hurtful comments people've made about your hair

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Haha Rizzo, I got the SAME thing last time I walked into the salon! They were looking at me like I was crazy bcuz I told them I didn't want to use shampoo I just wanted a cut, no blow dry, flat iron, or sitting under the drier with some rollos lol. I walked outta there looking like a troll doll LOL
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Outside of the "Ugh, it's so thick! It takes too much product to relax! It's wild" I got in my creamy crack years...even stylists threatening to charge me double because I so much of their lovely caustic whale ji-- I mean, relaxer-- I remember trying to wear my hair out and curly one morning to go to school and my Grandmother shrieking at me that she "wasn't going to let me go outside with my hair looking like that". The messed up thing: she was natural herself! Always rocked the TWA for as long as I can remember her when she was alive.

Then her and my mom would fry it with a straightening comb, tear half of it out ruthlessly with fine toothed combed (and call me "tender headed" when I cried at my hair being torn out of my head ) and then would stand back in horror if their actions activated the beast of bounty. I used to have hair to my thighs when they would straighten it. And then they got to relaxing it.

Ohhhh how I wish that would never have happened. But I guess they were all washed into that black beauty standard.
Just today, a straightened-curly was showing curly pictures to a particularly womanizing a-hole coworker. She said, "I used to have super curly hair, look!" The a-hole's response- "okay, let's see how bad it was." I said, "curly hair isn't BAD." He replied-"in moderation!" I told him to MODERATE THIS: pulled out my scrunchie, filled my head over and fluffed my beautiful curls. Wore them out for the rest of the shift. 17- count them- 17!! Unsolicited compliments from coworkers and patients. I LOVE my curls

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One day when I was still in high school, my hair was a big thick poof pulled back into a ponytail. It didn't look bad, I had just washed my hair the night before and let it dry overnight. My dad saw me and said "Asia what the hell is going on with your head? Do you need to go to the hair salon? Just let me now, I'll take you. (He said this while touching my poof like it was some unholy creature)" I was shocked and my feelings were hurt. But, what perplexed me is that his wife is all about natural hair.Soooo how does he feel about her? He's gonna freak when he finds out I'm transitioning to the other side.

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Alittle bit of background on this one. My mom is black, white, Cherokee; my daddy was Cuban/Italian.
My half sister,whose ten years my senior, is black and Cherokee on her dads side.

Last week I was doin her makeup and she mentions to me she'd rather I'd wear my hair back in my wigs. That I looks more feminim and beautiful in them, not so butch.
That hurt... It hurt because it went from a cultural hair comment to a looks comment, and then what I perceived to be a sexuality comment.
I love my curls, and she herself has always made comments on my "good", "thick", "curly" hair vs her "thin", "course", "frizzy" hair.
I then mentioned the comment she made to mom, in more of a need for validation... She said she agreed but what I decided for my hair was what I decided.
It stung a bit.
Especially when I get my curly hair from her and my dad.
Alittle bit of background on this one. My mom is black, white, Cherokee; my daddy was Cuban/Italian.
My half sister,whose ten years my senior, is black and Cherokee on her dads side.

Last week I was doin her makeup and she mentions to me she'd rather I'd wear my hair back in my wigs. That I looks more feminim and beautiful in them, not so butch.
That hurt... It hurt because it went from a cultural hair comment to a looks comment, and then what I perceived to be a sexuality comment.
I love my curls, and she herself has always made comments on my "good", "thick", "curly" hair vs her "thin", "course", "frizzy" hair.
I then mentioned the comment she made to mom, in more of a need for validation... She said she agreed but what I decided for my hair was what I decided.
It stung a bit.
Especially when I get my curly hair from her and my dad.
Originally Posted by curlycubana87
Um, no offense but maybe your family needs to broaden their horizons and definition of sexy. Ever since I started rocking my natural curls I get more men than ever, and they always tell me how much they appreciate how "real" I am. (Everything on me I grew myself.) Maybe it's cuz I'm comfortable in my skin and with the hair God gave me but my curls set me apart from the crowd. I've been called down right exotic before (which is funny cuz that's just how my hair grows! ) and it's always been a confidence booster. So I say to you, soft curls are feminine. Even more so than str8 hair.

I mean, think about it. Colis and kinks are curvy just like volumptuous (sp?) women when are, and aren't we back in? Curly hair is untamed and sensual for all its dips and twists. Str8 hair kinda corresponds back to when the waif-look was in, i.e. stick straight and boring. Next time remind your fam of that cuz wigs are never sexy, even if Beyonce (who I adore) wears them. They're just cheap, itchy imitations and only hide your natural beauty so you can conform to this (i.e american) society's standard of beauty. Do you girl and be proud doing so!
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Um, no offense but maybe your family needs to broaden their horizons and definition of sexy. Ever since I started rocking my natural curls I get more men than ever, and they always tell me how much they appreciate how "real" I am. (Everything on me I grew myself.) Maybe it's cuz I'm comfortable in my skin and with the hair God gave me but my curls set me apart from the crowd. I've been called down right exotic before (which is funny cuz that's just how my hair grows! ) and it's always been a confidence booster. So I say to you, soft curls are feminine. Even more so than str8 hair.

