Dumbest comment regarding your hair?

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I know when I wear my hair out either in a twist out or the rare wash-n-go I occasionally sport, I get tons of comments on the volume, thickness and fullness of my hair. Lots of wistful remarks are shot my way too on the apparent health of my hair and questions about what I do to get it that way.

The fact is folks, a well-maintained and healthy head of curls turns heads no matter the size or type of the curls.

Hair as gorgeous as curly hair can be is inevitably going to attract haters or envious folks and some of their snarky comments...
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I've gotten some really stupid crap before but I can't remember anything off the top of my head. I definitely have gotten the "OMG your hair is so long and pretty, you should straighten it everyday!" On a rare straight day (before I cut my hair)

I just really hate those comments. Theyre honestly so freaking ignorant and rude to say. Why would I want to look like every other boring girl? My curls make me who I am, and when I get noticed for them, there you plain straight janes are without a word of kindness being said to you unless you go out of your way to curl it with an iron. Back off hun, I'm natural and proud.

Okay rant over :P
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Guess I can post here now.

While with my boyfriend's family a couple days ago, I had my hair in a side pony and he pointed out that my ponytail looked like a tornado. Not messy like one, but the shape of one. Guess I'm not doing something right lol

The other day before I decided to try to go curly again, I was with one of my best friends getting her hair done for her wedding pictures and I was discussing my hair with the hairdresser whose curls resembled mine but much more controlled. I was asking her which products she used. And my friend so kindly said "yeah but your hair is just...weird."

It probably shouldn't have, but that kind of hurt my feelings.
I've gotten some really stupid crap before but I can't remember anything off the top of my head. I definitely have gotten the "OMG your hair is so long and pretty, you should straighten it everyday!" On a rare straight day (before I cut my hair)

I just really hate those comments. Theyre honestly so freaking ignorant and rude to say. Why would I want to look like every other boring girl? My curls make me who I am, and when I get noticed for them, there you plain straight janes are without a word of kindness being said to you unless you go out of your way to curl it with an iron. Back off hun, I'm natural and proud.

Okay rant over :P
Originally Posted by Sarxh
As for that straight-haired person's comment to you: it takes a special kind of arrogance to instruct someone w/out straight hair to straighten it so it will look "long and pretty" (like theirs ). It's like someone w/brown eyes telling someone with blue eyes how much better they'd look with brown contact lenses. Strictly tacky.
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A few years back, I got into an argument with my family physician because she was telling me that african american hair "melts", she is caucasian btw. I tried to explain to her that it's synthetic hair mostly used for braiding that if burned at the ends will melt. And African American hair burns just like everybody else's. She wasn't trying to hear that so I left it alone. But I was particularly annoyed because if she's supposed to be a medical doctor I would expect her to be smarter than that.
A few years back, I got into an argument with my family physician because she was telling me that african american hair "melts", she is caucasian btw. I tried to explain to her that it's synthetic hair mostly used for braiding that if burned at the ends will melt. And African American hair burns just like everybody else's. She wasn't trying to hear that so I left it alone. But I was particularly annoyed because if she's supposed to be a medical doctor I would expect her to be smarter than that.
Originally Posted by Jeliah
I hope you changed doctors as if you get something that isn't common in White people you are screwed.

The dumbest comments I've had are from other non-White folk including:

"Hair dye must make your hair curl like that" - I haven't found a red or red-brown dye that does that. Even when I've got my hair dyed at a salon the hairdresser is careful with the percentage of peroxide she uses.

"When you had thick hair..." - Yep people of Colour never have fine hair....
The strangest comments I get are from my parents. Mom mom think my hair looks nappy or matted down. Dad doesn't like it at all. My other family members, sorority sisters, & random strangers love my hair especially my wash n goes. But you can't win them all.
I think a lot of the family curl-bashing could be generationally-based. My mom says the same thing to my sister ("Tame your nappy hair!", etc.) and my sis's hair is not so very different from my mom's hair, which she of course straightens The people who praise your hair are younger, correct (and I bet your hair is beautiful too)? I do think things are slowly changing and those of us who are happy with our curls and waves are making it a lot easier for the even younger generation of curly people
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I think a lot of the family curl-bashing could be generationally-based. My mom says the same thing to my sister ("Tame your nappy hair!", etc.) and my sis's hair is not so very different from my mom's hair, which she of course straightens The people who praise your hair are younger, correct (and I bet your hair is beautiful too)? I do think things are slowly changing and those of us who are happy with our curls and waves are making it a lot easier for the even younger generation of curly people
Originally Posted by Korkscrew
I think one of the biggest misconceptions about us curlies is that we spend a lot of time on our hair. Nothing could be further from the truth. When I first started wearing my hair longer, I would do everything from blow-dry using the round styling brush to using a curling iron. Then I found that took too much time. Nowadays, I co-wash followed by shake and go, tousle or scrunch. Whatever the spirit moves. That takes literally five minutes. I guarantee you that natural cur lies that choose to flatiron take a lot more time in a day that those that go natural do in six months.

