hurtful comments people've made about your hair

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Yeah I can't believe people are just so bold to say something about other people like that.

As far as the co-worker situation you should tell her something like" Well since we are on the subject of making recommendations to each other. You look like you gained some weight. You should really loose a few pounds" Or if she is skinny remind her how she should gain some weight.

Not the maturest response but I'm sure she won't want to give her opinons anymore and she won't want to hear yours!!!

I'm really sorry you had to go through that
Righteousness isn't what you do it's a gift!

I'm still trying to find out what my hair type is!!
Yes


1) someone just a couple of months ago was trying to point me and out and use the phrase "that girl with the frizzy hair"

2) someone JH called my hair a rats nest

3) JH: someone imed me and I told me I was ugly and told my to blowdry my hair straight
Many more....
People are SO annoying sometimes.
Thats why we curlies/wavies have to stick together
3c
I never really had any problems in grade school. Most people liked it curly, or made fun of how pale I was.

I had one quasi-insult. It wasn't so really meant to be insulting though. In University, I was taking a ballroom dancing class. You didn't have to register with a partner, so we were constantly dancing with different partners. At one point, my partner and I crashed into a couple behind us. My partner said, "I'm so sorry, I couldn't see past your hair." Now my hair wasn't frizzy or poorly styled...he legitimately could not see past my voluminous curls! It was actually pretty funny!
Long, blonde, 3a/mostly b hair.

I've had someone once comment that I'd gotten into a fight with a lawn mower...
~Tina
P/w: curls
I hated my hair in school as I was the only one with so much curl and the only way I could wear it was very short and even then it frizzed

Got called all the usual names...kids can be so very cruel to their peers.

The only person who seemed to be able to cut my hair (according to my mother) was a man in a barber shop. Kinda hard for a young girl to go in and sit with the men whilst waiting

Spent much of my time coveting my friends' 'normal' hair, and this gave me a lack of confidence problem I carried with me to adult hood.

Tried parting it and brushing in my teens....can you say major headache and little did I know useless for my hair type!

Chemically straightening for a few years has given me a length to work with and now I'm learning to care for it curly and to treat it with love instead.



Modified CG - Suave coconut conditioner (CW), BC Down and Out, and and Aussie MM conditioner my current loves.
Hmmm-- When I was 4 I used to have the cutest hair, my mom new exactly what to do with it, never letting a brush touch it.. but when I got older... I disliked my hair sooo much. My mom (who has straight hair) would brush my hair while it was dry and pull it back in a tight ponytail. My dad fixed my hair once and it looked terrible, and it hurt too..

I didn't go through that much teasing when I was younger, I just remember someone telling me that my hair would look better if I would just straigthened it. That was the time were I was finally learning how to love my hair for what it is. Ohh.. and my sister once said that I had a fro and that my hair looked terrible.. sure, I get tons of volume, but a fro? Besides, I like a lot of volume, it makes things interesting. Or 'Your hair looks bad today, what'd you do to it?' when I thought I was having a good one.. People are so mean sometimes.
3B/3C, thick, biracial curls
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I had curly hair that I shampooed daily, didn't condition, and brushed out when I was a kid. I also had a unibrow and moustache.

People used to call me "Wolfman"

I had people make mean comments every day. I honestly don't remember them all.
3C/4A and too long to handle (and afford!)
Now I remember one hurtful comment. A couple of years ago, I was telling my guy-friend that I was having a bad hair day. And he said, in front of the whole group, "You ALWAYS have a bad hair day."

I actually cried and walked away.
3C/4A and too long to handle (and afford!)
i was a wee bit bullied in early secondary school by two girls, and i do honestly believe most of it was because of my hair. admitedly i didnt kno how to care for it properly, and i brushed it so it was quite frizzy. they called me poodle.

but i remember the day i went into school for a 'home clothes day' (i went to a school that was strict on presentation and hair HAD to be tied back) with my hair down and freshly washed and UNbrushed, and all the girls gasped and told me i had GORGEOUS hair and they loved my curls. i didnt get called poodle after that

but it did really used to get to me when i was bullied for it. i never once wished i didnt have my hair, but i wished i could 'fit in' with all the 'straight haired girls' - now i'm proud to be different :P

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Sometimes people joke my hair is like Sideshow Bob's (from the Simpsons). I usually laught it off but it really hurts inside.
3C/4A and too long to handle (and afford!)
I knew I could come here and find a place to vent! Yesterday, after Jazzercise class, I took my hair down from my sweaty ponytail for just a second, to rearrange it. The instructor (who is also a close friend of mine) said, "Look at all that wild and crazy hair!" It made me feel really bad I still felt bad this morning.

