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notyouraveragecurl 10-02-2013 09:59 AM

HORRIBLE Haircut--I am DEVASTATED :(
 
I am so upset right now. I went in and got a hair cut yesterday and one side is significantly thinner than the other! I don't know what to do to hide it. And I'm SO UPSET because I have been growing out a buzz cut for 5 YEARS. Every time I go to get my hair SHAPED (NOT cut), I end up with an inch off.

I really thought I could trust this stylist because I had used her once before and thought my hair looked okay. But she totally f***ked it up this time. I am so heart broken. I haven't stopped crying. My hair takes SO long to grow and now I don't even know what to do with myself.

I tried parting it differently but it's just not helping. Nothing is helping. My honeymoon is in January and I'm going to end up looking like a hot mess...

bringingcurliesback? 10-02-2013 11:16 PM

Aww man. I can so relate to this! I just chopped my long hair off (waist length/hipish). Its now just below my chin. It was sort of a test and an experience in itself. Just know one thing. YOU ARE NOT YOUR HAIR. Your hair does not make you beautiful. I didn't know that, well I did but now I feel that I really do. Yes long pretty wild curly hair is gorgeous and so many of us are growing our hair out or already have long hair. So many of us wince at trims because they Never cut just an inch.

I'm not trying to discourage your from your hair journey because I will begin growing my hair out again soon. But think about this.

As for what already happened. We can't change it but we sure as hell can prevent it in the future. Start cutting your own hair. I swear its so much easier than you think. Cut hair curl by curl just the cg way. I have links and stuff if your interested. We don't have to be slaves to stylists anymore... only to cross our fingers and pray that this time we may have struck gold. As you know we as women and curlies in particular put a lot into our hair. I absolutely feel you. I was that voiceless girl in the stylist's chair once and believe me they aren't all bad. So many factors can be considered, what we tell them, what they think or interpret from that and how it gets done. So many things can go wrong. I absolutely feel you! Just know that you are not by any means alone. PM me if you need to talk I'm hair for you cg. (;

We are not our hair. Let the rest of your shine through and hey you can add the cherry on top with time! I promise!
Been there done that :)
Stay strong!

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bringingcurliesback? 10-02-2013 11:17 PM

Wow I put hair instead of here. Oh well. Haha

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livelycurls 10-05-2013 11:48 PM

i would suggest the same, start cutting your own hair. To make things easier get a creaclip to cut your hair, its super easy. I cut my hair with it and love it.

bringingcurliesback? 10-06-2013 09:31 AM

@livelycurls I've heard about crea clip but I assumed it would only work better on longer hair... my hair is about chin length haha would it still be useful?

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livelycurls 10-06-2013 09:47 AM

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Originally Posted by bringingcurliesback? (Post 2213930)
@livelycurls I've heard about crea clip but I assumed it would only work better on longer hair... my hair is about chin length haha would it still be useful?

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My hair was long when I used it, now its like 3 inches all over, cant use it yet. Not sure if it will work for your length. I keep it, so when my hair is long again I can still cutting my own hair. The way I used it, I cut the hair when it was curly and dry, never damp or wet

bringingcurliesback? 10-09-2013 05:17 PM

@livelycurls I will definitely look into that then. It sounds awesome. Atleast when I can use it. I hate being a stylist slave and I had one deva (I'll admit it was awesome) I just feel like after a while I'd be happier knowing if something happened and I couldn't get a deva again there are still ways around it. Know what I mean?

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sixelamy 10-10-2013 09:34 AM

I totally sympathize with you! I'm in the same exact boat. One side of my head has been thinned out more than the other, and some in the back. It does not feel good nor look all that great, and I've lost a lot of my curl and wave.

There's nothing like the loss of hair that you've learned to adore. Just wanted to provide some support and say you are not alone. It grows out, as impatient as we all are.

Do you have any plans to get it fixed?

Pseudoavatar 05-19-2014 04:34 AM

A few years ago I went and got an unsymmetrical haircut on purpose. My right side was about chin length and my left side was about shoulder-length. It actually looked pretty good for a while (until the shape grew out). However, I wanted to grow it back long after that, so I have a lot of experience on diminishing the lopsided effect. Here's some solutions that might work:

1) change your parting. I know you said that you already tried it, but it's quite essential for all the other options to work. And a center parting makes the problem glaringly obvious.

2) Back-comb the thinner side. Do it very gently so as to not cause any more breakage. I also bought a salt spray and used it on my roots on the thinner side, as it helped volymise it. However, salt spray might dry up your hair, so maybe a hair spray would suffice. I didn't notice any drying in my hair from the salt spray though, I've just heard that some people have problems with it.

3) The most obvious: braid and do buns a lot. Half-updos are also a very effective way to hide the lopsidedness. Or just pin your hair to the side.

4)If you are able to control your curls, maybe manipulate them to be larger on the thin side, to diminish the thinness. I usually combined this with the salt spray.

5) Purchase hair clips and/or a couple of strands of extensions. Just put your hair half-up with a clip on the thin side. If you want to keep them open, put a couple of extensions in.

6) Once your hair has grown out of the 'shape', go and get your hair trimmed again. The thinness is most obvious in the ends of the hair, so go for a blunter cut than normal so that it's not as visible.

7) You might want to try a layered cut and emphasise the layers around your face.

8) Final option if your hair just won't co-operate: thin the hair on the other side as well. Luckily it will grow back quite soon and be less noticeable.

Good luck and hopefully you will figure out something that works for your hair!

