hurtful comments people've made about your hair

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I thought I had it bad as a curly kid! I remember my parents and grandparents tyring to 'brush' the curl out. It was horrible, but I guess with them having straight hair, they had no idea the damage it was doing.

I also used to brush my hair straight ( or so I thought!!!) and inevitably, it would frizz. My hair was long too, past my bra strap, so it was really poofy! The Christmas of my 6th grade year, my grandparents bought me some boots that I had been wanting. I wore those things proudly... until one of my best friends starting calling me 'Boot Scootin' Frizzy'!!! That was around the time that Brooks & Dunn came out with the Boot Scootin Boogy song. It was horrible! We laugh about it now, but it hurt then!

By eighth grade, I realized that I shouldnt brush my hair, so I wet it in the mornings and poured gel in it. For a few years, I had hair that was so stiff that I could move one hair and a whole section would move! That was a crazy time too

Now though, I get compliments all the time, nearly on a daily basis and I love it. There is a woman in my office who has pretty red, straight hair. When anyone compliments her on the color, she always responds with 'You cant get this from a box' kind of in a condescending way. She got her hair permed about a year ago and told me 'I wanted my curls to look like yours' and I promptly responded with 'You cant get this from a box!' It was great
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I thought I had it bad as a curly kid! I remember my parents and grandparents tyring to 'brush' the curl out. It was horrible, but I guess with them having straight hair, they had no idea the damage it was doing.

I also used to brush my hair straight ( or so I thought!!!) and inevitably, it would frizz. My hair was long too, past my bra strap, so it was really poofy! The Christmas of my 6th grade year, my grandparents bought me some boots that I had been wanting. I wore those things proudly... until one of my best friends starting calling me 'Boot Scootin' Frizzy'!!! That was around the time that Brooks & Dunn came out with the Boot Scootin Boogy song. It was horrible! We laugh about it now, but it hurt then!

By eighth grade, I realized that I shouldnt brush my hair, so I wet it in the mornings and poured gel in it. For a few years, I had hair that was so stiff that I could move one hair and a whole section would move! That was a crazy time too

Now though, I get compliments all the time, nearly on a daily basis and I love it. There is a woman in my office who has pretty red, straight hair. When anyone compliments her on the color, she always responds with 'You cant get this from a box' kind of in a condescending way. She got her hair permed about a year ago and told me 'I wanted my curls to look like yours' and I promptly responded with 'You cant get this from a box!' It was great
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I have half-natural/half-relaxed hair. All short and natural in the back and five to six inches of relaxed hair in the front. I straighten it with a flat iron, but that doesn't last long.
So, not more than a few weeks ago, I'm walking down my HS hallway with my poofy but kind of straight hair. And this group of people (black, like I am, btw) are kind of directly in my path. And one of the boys says, "Dayum, that girl sho does need a perm!" And everyone standing in that group starts laughing.
I'm not sure if that hurt me, exactly, but it is annoying and discouraging when it comes to wanting to go fully natural.
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All through school, people would call me Shirley Temple. Every time I had my picture made in high school, the photographers would call me that and try to touch my hair, my neck, everything else. I really hated it!!
There were two guys in my geography class who would try to get me to sing Shirley Temple songs. They were only kidding, but it really drove me crazy.
Omg how do I begin?
First off- I'm so glad I'm not the only on in the world whose been used and abused just beacuse of my hair.
I have flashbacks sometimes of my mum chasing me round the house weilding a brush, screaming "If you don't sort that birdsnest out, we'll get it all cut off!!" And that's what happened.....all my gorgeous blonde curls left to the floor of the hairdressers.....SOB
My hair became darker as I got older, and FRIZZIER!!! I have been called "The Mop", "bushy" and been used as a duster on a number of occassions. A fun classroom game was "how many pieces of stationary can you hide in the curly girl's hair?" (I have to admit this one was pretty fun)
I have been told I have "Festival hair" (???) and also that i look like Slash out of the Guns n Roses.....

About two years ago i went through a faze of gelling my hair down so bad it looked like I had permenent helmet hair....
I'm still on the quest for the pefect product regime....

Much as a hate them sometimes, I wouldn't trade my curls for the world!!
I've gotten "it's like a sheep" a lot.
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I've already posted about my hair history. My mom has said that my hair has to look "nice," meaning smooth and perfect. She's also said that I used to have beautiful wavy hair, but then I hit puberty and it went poof, and she gives me such a look, as if my hair became ugly once it became curly.

