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Old 01-01-2014, 02:17 AM   #881
 
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Sometimes a simple sorry with no attempt of a detailed explanation is best.
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Let's just agree to disagree. This forum is meant to discuss hurtful comments people have made about your hair, not each one of our personal opinions on the word/use of the word Afro and term natural hair movement.
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Let's just agree to disagree. This forum is meant to discuss hurtful comments people have made about your hair, not each one of our personal opinions on the word/use of the word Afro and term natural hair movement.
Whether or not it's a movement or a trend is mostly in the eye of the beholder. If for instance you cross paths with say every 8 of 10 people with straight hair (whether it's naturally that way or them choosing to flatiron) you might think you are going against the grain by being natural. However, when I am in this forum I might be inclined to think so because we are exchanging posts with fellow curlies. Either way, I'm a proud curly after resisting the idea for many years. Better late then never.
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Let's just agree to disagree. This forum is meant to discuss hurtful comments people have made about your hair, not each one of our personal opinions on the word/use of the word Afro and term natural hair movement.
The way the word "Afro" is used by some people who use this forum is hurtful.

This links in with the hurtful comments people have made about about peoples' hair.

I actually pointed out on another thread that the way some people use the term "Afro" is racist.
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Second.
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Let's just agree to disagree. This forum is meant to discuss hurtful comments people have made about your hair, not each one of our personal opinions on the word/use of the word Afro and term natural hair movement.
Whether or not it's a movement or a trend is mostly in the eye of the beholder. If for instance you cross paths with say every 8 of 10 people with straight hair (whether it's naturally that way or them choosing to flatiron) you might think you are going against the grain by being natural. However, when I am in this forum I might be inclined to think so because we are exchanging posts with fellow curlies. Either way, I'm a proud curly after resisting the idea for many years. Better late then never.
I agree! I love the idea that so many people are loving their curls now. I use the term movement to describe the way everyone is banding together around this social idea of accepting our natural hair. Personally, I've always had curly hair and was never a fan of straightening it. I'm glad to finally have other curlies to help me with understanding my hair and keep it healthy.
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Let's just agree to disagree. This forum is meant to discuss hurtful comments people have made about your hair, not each one of our personal opinions on the word/use of the word Afro and term natural hair movement.
The way the word "Afro" is used by some people who use this forum is hurtful.

This links in with the hurtful comments people have made about about peoples' hair.

I actually pointed out on another thread that the way some people use the term "Afro" is racist.
Well I did not use the term Afro in a racist way and I am sorry if it was construed as such.
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Let's just agree to disagree. This forum is meant to discuss hurtful comments people have made about your hair, not each one of our personal opinions on the word/use of the word Afro and term natural hair movement.
Whether or not it's a movement or a trend is mostly in the eye of the beholder. If for instance you cross paths with say every 8 of 10 people with straight hair (whether it's naturally that way or them choosing to flatiron) you might think you are going against the grain by being natural. However, when I am in this forum I might be inclined to think so because we are exchanging posts with fellow curlies. Either way, I'm a proud curly after resisting the idea for many years. Better late then never.
I agree! I love the idea that so many people are loving their curls now. I use the term movement to describe the way everyone is banding together around this social idea of accepting our natural hair. Personally, I've always had curly hair and was never a fan of straightening it. I'm glad to finally have other curlies to help me with understanding my hair and keep it healthy.

Good for you for always embracing your curls. I think what has helped me is that on this site I started by going mostly to the curly men forum but I rarely go there any more. I'm gonna rock my curls as long as I have hair on my head.
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Whether or not it's a movement or a trend is mostly in the eye of the beholder. If for instance you cross paths with say every 8 of 10 people with straight hair (whether it's naturally that way or them choosing to flatiron) you might think you are going against the grain by being natural. However, when I am in this forum I might be inclined to think so because we are exchanging posts with fellow curlies. Either way, I'm a proud curly after resisting the idea for many years. Better late then never.
I agree! I love the idea that so many people are loving their curls now. I use the term movement to describe the way everyone is banding together around this social idea of accepting our natural hair. Personally, I've always had curly hair and was never a fan of straightening it. I'm glad to finally have other curlies to help me with understanding my hair and keep it healthy.

Good for you for always embracing your curls. I think what has helped me is that on this site I started by going mostly to the curly men forum but I rarely go there any more. I'm gonna rock my curls as long as I have hair on my head.
As you should!! Glad you've stepped out of the curly men forum and shared your ideas/opinions with us. I never had the patience for straightening (it would take 2-3 hours for my hair). =)
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As you should!! Glad you've stepped out of the curly men forum and shared your ideas/opinions with us. I never had the patience for straightening (it would take 2-3 hours for my hair). =)
Oh, God, I WISH I hadn't had the patience for straightening. I spent years wrecking my hair with it lol.

I remember once it took two of my friends each armed with a straightener over two hours to straighten my hair. And that was when my hair was chemically straightened, so it was only my roots they were doing!!! Nightmare.
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As you should!! Glad you've stepped out of the curly men forum and shared your ideas/opinions with us. I never had the patience for straightening (it would take 2-3 hours for my hair). =)
Oh, God, I WISH I hadn't had the patience for straightening. I spent years wrecking my hair with it lol.

