hurtful comments people've made about your hair

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Hi all. This is my first time on these boards and I love reading what people have to say. Can curly heared people be considered a sub-culture?

Anyway, when I was in middle school, people called me "afro" because I had curly hair and unfortunate hair cuts. I am 31 now and I have started embracing my hair in the last few years. I never used to like anyone to touch my head because I hated how dry and yucky my hair felt. Now that I found better hair products, I don't care any more.

Last year for halloween, I dressed up like a tree and put fake birds in my hair. After all the years of having hair like a "bird's nest" I decided to make fun of it. Everyone thought it was great.
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Well, I never thought I'd hear it from my husband....

He's always loved my curly hair. Today, I tried the upside-down product application technique. My hair came out *really* curly and I loved it! It's kind of big and wild and curly! My husband stopped by my work and said "What happened to you? It looks like you just rolled out of bed and came to work. Your hair is messy."

Now I feel self-conscious about my hair and I *never* feel that way about my hair!
I'm a 3b, with 3c underneath.

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A couple of times I've had co-workers discuss my hair as if I wasn't there. Each time it was a sort of debate where one person thought it was too wild and poofy, and the other one thought that it looked like a lion's mane.

It seems like the people who liked the personality of my mop liked my personality better too. They were just a little more accepting in general.
when I was younger (elementary school, grades 0-4) my hair was somehwhatstraight, btu now it's really puffy(but I'm learning how to define it!!!) But anyway I;ve always been asked "Don't you BBrush your hair??" actually no I don't, I comb it. and I've been called "abominable snow curl" and Chewbaca.(sp) and I dunno how I forgot this, but people always call me "afro puff" and "afro girl" and make comments about me having an "afro" (like some of you too, I guess!) and people always make fun of me because they can't see behind my hair...

and people are always asking me why I don't straighten my hair (because ti's impossible thats why! and maybe I like my hair!) I was at the orthodontists office and the lady who was doing my teeth kept telling me to straighten it!!

but I do get quite a few shocked gasps and moans, and creepy people who want to touch my hair, and make comments"Oh, it's so lovley! I'm jealous!" and such.
~Shady~
Just let us go to work on you and your hair will be beyond gorgeous!
Agree SuZen. Shady's gotten a lot of good advice so far...Soon people will be only envious of your gorgeous curls!
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I am new to the boards but I have been coming to this site for many years. I just wanted to put in my two cents.

I remember people making good and bad comments about my hair all through my life but for every bad comment there had to be 20 positives. Honestly, the ones I remember most are those people who would tell me how lucky I am for being born with curly hair. When I was a kid I would just roll my eyes. So of course in reply I used to get the line about how even if I don't appreciate my hair now I will someday. And of course, I really did start to appreciate it...

It wasn't until high school when I realized that it was something that made me special. I used to hear a lot of girls say, "Oh I wish I could have her hair." And let me tell you, I never met a guy that didn't like long, wild, curly hair. In fact, I am sure that is how my husband first noticed me...he might not admit that but I know that is definitely one thing that attracted him to me. And after seeing it frizzy and dry and messy and first thing in the morning, I know he still loves my hair.

I'm not bashing straight hair but I can honestly say I'm forever glad I am curly girl. Curly hair is so timeless. It is like a classic that people cannot get enough of. Believe me, I get sick of my hair and my curls are not even 1/10th as gorgeous as the pictures of the people who post on here. But all in all, I am totally proud to have curls and could care less what people have to say about it.
When I was in elementary school, I could mostly tame it straight with a blow dryer, but once I got into middle school, it got quite wavy. No one in my immediate family has wavy/curly hair, so I didn't know how to style it. I live in the southern US where it's pretty common for the humidity to be above 85%, so it was very frizzy and bushy. I remember one particular rainy day in sixth grade, I was growing out my bangs, and had them slicked back and clipped, and my hair was this huge poof. That was the day I had to switch places with a boy because he "couldn't see around my hair."

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Once i had no hair barrets, nothing to keep it up, also no gel , i had nothing. so my hair went frizzy and it was so big and poofy. then my uncle jokes around and says "YOu're hair is so pretty, people pay millions to get hair like that". Yeah right, people pay thta much money look like a chinese chou chou
Usually my hair was cut so short when I was a kid I got mistook for a boy. Much as I didn't like girly stuff when I was little, I still didn't want people to think I was a boy! I got called "Larry" when it grew out, which I didn't mind because I like the Three Stooges I really wasn't given any problems about my hair except for my mother always screaming about how I didn't look presentable. (I range front to back 1a/2a/2b/3a). And there weren't much of any products to untangle my hair in the early '70s, there was just Tame and that's about it, until No More Tangles came out. Someone tried using Brylcreem or VO5 on it and I ended up with a headful of grease.

I had more issues from people when my alopecia would kick up and I'd wear a scarf to cover my hair. I used to just shave my head to make it look like I was balding on purpose and felt I was making more of a choice about how I looked when my scalp was doing otherwise.
Usually my hair was cut so short when I was a kid I got mistook for a boy.
Originally Posted by Moon Jaguar
Same here.