Strangely enough, when I went curly, whether on purpose at 16 or by humidity before then, I got compliments right and left. I guess that's the revenge of the curly hair
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I cut my hair really short with layers in when I started in year 9 and I originally thought it looked quite cute. But then this girl in the year above started picking on me about it. Her first comment (on my birthday) was "you should straighten your hair". Then there were the occasional pointing and laughing. One day, we had a lighting and theatre effects guy come in and he had these puppets. The girl who did all the above then remarked that I looked like one of the puppets (who was an ugly, red-headed frizzy haired witch- am not saying that red hair is ugly because I actually love it (it's so pretty)) and then proceded to stick chewing gum in my hair which my mum had to cut out.

Last year, a different girl stuck a massive lump of pritt stick in my hair.

The teasing has died down now so it doesn't bother me so much now. I do get the occasional name calling (like the generally horrible girl who called me "frizzy maguire" (which to be honest was definately more original than the other names).


And all of those girls that I told you about- all of them had straight hair. Coincidence? I think not...
I cut my hair really short with layers in when I started in year 9 and I originally thought it looked quite cute. But then this girl in the year above started picking on me about it. Her first comment (on my birthday) was "you should straighten your hair". Then there were the occasional pointing and laughing. One day, we had a lighting and theatre effects guy come in and he had these puppets. The girl who did all the above then remarked that I looked like one of the puppets (who was an ugly, red-headed frizzy haired witch- am not saying that red hair is ugly because I actually love it (it's so pretty)) and then proceded to stick chewing gum in my hair which my mum had to cut out.

Last year, a different girl stuck a massive lump of pritt stick in my hair.

The teasing has died down now so it doesn't bother me so much now. I do get the occasional name calling (like the generally horrible girl who called me "frizzy maguire" (which to be honest was definately more original than the other names).


And all of those girls that I told you about- all of them had straight hair. Coincidence? I think not...
Originally Posted by nuttybutter
You're getting this sort of treatment in Year 9 of school? Wow, those girls need to GROW UP in my opinion. They seriously need to think of something better to do with their lives than to tease someone with hair that's different from theirs.

And purposely sticking gum in your hair? I can't believe someone would do that to another person. I think your mom should've informed her parents for doing that to you. That's just completely uncalled for.

I think deep down they're just jealous. And they probably need to bully others just to make themselves feel good.

I was teased a lot growing up, and I know it's hard. But the best advice I could give you is to ignore it. Don't react to it. Don't even say a word to them. Once they realized that they won't get any reactions from you, they'll eventually back off.
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I have to shake my head when I read about people getting upset about being called "Annie" or "Shirley Temple." Because if that had happened to me? It would have been a compliment -- compared to what I DID get called.

Although it feels like I've had curly hair forever, I didn't. As I've gotten older, my hair has gotten darker and curlier (when I was little, I was a tow-head with poker-straight hair). At 11, I made the mistake of getting what was basically a "mullet" cut (although that's not what they called it at the time). Short on the top and sides, long at the back. (Hey, what do you want from me? It WAS 1987, after all!) I didn't realize that getting my hair cut THAT short was going to make it curl like crazy. Going to school like that was torture. One boy, John, looked at me and asked me "if I throw you up on the ceiling, will you stick?" (The school had textured ceilings at the time.) For years after that, I was called velcro head. As well as pubic hair, nappyhead (and I look whiter than a sheet!), afro-head, fuzzball, frizzy lizzy, and a whole slew of other names that I can't even remember. It didn't help that my grandmother didn't know what to do with my hair. She was never mean about it, just completely clueless. She would rip a brush through it (and when I say rip, that's because that's what it felt like) and couldn't understand why it frizzed out instead of curling back up again. She has very thin straight hair that she has always had in a perm, so it's not like she hated my curls or anything.

I always got the "why don't you blow/iron your hair straight?" remarks as well. Why? Because my hair doesn't DO straight. When I was 13, I got one of those styling irons that had the interchangable plates. Crimping, waving, and straightening plates. I spent countless hours trying to get my hair to go straight, and all it did was go straight OUT. I kid you not, my hair would be completely straight across at the top of my head. I always longed for straight hair but learned at a very young age that it just wasn't going to happen. So I ended up doing the gel thing, having crunchy hair. I didn't like that very much either, but it was better than having all that frizz and giving people even more ammunition to torture me with (I was the bullies' favorite target at school).