I remember once it took two of my friends each armed with a straightener over two hours to straighten my hair. And that was when my hair was chemically straightened, so it was only my roots they were doing!!! Nightmare.
Oh my gosh! That sounds awful! I couldn't imagine. My sister used to try to straighten mine, but I would get so bored in the middle of it and beg to just let it go curly again. Lol. My mom also paid to have my hair chemically straightened and it was supposed to last a while. Well, it lasted a week at most. It was horrible! I also never really liked the way my hair looked straight as compared to the curls. I guess I was used to it being curly!
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Let's just agree to disagree. This forum is meant to discuss hurtful comments people have made about your hair, not each one of our personal opinions on the word/use of the word Afro and term natural hair movement.
Also, you are a repeat offender as a poster posting hurtful comments. In the General Hair Talk forum there is a thread called Confidence is Such a Big Thing When First Going Curly. On it, you posted a similar, disparaging comment about an "afro" and Guide63 (supermoderator) stepped in and called you out on it. I recall it because I also happened to have posted on that thread.

If you think some of us weren't going to notice and that someone shouldn't have said something about your repeated comments - especially someone who has curly hair and cares about other curlies' feelings (even if they don't have my exact hair type), I'm afraid you're deeply mistaken. Also, some of us - possibly those of us who've been at this site a way long time, have heard this type of "innocent" comment so many times that we are simply sick of hearing it.

And yes, you're free to move on now.
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Let's just agree to disagree. This forum is meant to discuss hurtful comments people have made about your hair, not each one of our personal opinions on the word/use of the word Afro and term natural hair movement.
Also, you are a repeat offender as a poster posting hurtful comments. In the General Hair Talk forum there is a thread called Confidence is Such a Big Thing When First Going Curly. On it, you posted a similar, disparaging comment about an "afro" and Guide63 (supermoderator) stepped in and called you out on it. I recall it because I also happened to have posted on that thread.

If you think some of us weren't going to notice and that someone shouldn't have said something about your repeated comments - especially someone who has curly hair and cares about other curlies' feelings (even if they don't have my exact hair type), I'm afraid you're deeply mistaken. Also, some of us - possibly those of us who've been at this site a way long time, have heard this type of "innocent" comment so many times that we are simply sick of hearing it.

And yes, you're free to move on now.
Again, I apologize for any negative connotation regarding my use of the word Afro, not how I intended it.
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I didn't start getting negative comments on my hair until I moved to Texas in the 8th grade. All my friends wore weave or had a relaxer & I had just started wearing my hair down. Everytime it got really humid or rainy outside my hair would get frizzy & they would call me poodle for a week. But I would always tell them "At least it's mine."

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But I would always tell them "At least it's mine."

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A friend's dad when I was younger was in the construction business and I used to have a huge untamed fro and he said he could use my hair as a "mop to clean the floors".

Once I got a haircut and asked the stylist to straighten it. She refused and when I said "okay fine I'll do it myself at home" she loudly laughed and said it would be impossible but wished me luck. Her attitude was just terrible.
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I hated when people would say that they liked it better when I straightened my hair and that I looked prettier that way. I actually don't agree, my curls look great on me. It's a shame that I let those people ruin my confidence about my hair.. Because of that I straightened it for over 8 years. I never sat there and said a word about anyone, and yet I'm the one whose gotten bullied about it. Straight haired people just don't get it. At all.
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Well my brothers girlfriend who I am cordial with but definitely not friends with was at a party that I also attended over the weekend. I recently cut my hair so I'm sporting a miniature, beautiful twa (4a hair, I think) til my hair grows out. I'm on a natural hair journey, as I had relaxed hair for 20 years. Anyways, she saw me there and she was constantly running her fingers through her hair, fluffing it out and boasting about how she was gonna grow her hair long all the way down to her butt. She just kept looking at me. I know for a fact that she was taking a cheap shot at me not having much hair. Such a jackhole.

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I've heard it all. My dad called me 'bombastic bushkin'.

One time in hs a kid threw a piece of paper or something (I don't recall exactly) across the room and it landed in my hair... And got stuck. Yeah there was a lot of teasing there.

I had a friend try to so my hair... She put in so much hair gel that it took 3 shampoos to get it out. She said she'd never touch my hair again.

My ex (douchebag that he is) would make comments about my ratty hair.

But now that I know how to treat my hair.... Nothing but compliments. And I love my lion mane (though I have to grow it back out . )
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Let's just agree to disagree. This forum is meant to discuss hurtful comments people have made about your hair, not each one of our personal opinions on the word/use of the word Afro and term natural hair movement.
The way the word "Afro" is used by some people who use this forum is hurtful.

This links in with the hurtful comments people have made about about peoples' hair.

I actually pointed out on another thread that the way some people use the term "Afro" is racist.
An afro is a type of style, it's in the dictionary. I saw no negativity in her story that was putting down African Americans or the term afro. The people making the statements to her were hurtful. Not everyone goes for or wants a poofy style on their head, nor does it look great on everybody. A person's preference in hair style is not racist if they are using the term to describe the hair style that they had.

I see Bobby talking about his white man's fro all the time, and everybody oogles over that. Bobby is great, and his white man's fro potential is great. So how is Dani being negative? I'm not quite sure I understand.
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