Dumbest comment regarding your hair?

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"Oh I would just love to have curly hair, it must be so easy to just scrunch some gel in and go!"

I used to roll my eyes at this, but now I am actually extremely grateful for my hair. My daughter has straight fine hair with a little bit of a wave to it (the ends flip in funky ways) and it is so fine and thin. It won't stay up in any style and it looks stringy at the end of the day. I don't know how to handle it! So we use a gentle shampoo, light conditioner and brush it a lot and that seems to help.
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Originally Posted by Korkscrew View Post
I can relate to you, having heard various versions of the "Your hair is so pretty but you must hate it" comment.

While it's tacky, a lot of us curlies have trained straighties to think that we feel that way. Many of us just can't seem to take a compliment; you know, can't just say thanks and leave it at that. I've overhead a lot of curlies get a compliment and respond by saying they hate their hair. I used to do that.

And sometimes it seems like that you must hate your hair comment comes from envy, as if the straightie is hoping you'll make her feel better by telling her just how much you hate your curls so she can go back to appreciating her straight hair.

Whether we like our curls or not, I think a lot of us curlies - especially women - are socialized to think it's more acceptable to put ourselves down when complimented - like it's somehow more cool to act overly-humble. But that's not too healthy IMO. These days I just say thanks with a smile. If asked or told about how much I must hate my curls, I tell them I actually love them. (I consider my pro-curl comments a public service: you know, good PR for our collective curly public image

Oh and if a person were ever to suggest I straighten my hair, I'd simply suggest they curl theirs.

You are on point once again. As much as I'm not fond of the straighten your hair philosophy, there are a segment of curlies who enable that by either saying they hate their hair or straightening it. As I have stated before, as a guy it was hard for me to get over the hump by going against the grain. The other day, I randomly compliment a black woman on her curls. I think I made her day and followed by saying, "since I have curly hair, I like to compliment woman that have them." She replies with, "Oh, well thank you. I think your hair is so pretty too." Moments like that which give me my new-found curly pride.
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I was in 10th grade and some senior thought it'd be funny to come up and say " omg your hair looks like a sheep" like really?? Was that really necessary??
So I wore my hair curly pulled half up into a clip today, and my grandma who obviously knows my hair is naturally curly says "did you get a perm?" I mean really?
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I was in 10th grade and some senior thought it'd be funny to come up and say " omg your hair looks like a sheep" like really?? Was that really necessary??
You mean like "BeepBeepYou'reASheep"? ...
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Korkscrew lol that was a good one
Phew, I'm glad you took that well ... I'm hopelessly attracted to rhyming words but I did wince for a second after posting that, almost took it down. If I'd been a little more clever I'd have written, "BleatbleatYou'reASheep"

That senior's comment was weird. I'm sure your curls are terrific.
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I once had a guy at one of those flatiron kiosks in the mall yell across the isle at me that my hair was "frizzy like that" because of damage from "all that hair dye and blowdrying" and his ceramic flatiron would fix it by "sealing in the moisture." It was particularly facepalm-worthy since I hadn't used anything other than henna for color in years and didn't even own a blowdryer.
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I am glad that we can all laugh about jaw-dropping hair comments! My most memorable hair comment occurred while visiting my college roommate's family. Her older sister asked, "Is your hair naturally that bad...or did you style it that way?"
LOL! The ceramic flat iron people just don't get it. One told me that his flat iron created curls, too. Why would I flat iron my natural curls just to create fake ones?
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I once had a guy at one of those flatiron kiosks in the mall yell across the isle at me that my hair was "frizzy like that" because of damage from "all that hair dye and blowdrying" and his ceramic flatiron would fix it by "sealing in the moisture." It was particularly facepalm-worthy since I hadn't used anything other than henna for color in years and didn't even own a blowdryer.
I'd have asked him where he studied trichology/ cosmetic science/ dermatology. And why with such a worthy honours degree he is peddling snake oil in a sh1tty mall. And if he is single - yeah not surprised.
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Yesterday a chugger, someone who hassles people in the street and tries to get you to give a monthly electronic donation to a charity for which they take most of the money, tried to stop me by yelling - "How did you get your hair curly like that?"

While half the street looked round to see who was yelling I walked on by.
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"Why would you waste time curling your hair?"
"Its natural"
"What!? But you're white!"
"Your point...?"
I've had that, I have also had girls and women walk up to me and yank my hair out anger that hurts and in more than one way. Because they would say things like where did you get your perm and when I told them it wasn't a perm then they would say my hair was ugly, and looked like a clowns wig.
I have had a few

"Do you straighten just the ends of your hair, it is a little weird" this was back when I was getting it chemically straightened.

"Wow from a distance I thought you had dreads"

Or a common one with everyone "why don't you straighten your hair. I bet that would look nicer. "

"Are you going to straighten your hair for (insert big event here)?"

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Theknowledge02, two of the comments you've suffered made it onto the curl-bashing troll comments list in one of my blog posts

It's almost like some of these people are looking for a fight
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I have to say, my two weirdest came from family members with very similar curls.

Mom, when I flat-ironed it one day when I had (literally) 4 hours to kill:
"Wow, when did your hair get so long?" Curly it was to my waist, straight, about mid-thigh. My mom's hair is exactly like mine, only slightly thicker.

Sister whose hair is actually curlier than mine, but better behaved (for which I hate her sometimes): "Where'd you get all those kinky little corkscrews? There must have been a black person on your dad's side somewhere." My dad and every member of his family I've ever met or seen a photo of ALL have pin*straight hair, so there is no question it came from our mom, just like hers did. Plus, I look like freaking Wednesday Addams or something ...

I think the one that upset me the most was kids in school calling me dirty and scruffy and other things like that. My parents didn't think it was healthy for kids to use conditioner, so my brilliant idea was to wash it less. I ended up with a poofy, greasy, frizzy, nasty mess, and middle school was torture because of it.

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Last edited by darkqueene; 09-05-2013 at 07:16 AM.
I hate when people ask me how I get my hair to curl like "that"...I'm like "like what?" I get really offended all the time, why can't I just have nice hair?
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My favorite comment I got was my ex asked me if my hair was naturally curly. I told him yes but sometimes I like it straight. He told me "I say, don't fight it."

My (now) husband loves it curly because he likes to play with it, although there are rules for that ha ha. 1st day hair he learned is no-touchy but second day he is all about it.

I'm not wanting to make assumptions, but a lot of females get jealous of other females and then their instinct is to make the beautiful person feel bad. I was definitely guilty of this in high school and it is a terrible thing to do! That's why I get a lot of comments like 'you should smoke, you're too skinny, your hair looks like a rats nest' and when I say no they immediately follow with 'I wish I could stop smoking, I wish I was that skinny, I wish my hair did that'

What is up with people! It's such a weird thing!

I like life fun and simple as it can be. I've always been on the off side of fashion and my hair goes along with that. I prefer it a little crazy- I think people let me get away with more
I asked my friend who is a (crappy) hairstylist what I could do with my hair, as in some different styles to do. She said, "You could straighten it."

My hair was butchered recently and someone suggested that I buy a wig.

When I started wearing it curly again, after straightening for about a year, everyone kept asking me if I got a perm or if it was natural.

It's not a dumb comment, I just want to end with something positive. What made me want to start wearing curly hair again, was someone in my massage class said to me one day when I wore it curly, "You straighten your hair and your hair looks like THAT!?" She loved my curls. It was a great compliment
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