On the other hand...one time I went to the salon and my stylist blew it out. It looked smashing. I thought I looked like a super model. That night I saw my b/f and I was so excited to show him my hair. He just said, "Why'd you take out your curls?"
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I can't believe you all went through that. I always has bum length hair with big curls and it was really red. I got little old ladies who walked up to me and told me how beautiful my hair was. I was also 5'10'' by grade 3 so I learned pretty quickly to accept and love my differences...even though they were many. It was hard at times, but now I love the fact that I look like no one else... and my boyfriend does too.
Natural redhead who has overdyed and lost the red...
naturally curly too (3A)
Oh, I got the usual when I was younger... poodle head and whatnot. My hair was a mess though, for a while. I had straight hair till puberty- for YEARS after it became curly this one girl in my school kept insisting that I had gotten a perm. Before I got a short cut and realized my hair was actually curly, it was FRIZZY... I'm not sure if the curls weren't showing because of the length, or because I just didn't know how to take proper care of them. My Mom has really fine, straight hair, and my Dad is black... I'm an only kid so I'm the only one in the family who has hair like mine. I had no idea how to care for it and no one could really offer me any advice either. I begged and begged my mom to let me relax my hair, which I did when I was 12- and promptly regretted it! It just lay there all limp and flat.

It took me several years to figure it out, but finally, in the last years of high school, I had things *more or less* under control. I got few bad comments after that. I did have two guy friends who for some reason were very unimpressed with my curls. They're both very gay, so what would they know about the sex appeal of the curl. Anyway, one of them *pleaded* with me to let him blow out my hair. I told him he could do it once before the summer ended and I went back to school. My last night home came around, and I had to keep my word. I washed my hair, he put some conditioner in, turned on the blowdryer and started brushing. My hair was very long, and he was completely amazed... "god, there's so much hair..." He was brushing and brushing, putting in more and more conditioner. It took him FOREVER to finish, and when he did there was a ton of conditioner in my hair. And that was the last time he asked to straighten my hair.

ETA: Oh, someone else was talking about her husband's nickname for her... one of the things my husband calls me is Little Big Hair.
ETA: Oh, someone else was talking about her husband's nickname for her... one of the things my husband calls me is Little Big Hair.
Originally Posted by Gemini13
That made me laugh
My best friend has a white mother and a black father. She was raised by her mother's family, who didn't know anything about caring for her curly hair. To this day, she fights with all her might against her curls. I try to get her to this web site, so she can get some support, but she won't even look. I feel bad cuz she is constantly at the hairdressers, spending hours and money on trying to changing herself
CG Since 2/06
3a/3b, Coarse, Very thick, bra strap length and growing!
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from my little sister, i have gotten that i should have stayed in the 80's... from straight haired girls, i get the usual, "you with the biggest hair award!"... my grandma insists that i straighten it because i look to hispanic or greek with my curls... which hurts, bc i'm latina and adopted into a german family, so i already stand out... guess which one i am:



but my boyfriend recently told me what originally attracted him to me...


the fact that i "always have sex hair"... i've talked to my other guy friends and they say its true... most guys will more than likely flock to a girl who looks like she had a "long night"...
[color=darkred] my grandma insists that i straighten it because i look to hispanic or greek with my curls... which hurts, bc i'm latina and adopted into a german family, so i already stand out...
Originally Posted by imjustacurl
What a horrible thing for her to say!
Hi imjustacurl. Thanks for sharing your story. I just want to make the comment that just because you stand out, that's not a negative thing. You are a very pretty girl and you "shine" out from that photograph! Be proud of your curls
CG Since 2/06
3a/3b, Coarse, Very thick, bra strap length and growing!
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Mary Kay Beauty Consultant

Hi imjustacurl. Thanks for sharing your story. I just want to make the comment that just because you stand out, that's not a negative thing. You are a very pretty girl and you "shine" out from that photograph! Be proud of your curls
CG Since 2/06
3a/3b, Coarse, Very thick, bra strap length and growing!
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Mary Kay Beauty Consultant

thank you for the sweet compliments! thought, none are as curly as me, i'm helping my brother [[tallest boy in light blue with dark brown hair]], and cousins [[bright blue and white striped shirt with honey brown hair and other isn't in the picture]] embrace their 2a/2b hair... both of my aunties insist on keeping my cousins' hair short! if they grew it out, both girls [[ages 10 and 6]] would have the most wonderful dark amber ringlettes! but... until straight-haired mommies realize that their kids are different, what can you do?


and as for my gram, i've just learned to bit my tongue around her... :holdbreath:holdbreath.gif ... and wear my hair proudly in its natural state...


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