Are you mixed?

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People have asked me that before. I believe it has less to do with my kinks and more to do with my eye and skin color. Someone actually came up to me and asked if if i was i told them and preceded to tell me i got something in me. Really!? I don't think I'm that light more or less on the carmel side. But I have seen mixed ppl darker then me. My mommys cocoa and my dad was light mixed with a little white. Most ppl in America have some mixing somewhere in their line. My thing is does it matter? I don't think so

Originally Posted by Shondadini

Not saying that its right but I think the 'darker complexion, lt.eyes combo (that stupid people believe blks can't/shouldn't have) throws people off & they don't know what to think.

I had a great uncle who passed away recently who had the prettiest dark brown skin & ice blue eyes. I have to admit when I was younger & saw him at the family reuinion for the first time, I was like wtf is going on here?! LOL. Clearly I was very young & didn't know better but I'm just sayn.

I also have very lt. complexioned people in my family w/green & hazel eyes & they honestly used to 'pass themselves off as Mexican' bc they believed it was easier than tellin people they were blk back in the day (stupid I know...thats another thread & another time).

I used to occassionally wear honey brown contacts when I was in undergrad & people didn't know what to think. LOL. I clearly don't wear them now but I still get that 'mixed question' quite often which is annoying as f**k. I always say no then they look at my dad who has lt. brown eyes, wavy hair & dark skin & are like 'yeah...ok'. I just laugh bc I know they would be even more confused if they saw my very lt.skinned, long very straight haired grandmother!
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you gotta love this question...
I'd had the you look exotic " instead of saying are you mixed...
or you just look different" " I don't know you just look different like exotic, mixed.. yes, and finally the word mixed gets in there.
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I kinda feel like certain races tend to have certain characteristics...which Is why I think you shouldn't ask if someone is "mixed" but I don't think its dumb to assume or guess that when you see a person.

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my mom is jamaican and my dad is trinidadian and venezuelan but I dont call that mixed, I just say west indian or black. Its funny cuz no one ever asked me if I was mixed until I went natural but i actually get offended when people ask me that as if to say I cant simply be black and have a healthy head of hair.

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I don't get asked if I'm mixed but I do get people asking me frequently if I'm Indian or from India.

My family and I are temporarily living in an apartment complex with a large population of Asian Indians and I get asked this all the time. Also whenever I go to the Indian Supermarket for my henna I get asked this by Asian Indian customers and even the owner asked once.

My kinky coily hair is braided in individual braids and the braids are pulled back into a covered bun 99% of the time. Maybe the bun is why? Because many Asian Indian women pull their hair back a great deal of the time?

But my hair is absent the long, trailing beautiful braid that is typically found with pulled back Indian hair. I don't have that. Yet. But I'll get there eventually. Then when my hair is heat straightened and pulled back I might be able to understand the question a little? (Maybe not...). It's usually older Asian Indians too that pose this question.

I joke with my husband that my hair twin must be running around India somewhere and these people approaching me have met her. Maybe one day I will too.
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LOL. I get that all the time too. I just want to be like leave me alone! Even though I am mixed.

When I was at work this lady had long curly 3c hair, I didn't think anything of it. And she comes up to me and goes
"what are you mixed with?"
and I said "...uh...black"
and then she says "and what else?"

and then I said: "white?" and she was like "oh that's it?"

I was like well damn sorry I'm not all that special for you I mean my mother is german and polish but she's still white well sorrrrry. And then she told me everything she was mixed with and I just stared at her and was like "okay" CAUSE I DON'T CARE! and when she realized I didn't care she says : "Oh well I just wanted to ask because I saw we have the same kind of hair"


In my head I was like "no we don't"
Originally Posted by foreverturtles
Christ. This is why I just tell people I'm only black. I don't have time for comparing things that DON'T MATTER. I have a tribal card and the first day I got it and was showing it to one of my friends this woman just comes up and starts talking me to death about how she's mixed with native american and it's good to see a REAL native american for once...britch, if I didn't say anything/have documentation no one would even know, including your nosy self. And what, real native american as opposed to a fake one? Get off your high horse and carry yo tail. People kills me.

Okay, I'm done. Lol

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LOL. I get that all the time too. I just want to be like leave me alone! Even though I am mixed.

