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Old 03-16-2009, 05:37 PM   #1
 
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Hey everyone,

I apologize in advance for my long post but I am feeling dreadful and need to vent...(and my husband can't take hearing about it any more)

I have not been on naturallycurly.com for a few years now...I believe the last time I posted on here (cannot for the life of me even remember what my username was..ah well) was the last time I made the mistake of cutting off all my hair, so you would think I would have known better

Anyway, I had almost bra-strap length 3A hair the day before yesterday...and now I have almost no hair...I am not exaggerating-I have never had such a short cut--its a razor cut sort of like this:

http://www.hji.co.uk/image/2008-text...-qhs30158.html

Only I don't look anything like this model so on me it looks horrid...or *I* feel it looks horrid... I did not mean to get it short like that, I brought a picture of a much longer style but somehow my stylist talked me into doing something "edgy" and because I have been feeling really down about my hair and appearance in general I let him do it... Now I feel HORRIBLE... instead of edgy I feel I look like my 63 year old mother... I am a bit pudgy at the moment and I think that is the main problem because the last time I had a short cut it looked okay but I was about 30 lbs lighter and that makes a lot of difference....my face was more pixieish then (and 8 years younger) whereas my face is now more...uh...moonish

I feel I look more like this:

http://smu.edu/newsinfo/releases/images/01308a.jpg

(not that Kathy Bates isn't a lovely lady, she is, but she is also about 20 years older than me and not exactly "edgy" or hip which is more what I was craving)

In my defense, my hair had gotten totally out of control--I made the mistake of letting it grow and grow and grow just the sake of length and actually I don't suit it long...shoulder length seems best...the avatar is actually my real hair when I simply brush it with my head upside down...

What is really freaking me out the most is the strange texture my new razored hair is..especially in the back...maybe because it was razor cut--it looks like it is fried...instead of a silky short pixie or crop I have this weird fried up fuzz...I can't even imagine how long it will take to grow this out...

I have been wearing a hat the last two days....

I am going to try and put a funkier colour in to see if that will help make it edgy vs. middle aged short cut...

Thanks for listening....

Needless to say, I'll be growing it out....
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I'm so sorry! The thing is, that's a straight hair hairstyle, with falling bangs and razor cutting (I think) and layers. How is your hair handling it? Is it possible that it looks better than you think?

Don't be so hard on yourself. We all get talked into things by those magicians wielding scissors. It's hair ---it will grow---give yourself a few more days of shock and then see if you can play with it to make it more likable.

I sincerely hope it turns out to be something you feel good about. I've been there
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I'm so sorry! The thing is, that's a straight hair hairstyle, with falling bangs and razor cutting (I think) and layers. How is your hair handling it? Is it possible that it looks better than you think?

Don't be so hard on yourself. We all get talked into things by those magicians wielding scissors. It's hair ---it will grow---give yourself a few more days of shock and then see if you can play with it to make it more likable.

I sincerely hope it turns out to be something you feel good about. I've been there
Hi, thanks for your reply! I have had a few days to calm down...you are right--those styles are shown on straight hair models...my hair is 3a and when short it straightens very easily so I guess I thought it would work--I try to embrace my natural curl but sometimes I just hate the way I look when its curly...

My hair has calmed down and does not look as fried...I also had it coloured which seemed to help "soften" it...but I look like a completely different person and it is hard to deal with....I had a long curly, sort of wild thing, going on and now I look so neat...and boring really....

ah well, it is easy to wash and style....

And now I start the process of growing it out...

I wonder how to best do it without getting the whole "mullet" thing happening...cut off the back every now and again?



ps...I'll have to print out this post for the next time I feel the desire get a short cut...

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Old 03-20-2009, 05:31 PM   #4
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Your hair might still be in shock from being cut. A good conditioner and new lipstick should give you a new perspective on it.
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Amen to that sista (Speckla)!
Let yourself get use to it. Give yourself two weeks to adjust.
And you know what?......I bet it looks cute. You just have to let yourself see it
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You're not alone sister! Because I got highlights in my hair 2 years ago which I loved, they damaged the holy heck outta my hair. Hence as the highlights grew out my ends became pretty ratty, split and dry. So I went to get my haircut and I told my stylist I did not want to lose to much length, that I would be patient and gradually cut the colored ends off. Length was so important to me because as we all know length for us takes FOREVER to achieve. Well, she went ahead and CHOPPED all the color out of my head leaving me like this!!!!! I HAVE BEEN CRYING EVERSINCE. I dont even know why I am smiling in the picture. See the before and after and now you can cry with me. lol.

