kayleigh.lew

I nanny a 2 year old biracial girl. She rocks a darling baby afro with all the challenges that come along with being both Caucasian and African-American. We were at the grocery store last week when I stopped to fix the clip in her out-of-control mane. As I was struggling to free the tangled clippie, a pair of older female employees passed and remarked, "Poor thing must've gotten her daddy's hair!"
(Side note: I have a fairly unruly head of 3a/b/occasionally c hair of my own that had been flatironed the day before)
I'm frequently assumed to be the little one's mother when we go places; that doesn't bother me. What bothered me was the fact that someone looked at my (the presumed mother's) semi-straight, "typical" Caucasian hair and pitied the little one for inheriting her kinky hair from her non-Caucasian father.
Although it would probably still annoy me if I had straight hair, I felt a special kind of spite for these ignorant employees and a society that praises the all-American straight head of hair and looks down upon natural, textured African-American hair.*

*I'm obviously aware that any race can have kinky/curly hair, but the social idea that textured hair is unprofessional/second rate/not as pretty is especially aimed towards people of color

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3a w/ 3b at the nape of the neck
Low porosity, regular-coarse
Low density due to TE triggered by a series of surgeries
Products: Wen (cleanser ~2x/week in the shower/leave in co), NYM Kinky Moves cream, JF Curl Perfecting Spray, It's a 10 finishing spray for roots
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Always@night

Those employees were quite rude to say that, but it is hard for everyone to see the unique beauty that each person possesses ; hair included.

chupie

I just don't get it. I don't understand
1) people's need to comment
2) why is it "poor thing", I'm totally enamored with any curly or kinky hair as its beautiful.
3) are people raised in barns? Why are people so rude??

Firefox7275

How impolite, weren't they raised with any manners? I would have complained to management, staff should be more professional than to insult customers even if they are only toddlers. Negative comments about appearance is part of what gives females especially complexes about their looks and it starts very young.

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2a-2c, medium texture, porous/ colour treated. Two years CG, growing out mechanical and chemical damage causing breakage and very high porosity. Past armpit length heading for waist.

CO-wash: Inecto
Treatments: Komaza protein, Komaza Matani, pure coconut oil with sugar syrup. Hairveda Sitrinillah
Leave in: Fructis Sleek & Shine (old silicone free), Gliss ultimate volume
Gel: Umberto Giannini jelly
Experimenting with: Rockin Ringlets, Ecostyler, Crown Pride Tucuma, Komaza coconut ....

GroYoFro

Some people just do not have any manners and many people are haters. You know as Dead Prez says , "when you love yourself theres always going to be haters"

Here is the link to that video. I highly suggest for you to listen : )

Dead Prez The Beauty Within lyrics antikorper - YouTube

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curlicious13

How rude. I would complain too. But nothing new to me. Mom complains about my curly hair all the time saying "your hair looks better & sexier straight." Honestly, I think my hair looks beautiful either way. I get more compliments about my curly hair from strangers than I get from my family & hair stylist. The stylist hates my choice to go natural.

Samanthascurlz

I agree with everyone, it is sad that others look at the non-society standards as a curse. People like that reinforce why I go natural.

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Fine, low porosity, thick density, & normal elasticity, recently dyed ('auburn') with SM Hair-color

Co-Wash: As I Am Coconut Co-wash
Detangle Cond: SM Restorative Cond. and KCKT
Wash Out: SM Restorative Cond.
Leave-in: dollop of KCKT
Gel: KCCC
Sealer: EVOO &/or GSO

UnluckyCurls

It's crazy how people think they can say whatever they want about natural hair and not think its rude. This girl at my school once told me "no offense but I don't want my kids to have your hair" 1: it's still offensive even if you say no offense and 2: that crap is hurtful it can make even the strongest willed people upset