When I was at work this lady had long curly 3c hair, I didn't think anything of it. And she comes up to me and goes
"what are you mixed with?"
and I said "...uh...black"
and then she says "and what else?"

and then I said: "white?" and she was like "oh that's it?"

I was like well damn sorry I'm not all that special for you I mean my mother is german and polish but she's still white well sorrrrry. And then she told me everything she was mixed with and I just stared at her and was like "okay" CAUSE I DON'T CARE! and when she realized I didn't care she says : "Oh well I just wanted to ask because I saw we have the same kind of hair"


In my head I was like "no we don't"
Originally Posted by foreverturtles
Christ. This is why I just tell people I'm only black. I don't have time for comparing things that DON'T MATTER. I have a tribal card and the first day I got it and was showing it to one of my friends this woman just comes up and starts talking me to death about how she's mixed with native american and it's good to see a REAL native american for once...britch, if I didn't say anything/have documentation no one would even know, including your nosy self. And what, real native american as opposed to a fake one? Get off your high horse and carry yo tail. People kills me.

Okay, I'm done. Lol
Originally Posted by itsKelCeeEee
Lol. ITA. I also do the same. I'm black. It's easy, simple & keeps the convo moving. Now that doesn't stop people from asking me stupid questions like 'what are you' (I'm human beyotch) or where did you come from...the few times I do get into a convo that seems like it may go somewhere intelligent I still got 'so thats why you have a white girl nose' or 'thats why you have such high cheek bones' when they hear my ethnic background. I'm like lord I can't win!
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Funny, people don't ask me if I'm mixed, they just make the assumption that I am and go from there. I am, but it's funny that people just automatically make the assumption and don't even ask for confirmation. This could also spawn from the fact that I don't speak in "black" creole English (I'm an English major, so that would go against everything I know and love about the English language... despite my recent course on the development of pidgins and creoles in the English language) and have mostly "white" friends. I also only get this question (or in most cases: statement) phrased in that particular manner from black people. White people wait a few days of knowing me and then ask what my racial background is (if I don't mind saying). This is one of the few times where I appreciate people being more politically correct. Mixed is such a derogatory statement, despite the fact that it probably does more for humanity's genetic pool. Sigh.
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many african american are mixed nearly all. fx. even through all in my family goes under the term african american and black(i'm proud)i could look like an african-european mixed girl.
My dad is Cape Verdean ( and African island that was colonized by Portugal) and my mom is Wampanoag Native American and African American, but I consider my self just black. EVERYONE I know thinks I'm mixed, and what I'm mixed w/ changes with how I wear my hair. I've gotten Hawaiian, Cambodian, "Blasian", of course half white, Dominican, Brazilian, any other South American country, Indian (from India) or Native American if I wear my hair straight, pretty much I can "pass" for any type of brown mixture. It's mostly because of my hair and I have a very straight narrow nose. Being from THREE backgrounds that have all been in close contact with Europeans it would NOT surprise me if I found out I had any percentage of European in me. But I would still not see my self as "biracial". Any ancestors that are European in my family are long gone so I don't feel I have to acknowledged them or see myself as biracial because of them. I think it's funny when people get confused by my race and let it roll of my back. Sometimes I even play along
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I've been asked if I was brazilian or indian ( from India) but im mixed with French, African-american, and Indian. My mother was creole (french/black/indian) and my dad is african american. None this less black is black and I do not go do my lineage every time a person asks "are you mixed?" But like a previous poster all "african americans" are mixed with something another, that's the reason behind the many shades of browns in our culture. I love that we are colorful, beautiful, beautiful people!

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People have throught that i was jamaican and egyptian. But i think what people mostly have throught of thoose two is jamaican.
But i'm mixed. Half cameroonian and half danish. (:
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People have throught that i was jamaican and egyptian. But i think what people mostly have throught of thoose two is jamaican.
But i'm mixed. Half cameroonian and half danish. (:
Originally Posted by CurlyCoilyMe
that's a really cool mix of cultures...family gatherings must be very interesting lol
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I get it all the time when, no, I'm not -that- mixed. I'm the standard American "Black with some other stuff thrown in" but, its assumed because my skin is, uh...peanut butter colored (not even "light" by our stringent definitions) and I am a 3c with hazel eyes and a smallish nose I must be biracial. They act shocked when I'm like "Nope. Black. Blackity black black. Problem?"
For some reason, people specifically ask me if I'm Lebanese. In fact, I got signed up for the Lebanese Student Association during undergrad somehow...

