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Old 05-11-2008, 07:26 PM   #21
 
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A girl I went to school with is Sri-Lankan and her hair was at least 3C.
I have a Sri Lankan friend in college who has the most gorgeous head of 3C curls. I'd swear it was a perm, but I asked her once, and she told me that it wasn't, and told me how it took her years to figure out how to maintain it.
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A girl I went to school with is Sri-Lankan and her hair was at least 3C.
I have a Sri Lankan friend in college who has the most gorgeous head of 3C curls. I'd swear it was a perm, but I asked her once, and she told me that it wasn't, and told me how it took her years to figure out how to maintain it.
My friend brushed her hair and then braided it. I tried to get her to stop brushing it and see what happened but who was I to talk really, I was straightening my hair then.
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wow, I am in the exact same situation as you. I am indian too and have the curliest hair in my house and I have recently grown to love it because I now know what and what not to put in my hair. I am a 3a/3b and always felt that going against my natural hair always yeilded long term bad results. My dad doesn't like curly hair either - he brushes out his curls a lot and its short so you can't tell. I always remembered my hair being a frizzy mess when I was young .My mom used to brush it out because she didn't know what to do with it. However now she loves it. I really used to envy my stick straight haired cousins. I know this girl with long gorgeous curly hair who told me at home she has to straighten it because her family says its disrespectful to have curly hair (because they see it as being too fashion forward and bold - they believe in simplicity...stupid I KNOW!)I have the curliest hair out of any family member and now I realize how lucky I am to have this beautiful hair that rarely anyone in my family has. My boyfriend is a little old fashioned and really doesn't get my hair and thinks straight looks better . I don't think he likes curly... Some people love it, some hate it. Everyone has haters, but you just gotta not let it affect you.
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Old 06-18-2008, 01:10 PM   #24
 
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I am from South India and I have curly hair, but I don't know about more South Indians having curly hair. My parents and my sister (she has naturally straight hair) always like my curly hair. However, there are many members of my family that think that straight hair is definitely nicer and neater... and I used to get plenty of compliments when I straightened.

I think because of bollywood etc, straight hair is definetely more "in" ... lots of cousins of mine have had it chemically straightened. I have (sadly) met more people who wanted to straighten their hair than embrace their curls... but that's just my experience.

Another thing I noticed while I was in India last month was that there aren't really many products for curly hair ( I mean curly lines) you'll find plenty of smoothing and straightening lines. This was the first time that I did an extensive search because I usually stock up on products before I go to India.

I have a fellow indian friend who has amazing 3 c curls and it has not seen a comb (except a wide tooth comb) at all. I think that it comes down to if you had curlies in your family who knew that curly hair requires gentle care.
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Okay, I've been lurking for a while but I thought I just had to reply to this thread.

I'm not from India but I'm of South Indian origin... and 70% of people I know have curly hair. 90% of those curlies relax their hair, as I have for the past six years. I've recently decided to embrace my curls as I've had enough of boring stick straight hair, and I've completely forgotten what my natural hair looks like!

I'm meeting with opposition from all directions and getting insulted to boot for letting my hair grow. Mum said my hair is ugly, it will make me look old, etc. Not long ago when I got my hair trimmed, the stylist asked me if I wanted to touch up the curly growth. I said no, I'm growing it out, not relaxing anymore. He said curly hair is not nice, and it's damaged anyway, all his Indian friends do it. He also said my hair was very thick and voluminous, like it was a bad thing! Look who's talking, he's the one with hair so damaged it was like toothbrush bristles.

I'm so grateful for this website. It really helps to come on here and be with people who really love their curls.
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Old 06-19-2008, 08:31 PM   #26
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I would love to see your curls! Please don't be discouraged by these comments.

I cannot tell you how liberating it is to do as you have done...embrace your curls rather than fight with them!!

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Okay, I've been lurking for a while but I thought I just had to reply to this thread.

I'm not from India but I'm of South Indian origin... and 70% of people I know have curly hair. 90% of those curlies relax their hair, as I have for the past six years. I've recently decided to embrace my curls as I've had enough of boring stick straight hair, and I've completely forgotten what my natural hair looks like!

I'm meeting with opposition from all directions and getting insulted to boot for letting my hair grow. Mum said my hair is ugly, it will make me look old, etc. Not long ago when I got my hair trimmed, the stylist asked me if I wanted to touch up the curly growth. I said no, I'm growing it out, not relaxing anymore. He said curly hair is not nice, and it's damaged anyway, all his Indian friends do it. He also said my hair was very thick and voluminous, like it was a bad thing! Look who's talking, he's the one with hair so damaged it was like toothbrush bristles.

I'm so grateful for this website. It really helps to come on here and be with people who really love their curls.
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I'm part indian, and i have curley hair to, 4a actually. Im also half african american, with european, and native american. I used to straighten my hair alot, constant perms since the age of 5. But recently i've embraced my curls, and i'm trying to get them to how they were when i was little. I love my curls. i've had people ask me if i had my hair straightened after the fact, because it was so thick. Meh to each their own i guess, i like my hair as it is.