"Curls aren't just for girls."
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A few years back, I got into an argument with my family physician because she was telling me that african american hair "melts", she is caucasian btw. I tried to explain to her that it's synthetic hair mostly used for braiding that if burned at the ends will melt. And African American hair burns just like everybody else's. She wasn't trying to hear that so I left it alone. But I was particularly annoyed because if she's supposed to be a medical doctor I would expect her to be smarter than that.
Originally Posted by Jeliah
Wow. That would annoy me, too. Not only did she ignore what she should have learned at some point in her education (that all hair is primarily made of protein, which burns, and race will not change that), she refused to be corrected by someone who would know better than her.
A few years back, I got into an argument with my family physician because she was telling me that african american hair "melts", she is caucasian btw. I tried to explain to her that it's synthetic hair mostly used for braiding that if burned at the ends will melt. And African American hair burns just like everybody else's. She wasn't trying to hear that so I left it alone. But I was particularly annoyed because if she's supposed to be a medical doctor I would expect her to be smarter than that.
Originally Posted by Jeliah
Wow. That would annoy me, too. Not only did she ignore what she should have learned at some point in her education (that all hair is primarily made of protein, which burns, and race will not change that), she refused to be corrected by someone who would know better than her.
Originally Posted by KinkyChica
Exactly, and the way she said it was like she was teaching me something about my self. I laugh about now :-)

I think one of the biggest misconceptions about us curlies is that we spend a lot of time on our hair. Nothing could be further from the truth. When I first started wearing my hair longer, I would do everything from blow-dry using the round styling brush to using a curling iron. Then I found that took too much time. Nowadays, I co-wash followed by shake and go, tousle or scrunch. Whatever the spirit moves. That takes literally five minutes. I guarantee you that natural cur lies that choose to flatiron take a lot more time in a day that those that go natural do in six months.

"Curls aren't just for girls."
Originally Posted by bobby
I wholeheartedly agree w/the fact that many people find it can take just as much time or more to flat iron hair rather than just letting it do its natural thing.

At the same time, I think how much time a particular curly routine takes depends on lots of things, including ...

curl type/properties (especially density)/ tendency toward tangles- waves and looser curls will be quicker to "clear"/comb for a lot of people. And for someone like me, who has about as much hair on her head as a Himalayan Yeti has on the entire surface of her body, I'm damn lucky tangling is rare BUT because there's so much of it and there's still a lot of length, finger combing (along w/washing/conditioning) isn't going to just take 3 min.s.

length - God bless you, Bobby: You have short hair so wow you're saving yourself a lot of time, plus a lot of money in product I'm really happy you've found a routine that works for you too!

personality - perfectionists will almost always take longer w/a curly routine because curly hair isn't predictable and won't always look uniform and "polished" out of the gate
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Someone back in highschool once asked my why I would curl my hair 'like that', I was confused, then I realized they seemed to think that I curled my hair with a curling iron like that... When I told them it was natural, they kinda stared and said "oh... well that sucks"

I think one of the biggest misconceptions about us curlies is that we spend a lot of time on our hair. Nothing could be further from the truth. When I first started wearing my hair longer, I would do everything from blow-dry using the round styling brush to using a curling iron. Then I found that took too much time. Nowadays, I co-wash followed by shake and go, tousle or scrunch. Whatever the spirit moves. That takes literally five minutes. I guarantee you that natural cur lies that choose to flatiron take a lot more time in a day that those that go natural do in six months.

"Curls aren't just for girls."
Originally Posted by bobby
I wholeheartedly agree w/the fact that many people find it can take just as much time or more to flat iron hair rather than just letting it do its natural thing.

