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I got called "the bush" too! I also got called "birds nest" and when birds would fly overhead, sure enough some smart aleck (usually male) would say, "Amanda watch out, it might get confused and try to roost in your hair". I wanted to hit them so bad!!!!
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One time I was walking around northern cali and I remember my hair was short and definitely not straight. Anyway this man who happened to be African American came up to me and said, more like yelled "Nice weave" at least thats what I thought I heard. I dont even understand since 1) it wasnt a weave 2) it was short and didnt even look like a weave 3)I didnt even know him

I was just so confused, and I still dont know if I should be insulted by that
I got called "the bush" too! I also got called "birds nest" and when birds would fly overhead, sure enough some smart aleck (usually male) would say, "Amanda watch out, it might get confused and try to roost in your hair". I wanted to hit them so bad!!!!
Originally Posted by Amandacurls
I would've. :P
One time I was walking around northern cali and I remember my hair was short and definitely not straight. Anyway this man who happened to be African American came up to me and said, more like yelled "Nice weave" at least thats what I thought I heard. I dont even understand since 1) it wasnt a weave 2) it was short and didnt even look like a weave 3)I didnt even know him

I was just so confused, and I still dont know if I should be insulted by that
Originally Posted by keikok
I had a guy come up to me at the bar one night and told me he liked my wig or weave or whatever it was. When I told him it was all my real hair, he looked unconvinced. My hair is super thick and length-wise is about mid back.
I got called "the bush" too! I also got called "birds nest" and when birds would fly overhead, sure enough some smart aleck (usually male) would say, "Amanda watch out, it might get confused and try to roost in your hair". I wanted to hit them so bad!!!!
Originally Posted by Amandacurls
I would've. :P
Originally Posted by twistedwhimsy
I so shouldve!!!!
OMG--Unfortunately, I have gotten a ton. Soooo many hurtful, ignorant ones that my husband didn't even know I had curly hair til 10 years into our marriage! (I'm 39)

In fact, HE was the one who finally convinced me to wear my hair curly!

I remember being called "the girl w/ pubic hair on her head" in middle school, Medusa, Woodstock (this one always confused me--still don't get it--is it cuz I look like the bird or a 70's hippie chick??), Puffball (this was by my ex-sister-in-law.

While following me in a car to a wedding, my own sister-in-law said she easily found my car because she could see "Puffball" behind the wheel.

That hurt!
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oh man i've had soo many. when i was in high school i used to roller set my hair and just wear it wavy and this girl used to call it a frizzball...and i was like "at least i have real hair!" haha the girl never wore her natural hair and always relied on wigs and weaves, so i think she was jealous!

and lately, since i've been doing cg and laying off the straightener, my little brother tells me i look like a poodle. or a cocker spaniel. sometimes he doesn't even say anything, he'll just bark when i get in the room. and yesterday he said i should go back to using the straightener cause my hair "looks nappy." i almost slapped him. i know he's my brother and is just trying to annoy me, but it still hurts.
Woodstock (this one always confused me--still don't get it--is it cuz I look like the bird or a 70's hippie chick??)
Originally Posted by tooj68
Maybe they meant that it looked like Roger Daltrey's at Woodstock? If so, I'd take that as a compliment. his hair is lovely

Anyway, for my own insults, my mother once said something like she wonders how I could have friends at school with hair like that.
I think I've heard them all. One guy told me that he wanted to turn me upside down and dip my head in paint and use my hair to spongepaint his house. That kinda hurt, and my friends still laugh about it. Just last week someone told me I had a "Jew-fro", I thought that kinda sucked. When I was little my Mom would keep it short because it was so hard to manage, so of course the kids called me "Little Orphan Annie".

