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[color=darkred]my grandma insists that i straighten it because i look to hispanic or greek with my curls...
Originally Posted by imjustacurl
Haha, I'm greek.

Your hair is amazing.
~Tina
P/w: curls
Being a male with naturally curly hair the social stigma has always been a huge weight on my shoulders. Granted now that it's long enough to fit into a pony tail things are not quite so bad, but throughout elementary/middle school I had **** shoveled in my face on a daily basis. One that stands out in my mind quite clearly would be during science class in seventh grade, I was commissioned by my teacher to carry a load of microscopes down to the 8th grade teacher's science room. I was simply going to slip through his door, drop the items off, and leave. But of course it couldn't be that simple, the teacher actually interrupted his class to ask, aloud, 'Is your hair permed?' (I was one of only a few boys with curly hair in the entire district, mine being slightly more noticable than theirs anyhow). Now I suffer from social anxiety and am generally shy and easily intimidated, and this 8th grade class was a group of people that stood out as being particularly mean and intimidating regardless, so all of those things in conjunction really made me want to crawl into a hole and die. I know that story may not exactly sound terrible now, but in the moment it had a profound effect on me then.
Being a male with naturally curly hair the social stigma has always been a huge weight on my shoulders. Granted now that it's long enough to fit into a pony tail things are not quite so bad, but throughout elementary/middle school I had &%$@#! shoveled in my face on a daily basis. One that stands out in my mind quite clearly would be during science class in seventh grade, I was commissioned by my teacher to carry a load of microscopes down to the 8th grade teacher's science room. I was simply going to slip through his door, drop the items off, and leave. But of course it couldn't be that simple, the teacher actually interrupted his class to ask, aloud, 'Is your hair permed?' (I was one of only a few boys with curly hair in the entire district, mine being slightly more noticable than theirs anyhow). Now I suffer from social anxiety and am generally shy and easily intimidated, and this 8th grade class was a group of people that stood out as being particularly mean and intimidating regardless, so all of those things in conjunction really made me want to crawl into a hole and die. I know that story may not exactly sound terrible now, but in the moment it had a profound effect on me then.
Originally Posted by Zythifer

That's awful!


Guys with curly hair look hot!
3A/2C combination of ringlets and waves
the only comment that really sticks in my head is growing up, probably 5-6yo, my moms cousin, so my 2-3rd cousin gave me the nickname "brillo pad". my hair was always VERY short and dry and curly. to this day he will call me that. doesnt bother me nearly as much now though. at least one of us grew up(considering he is 50something).
**Tiana**
curlyhead 3b,3c AND 4a otherwise known as my big mess
Zythifer, guys with curly hair are h-o-t-t, HOTT!!! two of my best friends [[guys]] have REALLY curly hair and they are amazingly attractive! both have straightened their hair before and it makes them lose their OMW!!! HE'S SO HOTT-ness...



unfortunately, my bf has straight hair... maybe i should trade out for one of my friends...? lol


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my grandma insists that i straighten it because i look to hispanic or greek with my curls... which hurts, bc i'm latina and adopted into a german family, so i already stand out...
Originally Posted by imjustacurl
I cannot believe your grandmother said that! :x
3b (with 3c tendencies) on modified CG

Comments in the Media about Lenny Kravitz's Hair
Is it the long ones that looks like lasagna noodles that you roll into the little burrito deals, or the twisty stuff that looks like Lenny Kravitz's hair?

Aside from Barbosa, forward Anderson Varejo, who has crazy Lenny Kravitz hair, and Tiago Spitter, who plays in Spain, are legitimate NBA prospects. ...

Lenny Kravitz's hair looks HORRIBLE. What the hell was his stylist thinking?

The idea still has more kinks in it than Lenny Kravitz's hair . . .

Can we get a confirmation that they used Lenny Kravitz's hair stylist on Revenge Of The Sith?
4b is me
nappymd:

Your hair is beautiful and you have such a pretty face (love the dimple!). In one of your pictures, you refer to "flexirods" - what are they, how do you use them and where did you purchase them?

TIA!!!!

alexta



Germany Curly

Last Relaxer(Texturizer): Aug. 2005
BC: May 2006

Comments in the Media about Lenny Kravitz's Hair
Is it the long ones that looks like lasagna noodles that you roll into the little burrito deals, or the twisty stuff that looks like Lenny Kravitz's hair?

Aside from Barbosa, forward Anderson Varejo, who has crazy Lenny Kravitz hair, and Tiago Spitter, who plays in Spain, are legitimate NBA prospects. ...

Lenny Kravitz's hair looks HORRIBLE. What the hell was his stylist thinking?

The idea still has more kinks in it than Lenny Kravitz's hair . . .

