hurtful comments people've made about your hair

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I thought I was the only one that heard all of this. I heard just about everything, including "you stuck your finger in a light socket". It bothered me then and it still bothers me. I like my curls most of the time anyway. But because of the comments, I too and still so very self conscious of the curls and try everything to tame them and be "straight". I am hoping by joining this site I will find a great cut for my hair/face and find products that will help.
Wow I read a lot of your comments and, I must say I'm shocked how people can make you guys feel down because of your hair (esspecially when you were at school)

When I was 11 my hair was awfully frizzy and Iused to get called 'frizzy' all the time and it used to upset me a lot, and I just wanted to have straight hair so badly! Everyone used to tell me to straighten it or get it cut. With time those comments stopped though.

Im 15 and at school, and get a lot of 'bush'/'sheep' comments but I don't worry about them. I even happen to say "dont touch my bush" if someone is playing with it too much xD For some reason I don't think it's that offensive. It was so cute one day... this boy just randomly storked my hair and said he loved it because it was like a sheep! Since then I stopped minding what people say of my hair. As long as I like it, its fine.

I hope that if anyone who's still at school and gets stupid comments about their hair they will be strong and stand up for themselves. It's only just hair after all.
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one of the worst comments i got was from the most beautiful in the school. i had been experiment with diffusing when i was 15 and turned my hair into a big poofy disaster, so i put it in an emergency ponytail, at school i took my elastic out for a sec t reajust my ponytail and she pointed and said "your hair!" and then bust out laughing. i laughed it off, but it stung.

The worst critic on my hair though has always been me.
I remember my church friends in highschool used to say things about my hair, but I can't remember anything specific. By that point, I just thought they were jealous, one had stick straight hair and the other had very fine, never frizzy wavy hair.

I can't imagine being ridiculed in school for your hair, I was homeschooled and I have just started coming to the realization of what I missed out on in public school.
I'm glad I'm not alone.
Ever since I was younger, I had always been self-concious about having curly hair.Everyone made fun of me for it.I'd yearn for striaght hair...PRAY FOR IT.
yesh. I was one of those, "straightjackets"


I'm in highschool[senior] right now, where straight hair is "It" and curly hair... IS unwanted.

for a while, I used to straighten my hair all the time[like from 8th grade to my junior year in highschool]

I remember one time in 8th grade,I wore my hair curly for the day. the guy i had a crush on ,we were fighting [about something school related] and as a comeback, he stated:
"well, at least i don't have a birds nest of a hair like yours."

that really tore me up inside.


just last April, my flatiorn broke. before it broke, I promised myself I'd never straighten my hair again.

well, it's december. and so far, haven't touched one since.

people always tell me that i'd look prettier with straight hair. That pissses me off! It's like, "what, you'd like me better if I wore myself and acted a certain way? because that's what your asking me to do."

Jezz. It's not like I tell you how to wear your hair ever damn morning. so stop telling me what to do!
one of the worst comments i got was from the most beautiful in the school. i had been experiment with diffusing when i was 15 and turned my hair into a big poofy disaster, so i put it in an emergency ponytail, at school i took my elastic out for a sec t reajust my ponytail and she pointed and said "your hair!" and then bust out laughing. i laughed it off, but it stung.

The worst critic on my hair though has always been me.
Originally Posted by RIOT_GRRRL

same here. I always feel like I can take care of my curls better, and strive to just do that.
I guess that's just the perfectionist in me. ^_^
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There are about..10? 7? Non-Caucasian/Native Amreican/Asian people in my town. I'm black and white, so I should hush xD

That aside, I think I must live in a nasty town. At least once a year, my hair is compared to pubic hair, very loudly, preferrably in a crowd of my classmates. I'm a sophmore now, but in junior high that was ALL I heard.
"Dam, someone get a mower and trim that bush." and so on. That literally destroyed what remaining self-confidence/etc I had. (I'm in tears right now! The screen's blurry. )
Combine that with my (unrelated to curls) naturally anorexic'like skinniness, and you've got me.
Of course, now i hear "OMFG, you should LIKE, TOTALLy get A FRO! And stick a COMB IN IT! It would be SO COOOOOOOL" a ton.
And the endless touchings. Jesus Christ. Touch yourself, you [expletive deleted]. You think it's so alike!
Also, no more poodles. I do not compare you to dogs, so do not compare me.

Meh, I feel better now. There's nothing like a good rant!

Last edited by Sublimination; 12-17-2008 at 10:00 PM. Reason: Spellcheck, dahling.
I'm a red head and most of my compliments are in regards to my hair. People used to say things like "I love your hair" "Your hair is gorgeous" "I wish I had your hair" "You have the most beautiful hair I've ever seen" etc etc. Nice right? Well those compliments were prior to embracing my curly hair see I blow dryed my hair with a round brush up until 7 months ago. Now the compliments are more specific "I love your hair color" "I wish I had your hair color" and so on. The focus was always on my hair color, texture, and thickness now the majority clearly see only the color as a desirable thing. I know they don't realize their compliment indirectly insults me. No matter I'm keeping my curls and people can continue to only like my hair for it's color until my hair turns gray.
I bet some of you red heads can vouch for this type of experience, right?
The latest, "Cant you fix that thing" my grandmother looking at my hair...obviously we dont get along
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I didnt mind my hair being called a bush untill someone said to me

"You look like you have been dragged through a bush backwards, but the bush stayed with you"

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the worst thing for me is when someone comes up to you on what you KNOW is a bad hair day and does the "oooh, I lovveee your hair!!" thing. Other than that... people I know know enough to let my hair be.
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I've actually had a so called "friend" but her fingers thru my hair and act like it got stuck.

