Up until I was 12, my hair was always a frizzball mess. I never saw an individual curl, not even once. My mother, bless her, tried, and she and my grandmother both tried to instill in me gratitude for my curly hair, but I could never see it. It was always messy, ratty, hurt to brush, and I hated it.
When I was 12, someone told my mother that if it was short, it would frizz less and be more manageable, so that is what we did. I then spent years either gluing my hair into slight waves with gels, or if it was a bit longer gluing it to the largest rollers available, and basically ignoring the fact that it was curly. So, I know how to hate my curls.
Several months ago, I decided to see what my natural curl looks like. In trying to find ways to bring out my natural curls, I found this site. The better care I take of my hair, the better its condition, the better I am able to like it.
So, my advice to you is to stick it out, condition, do protein treatments, find products and methods that work for you. The better you treat your hair, the better you will find you like and appreciate it. Good luck on your adventure.