Can we get a confirmation that they used Lenny Kravitz's hair stylist on Revenge Of The Sith?
Originally Posted by nappymd
I find it really hard to believe that anyone with two functioning eyes in their head could find something bad to say about Lenny Kravitz's appearance.
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i hear rude n sick n unwelcum coments abt ma hair daily
sum of dem
ms. noodle hair
cant ur hair gat drier n frizzeir
press it - straighten it - iron it :x
inst d texture more like the sheep's wool
too similar to texture of brooms( hate dis one max)
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I had a TERRIBLE time at school. I remember so many occasions when I came home in tears from comments. I got called everything. I got 'frizz', 'frizzy', 'fuzz', 'buzz', 'fuzzy bear', 'big hair' and I regularly got called ugly with reference to my hair. I was constantly asked 'what did you do, put your finger in the socket?' I was shy and quiet so regularly got referred to as 'the one with the big hair.' I also remember being in a science class with boys behind me talking about cutting my hair off or burning it with the bunsen burners. And all the name calling has given me an actual physical reaction against frizz - ease! It came out when I was at school and people used to nastily yell at me 'get some frizz - ease'. Some girls tried to be genuinely nice and advised me to use it but I did try it and hated it! The serum hardly covered any part of my hair and all the products just made it feel horrible. I now can't bear the name because it just reminds me of being picked on at school. Some of my worst memories are:
1.I can only have been about 12 at the most and I was walking along the road, probably from school and a young couple were behind me, probably in their late teens and the boy started making loud comments about my hair and how stupid I looked and laughing at me.
2. Playing at the park near my house with my sister and a group of boys started making fun of me and calling me names because of my hair
3. I was in a science class when I was about 15 and I had this awful, horrible science teacher and one lesson she came over to me and took a handful of my hair and flicked it and said 'I wanted curly hair, but not like YOURS, yours is just TOO MUCH.' This was in front of the whole class.
It was only when I went to college at around 18 that suddenly people's attitude to my hair changed. I now only get compliments. I get angry when I see people I went to school with around where I live for how miserable they made me, but at least I can think of all the nice things people say now.
Sorry for the length of my post, it just feels good to get this off my chest!!
Oh, I just remembered another one! When I was very little at primary school, my 'friends' all stopped talking to me for a day because I had curly hair and they all had straight hair!
It was only when I went to college at around 18 that suddenly people's attitude to my hair changed. I now only get compliments. I get angry when I see people I went to school with around where I live for how miserable they made me, but at least I can think of all the nice things people say now.
Originally Posted by curlygem
Same thing here. I got a lot of rude comments and people making fun of my hair when I was in my school years. I started to get compliments about my hair when I attended college( 99% of the time! )
"The tongue has the power of life and death, and those who love it will eat its fruit." Proverbs 18:21

Hair type: 3b/c
sigh...
i hated school
not only did i hate my hair but i was freakishly tall, reaching my current height of 6' in 8th grade. children are cruel cruel. Two things stand out most- although there were plenty more. In about 4th grade this nice girl started a rumor about me that i must have lice living in that nasty head of hair.
Fast forward to 8th grade, this evil girl with beautiful straight hair that i hated and she hated me sat it front of me in class (unavoidable- alpahabetical seating) and would brush her hair all over my desk. One day I said "Stop brushing your hair on my desk" She said "well at least i brush mine- don't you think if you brushed yours it would help?" So I asked my friend "D", can i borrow your brush? and i brushed my hair in class. And then i said- "that was a good idea. I'm glad we met. I would have been lost without you." She was a horrible bully and she never bothered me again. When i think back i was probably the scaryist 8th grader at that school, . I was never a bully, but i never took crap from anyone. I would like to thank my hair for that. I like to think that it made me a bad a$$ at that age. Being 6' tall probably helped too Now, i don't even dignify a rude comment about my hair with a reply. Mostly though the older i get the more people like it. Especially older men!
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Isn't it funny how most of us were picked on when we were kids but as we get older we get compliments. It's odd because you'd think curly haired little girls and boys would be more cute and likeable! When I was a child and in my early teens the only people who liked my hair were the elderly and that doesn't help a teenager feel very cool. Boys especially laughed, but funnily as I get older, they are the ones who love my hair. When I went to college boys suddenly thought it was sexy! My boyfriend now loves my hair and when I straighten it once in a blue moon he says 'yeah, it's nice, but I love your curly hair'. I think he likes the novelty of the straight hair very occasional but is glad when it goes back to curly.
By the way, how many people got picked on as children or teenagers and when they told their mum or other adults they just said 'ignore them, they're jealous.'? I used to hate being told that because I knew it wasn't true and for me it almost made it worse!
For the past three summers I have had the same job. I wore my hair up everyday for every summer that I worked there except this summer. Yikes I know. However, this summer since I finally got used to wearing my hair down I wore my hair down for my first day at work. Well...lo and behold one of the guys I work with decided to give people nicknames that day. What was my nickname you ask? Carrot top...as in the scary comedian (I'm sorry but he just freaks me out) with the big, red, curly hair. Nevermind the fact that my hair isnt nearly as big as his and my hair is BROWN. :x

