and is my goal to get off my antidepressants by the New Year.

Plus the healthy food will be awesome for my hair.

It's time to out grow hair cuts and the past. Only thing to do is move forward.

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Just found this thread, and I know it's a few months old, but I wanted to send virtual hugs to you CI. How is the hair coming along? I agree that exercise and proper diet are wonderful for making us feel better.
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Old 09-18-2013, 12:57 AM   #12
 
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CurlyInk, I'm still straightening most of the time, but I'm not washing as m7ch to let the natural oils develope. It's been 2 months since the chop and I've grown about half an inch. It's getting there just slowly.
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