Letitcurl 05-28-2014 04:10 PM

Bad Hair Cut
 
I have been reading for support. I went in to get a trim - I told her I was growing my hair out, take off as little as possible, I wanted it below my chin.

Well it's up to the middle of my ears, uneven and very,very bad texturizing! Pieces of hair stuck out everywhere. It is just odd! I cut off some pieces but, there is a limit to that. I need to put down the scissors! It is just so odd!

I cried a lot. My poor husband!

I was trying to "glue" it in place with hairspray but, after reading your suggestions about bad hair cuts, I am trying something new. Moisture and leave in product.

It does not look good, but better. The 'glued" look was bad.

I still want to cry.

This girl has cut my hair before and it was fine. What gets in to them!!

hcook5528 05-29-2014 09:32 AM

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Originally Posted by Letitcurl (Post 2276238)
I have been reading for support. I went in to get a trim - I told her I was growing my hair out, take off as little as possible, I wanted it below my chin.

Well it's up to the middle of my ears, uneven and very,very bad texturizing! Pieces of hair stuck out everywhere. It is just odd! I cut off some pieces but, there is a limit to that. I need to put down the scissors! It is just so odd!

I cried a lot. My poor husband!

I was trying to "glue" it in place with hairspray but, after reading your suggestions about bad hair cuts, I am trying something new. Moisture and leave in product.

It does not look good, but better. The 'glued" look was bad.

I still want to cry.

This girl has cut my hair before and it was fine. What gets in to them!!


Can totally relate! I told my stylist the same thing: trying to grow my hair out, only came in for a trim, please keep the length.

It was resting just below my shoulders and now its just below my ears. I was beyond angry and now I really hate it. I can barely fit it in a ponytail. Just trying to make the best of it and keep working on keeping it healthy so the new growth is strong and I keep retaining length.

I hear ya ladies! Just have to try and remember, hair always grows back.

Rednaturalcurls 05-30-2014 07:20 AM

I actually stopped going to my previous stylist (who I went to for years) because she kept cutting too much off. I kept saying I'm trying to grow, just dust the ends and I would end up basically losing everything that grew and then some. It takes so stinking long to grow that losing even a little is a ton. Sigh....I feel your pain and frustration.

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CurlyInTheFog 05-30-2014 02:09 PM

I don't understand how a stylist can start out well and then after a few times just stink. It's like they decide you'll put up with whatever they do since you've gone to them before. First time my previous stylist cut my hair, great. Second time, great. Third time was good but he was distracted. Fourth time, distracted AND bad cut. I don't think he was paying any attention at all. So I recut my hair, and while it doesn't look perfect, it's a sight better than what he did! I'm trying one more stylist who is highly recommended, and if she doesn't work out I'm just doing it myself from now on. At least it won't look like a flat mess if I do it.

Letitcurl 06-01-2014 05:24 PM

The same thing happened to me - my hair very short and odd by someone I had been seeing. I am so made!

I am beginning to think I need to see someone different every time so they listen and do what I want NOT what they want.

gardencurls 06-01-2014 06:32 PM

:sad10: Oh geez. I so feel for you.

No matter how much I paid, or where I went, I decided every stylist was able to do only two haircuts on me:

"Just trim about a quarter inch," resulted in
The Marcia Clark 1995 http://a57.foxnews.com/global.fncsta....jpg?ve=1&tl=1


and, "I'm trying to grow it long, please just shape it," resulted in
The Phil Spector Classic
http://www.thecitrusreport.com/wp-co...ector-head.jpg


It's not that there's anything wrong with either hairstyle, it's just that they are so far from what I'd had in mind.

After countless times of the same thing happening to me every time I tried to have my hair styled (once was The Marcia two days before my wedding!), I slowly started trimming my own hair. Eventually I learned how to do my own haircuts and styles. It's been many years since anyone but me has gotten scissors remotely close to my head.

ashlyndmarie 06-01-2014 08:09 PM

I can relate. My crown area is a looser wave instead of the rest of my hair which is tighter curls. Little ol me thought it was heat damage so I cut my crown and bang area to about an inch long. BIGGEST MISTAKE!!! I have a noticeable gap and awkward crown area until it grows out fully. I try different parts and buns until it gets back to one length.

Letitcurl 07-02-2014 04:24 PM

How are you doing? Have you found any solutions?

Just thinking of you. I think some people underrate how bad a bad haircut at a bad time can be.

BelleBohemienne 07-07-2014 10:16 AM

A couple of weeks ago I went in to have my hair shaped up a bit, but I went in with a picture. I need to stop doing that. I straightened it one day for a job interview and noticed the left side was longer than the right. I had to go back to have it fixed and lost more hair. It's not a bad cut, it's cute, but I'm a little upset I lost so much growth.

~Belle Bohemienne

Letitcurl 07-10-2014 02:56 PM

I am glad it is a bit better! And will continue to, I am sure.

I know that problem of communication with those hair cutters! Pictures? Directions? Explanations? The problem of getting a consistent haircut?
Do they do what "they want" or what you want? The latest "technique"? The "special" way they do something that is "better" than anyone else?

koolkurl 07-12-2014 02:00 PM

I just do understand why some hairstylists cut off so much hair when they are asked not to. Does anyone here have any ideas? I do think that maybe some hairstylists only know how to cut hair in a couple styles and maybe they are both on the short side as a poster mentioned here. How do we find out in advance who these hairstylists are so we can avoid them?!


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