She'd be like "why don't you just DO SOMETHING with that?" Of course she was refering to my hair.

She'd talk all the time about me breaking combs in my hair.

Needless to say. We don't talk anymore.
I've actually had a so called "friend" but her fingers thru my hair and act like it got stuck.

She'd be like "why don't you just DO SOMETHING with that?" Of course she was refering to my hair.

She'd talk all the time about me breaking combs in my hair.

Needless to say. We don't talk anymore.
Originally Posted by SephirothsChild15
That is nooooooo friend. That is a fiend. You are better off without her.
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i've received a lot of horrible comments about my hair over the years. (I just started college.) From 2nd grade to 7th grade my mother who has naturally straight hair did not know how to take care of curly hair. She thought it looked "ratty" and "knotty" when it wasn't brushed so she always made me brush it for all those years. It was a poofy, huge, mess until I think 8th grade. Kids would tease me about my hair, before that. And i know now, thank godd, that you aren't supposed to brush curly hair but in my defense, a few kids with straight hair probably just rolled out of bed. i actually took the time to brush my hair every morning.

Anyhow, the worst comments came from everyone for years. I've had a few classmates tell me my hair looked like dog hair. I've had a guy be like, "What the f**k is on her head?" (And i was little, not even in highschool yet.) I started hanging out with friends in 7th grade at later hours gradually (just from like 7pm-10pm), and one time i was standing in front of a light and someone driving by yelled "Transvestite". (i think i was wearing high heels but i'm obviously a girl, and i was only twelve or thirteen at the time.)

there's probably a lot more, but i can't really remember them all right now. I think having curly hair definently makes you stronger, in some ways. It's not a bad thing, but some people just aren't used to it.
There are about..10? 7? Non-Caucasian/Native Amreican/Asian people in my town. I'm black and white, so I should hush xD

That aside, I think I must live in a nasty town. At least once a year, my hair is compared to pubic hair, very loudly, preferrably in a crowd of my classmates. I'm a sophmore now, but in junior high that was ALL I heard.
"Dam, someone get a mower and trim that bush." and so on. That literally destroyed what remaining self-confidence/etc I had. (I'm in tears right now! The screen's blurry. )
Combine that with my (unrelated to curls) naturally anorexic'like skinniness, and you've got me.
Of course, now i hear "OMFG, you should LIKE, TOTALLy get A FRO! And stick a COMB IN IT! It would be SO COOOOOOOL" a ton.
And the endless touchings. Jesus Christ. Touch yourself, you [expletive deleted]. You think it's so alike!
Also, no more poodles. I do not compare you to dogs, so do not compare me.

Meh, I feel better now. There's nothing like a good rant!
Originally Posted by Sublimination
Me toooo!!!!!!! I forgot about those comments!!!! In 9th grade, my hair was always compared to pubic hair. now i can only think nasty thoughts about all of them.
Ok so here's my list:

Shockwave
Bozo the clown
you look like you stuck your finger in a light socket
Andre the giants sister
poodle
my sister used to tell me my hair felt and looked like wires.

I used to get it really bad and like most of you I was really sensative about my hair, because it was so different looking.
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I have heard several things over the years:

My identical twin and I were the "afro twins."
My cousin used to say "Why do the twins have such big hair?"
My aunt told me my hair was "too severe." (?? what ??)
People still see our pictures from childhood and say "Why did your mom let you out of the house like that?"
I used to hate my curls and longed for the long straight shiny thick hair.

My mother was at a loss when it came to our hair.. she has always loved our curls, but back in the late 70s and in the 80s, there weren't as many good products to use. Also, stylists didn't 'know' how to cut us and play up our strengths.
Nowadays, I CONSTANTLY get compliments on my hair. Even on my bad hair days someone usually says something nice.

I consider myself lucky to have this hair now and never again willl I relax my hair. (I had it relaxed for a couple years and let it grow out in 2003.)
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Borned and raised in SoCal was great, except that our PE class was swimming. It was the 80's and I was coping with my curls as best as possible, pulling them back into a barrett and letting my hair air dry. I was so confused, I went from glossy waves to Brady Perm overnight once puberty hit. The only thing I knew was, don't get my hair wet! But, naturally, I had to take the mandatory swimming PE class. I just remember dragging my feet to my next class, math, and sitting down with tears in my eyes, knowing that my hair was expanding as I sat there. I could hear snickering behind, and then one of the guys said to his buddy, "what the hell happened to her hair. She was cute." Talk about a crusher. I have the last laugh now. Its BSL curly and auburn. I get more compliments now than ever. Eat your heart out, but don't take the swimming class.
I had always straightened my hair either chemically or kept it super short because of all the hurtful comments-they do seem to stick with you! Then my 6 year old neice who had hair to her waist cut it all off to her chin to donate to 'Locks of Love'. Her hair got really wavy. She seemed really sad one day and told me she was being teased at school because of her hair. She wants to look like her Polly Pockets who all have 'smooth hair'. I decided that day to not straighten my hair anymore-I want her to be proud of who she is and love the way she looks NOT hate it. It was very very hard for me and I cried alot when I first let it just go natural. All those pent up emotions from all the teasing would come pouring out. It's like all those nasty things were being said again 'Your hair isn't even frizzy its so far past that its fizzy!' Or at boarding school always being told to 'Do something to that hair!' and other hurtfull things boys said.
Most days now I'm proud of my hair! I hope my neice is too! Its been 1 1/2 years of naturally curly and the one time I straightened it during that time my fiancee begged me to please put it back to being curly. I want to be me-curls and all.

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