hurtful comments people've made about your hair

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I went through a phase where i hated my hair in its natural state. But I couldn't hide this curly fro behind flat irons all my life........ So HERE I AM! People have made mean comments about my hair. Saying it was ugly and I even remember an encounter where a young black man asked me 'what happened to your hair?' I cried for hours, but God made me this way, so I'm embracing it
No one ever said anything about my hair when I was in high school even though I didn't even know how to care for or style my curly hair (many bad hair days as a result), being from a Latin American country. But when I moved to Taiwan for college (and already knowing what worked for my hair), my hair became a topic of conversation. The most dissing thing someone has said to me was by a guy from Thailand: "Your hair is not that bad, it's just all over the place..." It didn't do much for my confidence, to have a cute guy tell me that, but it didn't hurt, exactly.
People have said:
"Your lucky you're pretty, it make your hair stand out less" and "why not just put in weave?"
and the worse
"cancer can be a pain isn't it."

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I guess it's an uncommon experience, but I've actually never received any bad comments about my hair. I mostly get compliments from older women, but occasionally someone my own age tells me they like it as well.

after the initial sting of a persons comment about my hair, i always chuckle because it is so unoriginal, i mean come on brillo pad, mop head, and birdnest can only be used so many times before they start to get repetitive. plus you have to think of all the beautiful curlies out there sara gilbert (during her roseanne days), julia roberts, beyonce, and shakira to name a few.
Ah yes I also got a "feels like sheep wool" and I even fot a "your hair's like barbed wire!" when someone touched my hair. And for me it was even worse because I'm supposed to be a pro hair stylist!!

Argan oil got that sorted out though
LauraWolfhart, in response to the barbed wire comment, I would have said, "Yeah, cuts like it too, so be careful." Making a joke out of peoples comments usually makes them realise how stupid they sound... joke is kinda on them. Also reaffirms to us that the comments are just silly and ignorant.
yes, this one guy told me he had more hair on his d*** than what i've had on my hair.
Once I was standing in line waiting and this boy walks up to me and says... "WOW you look like you have a lions mane on your head". Ive also been called poodle and fluffy.
I guess it's an uncommon experience, but I've actually never received any bad comments about my hair. I mostly get compliments from older women, but occasionally someone my own age tells me they like it as well.
Originally Posted by taylorniw
Same for me.

And it's not that my hair is awesome either, I'm still trying to get it behave.
One time, during outdoor P.E., my hair tie broke (a.k.a. my worst fear). I had no choice but to let it puff out in the humidity--this was before I went CG--and two guys behind me started making vulgar comments like "It's bigger than my mom's [you know]." Made me feel awful/disgusted for the rest of the day.
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I've had a lot of rude comments before but the most shocking is when I worked as a lifeguard. The chlorine did a lot of damage and when i went to help this elderly woman she yelled "don't touch me you mangy-headed mongrel!"

Ouch
I've had a lot of rude comments before but the most shocking is when I worked as a lifeguard. The chlorine did a lot of damage and when i went to help this elderly woman she yelled "don't touch me you mangy-headed mongrel!"

Ouch
Originally Posted by egyptianchick
OMG, that's shocking that you were trying to help somebody and all they were concerned about was the state of your hair (not that they should be so rudely frank anyway!) I'm lost for words, poor you!
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I've had a lot of rude comments before but the most shocking is when I worked as a lifeguard. The chlorine did a lot of damage and when i went to help this elderly woman she yelled "don't touch me you mangy-headed mongrel!"

Ouch
Originally Posted by egyptianchick
LOL! Looking back tho, i bet you can't help but laugh!! She clearly is a loser
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Two that really stick out to me-
1. This boy in my form makes 'afro' comments every single day. One of the less offensive ones being 'Can I borrow your afro?'
Now, what's just stupid about that is that I've got about Type 3 A/B hair. Nowhere near an afro.
2. Another was, when a picture came up on the SmartBoard in class of a girl with beauiful long, curly hair (It was Spanish and we were learning about how to describe our hair) a girl said 'You see that one with the frizzy hair?' that looks like MyName.
Stupid things about this- 1. That girl had beautiful hair, not frizzy in the slightest. 2. She was blond, she had green eyes and tanned skin. She looked nothing at all like me. She was defining me by my hair, as usual.
When I was young I wasn't teased about my hair being curly but actually for it being straight. Mostly people made strange comments because they were surprised it looked good.
My mom would wash, blow dry and press my hair with a curling iron once a week. Every morning before school, she'd take the curling iron and fix any parts that had gotten messy while I was asleep. My hair was always shiny and flowing and I loved it, but other black girls in school tortured me over it.
From grade school until high school I was told my hair looked too good so it must be a weave. Sometimes they would pull my hair saying they wanted to make sure. Or that I was white washed because when their hair was straight it didn't look like mine (theirs actually looked kind of greasy) and because I didn't "talk like them." Even adults would ask me if I was mixed, like that was the only way my hair could possibly look nice.
I am now a proud curly in college, but every once in a while I'll straighten my hair and the comments return. It took a long time but I've learned to shake it off. I believe Hetty from NCIS said it best... "Haters gonna hate." =D
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My ex once told me that my hair looks like Russell Brand's. I was so offended, that man is not attractive and it looks like a bird nested on his head!

And my ex actually thought I'd take this as a compliment.

Other than that, in middle school people would spread rumors that my hair was a wig. I'm not sure where that idea came from, but it lead to kids trying to "pull it off". After a while it didn't bother me so much cause I started to see it as a compliment. It meant my curls looked too gorgeous to be real!
"SOS", "Brillo Pad", "********", "Medusa", I've heard them all. Of course, the "well meaning" friends that try to do my hair then give up when they realize it's not so easy.
My Army roommate would say "I've never seen a white girl with hair like that" When I was 14, a boy I had a crush on asked me "How can you stand to have hair like that?" As if I have a choice?? That one stung! 20 years later, people are envious of my curls, even though I'm still having trouble learning to like them myself.


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I've heard several different comments.
1. Are you a boy or a girl? This is usually by kids who seem to think all girls must have long straight hair. Occasionally adults also think I am a boy, but if they'd use their eyes it would be obvious that some parts of my anatomy make it obvious I'm a girl.
2. Afro is one of I've heard quite often.
3. Because I grew up in the 80's and Saved by the Bell was popular they used to tease me and call me Screech.
4. It was also easy to throw things in my hair because it would stick there.
I really didn't have a bad time of it. It just the few times people said something really stuck with me.

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