Anyway, perhaps she did me a favor; chopping off all that dead split hair. Now I can start anew. I will NEVER color my hair again (unless it is to go darker as that doesn't damage hair). I am doing the following:

- lift weights 3 x's per week
- cardio 3 x's per week
- hot oil treatments every two weeks which I will leave on for 20 minutes under a heated conditioning cap.
Vitamins I take everyday include:
hair skin and nails
vit. E
fish oil/eve. primrose oil
calcium
Biotin
B complex
Inositol
I eat ground flax seed as well.

No flat iron, no heat period.

I want my long hair back. This is one of the worst things that has happened to me. I am crushed. In actuality my hair is down to my collar bone but the curl is soooo tight and I am not going to use heat to stretch out my curl for obvious reasons. I'll take a monthly pic so we can see progress or not.
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You're not alone sister! Because I got highlights in my hair 2 years ago which I loved, they damaged the holy heck outta my hair. Hence as the highlights grew out my ends became pretty ratty, split and dry. So I went to get my haircut and I told my stylist I did not want to lose to much length, that I would be patient and gradually cut the colored ends off. Length was so important to me because as we all know length for us takes FOREVER to achieve. Well, she went ahead and CHOPPED all the color out of my head leaving me like this!!!!! I HAVE BEEN CRYING EVERSINCE. I dont even know why I am smiling in the picture. See the before and after and now you can cry with me. lol.

Anyway, perhaps she did me a favor; chopping off all that dead split hair. Now I can start anew. I will NEVER color my hair again (unless it is to go darker as that doesn't damage hair). I am doing the following:

- lift weights 3 x's per week
- cardio 3 x's per week
- hot oil treatments every two weeks which I will leave on for 20 minutes under a heated conditioning cap.
Vitamins I take everyday include:
hair skin and nails
vit. E
fish oil/eve. primrose oil
calcium
Biotin
B complex
Inositol
I eat ground flax seed as well.

No flat iron, no heat period.

I want my long hair back. This is one of the worst things that has happened to me. I am crushed. In actuality my hair is down to my collar bone but the curl is soooo tight and I am not going to use heat to stretch out my curl for obvious reasons. I'll take a monthly pic so we can see progress or not.
You're on a good vitamin regime,keep it up daily,it will pay off in the long run.I also take Inositol 1300mgs.everyday.Your hair will grow back faster than you know it.
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I'm so sorry! The thing is, that's a straight hair hairstyle, with falling bangs and razor cutting (I think) and layers. How is your hair handling it? Is it possible that it looks better than you think?

Don't be so hard on yourself. We all get talked into things by those magicians wielding scissors. It's hair ---it will grow---give yourself a few more days of shock and then see if you can play with it to make it more likable.

I sincerely hope it turns out to be something you feel good about. I've been there
Hi, thanks for your reply! I have had a few days to calm down...you are right--those styles are shown on straight hair models...my hair is 3a and when short it straightens very easily so I guess I thought it would work--I try to embrace my natural curl but sometimes I just hate the way I look when its curly...

My hair has calmed down and does not look as fried...I also had it coloured which seemed to help "soften" it...but I look like a completely different person and it is hard to deal with....I had a long curly, sort of wild thing, going on and now I look so neat...and boring really....

ah well, it is easy to wash and style....

And now I start the process of growing it out...

I wonder how to best do it without getting the whole "mullet" thing happening...cut off the back every now and again?



ps...I'll have to print out this post for the next time I feel the desire get a short cut...
(ITA) with what Speckla said and also some big earrings.I know when I cut my hair short to my head back in 1988 in college,I stepped up my earring game,and make-up.Hope you feel better !
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You're not alone sister! Because I got highlights in my hair 2 years ago which I loved, they damaged the holy heck outta my hair. Hence as the highlights grew out my ends became pretty ratty, split and dry. So I went to get my haircut and I told my stylist I did not want to lose to much length, that I would be patient and gradually cut the colored ends off. Length was so important to me because as we all know length for us takes FOREVER to achieve. Well, she went ahead and CHOPPED all the color out of my head leaving me like this!!!!! I HAVE BEEN CRYING EVERSINCE. I dont even know why I am smiling in the picture. See the before and after and now you can cry with me. lol.

