Only Curly in the Family

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Today I was at dinner with my mom and I was asking her a hair question and she said "Oh, your hair's not really curly... It can go either way."

And I got so annoyed. I almost wanted to be like, "Jeez, mom! Where there's a wave, there's a curl! And I have plenty!"

But I ignored it. When you're the only curly in the family, no one gets why you put so much work into buying the right products and your trial and error, etc.

But I LOVE my curls and so glad I'm learning to take care of them properly!


Is anyone else the only curly in a straight family (or the only one who embraces theirs)??
2C/3A; very, very thick fine to medium hair; low porosity.

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"Forget not that the earth delights to feel your bare feet and the winds long to play with your hair." -Khalil Gibran
Well, until very recently my mum kept telling me I don't have any curls at all and have never had. Despite ringlets all over on the photos from when I was two years old. She has gone quiet lately, maybe due to giving up, maybe due to seeing that I keep having the same spirals everytime I see her.

Last time she seemed determined that I must "do something" with my hair to make it look like this, so when I just rewet it some in the morning, scrunched it a bit and then was ready to go (having it dry in the car as we had quite a number of hours to drive) she was just gaping. "Aren't you supposed to do something with your hair?". Her hair has always been stick-straight and blonde, so nothing like mine, until she had me and my sister when it turned slightly darker and like 1C/2A wavy at most

I am pretty sure my dad has curls in there. He says no, and said he never had any tendencies and had hair long enough, but then long enough is like 3 inches at most. I don't think that is really enough to judge if there is curls in there if you are not treating it curly. His hair is super-fluffy when it's been a bit longer and has been standing up just straight, creating a super-dense helmet of hair. Definitely suspect curls there...
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What I see is that other mothers tend to do that. Mine questions every weird thing according to her. It's hard to make it see or change her perspective. My mom must have a 1c maximum wave on her hair but I can't see it as she fluffs her hair always. That is mainly why she thought my less frizzy-voluminous hair was stuck on my head. She also thinks that I don't let me hair free to breathe because I put always something to it, be that a DT or my satin cap or have it in braids.

I think the side of my father has curls. My father used to have long hair with some big barrel curls like I have framing my face.

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CO: Generic protein conditioner, Hair Academy Deep Cleansing CO
DET/RO/LI: GNC Avocado And Shea Butter Conditioner +/mask,
Styler: Schwarzkopf Taft Fixing GelWellaflex Instant Volume Boost Mousse
DT: EVOO, C.O

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Goal: WL when curly
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Last edited by KaZenner1990; 05-25-2014 at 06:21 AM.
I have my dads very curly hair, he passed away in 2000. Up until shortly after my dad died, I hated my hair. Now that he is gone I feel my hair is a legacy to him and now I treasure my curls. My dad and I were the only curlys in the family so when he was gone I felt alone and frustrated, as my sister and mother both have very, very straight hair. Well my nephew who is almost three years old (my straight haired sister's child) has very, very blonde curly ringlets, and im so very happy to have a fellow curly family member once again, and its awesome when she asks ME for advice on how to deal with his curls.
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Growing up, I was the only curly in the family really. That is, until my younger and sister (they have a different mother) were born. When they got to be teenagers, they started asking me for advice about their curly hair. My dad has curly hair, but cuts it short. My older sister has wavy hair, but always straightened her hair. It is almost like the hair gets curlier down the line. Meaning, my sister has waves, I have 3B, my brother has 3C, and my youngest sister has 4A. It is weird, but I love it!


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My father had hair like mine-but he's bald now, and he always kept his hair short except for the combover which is why I know. My mother and sister have wavyish hair but really not as wavy as 2A, more like slightly wavy, with 1s wave being almost as long as their hair. My brother has fine, straight hair.

My mother is Latina and what it is common in that culture to force short, ugly haircuts on people with curly hair. Sorry if I offend anyone, but I have seen this over and over again. I had to endure ugly poodle cuts, while my sister could have long hair. My mother used to say "You have to have short hair because it's curly." Like that's a fact? Curly hair is perceived as messy, or perhaps they want to hide the fact that so many of us have some African heritage.

My sister used to make fun of me for having curly hair! Ironically, in high school, my sister used to get up at 5:30 to curl her hair for 2 hours!

I was always more of a book worm and certainly didn't care all that much about hair anyway. I still think it's silly how much effort and importance women place on looks and not on developing their minds....