Also when I was little my brothers told me that lice liked curly hair better. I really believed them too. Its funny because although one of them has straight hair, the other has curly hair....
Hair Type: 3a/b/c
People are such losers...
I can't tell you how many times I'll get people asking why I curl my hair!! Like straight hair is the only natural hairtype! I happen to know it will NEVER be natural for me.
An asian friend of mine is always talking about how she couldn't stand to have such big, frizzy hair...invariably on the days when I have almost NO frizz, and ALL curl!
What is it with people and that difference? One is pretty, one is not.
It seems to me that if you go by the all the old masterpiece paintings, curly hair was the ideal for beautiful hair for hundreds of years. I'll bet long, straight hair didn't become the standard until the hippie days of the 1960's and 70's. It's all relative. Just like once upon a time we were told that "gentlemen prefer blondes," but now a study showed that they prefer brunettes. It just keeps changing with the generations.

Earlier this evening I saw a commercial for some new line of hair products that featured a very catty man making snide remarks in a voiceover while women walked down the street. This woman with gorgeous loose curls was accused of having "poofy hair," while another with straight hair was mocked for being flat. What the heck do they want? Oh, I know. They want to make everyone on the planet feel inferior so we'll all run to buy their products. I don't care if they've got the best products in the world. I'd never give them a thin dime after that mean-spirited, insulting, offensive commercial.

Back to the topic. For me it wasn't what people said, it was who said it. The most hurtful comments were the ones that came (and still come) from my mother, simply because she is my mother. Never has she considered my hair beautiful, but more like something that needs to be fixed. From childhood it was "rat's nest" and comparisons to some character named "Witchy Poo" who must've been before my time. I spent most of my elementary school years with my hair in a thick, stiff ponytail braid.

I know my mother loves me, but she's got a serious prejudice against tight curls. Hers is even curlier than mine, so every day since she was old enough she's been setting it on hot rollers in order to straighten it into waves that she then combs through...dry. She has also kept it short all her life because that was the standard of beauty for women back in the fifties and early sixties when she was a young woman. It's surprising for her when she now sees celebrities reaching their fifties and still keeping their hair long.
I thought long and hard about this thread for a while, and came to a conclusion: It was never what a random passerby/stranger said to my hair that ever really bothered me. ...It was more what "friends" and close relatives would say.

I have 3cish hair and am african american/native american background, with hair that was always considered by my friends and relatives to be "good" hair.

But it has always been a MURDER to straighten. I mean, it looks so loose that hair stylists always think that it just needs "a light/kiddie relaxer" or "a little heat" to get it straight, when really it needs a LYE relaxer bordering on the COARSE side and/or extreme heat.

But I always get fed "those lines" from one of my best friends that "all u have to do is <insert "simple" trick here such as flat ironing> to get your hair to be straight." When really, it would take hours upon hours of hot hot heat of flat ironing to get it straight EVERY DAY. So I would get a relaxer to make it easier to get it straight, and promptly get reprimanded by my ex best friend "girl, you did NOT NEED a relaxer! all u needed was to flat iron it every day!" "Girl you got that 'good' hair! you don't need to do all of that!" It was so annoying.

And my mom always makes comments that my hair is so "good" that i "just don't know WHAT do to with it."

It was my other friend (with stick straight hair) who would watch me sit in the mirror spending hours straightening my hair before a trip to the mall (u know u have to look hot, fine guys are there!) and exasperatedly say: I JUST WISH YOU WOULD LEAVE YOUR HAIR ALONE! to make me realize how much time and effort it was taking me to fix it. She would make attempts to show me how to fix my hair nice without straightening. (Bless her heart, she didn't quit know what she was doing being that she has stick straight hair and no experience with curly hair, but it was the thought and effort that counted.)

I do get some irritating comments from my husband sometimes. He finally sees the beauty of my hair naturally, but sometimes he "misses the way my hair was when we met me (relaxed)" and i can't get him to see any beauty at all in locs, and doesn't understand why I feel that woman should stop trying to change themselves and assimilate into straightness and love their hair as it is naturally. We have big arguments over that. He's still somewhat stuck in a "straight" mindset and doesn't even see it...
Sometimes people joke my hair is like Sideshow Bob's (from the Simpsons). I usually laught it off but it really hurts inside.
Originally Posted by x_tigerlily
I sympathize! Reading your post reminded me about people from my high school calling me Sideshow Bob, too. I had never seen the character Sideshow Bob when they started calling me that, but when I did, I was so hurt because I couldn't believe they thought my hair looked like that (I have pix on my fotki...link below). What hurt the most, I think, was people telling me that I didn't look biracial because my curl pattern wasn't loose enough. They would say things like "What? You're mixed? You don't look like it b/c you don't have that "good" hair." I hate that good hair, bad hair bs. Hair is hair, and it doesn't need to be leaning towards straight for it to be considered "good."
3C/4A...I'm not sure. I'm part Polish, Swedish, Swiss-German, and half Liberian with a crazy hair type.
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