Anyway, perhaps she did me a favor; chopping off all that dead split hair. Now I can start anew. I will NEVER color my hair again (unless it is to go darker as that doesn't damage hair). I am doing the following:

- lift weights 3 x's per week
- cardio 3 x's per week
- hot oil treatments every two weeks which I will leave on for 20 minutes under a heated conditioning cap.
Vitamins I take everyday include:
hair skin and nails
vit. E
fish oil/eve. primrose oil
calcium
Biotin
B complex
Inositol
I eat ground flax seed as well.

No flat iron, no heat period.

I want my long hair back. This is one of the worst things that has happened to me. I am crushed. In actuality my hair is down to my collar bone but the curl is soooo tight and I am not going to use heat to stretch out my curl for obvious reasons. I'll take a monthly pic so we can see progress or not.
You're on a good vitamin regime,keep it up daily,it will pay off in the long run.I also take Inositol 1300mgs.everyday.Your hair will grow back faster than you know it.
Ahhhh! Beautiful hair and your length is to die for! How did you do it? How do you care for your ends? How often should I trim my ends? I dont want to do it too often because then the hair will not ever get a chance to lengthen. I was thinking once every 6 months to a year would be good if you want to cut split ends but still maintain growth. Thanks for your words of encouragement.
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You're not alone sister! Because I got highlights in my hair 2 years ago which I loved, they damaged the holy heck outta my hair. Hence as the highlights grew out my ends became pretty ratty, split and dry. So I went to get my haircut and I told my stylist I did not want to lose to much length, that I would be patient and gradually cut the colored ends off. Length was so important to me because as we all know length for us takes FOREVER to achieve. Well, she went ahead and CHOPPED all the color out of my head leaving me like this!!!!! I HAVE BEEN CRYING EVERSINCE. I dont even know why I am smiling in the picture. See the before and after and now you can cry with me. lol.

Anyway, perhaps she did me a favor; chopping off all that dead split hair. Now I can start anew. I will NEVER color my hair again (unless it is to go darker as that doesn't damage hair). I am doing the following:

- lift weights 3 x's per week
- cardio 3 x's per week
- hot oil treatments every two weeks which I will leave on for 20 minutes under a heated conditioning cap.
Vitamins I take everyday include:
hair skin and nails
vit. E
fish oil/eve. primrose oil
calcium
Biotin
B complex
Inositol
I eat ground flax seed as well.

No flat iron, no heat period.

I want my long hair back. This is one of the worst things that has happened to me. I am crushed. In actuality my hair is down to my collar bone but the curl is soooo tight and I am not going to use heat to stretch out my curl for obvious reasons. I'll take a monthly pic so we can see progress or not.
You're on a good vitamin regime,keep it up daily,it will pay off in the long run.I also take Inositol 1300mgs.everyday.Your hair will grow back faster than you know it.
Ahhhh! Beautiful hair and your length is to die for! How did you do it? How do you care for your ends? How often should I trim my ends? I dont want to do it too often because then the hair will not ever get a chance to lengthen. I was thinking once every 6 months to a year would be good if you want to cut split ends but still maintain growth. Thanks for your words of encouragement.
Thanks ArcEnCeil for your wonderful comment! I just kept taking my supplements daily and drinking alot of water.I also use castor oil on my whole head of hair especially the ends,so I don't have a split ends problem.But,if you want to trim your ends every 6 months that sounds good.I don't trust stylists ever since I had a relaxer and dye job mishap back in 1988 and had to cut my hair short to my head.I've been doing my hair for a LONG time! No problem,we're all here to uplift each other !
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You're on a good vitamin regime,keep it up daily,it will pay off in the long run.I also take Inositol 1300mgs.everyday.Your hair will grow back faster than you know it.
Ahhhh! Beautiful hair and your length is to die for! How did you do it? How do you care for your ends? How often should I trim my ends? I dont want to do it too often because then the hair will not ever get a chance to lengthen. I was thinking once every 6 months to a year would be good if you want to cut split ends but still maintain growth. Thanks for your words of encouragement.
Thanks ArcEnCeil for your wonderful comment! I just kept taking my supplements daily and drinking alot of water.I also use castor oil on my whole head of hair especially the ends,so I don't have a split ends problem.But,if you want to trim your ends every 6 months that sounds good.I don't trust stylists ever since I had a relaxer and dye job mishap back in 1988 and had to cut my hair short to my head.I've been doing my hair for a LONG time! No problem,we're all here to uplift each other !
I will look into the caster oil thing. I would imagine that it seals your ends so they don't split therefore you never trim your hair or go to the salon to have it trimmed. Then perhaps that is what I need to do. Curly hair is complicated! But I am thankful for whatever I learn.
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I can feel your pain! I am a 3a that constantly go back and forth between short and long hair.
I had grown my hair out to a chin length bob and got tired of it. a stylist in NYC that specialized in short hair styles once talked my in to a pixie cut ,assuring me that it would enhance my petite features and emphasize my eyes. well I left the salon in tears with a razor cut so short all of my curls were gone. my husband told me I looked like a 'lesbian biker chic" (no offense to anyone please!)...at first I was miserable. but it was easy to manage, just wash a little product and go. The only thing I would say is to remind yourself that part of you must have been very unhappy with the way your hair was before the cut. otherwise you would not have willingly allowed it to go so so short. although you dont like it right now and are struggling to get used to your face with short hair, maybe it actually wil grow into something you can be happy with. maybe you can post pictures of the real you and get some positivie feedback from all of us. Hang in there.
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I just got mine cut off about a month ago and I really regret it. Like you, I had done this before more than a decade ago and regretted it but oh, how we forget consequences so easily. I was also feeling down and wanting to feel better when I made this bad decision. Mine will not grow back fast.

