hurtful comments people've made about your hair

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I've worn my hair straight before and my boyfriend always talks about how much better I look when it's straight and how its usually too curly naturally. Or on a day that it's just wavy instead of curly he'll say that I look good. He also talks about how blondes are his type and i'm the first non-blonde he's dated. It's weird because he's so nice about everything else. I don't know why he thinks it's okay to make fun of my hair.

Oh and I forgot, people always ask me if I'm jewish or hispanic, say I have jewish or hispanic hair, or assume I have a perm. There's obviously nothing wrong with any of those things, but it's annoying that people just assume all white girls have naturally straight hair. UGH I feel like SO many girls just straighten their curls and it makes curly hair seem so rare!

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Right now I'm dealing with a co worker who has to make comments about "curly hair = bad hair" every time I walk into a room. She goes into detail about how curly hair is so dry and disgusting and men can't stand that. They much prefer the feel of naturally straight, healthy, hair like hers. Oh please!! To quote Prince, "Don't you know straight hair ain't got no curl (no curl). Life it ain't real funky, unless it's got that pop."
When I hear terms like "hipster" I think, who told cliques they could leave high school??

my most common insult is "rats nest".
i get that from my brother mostly, because the majority of people either like my hair, or know to keep their opinions to themselves.
but another one i get from my brother is that im a ginger. i have brown, not red hair. but on those days where my hair decides to be frizzy, the frizz makes my hair seem like a lighter color than it really is..on those days, im usually asked on more than one occasion if i died my hair.
Recently, I keep getting this line: "OMG! How do you get your hair to get that curly? Do you just... not comb it or brush it anymore?"

WTF! I certainly do comb my hair, thank you very much!

Ugh. I don't even know what to say when they ask me that sometimes...

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Yeah, this one lady I know whose in her 60's (Ms. So n So). I have a lot of respect for Ms. So n So, and still do, but this just really rubbed me the wrong way. Earlier that day my mom flat ironed my hair, and Ms. So n So says to me, "Oh you're hair looks so nice straight. You should keep it like that. You look like a real young women." What the What?! I don't think she realized what she said, but some people can be really ignorant.
I've heard that my hair looked liked Hagrid's before, in middle school. That was the one day I got the courage to wear my hair naturally, and I never did it again.

Let's see. I've been called a lion before, but I don't take that as an insult. I love lions, and I do have a mighty mane. Big hair yay.
Originally Posted by marieantoinette
Lol! I have a coworker who calls me the lion king and refers to my "mane." Most of the time it doesn't bug me - I just chalk it up to hair envy - I love my big hair too. I do find it a little weird though how obsessed he is with it - one time he asked another coworker if she had seen my hair that day, as it was "really out of control." Whatever.

There were some negative comments in Jr high (told I had weird hair), but by high school it was mostly encouraging. Maybe I was just lucky to have good friends who appreciated all kinds of beauty. I even remember a girl in my class that had been straightening her hair for years, then one day she wore it curly/wavy. We all thought she was naturally straight until that day. The cool thing was that everyone told her how beautiful her natural hair was and to stop straightening it.

It makes me sad what others have experienced - beauty comes in so many forms, and they should all be celebrated. Don't let ignorant people get you down!

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I've heard that my hair looked liked Hagrid's before, in middle school. That was the one day I got the courage to wear my hair naturally, and I never did it again.

Let's see. I've been called a lion before, but I don't take that as an insult. I love lions, and I do have a mighty mane. Big hair yay.
Originally Posted by marieantoinette
Lol! I have a coworker who calls me the lion king and refers to my "mane." Most of the time it doesn't bug me - I just chalk it up to hair envy - I love my big hair too. I do find it a little weird though how obsessed he is with it - one time he asked another coworker if she had seen my hair that day, as it was "really out of control." Whatever.

There were some negative comments in Jr high (told I had weird hair), but by high school it was mostly encouraging. Maybe I was just lucky to have good friends who appreciated all kinds of beauty. I even remember a girl in my class that had been straightening her hair for years, then one day she wore it curly/wavy. We all thought she was naturally straight until that day. The cool thing was that everyone told her how beautiful her natural hair was and to stop straightening it.

It makes me sad what others have experienced - beauty comes in so many forms, and they should all be celebrated. Don't let ignorant people get you down!