People have thought I'm North African, from one of the Mediterranean countries, Chinese, Latina, etc. I think it's kind of nice, though, because no matter where I go (I've been to southern Europe and the Middle East), people think I'm one of "them", and it's a conversation starter.

P.S. I'm actually Irish, German, Welsh, but mostly Cherokee.
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People have asked me if I'm Arab but as far as I know, I'm 100% southern Asian descent, so Indian and Pakistani. I asked my dad why people think I'm Arab, and he said probably because I have lighter skin than some Indians and I've got 3b curly hair and hazel eyes and my nose isn't straight. It's got a little bump. I think that's attributed to more north Indian/pakistani and Kashmiri but I've been asked if I'm Arab. And I think I've gotten the "what are you?" only once by a really rude girl in gym. I was a freshman when I was asked that so I just answered it lol.
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Gosh I got asked that question so much when I first went to college. Coming from a predominantly black/hispanic/west indies region (I was raised in so fla which is just one big melting pot) I was never asked that cuz everyone had something in them from various Caribbean ancestors. Once I got around a more diverse region (i.e with more Caucasians and Asians lol) I guess the curiosity stemmed from the fact that I'm light-skinned, have high cheekbones, speak good English (ahem, the oreo stereotype), and have always had really long hair (both when I was relaxed and now that I'm natural).

My answer is always the same, "Nope. I'm black, just black." Never seems to be enough cuz there are always follow-up questions like "Are you sure? What about back in your mom's or dad's side? You have to something else in you!"

What, am I some puzzle you just gotta solve or something?! Why can't I just be black? If you really gotta know my mom is lt skinned black (probably from her mother's dominican/chinese side) and my dad is peanut butter brown. Either way I'm still black.

The question I really hate sometimes though is, "Where are you from?" My family's from Haiti but whenever I tell ppl that they automatically assume I'm lying. (Who would lie about being from the poorest country in the western hemisphere anyway??) Like Haitians can't be light-skinned or educated. Hmm, the nerve of ppl. Do they not know that most Caribbean islands were once European colonies so there are even native "white" ppl in those places? Ppl either need to brush up on their history or take a blow to the head to clear up that kinda ignorance

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Oh my gosh, I get it all. Even when my hair's straight, I still get it all. Esp when it's curlier and definitely a lot more as a child with my 3a/b coils.

I'm olive skinned and get a dark tan easily. I have very dark hair and eyes. I always get asked "what are you?" I've been passed off as Italian, Native American, Latina, etc.

I'm Serbian, Irish, Swedish, and German. Most of my family is fair skinned and light brown or red hair, green or blue eyes. I'm the oddball out. I don't mind explaining my heritage but I just find it amusing that so many people ask in the first place!
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I am mixed (my father is african american and the teensiest bit native american and my mother is caucasian, mostly of german descent) and i actually never get asked if i am, funny enough!
People assume i'm hispanic and either ask where my family is from and i do get people who don't believe me when i say i'm not. I've even been asked "why would you be ashamed of your heritage?"
It's funny how once some people profile you, you just can't change it!
I have been mistaken for jamaican or some other carribean islander, ethiopian or nigerian when I wear my hair in curls.And just because I know a little spanish, I must have been half latina or a dominicana mix. Some people swear I have some native american tribe in me, I do (what african american doesn't) but, not enough for me to walk around calling myself native american. People love assuming and when they find out I'm 'just' black it's a shock to them. And this was before I wore colored contacts for a year. *sigh

I'll admit I threw people off for a year because I wore grey contacts. People seriously assumed they were real for some reason and didn't believe me when I said they weren't and apparently they liked grey better than my naturaldark brown.*shrug (-__-) Combine that with high cheek bones, my eye shape, hair length (it was relaxed but healthy and long) and skin tone, people began to play the "guess where she's from"game on campus. But, I'm just good ol american black with traces of native american and german down the line. I don't really take offense to it unless someone tries to argue with me about it. Sometimes at my old job as a cashier, customers would catch me off guard by that question but, I smile and say black or african american and keep it moving.

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