I cut off 16 inches. It is up to about my jawline now. BIG MISTAKE. NEVER AGAIN! This probably sounds terrible but I refuse to feel ashamed... every time I see a chick with long hair on the tv, especially a Kardashian (since my hair was long, black and straight-yet-wavy-ish).. I mutter out loud "f***** b****". It helps.

Last time it took 9 years to grow out, but I admittedly was very poor and unable to keep it cut and used the harsh bright bright colors you can get boxed at the store. This time? Hair care is a priority and I only do color at my stylist now. I think I'm gonna try the prenatal vitamins. I don't feel feminine. It's not that it isn't cute, it's just not 16 inches longer, so it isn't cute to me. And I'M the one that has to live with it.

I really hate it when people respond with... "You know what's great about hair? It grows!" I really really really hate that. My response? "Yeah 9 years to go." That wipes the smile off their faces. I'm thinking I'll get the 15 inch hair extensions... my stylist said she'd do glue ins that last about 6 months.
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i too am in your situation.i had the damage in my hair cut out and was left with a pixish cut. the back was very short(still is ) so i have a hard time with that part. i kinda" sticks out" if you know what i mean. i kinda liked the style at first but them i started feeling like i looked all of my 45 yrs.boring and plain.
what im doing is (and i have 3a hair) vitamens,lots of conditioner,trying not to wear it straight all the time(which is hard cause it looks stupid curly).
i have discovered head bands.,i need the ones that go all the way around,colored scarves around my hair...it lets me wear my hair curly,i couldnt without the bands.it looks a little crazy ,but in a good way.
mabie as your hair grows you can try this. it has helped,i still have a long way to go but i dont feel so middle aged, it is letting me grow out mu hair without as much frustration.
and just remember you are not alone. we will grow out together.
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I feel everyones pain! I had a stylist run a relaxer thru from root to ends when i asked for a touch up! My ends were fried and I had to cut my bsl hair to my chin! I had it cut into a cute edgy bob (with a bang!!) but i had to straighten it all the time and missed my curls. When it finally was long enough to wear curly it looked very triangular, so then it had to get reshaped. That was a month ago n im loosing it! I have been using doo gro growth oil, n its definately helping. Im not sure how cg friendly it is, it contains paraben, but my hair has grown almost a full inch since the last cut.
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I feel everyone's pain too!!!! I had what I call a chemical haircut (which is not a haircut at all, its more along the lines of all of my hair falling off) about 4 yrs ago, or whatever it says in my siggie. What bothered me the most was the fact that it wasn't by choice and nothing could be done to save my hair once it was all on the floor. Unfortunately I just had to be patient and wait till my hair grew. Some of the things that helped me were NOURISH hair vitamins (curlmart), lots of water, exercise, 2 grams of MSM a day, and 5mgs of biotin a day, and can't forget staying AWAY from stylists! No one other than myself has come close to my hair with scissors since that horrible day. Just be patient ad learn to love every phase of it. Good luck & happy growing!
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I have had to drastically cut my hair three times in my life. Once heat damage. Once color damage. Once transition. It was hard but I told the stylist to cut it off because I'd rather have short healthy hair than hold on to long damaged hair. The only comfort I can offer is to look at this as a fresh start to grow the kind of hair you want.
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