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Nothing really hurts.. Just rude of others to make negative comments. But I have a funny situation.. My mother is living with me for health reasons and SHE is why I was blessed with curls. One morning, I had to comb through my curls (day after a major haircut) so of course it was bushy and the weird s shape patterns going on. My mother raved and raved about how good it looked ::eye roll:: she just has curl envy!
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How bout "you look ghetto when you wear scarves on your hair!" (I said nothing and chose to remain employed instead).
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"Umm, have you ever considered brushing it?"

"Ha, nice jew fro."

"You're going to straighten your hair before we go, right? Your hair is a poof."

"Why did you have to dress so nicely? You're making me look frumpy in front of all these guys. Well, at least my hair is better." Because your bleached, chemical-coated hair is obviously better if it's straightened...

Then there was that time a girl who sat behind me got caught dropping little pieces of paper in my hair. She was so disgusted by my hair, she wouldn't touch it without a napkin. I can only imagine how she felt about her own hair. It must have been at least 3c if it wasn't up or straightened.

I remember absolutely hating brushes and being insanely jealous of my sister and cousins for all having straight hair. On the bright side, my sister can't make many jokes since her hair went from 1a to 2a/b in a year. Now she doesn't know what to do with it and I've moved out.

ETA: This reminds me a lot of how people are always harping on me to grow my hair out because it will look so much nicer. I am growing my hair out but I really don't care to have long hair. I find it to be a hassle and it just gets in my way. I think I look better with short hair but we'll see how this goes...

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I was in the store and was checking out. a familiar cashier I always laugh and joke with saw my hair in a puff. Mind you.... on a seperate ocassion I told her i wanted to go natural. She told me have i ever heard of a HOT COMB.. I wanted to tell her had she ever heard of a DENTIST!!!!!!!! LOL....LOL... I was nice tho... I just reminded her I wanted to be natural and I love my hair. The comment rolled off my back.. WHATEVA...
A guy friend to me the hair on my head looked like his pubic hair. I told him that great because he has something to keep that itty bitty penis of his company. That shut him up really quick. I almost felt bad about going "below the belt" since he's told me before because of his race women assume that about him and he is sensitive about that.
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When I was in middle school (since my k-12 school was so small middle and high school was pretty much the same) there were a couple of girls that made fun of my hair. I was the only one with hair like mine (my twin has much thicker ad waiver hair) at school. They would constantly tell me I had fine hair. Like the hair on a dogs butt.
I kept my hair in a ponytail the majority of elementary and middle school.
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When I wear my curly (braid outs) people always say to me oh you have a new hair style. Like its something deep and intriguing. Like curly hair shouldn't be in style like straight hair. Since people want to be so technical about it.
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3b curls on a white girl seems to be a source of fascination for a lot of people...!

A friend once suggested, in front of a class, that I shave all my hair off. It can work for some women, but this friend knew full well at the time that I personally didn't want to.

Once a stylist pulled a face like I'd never seen when I sat in her chair. She just sort of poked it and didn't say much. I was sixteen... so self confidence not at an all time high as it was!

The fuss people made over my hair as a kid and the comments people made at school have now made me really sensitive about my hair. At the end of the day I know there's more to life, but it does still get to me. Silly really! I want a change so I'm cutting short soon but it's partly therapy too... I'm doing something for me and will no doubt get attention for it - why did you do that? la la la etc. But will do my best to rise above it. Once I've done something a bit drastic, maybe people will leave me alone! lol
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Just today i was at musical practice (I'm in a production) and someone behind me said "She's blocking me with her tornado hair!" Rather loudly! ): I tried to not let it get to me, but i still felt the heat in my cheeks D: I got him back though, by kicking him in the knee

I have so many sad stories of hurtful comments about my hair!
A lot of insults also came from my family

"Your hair looks like a Brillo pad!"

"Your going out of the house looking like THAT?" (She says while pointing at my hair)

"Your hair is as dry as all get out!"

*I see a girl wearing the same hairstyle as I am (straight hair)* "Hey, her hair looks like mine!" "No it doesn't, your hair looks like a BRUSH!" I had my hair straight that day...):
I could go on and on, and most of the comments came from nasty little kids, all of which with poker-straight hair.
"No, what you need to do is take a hot comb to your head. That's what you need to do."

It bothers me, 'cause, I don't get comments like that from any other race but my own. And, I know, I know, it shouldn't really be a racial issue, but, the comments about me being a "nappy headed h*e" mostly come from other black people.

But, yeah. I deal with that crap on a daily basis.
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