hurtful comments people've made about your hair

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Wasn't especially hurtful or anything, but on a particularly bad hair day (as in, I desperately needed to wash my hair), this kid (my parents' friend's kid) came up to me and touched my hair and was like 'your hair isn't soft and silky like mine!'

HOW VERY DARE YOU, LITTLE LADY!
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Reading through all of these comments is really sad. I was born with naturally straight hair, but I can promise I had several curly haired friends growing up and never ever teased them about it. In fact, I was jealous. A couple years later my hair had a natural wave, then went naturally curly I would definitely say it is one of the best things that has ever happened to me. It happened this past summer and when I went back to school, my friends said things like:

"Don't you know perms are bad for your hair?"
"I thought you were naturally straight. You should straighten your hair, it looks better then."
"Woah, what happened to your hair?"

I usually just sass back at them. When they tell me to straighten my hair, I tell them to curl theirs, and then they kind of back off. But I have to say, all the guys I've met with my new hair love it, so that's a plus. I think the girls are just jealous Plus my hair and I have stopped fighting and started getting along. It's like my hair always wanted to be curly!

Despite some people's jealously stupid comments, I wouldn't trade my hair for the world.
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I was adopted by a white family (I am mixed with italian polynesian Filipino and other things) and whenever me and my grandparents would go somewhere my grandpa would always say.. 'Arent you going to brush you hair?' ... I just did.... haha

Also various hair stylists commenting on how my hair is the knottiest they've ever seen...
And the awkwardness that filled the air whenever I complained about my hair and people forced a compliment out that probably wasn't genuine... Haha -__- it's difficult to love your hair when not many other people seem to.
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my stepmother, who i dont expect anything good from anyways, is always quick to point out how "frizzy" my hair looks. last week, when i said i loved how it looked that way following such a comment, she said "it looks terrible", and later compared it to some particularly ratty hair(understandable given the time period) a character sported in a movie. the next day some joke had been made about cleaning with peroxide, and my dad made a comment about my hair, and i said "no, peroxide doesnt touch this" and she said "then whys it so puffy?"
im even more thankful for my mother when i compare her to my stepmother. my mom is a curly girl who straightens her hair everyday, and, pretty much everyday, tells me how beautiful my hair is. so im thankful for that.
It wasn't a direct comment to me but it still wasn't cool. I remember back in high school there was a girl sitting next to me and she was talking to her friends about her hair and how she wished she had it different. She was Colombian and had naturally straight hair. She started running through hair textures that different Latino people typically had and I remember her saying something along the lines of, "Oh, but I don't want Dominican people hair. It's curly and ugly." To which I just pretended I didn't hear. I'm Dominican with so called "curly and ugly" hair, although I think it was straightened at that time. It was that year that I started wearing my hair curly to school for the first time since I was maybe 10 and I was self conscience about it, so hearing a comment like that took me back a bit.

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That's terrible!

Middle Eastern people can really dislike curly hair because they have a beauty standard that glorifies straight hair. So saying "curly hair"in my language is literally an insult. The word is "cafsha". Now I wear that name proudly. Yeah I'm cafsha, and? haha
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"curly hair causes cancer" 😂