I mean, think about it. Colis and kinks are curvy just like volumptuous (sp?) women when are, and aren't we back in? Curly hair is untamed and sensual for all its dips and twists. Str8 hair kinda corresponds back to when the waif-look was in, i.e. stick straight and boring. Next time remind your fam of that cuz wigs are never sexy, even if Beyonce (who I adore) wears them. They're just cheap, itchy imitations and only hide your natural beauty so you can conform to this (i.e american) society's standard of beauty. Do you girl and be proud doing so! [/QUOTE]

Thanks for the encouragement! I work in the beauty industry and after seeing all the fakeness I've grown comfy in my realness. Not knocking my wig girls, as some days we all need a different hair hat
What really annoys me is when people put paper or other stuff in my hair and thinks it's flipping hilarious. But the worst part is when nobody tells me i have something in my hair so I walk around all day like that
Just today, a straightened-curly was showing curly pictures to a particularly womanizing a-hole coworker. She said, "I used to have super curly hair, look!" The a-hole's response- "okay, let's see how bad it was." I said, "curly hair isn't BAD." He replied-"in moderation!" I told him to MODERATE THIS: pulled out my scrunchie, filled my head over and fluffed my beautiful curls. Wore them out for the rest of the shift. 17- count them- 17!! Unsolicited compliments from coworkers and patients. I LOVE my curls

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Originally Posted by curlycandy3
that is so dramatic and awesome, lol.
I straightened my hair all year and I stopped in may. As soon as I stopped I got a ton of compliments. But recently everyone comments on how curly it is, like it's a bad thing. My own boyfriend says things like I look like a poodle. Everytime im with my friends they think it's necessary to comment on how curly it is and how I look "Jewish". I'm half Mexican half white, so I also get "chola". I get mad whenever people say stuff but I shrug it off because I think it looks a million times better than all the other straight haired girls
Haha Rizzo, I got the SAME thing last time I walked into the salon! They were looking at me like I was crazy bcuz I told them I didn't want to use shampoo I just wanted a cut, no blow dry, flat iron, or sitting under the drier with some rollos lol. I walked outta there looking like a troll doll LOL
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I guess I've been lucky. The worst I ever got was when my mum would style my hair into little afro puffs on either side of my head, and people would say that I looked like Mickey Mouse - from then on whenever I got to school I made sure the puffs were lower down, like at the nape of my neck - and I wasn't bothered anymore.

This, combined with the fact that I used to have my hair corn-rowed or in extensions a lot meant that I only started wearing my hair out when I was about 17, and because all my friends have straight hair they couldn't get enough of it

There is always one though, and one time I was wearing my hair out on the school bus, some little idiot thought it would be funny to stick some paper in it while he was walking past. I could have punched that little punk..
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I was thinking of this thread today when I went out and also hung out with my mother. First time I went about in a while, my mom (Also a natural and a curly, but for her whole life since she is a fine textured 3b or so) was snarling at people giving little ol' 3c me the Stink Eye. Normally I'd snarl myself but she was up in arms. Compared to before (you can read whats up a couple of posts above) I think her attitude about my hair and her own has changed.

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Just the other day a guy at work said to me, "do you know what your hair reminds me of? weird al yankovic!" I don't really care what this person thinks of me... but why would you think it's ok to say that to someone you barely know, especially in the office?!
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I decided to not straighten my hair one day. I walked in the school bus and everyone started laughing.
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my whole life i was teased n bullied for my curls, for my hair colour, for my name, that im half german.....(went to school in australia) kids always said that my hair looks like straw or that it looks like a witch! although my whole family loves my hair, granma always hated it when i died or straightened it, so its taking me awhile to really embrace n look after my hair.

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When I took out my scrunchy, some jerk in middle school told me
"Wow, you're hair is even uglier when you wear it down!"

Another guy, to his friend during a class:
"Her hair is like a big bush"

When asking a friend if I look better with my hair up or down, a guy turned around in class and said "shave it off!"

Nicknames like poodle, clown, Annie,..

When I was 15 I discovered combing my hair made it look worse instead of better and suddenly I got nice curls and started to get compliments on my hair. But those nasty comments really hurt!
Now all the greasy limp haired people from high school are jealous of my beautiful curls!
i have had so much grief concering my hair, sometimes i have come home from school just wanting to shave it off!
All of my life people have been saying nasty things, like "spaghetti head" and "poodle" and "frizzy lizzy", and those are just the most common ones! A boy even put chewing gum in my hair once!

i hate it when boys tell me i look hotter with straight hair, it honestly makes me so upset.

I've learned to control it better now, but i still get people saying things. Everyone has frizzy days, right? why just pick on me when it happens.

People do compliment it, just not as much as they say otherwise.

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