Now, like a lot of you, I get all sorts of compliments. I can't even remember when the last time was that somebody put me down because of my hair. But they hurt, and they've stayed with me, even if it was 20 years ago.
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I've heard SOOO many rude comments about my hair. People are so mean. I'm biracial(german & black) and my hair is SOO curly. In elementary school(In high school now) kids were soo horrible. They've made too many comments to remember, but they sure did stick with me. All the guys rejected me because of my "messed up hair"
my sisters both have naturally straight hair & they gang up on my curls
Today I recieved my first hurtful comment on my hair. And surprisingly it was made by a good friend of mine.
We were sitting in class(i'm still in highschool) and all of a sudden she grabs some of my hair and says,"You should let me take a flat iron to this." and then she started rubbing it between her fingers to make it more frizzy then it already was. I mean, I had already been having a bad hair day/week and then she goes and tells me that. I still cant believe that she said to me. I would have rather her say it behind my back then to my face for me to hear. Guess im just ranting b/c I usually get compliments on my hair, not disses. But the good comments deff. out weight the bad so I think i'll get over it...
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I can understand the bs everyone went through at high school. Just before I started I had my hair cut really really short, and fair enough it was a bad cut, (though not awful) but from my first day at high school I got badly bullied about it. Im talking about one group of nasty people name calling, which progressed onto most of the class, until in my second year I would have the older years, people I had never met and didn't know, joining in. Seriously scary and upsetting for a 11/12 year old to handle. I had things like people putting pencils in my hair, 'because they stayed!' Chewing gum, sweets people had had in their mouths, I even had someone put a cigarette in my hair they had just been smoking. Luckily my parents moved me out of there at the end of my second year, but I still suffer from self-consciousness, in particular about my hair, which took the rest of high school to try and grow out.

Anyone on this board, if you are still at school and getting comments/bullying about your hair (or anything else), try not to let them get to you. They are just pathetic feeble minded brats, once they go out into the real world, no one will give a s**t about them or what they say, believe me they will soon be brought down to size.
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i had a lot of the usuall things - do you ever brush your hair, why is it so messy, things like that.

I had really short hair when i was younger too, barely long enough to braid and the teacher was like, why don't you braid your hair?

But in many ways I guess I am lucky, because I realized pretty early that shampooing once a week was enough and I didn't use a brush on my hair (mostly because I didn't like it how a brush felt in my hair). I didn't know anything about CG treatment and or why my hair was always so tangled. I would untangle it and 10 minutes later it was fully tangled again. very depressing.
...but my brother used to tell me I looked like a mop.
In high school, a friend told me I probably get my hair cut with a weed whacker!
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1) preschool, we were playing with balloons. what fun. then our teacher showed us staic electricy, by rubbing a balloon against her hair. so me and my friends had fun plastering balloon to eachother. out of no where, a stright-haired child came up and rubbed her balloon against my hair. i asked what was that for? her reply...because your hair is aready messed up and i didn't want my hair to look THAT bad. needless to say, my friends had to hold me back from kicking her.

2) grammar school...i don't know how many times the word 'fro' was used to describe my 3a curls. there were way too many insults to post here.

3) middle school, where i still am now...but 9th grade next year! there's this person in my homeroom who is always saying that i should flat-iron my curls to make the 'beautiful'. now why would i want to do that?

i remember i was always jelous of my older sister who had pretty stright hair (slight wave in it, like a cross between 1 and 2a) and i uesd to cry over it! i actually did the unthinkable...wish for stright hair. thank God THAT wish never came true. still working on the wish for green eyes up there...?

edit:

i've gotten LOADS of complenments lately from my friends...
'can i bong your hair?'
'i LOVE your curls...'
ect
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Last edited by stargazer; 05-15-2008 at 01:28 PM.
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The other day I made the comment, "Man, my hair is frizzy today!" to which my 4 year old son matter-of-factly replied, "You look good in frizzy hair, Mom!"

Gotta love kids!

I think the rudest comments have come from stylists who want to thin or texturize it to "get it under control!" One even said I've got great hair, but it can start to look like a helmet after awhile. I guess it didn't help that at the time I really didn't know how to work with my crazy waves! Glad to be here!!
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