I think it is best to never say anything about anyone's hair because, from reading this you never know how they will take any comment at all. Just look the other way, don't comment and move on.Someone else once told me this too and it actually pissed me off so much I showed that person the difference when actually brushing curly hair and not brushing curly hair. Then she said "Oh now I understand, I wasn't thinking."
Friend's roommate: "You NEVER brush it? That's really disgusting."
I wanted to reply with "Yeah, and so is your personality." Maybe next time
About the big discussion of "good hair" and "bad hair". When I stopped relaxing my hair, a lot of people told me "Why did you ever relaxed your hair in the first place, you have really good hair!" And I got that comment in all sorts of ways. I usually don't overthink it, but I do tend to listen to the intonation when someone says it. Because yes it can be a compliment, but it can also be very offensive. I have heard in so many different ways, but both in two ways. It either sounded like a compliment or it was very offensive.
"You didn't have to relax your hair, you have good hair anyways, a lot of people don't" (I'm sorry but what does that mean? Some people don't? Then what kind of hair do they have?)
Besides that, I've heard this from many different kind of people, (white, black, yellow, purple, whatever kind of color) and I think it just depends on the way someone says it.
Anyways, that being said, I never also really thought of racism because of those comments. It just shows how ignorant some people can be.
As long as you like your hair