Learning to love the curls

Ali2340 · 07-31-2012, 11:37 PM

Hi everyone! So I am a 15 year old teenager and all my life people have told me how lucky I am to have curly hair. Why is it though that I can't come to love my curls? Yes I know that curls are unique but I feel almost insecure about my hair and wish their was some way I can learn to love it. Thanks to anyone who has taken the time to read this and please leave some tips on how to be more confident and embrace the curls!

Whirlwind · 08-01-2012, 02:38 AM

You know, most of us can not be content with what we have. Maybe if you will build your self confidence, if you can convince yourself when you look into the mirror that you are beautiful, you will feel better. Well, what is it with your curls that you don't like? Your hair doesn't sound damaged, based on the other people's comments. You know what, curly hair is so sexy. Maybe you have seen actresses such as Taylor Swift and others and they look really good with curls. And on important occasions, have you noticed that people curl their hair? Rare are people who straighten their hair. It's because straight hair is a simple beauty, and curly is stylish and classy, at least for me.

Actually, we're opposite. I love that my hair is curly even if it is frizzy and kinda damaged, I love how my hair waves and spirals even if not in a uniform way. But others keep commenting that I straighten it or comb it or brush it and I really hate them. Even my family, who are either curlies or wavies, because they iron or straighten or comb their hair until straight. They just don't appreciate curly hair. Well, just sharing, sorry if long.

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raindear · 08-14-2012, 05:59 PM

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Originally Posted by Ali2340

Hi everyone! So I am a 15 year old teenager and all my life people have told me how lucky I am to have curly hair. Why is it though that I can't come to love my curls? Yes I know that curls are unique but I feel almost insecure about my hair and wish their was some way I can learn to love it. Thanks to anyone who has taken the time to read this and please leave some tips on how to be more confident and embrace the curls!

Up until I was 12, my hair was always a frizzball mess. I never saw an individual curl, not even once. My mother, bless her, tried, and she and my grandmother both tried to instill in me gratitude for my curly hair, but I could never see it. It was always messy, ratty, hurt to brush, and I hated it.

When I was 12, someone told my mother that if it was short, it would frizz less and be more manageable, so that is what we did. I then spent years either gluing my hair into slight waves with gels, or if it was a bit longer gluing it to the largest rollers available, and basically ignoring the fact that it was curly. So, I know how to hate my curls.

Several months ago, I decided to see what my natural curl looks like. In trying to find ways to bring out my natural curls, I found this site. The better care I take of my hair, the better its condition, the better I am able to like it.

So, my advice to you is to stick it out, condition, do protein treatments, find products and methods that work for you. The better you treat your hair, the better you will find you like and appreciate it. Good luck on your adventure.

proudcurlygirly · 08-16-2012, 04:14 AM

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Originally Posted by raindear

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Originally Posted by Ali2340

Hi everyone! So I am a 15 year old teenager and all my life people have told me how lucky I am to have curly hair. Why is it though that I can't come to love my curls? Yes I know that curls are unique but I feel almost insecure about my hair and wish their was some way I can learn to love it. Thanks to anyone who has taken the time to read this and please leave some tips on how to be more confident and embrace the curls!

Up until I was 12, my hair was always a frizzball mess. I never saw an individual curl, not even once. My mother, bless her, tried, and she and my grandmother both tried to instill in me gratitude for my curly hair, but I could never see it. It was always messy, ratty, hurt to brush, and I hated it.

When I was 12, someone told my mother that if it was short, it would frizz less and be more manageable, so that is what we did. I then spent years either gluing my hair into slight waves with gels, or if it was a bit longer gluing it to the largest rollers available, and basically ignoring the fact that it was curly. So, I know how to hate my curls.

Several months ago, I decided to see what my natural curl looks like. In trying to find ways to bring out my natural curls, I found this site. The better care I take of my hair, the better its condition, the better I am able to like it.

So, my advice to you is to stick it out, condition, do protein treatments, find products and methods that work for you. The better you treat your hair, the better you will find you like and appreciate it. Good luck on your adventure.

So true, once you start to learn how to care for and nurture your curls (which can take some experimenting finding the right products/routine that works for you, but it is so worth it), they will love you back and reward you with a gorgeous, unique beautiful head of hair to be proud of.

Good luck and best wishes.

Johari · 09-16-2012, 11:07 PM

Maybe you won't understand til you see what people go through or have gone through to remove or attain curly hair.Some people use perms that contain harsh chemicals to achieve natural looks curls.Other as you know try to get straight hair with chemicals as well as heat tools.Eventually,your hair can look even frizzier than before flat ironning.

Well that's how I look at it you should accept&embrace your natural self without going to extremes.A little change of hair style isn't bad just don't go overboard where you depend on the curling/flat iron to make your hair look good.I myself haven't fully learned my lesson but in time I will.

JessiesCurls · 09-20-2012, 01:46 PM

I definitely agree with others that have said that learning to take care of your hair in it's natural state is the best way to learn to love it. The better cared for hair is, the better it looks, which goes a long way in how you feel about it. Well cared for hair is beautiful, no matter its texture.