That said, I am happy to learn (finally) what makes my hair happy. What's especially cool about my hair is its versatility. I can blow dry my hair straight (blah, boring) or I can have my hair be anything from flapper waves to corkscrews depending on my mood with very little effort.
My mom wasn't sure if I had very loose waves or curly hair for the longest time when she took care of my hair growing up. The hair around my face would curl but it just seemed that was that. My mom would also use a brush on my hair(!) because where she's from, people don't use products to set their hair or keep in under control.

It wasn't until I was a teenager where I realized I had 3a hair, and lots and lots of ringlets. It was sort of a shock to people for them to see how curly my hair really was.
My sister and I both have curly hair but we're the only ones. My mom has that stick-straight kind of hair that she used to try to curl when she was a kid and the curl would last 5 minutes max. Or the curls on one side would already be falling out by the time she got to the other side. My husband's daughter has the same kind of hair. Actually BOTH his daughters have stick straight hair. All three of my brothers have straight hair and my father did too. My sister's father had curly hair; that's where she got it from. Not sure where I got mine.

Thankfully, my family has always been complimentary toward curly hair.


I'm definitely a "curly" 2c. Sometimes curly and sometimes just wavy upper layer with a ringlety under layer. My hair has been thick and coarse since birth. Strawberry blonde in color that can and does change depending on the type and amount of light.


All in all, I'm happy with my hair type but almost for sure think yours is prettier.
The thing with my mother is not that she dislikes my curls but rather the way I treat them or the very stick together look.
The big put off for her is that I use conditioner to clean my scalp. On a recent gathering one of our friends commented on my curls even though was 3 day hair and a result of a bad flexi rod out she eventually asked what I use to my hair and I said conditioner. They were a bit astonished and the girl's mother asked but does it clean? Pretty confident with my hair I asked her does my hair looks dirty? Does it look bad?
She replied that my hair looked pretty good. So I didn't actually had to add anything to that. Her daughter, our friend has a problem of hair loss because of sudden body loss as it seems to me.

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M/C, High Porosity,Normal Elast. 2c/3a Boticelli/Corkicelli
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M/C, Low/Medium/High Por, Normal Elast. Medium Density
LP: INSIGHT DAMAGED HAIR Restructurizing Shampoo
CO: Generic protein conditioner, Hair Academy Deep Cleansing CO
DET/RO/LI: GNC Avocado And Shea Butter Conditioner +/mask,
Styler: Schwarzkopf Taft Fixing GelWellaflex Instant Volume Boost Mousse
DT: EVOO, C.O

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Goal: WL when curly
CG since Feb 2014
My dad has curls, but greying hair and years of heat and product abuse due to him trying to keep it "straight" have sort of resulted in a long, puffy mess. Both he and my mother think it's "disgusting" that I don't use shampoo.
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I'm not the only curly in my family, but my hair is the curliest. My parents both have straight hair, while my sister has 2a waves. I have naturally 2b/2c hair that I can easily coax into nice curls. My sister has never tried anything with her hair- she's not much of a beauty fan. I just know she could have some nice curls though!
My parents always ask why I use so much product, and are nearly always petting my hair. There is no safe place for my hair in this world, lol.
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I'm the only curly in my entire family, which is why I brushed my hair until I was 16 (I thought my hair was just "wavy"), then I straightened it everyday until 4 years ago I finally found a good routine for my curls.. not having anyone in my family understanding my hair type made it quite difficult to learn how to properly take care of my curls 😊 but now I love my hair and some family members even envy my curls!


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I'm on the same boat as you lol! I'm 15 years old and everyone in my family either has straight hair or wavy hair aka hair that isn't curly! It wasn't until now that I've realized curly hair requires different care. I've always thought it was wash and go- even though my hair could pull it off for a long time. It wasn't until recently that I've learned about things like the curly girl method and how silicones can be bad for you hair. At first I felt weird knowing that there is so much more to curly hair care. But now I'm excited to try out new things and happy I've joined here so I can learn new things. I may not be a curly expert- but I will get there it can be difficult being the only curly in the family as mentioned because there isn't anybody you can really turn to at times lol. But I wouldn't trade my curly hair for anything
wow. Guess I'm the only one who was adopted here!

Although my adoptive father does have 'curly' hair, it is short and easy to manage. Guys definitely have an easier time with curls than guys/girls with long curly hair.. so I don't count him.. haha.
My adoptive mother is mexican italian and has beautiful dark brown hair that are /sort of/ wavy. I have my polynesian frizz and my italian curls!
All aunts from both sides of the family have straight hair and they are all jealous of mine (on the good days at least I guess).