Last edited by kyahail; 11-28-2014 at 04:24 PM.
"curly hair causes cancer" 😂
Originally Posted by kyahail
I....what?
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This old man told me my curly hair would give me cancer lol
This old man told me my curly hair would give me cancer lol
Originally Posted by kyahail
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"You look so much better like that! I can really see your eyes now, you should always wear your hair like that." My mother after seeing my hair blown out straight for the first time in 6 or 7 months. She has curly hair, but normally blows it out straight, then curls the ends with hot rollers/curling irons.
My mom always grates my nerves. She always tells me that my natural hair is hideous EVERY DAY OF MY LIFE! And she also tells me that I shouldn't even wear my natural hair because only people with pretty faces can be excused with having unruly hair.
like whaaaaat?????
My mom always grates my nerves. She always tells me that my natural hair is hideous EVERY DAY OF MY LIFE! And she also tells me that I shouldn't even wear my natural hair because only people with pretty faces can be excused with having unruly hair.
like whaaaaat?????
Originally Posted by Thirst4Moisture
My mom says the exact same thing.. or "You look like an African." Or "I don't care about myself". Which doesn't make sense to me. But I think it's all insecurity. And moms try to "protect" us from ridicule, which doesn't really help. Haters gonna hate anyway they can.
My mom says the exact same thing.. or "You look like an African." Or "I don't care about myself". Which doesn't make sense to me. But I think it's all insecurity. And moms try to "protect" us from ridicule, which doesn't really help. Haters gonna hate anyway they can.
Originally Posted by Nappychild
Yes, I agree with you. I've talked to my mom about this issue and she tells me that she only does it to protect me against people's judgemental comments. lol That's some serious irony though.
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I remember back when I was 11, I had just got cornrows for the first time, and some girl told me my hair wasn't nappy enough to get them. (She said it with a certain look on her face as if it bothered her that I got them)
I haven't seen my relatives since starting to go naturally curly... I finally did and was hoping they would say something nice, but instead they offered to get keratin treatment for me!
Ive been called chia-pet, Brillo Pad, and frizz ball, in school and as a adult. I used to straighten my hair along time ago, (never anymore), and when I did, these same people would say "wow your hair is so much prettier like that" or "wow you look so much younger with straight hair" and I always got a "you should leave your hair straight all the time"
Originally Posted by chimama
Yep, same experience here, all through school and beyond . When i went back to curly a couple of years ago (after 9 years of chemical and GHD straightening) the comments at work were less than positive. They all knew i straightened it but I guess they were just so shocked at just HOW curly it naturally is. Get over it people!
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Philippines is known for people who always get straight perm if you have a slight wave people would say that you have such curly hair...i have 3b hair and my relatives from the Philippines visited us in the U.S...and they keep asking "are you sure you didnt get a curly perm??" Blah blah since before i always straight my hair but i stopped now..one day one of my relatives complimented my little sister (she have beautiful straight hair) "oh she got that smooth healthy hair look" in front of me :/ but not just that..they asked me if we ever go on a vacation on the Philippines they asked if i ever plan on getting a straight perm -.-...
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I wouldnt really think much bout it if it came from a stranger...:but coming from you relatives?? Sighh..it makes me sad...i just need to rant about it here
Throughout my grade school years, I flat-ironed, so I evaded the inevitable frustration and rude comments I would have faced then. But I'm dealing with the older version of that now in college!

1. In line at a campus Starbuck's, there was a girl with (curling iron) commercial-like, big voluminous curls. The girls in line around us were gushing over them and saying how gorgeous they were. She told them that she has straight hair but found some way to get them like that. The conversation ended and their eyes wandered to my much more voluminous, but far smaller curls, and then away quickly, and I heard one say 'maybe she should try doing what ___ did to her hair'. Right. Because using the method of a girl with naturally straight hair would totally give the same outcome on my natural curls. Which are also a completely different curl pattern...

2. In my dorm, my friend Daniel came to the door to see if I and my roommate wanted to go out for lunch. I was up on my bed - but had been doing homework, not sleeping, and he goes 'ooh, just wake up?' And I'm like no... And he goes 'oh, bad hair day then?'

3. In the hall on the way to class I pass two girls and they eye my hair up and down and whisper, 'I really don't understand how people with fros think that's a decent way to wear their hair...' First off, my hair is far from a fro - much less glamorous, and secondly, fros are not and SHOULD not be seen as the standard of a 'bad hair day', like wtf...

4. At home, night before a formal event after finding a good product. I went to show my mom and she goes 'that's nice, but you ARE going to do something to it tomorrow for (event), right?' Mom...

5. Out and about with my mom, planning to go see an old stylist. I go 'I wonder what she'll say when she finds out I've ditched all heat products and gone curly?' My mom goes 'she'll probably ask what you've done with your hair and beg you to let her fix it'. My hair does not need 'fixing'...

I think I've noticed that curls are only considered cute when they're big, 3a, fine curls. Little frizzy 3b/3c's+ like mine aren't really the picture perfect ideal it seems, only to other curly-haired people and/or stylists who can handle and therefore aren't afraid of tighter curls... :/
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