At the same time, I think how much time a particular curly routine takes depends on lots of things, including ...

curl type/properties (especially density)/ tendency toward tangles- waves and looser curls will be quicker to "clear"/comb for a lot of people. And for someone like me, who has about as much hair on her head as a Himalayan Yeti has on the entire surface of her body, I'm damn lucky tangling is rare BUT because there's so much of it and there's still a lot of length, finger combing (along w/washing/conditioning) isn't going to just take 3 min.s.

length - God bless you, Bobby: You have short hair so wow you're saving yourself a lot of time, plus a lot of money in product I'm really happy you've found a routine that works for you too!

personality - perfectionists will almost always take longer w/a curly routine because curly hair isn't predictable and won't always look uniform and "polished" out of the gate
Originally Posted by Korkscrew
Korkscrew, you are on point as usual. When I first started growing my hair, I would try to get my hair to look a certain way which is why I blow-dried, styled with round brush and even sometimes used a curling iron. I later discovered I was doing more harm than good. Though I will do that routine for things like say I job interview.

Lately, I've been going between 2 1/2 to 4 months between haircuts. I've found that's a good balance between enjoying the curls and not having to spend much time letting them do their thing. Plus since my curls are looser as opposed to tight like yours, I'd lose the curl if I went real long. Though I have contemplated what my hair would be like if I went say 6-8 months between haircuts but since I have found a good routine, why mess with it.

I love your insights as much as your gorgeous curls.
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I remember back when I was a kid and my dad used to brush my hair (such a major no-no, I know), this one kid told me my hair looked like *****. that one really stuck with me.

One time an old lady in the salon who was observing my root touch up whispered to my stylist, 'she's white, but she has *African American* hair....' God forbid!!!!!! (sarcasm). I felt it was directed in a derogatory tone, and it was racist more than particularly personally offensive. it's her loss if she doesn't think black women have beautiful hair, in my opinion.

I've also gotten dozens of 'its alive!!!' 'how do you find elastics a big enough for it?' and the oh so hair-raising (pardon the pun) 'don't you ever brush it?'

The comments about fullness and the wild 'untamed' look to my hair mostly just fuel my confidence now, because thats exactly what my hair was going for when it grew out of my head, thank you very much.

I normally now just get compliments. 'Oh you're so lucky,' yadda yadda. the next time someone asks to touch it I'm gonna chine in with 'only if I can touch yours!'
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I remember back when I was a kid and my dad used to brush my hair (such a major no-no, I know), this one kid told me my hair looked like *****. that one really stuck with me.

One time an old lady in the salon who was observing my root touch up whispered to my stylist, 'she's white, but she has *African American* hair....' God forbid!!!!!! (sarcasm). I felt it was directed in a derogatory tone, and it was racist more than particularly personally offensive. it's her loss if she doesn't think black women have beautiful hair, in my opinion.

I've also gotten dozens of 'its alive!!!' 'how do you find elastics a big enough for it?' and the oh so hair-raising (pardon the pun) 'don't you ever brush it?'

The comments about fullness and the wild 'untamed' look to my hair mostly just fuel my confidence now, because thats exactly what my hair was going for when it grew out of my head, thank you very much.

I normally now just get compliments. 'Oh you're so lucky,' yadda yadda. the next time someone asks to touch it I'm gonna chine in with 'only if I can touch yours!'
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On a good hair day about a month ago and I was checking out at Walmart and this was the conversation:
Cashier: Is your hair natural?
Me: Yup!
Her: it's very pretty!
Me: thank you!!
Her: do you hate it?
Me: .......what?
Her: you hate your hair, right? Most people do!
Me: umm...no. I love my hair!
Her: well, everyone with curly hair that I know hates their hair and straightens it. You should, too! It would be so pretty!

I just kind of walked away from that one
I can relate to you, having heard various versions of the "Your hair is so pretty but you must hate it" comment.

While it's tacky, a lot of us curlies have trained straighties to think that we feel that way. Many of us just can't seem to take a compliment; you know, can't just say thanks and leave it at that. I've overhead a lot of curlies get a compliment and respond by saying they hate their hair. I used to do that.

And sometimes it seems like that you must hate your hair comment comes from envy, as if the straightie is hoping you'll make her feel better by telling her just how much you hate your curls so she can go back to appreciating her straight hair.

Whether we like our curls or not, I think a lot of us curlies - especially women - are socialized to think it's more acceptable to put ourselves down when complimented - like it's somehow more cool to act overly-humble. But that's not too healthy IMO. These days I just say thanks with a smile. If asked or told about how much I must hate my curls, I tell them I actually love them. (I consider my pro-curl comments a public service: you know, good PR for our collective curly public image

Oh and if a person were ever to suggest I straighten my hair, I'd simply suggest they curl theirs.
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Omg I your hair its sooo beautiful is it a kinky curly wig ummmm u cant be serious asking me that question I just smiled and said its all natural

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