But I try to look on the bright side of things. Now I (usually) gets lots of compliments, and it takes less than ten minutes to do my hair. I only was it every other day, and when I wake up in the morning, it looks pretty much the same as it did as the night before. So that takes me about 2 minutes to do my hair then!
Wow, it's crazy to hear how many negative comments everyone has gotten! The only time I was 'teased' about my hair was when I was younger. My mom didn't know how to manage my curliness and would just french braid it. By the end of the day it would be a huge mess so my brother and sister would call me 'chia-pet.' I do remember going to get my hair done probably 4 or 5 years ago and the hairdresser was overwhelmed (I had super long hair at that time, straightened it would be 5-6 inches past my shoulders). He had no clue what to do when he was straightening it after my cut. He was like, "wow, you have A LOT of hair, you must hate it!" I just rolled my eyes and ignored him. Every other stylist i've been to has been jealous of my hair, though. Too bad they don't know how to style it and always want to put mousse in my hair and fluff it up after they are done. No, no! Keep your fingers out of my hair.
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I think I've heard them all. One guy told me that he wanted to turn me upside down and dip my head in paint and use my hair to spongepaint his house. That kinda hurt, and my friends still laugh about it. Just last week someone told me I had a "Jew-fro", I thought that kinda sucked. When I was little my Mom would keep it short because it was so hard to manage, so of course the kids called me "Little Orphan Annie".

But I try to look on the bright side of things. Now I (usually) gets lots of compliments, and it takes less than ten minutes to do my hair. I only was it every other day, and when I wake up in the morning, it looks pretty much the same as it did as the night before. So that takes me about 2 minutes to do my hair then!
Originally Posted by toots99
how old were those people? those sound like things a 5 year old would say, i cant believe that a grown man would say that crap
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Maybe I was lucky?

My acne was worse looking than my frizzy hair, so I heard more pimple-face remarks than frizzy ones. It didn't matter, because between the frizzy/curly hair, the acne and my flat chest someone was always making fun of me or picking on me or bullying me. I couldn't wait to get out of high school. When I was older, I did my best to straighten my hair (never chemically, though). In the late fall and winter (and on rare non-humid days in spring and summer) I always looked great--smooth shiny dark hair. But in the summer? Bummer. There were just no options then.

Finally, GE came out with the first hair straightening tool...saved the day for me. There was NOTHING you could even put in your hair to keep if from frizzing then, so even if you straightened it out, if it rained or the humidity went above 68%, you were screwed. Yes, many comments from school days remain hurtful and affect our self esteem for years to come. This is sad, but unfortunately true. I think now that I am one-year short of a 1/2 a century old, I'm gonna go for the wild look. I think I can pull it off. We'll see.
I think I've heard them all. One guy told me that he wanted to turn me upside down and dip my head in paint and use my hair to spongepaint his house. That kinda hurt, and my friends still laugh about it. Just last week someone told me I had a "Jew-fro", I thought that kinda sucked. When I was little my Mom would keep it short because it was so hard to manage, so of course the kids called me "Little Orphan Annie".

But I try to look on the bright side of things. Now I (usually) gets lots of compliments, and it takes less than ten minutes to do my hair. I only was it every other day, and when I wake up in the morning, it looks pretty much the same as it did as the night before. So that takes me about 2 minutes to do my hair then!
Originally Posted by toots99
how old were those people? those sound like things a 5 year old would say, i cant believe that a grown man would say that crap
Originally Posted by keikok
Oh they were grown men alright!
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Ugh...People whispering that, "She must not wash her hair", "She looks like a lion", "a witch", was known as "the girl with the frizzy hair"(even though it wasn't even frizzy at the time, just curly!)",...and people would throw to throw stuff in my hair sometimes.

Really hurtful stuff.

Now I love my hair, and I know it's beautiful.
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I think I've heard them all. One guy told me that he wanted to turn me upside down and dip my head in paint and use my hair to spongepaint his house. That kinda hurt, and my friends still laugh about it. Just last week someone told me I had a "Jew-fro", I thought that kinda sucked. When I was little my Mom would keep it short because it was so hard to manage, so of course the kids called me "Little Orphan Annie".