When I was in grade school, my sister used to tell me that my hair looks good only short in length and it´ll will never look good long. That was traumatic for me to hear, because I yearned for long hair.

Every time I fought with my brother, he will look at my hair and in revenge, he will tell me that my hair is ugly, like "wires".
"The tongue has the power of life and death, and those who love it will eat its fruit." Proverbs 18:21

Hair type: 3b/c
Hmm... where to start with insults...

One of my close friends never actually said it, but she's implied a few times that she doesn't like my curls and she's glad that she doesn't have hair like mine. Once she was like "Your hair is so poofy, Lexi!" If she ever does that again, I'm gonna say "I would rather have poofy hair than flat hair."

Sometimes people on IM are like "You have really poofy hair that needs to be straightened." Mentally I'm like "Why aren't you saying this to me IN PERSON?"

I've also gotten the "You would look pretty if you straightened your hair" from a few people. Also, during spring break for the French trip to Quebec, a girl said that she could try straightening my hair. Then again, I've also gotten "You would look weird with straight hair" from a few people, which I'm not sure to take as a compliment or an insult.
I've also gotten the "You would look pretty if you straightened your hair" from a few people
Originally Posted by Curlyhairedlexi
I remember a "friend" of mine saying, " You would look better if you fix your hair!
"The tongue has the power of life and death, and those who love it will eat its fruit." Proverbs 18:21

Hair type: 3b/c
My own mother whom I inherited my hair from said that when I wear my hair up it makes it calmer and shinier and silkier. That made me mad for two reasons. First, my hair was not that bad and it's not shiny or silky. It's thick and very wavy, which I of course absolutely love. And second, it made me mad because she made it sound like that silky, shiny, perfect straight hair was the only way to be! She does straighten her hair, but I thought she loved it when I went curly...There is nothing wrong with having thick wavy or curly hair. Or thin curly hair. Curly hair is so much more interesting that straight hair. You never know where the curl is going to take you each day. You can always predict straight hair.
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i received an interesting "compliment" last weekend at a new yrs party. this guy says to me "I love your Louis Quattorze look" . now for those who do not know. Louis quattorze=Louis XIV or Louis the 14th, who was one of the EXTREME rulers of France in pre revolutionary days.
i looked for a photo and found

well, i guess it was a compliment
Susan suburban NY
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To be honest, I really like Louis Quattorze´s curls! They´re nice ringlets!
"The tongue has the power of life and death, and those who love it will eat its fruit." Proverbs 18:21

Hair type: 3b/c
To be honest, I really like Louis Quattorze´s curls! They´re nice ringlets!
Originally Posted by Colocha
well, i will accept it as a compliment then, tho being told i look like a guy who's been dead for a few hundred years was not my first choice
Susan suburban NY
3b going gray, not thick, waist length when wet, a bit below shoulders when dry
CG since 11/11/04
http://public.fotki.com/banjolady/
PW: banjo
HG: suave and honey for co-wash, deva, i use garnier fructis regular CO's or boots pink or white as leave ins and LA looks sport gel. plop w microfiber turban, then curl towel scrunch, then another turban.i sleep with the turban on. little one minute hair styling videos http://www.youtube.com/user/lazycurls
Yes, I had to think of this one again. I would´ve not like it to be compared with this guy either. Your friend doesn´t have any common sense to give a compliment to your beautiful hair.
"The tongue has the power of life and death, and those who love it will eat its fruit." Proverbs 18:21

Hair type: 3b/c
I hated my hair when I was younger. No one knew how to teach me how to take care of it. I love it now. When a stylist suggests that I straighten it, I look at them in horror and say, "Why in the world would I want to do that!? Speaking of stylists, I go to a great person to cut my hair but she doesn't know how to handle it afterwards. She keeps brushing and brushing and messing with it. I can never go anywhere after my appointment with her unless I take a scrunchie with me.
OK, on to rude comments...
Once when I was a kid about 8 or so my mom dropped me of at some mall hair salon to get my hair trimmed before going to summer camp. She told the stylist to just give me a trim. She left to go shopping (back in those days you could leave your kid at the stylist and not worry about kidnapping, etc.) and I told my hairstylist that I wanted a Dorothy Hamil haircut. What was she thinking listening to an 8 yr old!! I had 3b hair to the middle of my back. When my mom showed up a 1/2 hour later and saw me with frizzy fuzz that only reached my ears, we both cried. I can't even begin to list the rude and hurtful comments I received from total strangers at camp. But the most hurtful comment was, "That's why God doesn't want people to mix races (I'm biracial) look what happens to your hair. It's awful!!" I was hurt on so many levels.
I went to a salon for a night out and the lady that did my hair said
whens the last time you had an relaxer?(I didnt mind that question) after she was done she said YOUR Hair style would look alot better if you had a relaxer!!

My brother said no black women should be walking around with there hair like that.

Stright hair looks better

I look at the good things i dont have a dandruff, my hair dont melt from relaxers. And most of all stright hair dosent speak, CURLS DO BABY

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