Nice to know there are more people like me who did not grow up with a mom who knew how to deal with the curls.. :x
My sister wanted to curl my hair into those super fake looking ringlets. I indulge her from time to time. When she was doing it, she asked me if I used product in my hair and I really wanted to be like, "Of course I have product in my hair? It can't be this controlled without it."

But that's what happens when you're not a curly head...

My fiance then asked, "You can curl already curly hair with a flat iron?"

And I explained to him that you basically have to straighten it first, which completely negates the purpose of having natural curls.

He then said, "I like natural curls better."

He's a good man.
2C/3A; very, very thick fine to medium hair; low porosity.

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Stylers: Mop Top Curl Custard, Jane Carter's Incredible Curls, Shea Moisture Curl Custard[/FONT]


"Forget not that the earth delights to feel your bare feet and the winds long to play with your hair." -Khalil Gibran
My sister wanted to curl my hair into those super fake looking ringlets. I indulge her from time to time. When she was doing it, she asked me if I used product in my hair and I really wanted to be like, "Of course I have product in my hair? It can't be this controlled without it."

But that's what happens when you're not a curly head...

My fiance then asked, "You can curl already curly hair with a flat iron?"

And I explained to him that you basically have to straighten it first, which completely negates the purpose of having natural curls.

He then said, "I like natural curls better."

He's a good man.
Originally Posted by russianprncss
You can also curl curly hair without having to straighten it! It's basically to make it either tighter or looser, depends which size you use.

my hair for my family is "thin" and "1a straight". Makes me mad because I'm a wavy! I hate it when they give me elvive hairproducts, I too want to enjoy products for curlier hair! And when I define my waves by scrunching it my cousins call me a wannabe curly LOL. Try brushing my hair dry though, it will look like a wavefro!
Decided to go Curly Girl fulltime for a while! Lets see what will happen

Last edited by noodly; 12-25-2014 at 08:09 PM.
Well, now in my family I am the only one curly. As I seen in pictures, my dad was curly, but i have never seen him, he is such an *******!!! He was dating my mom, and when my mom said: "hey, I am pregnant" he replies:"What? I have faimily, wife and children" and he didn't tel my mom that earlier, he was dating her for one year, and forgot to mention that?! So anyway, my mom LOVES my curls, but she never helped me to deal with them, she was always "your hair are so beutiful" but it wasn't.. It was frizzy, not shaped and not soft, and all my life i hated my curls, except now, when i see the difference and I know how to control it.
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I am also the only curly in family. My close and further family have straight hair except dad who is 2a type. So my family really didn't know how to handle with my hair as a kid. And one day they heard a great advice from hairdresser! "Cut all of your girl's hair." Great advice stupid! So I was bald when I had 2 or 3 years. It changed my hair structure and the type was around 2a/2b. Until puberty when my hair started to curl again under hormones. You don't know how happy I was when that happen!
My parents love my curls, mostly because they don't have to handle them anymore.
Even our close family friends don't have curls so my parents really couldn't get any good advice.
I'm not the only person with either waves or curls in my family, but I'm the only one who actually cares for it. My aunt (only been in the family for a couple of years and I rarely see her) has 3c hair, but she doesn't want to deal with it and just cuts it short and keeps it in a sort of frizzy/curly poof. My mom has wavy hair but expects it to look great without any product, and when it doesn't, she just brushes it (hers doesn't frizz out with brushing). Neither of them try to have the full curl potential for their hair, so I had to figure out my hair on my own. Before it was a loose curls/waves until I was 11 or 12 and it became 3b practically overnight. I've only very recently found out what works for my hair.
3b, low porosity, high density, medium hair

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Techniques: Scrunching + Plopping Overnight


I'm the only one who wears my hair curly, my mom has those GORGEOUS ringlets (like major Shirly Temple) but cuts it short for managing easily. But she looks good with it short.. I look like a q-tip. One sister has maybe 2b hair, but doesn't try to manage it, so straightens it. The other is maybe a 1c, so very little wave. For the most part, everyone leaves me alone about my routine, though I get flack for not drying it other than plopping usually. (Like I shower three hours before an event so my hair has time to set and dry before I do anything to my hair)
They seem to forget that some hair just doesn't like being blow dried, and since it takes forever anyways, I never see the point. A plop, usually an hour or two, if possible overnight, is my normal routine.

I do have a cousin with curly hair, but it's so long that it right now is more wavy, and while our hair is about the same length when straight, mine just stays curly and looks much shorter, obviously.
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