But I try to look on the bright side of things. Now I (usually) gets lots of compliments, and it takes less than ten minutes to do my hair. I only was it every other day, and when I wake up in the morning, it looks pretty much the same as it did as the night before. So that takes me about 2 minutes to do my hair then!
Originally Posted by toots99
how old were those people? those sound like things a 5 year old would say, i cant believe that a grown man would say that crap
Originally Posted by keikok
With some men is there any difference?
oh man i've had soo many. when i was in high school i used to roller set my hair and just wear it wavy and this girl used to call it a frizzball...and i was like "at least i have real hair!" haha the girl never wore her natural hair and always relied on wigs and weaves, so i think she was jealous!
Yeah, it's really dumb when girls make fun of your hair when theirs is relaxed and fried, and their natural texture is kinkier than yours. It's like you're jeslous because you know how to take care of your hair and they don't.
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Very similar experiences to a lot of you. Hair kept short to make it easier to manage and got called a boy. Then in 6th-7th grade I was "Brillo head" and boy did I ever hate when Annie the movie came out (especially because my name is very similar to Annie to boot). To this day I want to backhand anyone who sings "The Sun Will Come Out Tomorrow"
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Very similar experiences to a lot of you. Hair kept short to make it easier to manage and got called a boy. Then in 6th-7th grade I was "Brillo head" and boy did I ever hate when Annie the movie came out (especially because my name is very similar to Annie to boot). To this day I want to backhand anyone who sings "The Sun Will Come Out Tomorrow"
Originally Posted by anadandy
Yeah, these guys used to try to get me to sing Shirley Temple songs, and if I wouldn't they would, I wanted to hit them!
I can think of a few.

I remember when I was in a private kindergarten school and our counselor had taken us out to the yard for us to draw still life. We all sat on a bench with our drawing books and found something to draw. One girl beside me with pin straight hair, absolutely NO volume whatsoever flipped a page on her notebook and showed me a picture of a girl with very big poofy curly hair. She said, "I drew you and your nasty hair!"

I cryed all day after that. I remember when I was going to a new private school 4th grade and I had pulled my hair back in a ponytail. When I had found my teacher and sat down at class a girl behind me took out my ponytail and cut a big peice of my hair off. She said, "I hate your hair." Of course she got in trouble but it hurt.

One time that stuck with me till this day was when, I was finishing some homework and I was getting ready to pull my hair back and my brother said "Don't bother." I looked at him confused and he replied with "It doesn't matter what you do with hair, it ALWAYS looks frizzy and ugly. Kids at school say i'm the nasty girl's brother all because of your hair! It's all your fault. I wish you would die."

It hurt me a lot. Of course my brother was having trouble with teasing too because of my hair but I felt ugly unloved and unwanted.

But recently I love my hair to death! And when people say 'i cant see because of your hair' i say thanks and think of it as a compliment like saying your hair is so wild, big and volumized i cant see past the shiny curls.

I still get the odd comment that hurts me a little, but once I appreciate my hair i get 30 more comments that make me feel beautiful. I love the straighties that always tell me im lucky and they'd give anything at all to have my curls.

Because I know if I lost my curls, i'd be devastated.
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Gosh lemme see -I have so many but a few I have to look back at and laugh.

Here's one: I use to do dual living (live in 2 countries) anyway one spring I chopped off my hair and I was in Miami for summer. I decided I needed the ends trimmed because it was growing out. Went to a stylist my aunt recommended - well when i was in the salon she said " what are you trying to do"
I was like " just the ends please, I am growing it out"
she then said " honey, your type of hair wont grow long so we should just put the clippers to it "

OMG I was sooo shocked. I couldnt even say anything, I got up and left.

I went back almost a year later, saw the same woman (obviously she had forgotten me) in the same salon. By this time my hair was like chin length - almost shoulder touching. My name came up, she glanced at me and said "we dont cut weaves"
Then I had to "educate her "...not like there is anything wrong if you have a weave but this woman was obviously ignorant ...
I reminded her of my initial visit and showed her had I listened to her I would have had short hair if I didnt know any better - I had to put her in her place and it was not pretty or soft spoken - that was one of the few times in my life I ever caused a scene !!!!
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