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Old 10-27-2012, 09:43 AM   #101
 
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Dumb comments from my age group (18 and older)
"You can't have curly hair you're black that is a wig"
" You must be mixed, only mixed people have curly hair"
"I thought curly hair was suppose to be dry and brittle"
"You should get a relaxer"
"I love your curly hair!, Where did you buy it?"
"What size curling irons do you use? All those spirals must take forever..especially with the different sizes"
I have seen my share of comments on this post but these are definitely all-encompassing. Amazing how clueless some people are.
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Old 10-27-2012, 09:46 AM   #102
 
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I get the perm question. And then if I go straight or something for a day I've had someone ask if that will ruin my perm.

The best is that I get asked about my ethnicity. I'm as white as it gets. So I say I'm kind of a mutt but I have Irish and Scottish and people nod and make noises. And then I get the question... Do you have black ancestors, too? Whaa? Because you've never seen Irish and Scottish people with curly hair? Geez!! My cousin is mixed and when people find that out they say it must be where my curly hair came from. Because that's totally how genetics work.
With my ancestry being Italian, and being a guy at that, I didn't think I would get the perm question since Italians have some naturally curly haired people but someone managed to ask one day.
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Old 10-28-2012, 03:49 AM   #103
 
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"Why do you dark skin people have such hair, is it to protect you from the harsh sun, since you don't have winter like we(Norwegians) do?"
Part of that is true the darker you are the more protection you have from the sun and denser hair protects you from getting burned on your scalp. That's why as you go towards the equator ppl tend to be darker and have denser hair. But the way they asked was stupid
Amen! People sometimes think they know everything. They see me and assume right off the bat that I am from Africa. My forefathers, yeah! But I am 100% Jamaican born& raised. Not that I would have been ashamed if I was born and raised in Africa....but...I wasn't.
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Old 10-30-2012, 12:03 AM   #104
 
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So many dumb curly questions are based on race, which drives me crrrraaaazzzyyyy! *got that off my chest*

Dumbest question anyone ever asked me: "if you are Native (Canadian Indian), how come you have curly hair? Everyone knows Aboriginal Natives have straight hair!"

Dumbass. My mother was a white French lady. I have inherited her hair genes. And I have my father's native face. I inherited those genes from his side. In any case, why does any of that matter...? I am a human being with curly hair, that's all.... My hair doesn't *have* a race!
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Old 10-30-2012, 03:04 PM   #105
 
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So many dumb curly questions are based on race, which drives me crrrraaaazzzyyyy! *got that off my chest*

Dumbest question anyone ever asked me: "if you are Native (Canadian Indian), how come you have curly hair? Everyone knows Aboriginal Natives have straight hair!"

Dumbass. My mother was a white French lady. I have inherited her hair genes. And I have my father's native face. I inherited those genes from his side. In any case, why does any of that matter...? I am a human being with curly hair, that's all.... My hair doesn't *have* a race!
I like that!!
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Old 11-02-2012, 05:28 AM   #106
 
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I usually get compliments for my hair, but some of them are really weird...

I did a photo shoot in June, and the lady doing my hair just looked at it for about a minute, before saying "Excuse me, but... are you African?". If I had been any paler, I would have been translucent, so clearly (and sadly) the answer was no. "Oh..." she said, and then "Brazilian then?" I said "no, I'm Norwegian, sorry". Another minute passed with her only eying my hair, then she sighed and said "Well, it's certainly... unique."

My flatmate had his father over, who, after I had left the room, burst out into a tirade about how curly hair was so horrible and looked so unprofessional, and stated how I would never ever get a job with hair like that. He didn't know I could hear him... I actually felt more sad for his son, who's "closet curly"

Other comments...
"You look ugly with curls, you should get rid of them."
"You should SO get someone new to do your hair."
"Oh crap... Can we get a wig for this one, please?!?" (on the set of a commercial)
"Doesn't it feel bad when you never brush your hair?" (no, I feel worse when I brush it and it looks like I've been hit by lightning actually...)
"I would love to have curls like yours... for, like, one night."
"It's so simple for you, I have to do my hair before going out, curly hair looks messy no matter what you do to it!"

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Old 11-02-2012, 07:37 AM   #107
 
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So many dumb curly questions are based on race, which drives me crrrraaaazzzyyyy! *got that off my chest*

Dumbest question anyone ever asked me: "if you are Native (Canadian Indian), how come you have curly hair? Everyone knows Aboriginal Natives have straight hair!"

Dumbass. My mother was a white French lady. I have inherited her hair genes. And I have my father's native face. I inherited those genes from his side. In any case, why does any of that matter...? I am a human being with curly hair, that's all.... My hair doesn't *have* a race!
I like that!!
thanks, Calber And you have lovely curls, btw...

as does Maryndir and Bobby and everyone else here....(I am constantly thinking everyone here looks soooo good! Curls make everyone gorgeous! lol...)

I am not too sure why people are so ignorant, and why they say hurtful things to people with curly hair. As someone else noted, the larger proportion of people on earth actually have curly hair, so I am really not understanding why we get treated like we were from Mars! ;p
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Old 11-02-2012, 05:13 PM   #108
 
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Both of you have gorgeous curls. As a guy, it took watching other fellow males losing their hair to appreciate having curls.

"Curls aren't just for girls."
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Old 11-02-2012, 06:02 PM   #109
 
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Way to go, Bobby I love your attitude! You have great curls, I am dying of envy! lol...wish I had those nice tight ringlets. betcha you were a really cute baby! I am certain your curls were your mother's pride
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Old 11-02-2012, 08:10 PM   #110
 
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"die curls die!"" me yelling.