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I think I'm the first Indian guy on here...
haha...Yeah, I'm a 20 year old Indian guy with wavy hair and the occasional curling on the sides, and I always used to hate it because of the poof. But these past 2 months is really the first time since i was an infant, that I have my hair a chance to grow and see what it can do. And yes, I agree with you that the Indian girls that do have wavy/curly hair tend to comb their hair to make it look poofy and awful.
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In my university I have seen very, very few to no Indian girls sporting their naturally curly hair. Almost all of them, or at least all those (ALL) whom I've seen around straighten their hair (and there are a lot of us here!). I used to keep mine curly (not CG though, I didn't hear of it til April 200 until in late 2005 my boyfriend told me he prefers it straight and I had started straightening it every once in a while. I had completely given up on my curly hair by this year so much so that I was about to go for a shorter cut so I could straighten more easily whenever I want to, when I found this site, and I am so glad I did! I have never looked back. I am slowly starting to not care too much about those who like people based on the texture of their hair. And that's thanks to everyone on here!
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Old 06-27-2008, 06:39 PM   #31
 
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Curladvocate -- Thank you!!! I love the pic of the guy from Heroes. I've only watched that show twice but I have a huge crush on him.
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My hair looks almost exactly like that second picture (guy from Heroes). My hair is also a little shorter than that guy's right now, But it's pretty much the same "messy", thick, wavy, and shiny black look after i put some of that leave-in. You girls don't think it looks "grungy"? because my mom thinks it makes me look like a homeless dude since it looks so unkept Yes, she is off the "you need to brush/comb your hair" variety. And hearing her nag about my hair all the time makes me wonder if that "grungy" look is unattractive. This is the first time I've ever really let my hair grow, so I'm not sure what to think.
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My hair looks almost exactly like that second picture (guy from Heroes). My hair is also a little shorter than that guy's right now, But it's pretty much the same "messy", thick, wavy, and shiny black look after i put some of that leave-in. You girls don't think it looks "grungy"? because my mom thinks it makes me look like a homeless dude since it looks so unkept Yes, she is off the "you need to brush/comb your hair" variety. And hearing her nag about my hair all the time makes me wonder if that "grungy" look is unattractive. This is the first time I've ever really let my hair grow, so I'm not sure what to think.
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I'm glad there are more of us Indian curly girls out there. I recently went with a friend to a salon who had an Indian born aesthetician who asked me if I curled my hair with a curling iron. Among my Indian friends it's pretty common to flat iron your hair.
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Okay, I've been lurking for a while but I thought I just had to reply to this thread.

I'm not from India but I'm of South Indian origin... and 70% of people I know have curly hair. 90% of those curlies relax their hair, as I have for the past six years. I've recently decided to embrace my curls as I've had enough of boring stick straight hair, and I've completely forgotten what my natural hair looks like!

I'm meeting with opposition from all directions and getting insulted to boot for letting my hair grow. Mum said my hair is ugly, it will make me look old, etc. Not long ago when I got my hair trimmed, the stylist asked me if I wanted to touch up the curly growth. I said no, I'm growing it out, not relaxing anymore. He said curly hair is not nice, and it's damaged anyway, all his Indian friends do it. He also said my hair was very thick and voluminous, like it was a bad thing! Look who's talking, he's the one with hair so damaged it was like toothbrush bristles.

I'm so grateful for this website. It really helps to come on here and be with people who really love their curls.
Okay, I'm sorry if I sound rude, but there are Indians out there who relax their hair? I've never heard of anyone around me relaxing theirs (I'm south Indian too, and I go to school with tons of Indians from all over). Most just flat-iron it into submission or give up and walk around with frizzy hair. I thought relaxing was de rigeur in the African-American community; South Indians are generally so orthodox and uptight about gender roles and concepts of beauty that they'd never let their girls relax their hair. Most of the ones I know didn't even allow their children to straighten their hair until the end of high school/beginning of college. This can be a good thing or a bad thing, depending on how you want your hair style to be.
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Question Wow, cool!

I'm south Indian as well and have 3A hair..I decided to embrace my curls senior yr of high school and I haven't turned back since! It really fits my personality, I must say It's awesome knowing that there's more of us out there!

I've been using the Totally Twisted line by Herbal Essences, but I guess my hair's gotten used to it, cus it doesn't work for my past one set of shampoo/cond/mousse So I'm stuck with awful hair for the next round, and let me tell you, I've tried EVERYTHING. Nothing works as well as HE, but I need something in-between.

Any ideas? I heard DevaCurl works wonders..?
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I'm not Indian but i've been happy with HE shampoo and conditioners (I use the not-so-CG Drama Clean line) and I'd like to try some of their gels or leave-ins but they're so hard to find and I dont know which one I would want to get. I was thinking of trying totally twisted but i've been wearing my hair straight a lot lately so I was thinking of dangerously straight or none of your frizzness.

Anyway I also saw a movie one time about the hair trade in India. A lot of girls in India sacrifice their hair to the gods at a certain age and the hair company people in the United States manage to get a hold of it and sell it as extensions and weaves. They said that Indian hair is the most similar ethnic hair to caucasion hair (except that it usually only comes in one color--black).
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Ahh, so nikkimw, Aveda works? =)

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Ahh, so nikkimw, Aveda works? =)

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Well,it used to work great for me before I went CG. I just went back to using it. I suits my hair ... but I have course, thick hair and it seems to have the weight I need to hold my curls in place. I am working on trying out different combos. Usually, I put in a little Phomollient under the Be Curly. I have also tried the Aloe Flax mixed with Be Curly. I will post more pics on Fotki once as I try them out.

So far it has been the one thing that I know works for me. I don't live in the US anymore and rely on my sister to bring me stuff when she comes to visit. I would really like to try the stuff on Curlmart that other users recommend. Unfortunately, I don't have that option, and sending back from Africa is not really feasible .

Anyways, that kinda went off topic ... and thanks for the compliment =)
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aveda seems to be more complicated than i'd thought O.o .. I think I'll just stick to HE and experiment with their gels instead..my new venture! hehe =D

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