My mom " oh honey, there already dead.
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Old 11-03-2012, 01:25 AM   #111
 
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Way to go, Bobby I love your attitude! You have great curls, I am dying of envy! lol...wish I had those nice tight ringlets. betcha you were a really cute baby! I am certain your curls were your mother's pride
Thank you, Maddy. I am blushing as we speak. You have gorgeous hair as well. When I was 14 I went three months without getting my haircut and had the 'fro going with lots of curls but I kind of grew to hate it so I wore it cropped tight the next 20 years before growing them out again seven years ago. Again, it took watching fellow males go bald for me to appreciate having curls again. I've lost some hair as well but not a ton. I even had someone ask me if my hair was permed. Uh yeah, I'm going to spend money to get my hair to do something it can do on its own.

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Old 11-03-2012, 02:49 AM   #112
 
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People think i have dread locs most of the time this lady went so far as to run her hands all through my head i didn't like it

My mom tells everyone i do finger coils i'm a newbie natural so don't even know how to do them i say my hair is pretty coily on its own and getting more so as it grows out i did big cut in may so it's gone through lots of changes this still annoys me.

I hate most of all the your black how is your hair naturally curly comment some people actually say.......

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Old 11-03-2012, 06:57 AM   #113
 
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After I had my daughter, I showed her off at my old job and a coworker asked me if I was glad that my baby had her father's hair texture which is 2ish?. I was snarky with my response and decided my transition was over. A few days after that I chopped off my remaining relaxed hair and visited that job again with a TWA. I'm a 4 and my daughter is a 3 so far.

SO's mom found out I cut my hair and she thinks I'm crazy because women don't cut their hair -__- where she been at? It is 2012 the last time I checked my smartphone. And she's scared that I'm going to cut my daughters hair smh. I can't wait til she sees it in all of it's nappy goodness, she'll definitely freak :-)

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Old 11-05-2012, 12:31 PM   #114
 
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I get the perm question. And then if I go straight or something for a day I've had someone ask if that will ruin my perm.

The best is that I get asked about my ethnicity. I'm as white as it gets. So I say I'm kind of a mutt but I have Irish and Scottish and people nod and make noises. And then I get the question... Do you have black ancestors, too? Whaa? Because you've never seen Irish and Scottish people with curly hair? Geez!! My cousin is mixed and when people find that out they say it must be where my curly hair came from. Because that's totally how genetics work.
Start telling them you're black irish and they'll leave you alone. LOL
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Old 11-05-2012, 12:47 PM   #115
 
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Having heard many of these comments is why I usually don't discuss hair with anyone who is not natural or in transition. If a person is still in a "straight hair/relaxer is the only acceptable look" state of mind, my talking to them about hair would only lead to frustration for the both of us.
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"you straightened your hair??? OH MY GOD IT LOOKS SO NICE DO IT LIKE THAT MORE OFTEN!"
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Old 11-08-2012, 01:18 PM   #117
 
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[...] And I agree, curls up to a 3a are the only ones that get compliments. I didn't have super curly hair until puberty, and it didn't really grow in enough to be that noticable until I was 16. So I had 2b hair that gradually got up to 3a and I got so many compliments! And then it got to 3b/c and I rarely hear compliments unless they're from fellow curlies.


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Interesting. I'm sorry to hear you stopped getting compliments once your hair got to 3b/c. Maybe it was the style, or it looked a little damaged or something? I ask that because I'm a 3b/c and rarely get through one day without compliments from non-curly and curly people alike ... This is not me bragging. Plenty of 3a + people get compliments.
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Old 11-08-2012, 01:41 PM   #118
 
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As far as comments? Although I get a lot of compliments, there have been a couple strange or rude ones. One time, this lady with stick-straight hair in a class I was taking stared at me, then said, "You must hate your hair."

"No," I said, "I love it. Jealousy is a b--ch, aint it?"

Looking back on it, I don't think she was jealous. Maybe she'd just heard too many curly heads ranting about how much they hated their hair (thanks to all the pressure to have straight hair), and thought she'd take a guess at how I felt about mine. ... Or she was just being a bitty

Another time, I was having dinner with my husband's family, and they all have straight hair with a slight wave. At the time my hair was all one length and very long. This was the one time I had it pulled into a bun so that it hid my strong curl pattern. They were all like, "Your hair looks good that way."

They'd never complimented my hair while it was out and in its curly glory, which probably has to do with their culture. I could be reading too much into this though. Maybe they just liked my hair out of my face. Hard to know.
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Old 11-10-2012, 11:01 AM   #119
 
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As far as comments? Although I get a lot of compliments, there have been a couple strange or rude ones. One time, this lady with stick-straight hair in a class I was taking stared at me, then said, "You must hate your hair."

"No," I said, "I love it. Jealousy is a b--ch, aint it?"

Looking back on it, I don't think she was jealous. Maybe she'd just heard too many curly heads ranting about how much they hated their hair (thanks to all the pressure to have straight hair), and thought she'd take a guess at how I felt about mine. ... Or she was just being a bitty

Another time, I was having dinner with my husband's family, and they all have straight hair with a slight wave. At the time my hair was all one length and very long. This was the one time I had it pulled into a bun so that it hid my strong curl pattern. They were all like, "Your hair looks good that way."

They'd never complimented my hair while it was out and in its curly glory, which probably has to do with their culture. I could be reading too much into this though. Maybe they just liked my hair out of my face. Hard to know.
Sucks to be jealous. I wish I was just like those people. NOT!

I'll take the bun look over the flat-iron any day. However, with your curls definitely flaunt them.
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Old 11-11-2012, 02:26 AM   #120
 
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Ahhh. You're a gem Bobby Totally agree with you on flat-ironing versus the real thing too.
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