Thanks Myrna.

And yes I do agree, I think that (SADLY) a lot of people especially in the Hispanic community it seems, somehow attach curls to the African American race only, something that is incredibly ignorant. Unfortunately a lot of guys I've met that are Hispanic have pre-conceived notions about curls and they believe that based on what they've heard from their families being "black" is a bad thing?

I know this because I was born in the Dominican Republic, my family however is from Northern Spain and I was raised in the U.S. I'm from all over the place and was never raised with any sort of prejudice or complexes about hair, as a matter of fact growing up I didn't know there was really a difference between straight hair or curly or wavy, I just never thought about it to be honest. But after encountering a lot of Hispanic people I realized most views were very different from mine.

I've noticed that in DR most men if not ALL will NEVER date a girl with curls because that means she must be mixed with African, and in Dominican Republic a lot of people attempt to be as "White" as possible? Whatever that means. So you see women relaxing their hair every weekend at the salon and if you want to find a man, you're not going to with what they call (pajon) or "giant poofy mess" in English. In a lot of Hispanic communities the men's goal is to get a "white" girlfriend, or one that at least sort of looks white, so being curly haired and tan isn't the best thing I guess.

I am mixed with many races. so I don't think curls only come from Africa since there are women and men from all over the globe with curls and textures. But like you said, I do find it quite racist for guys to make comments like that about curls because the majority of the time I feel it does have some underlying pre-conception or assumption about a specific ethnicity, be it African or any other.

I think just as many women prefer softer/straighter hair as men. Otherwise there wouldn't be so many of us fighting our hair for years trying to get it to be something it's not. And even when we 'embrace' our 'natural' hair, we are all still on a quest to get the softest, smoothest hair possible. It's just natural. I don't think there are many people who wouldn't kill to wake up with silky, smooth hair- curly or not. My ideal hair actually has nothing to do with how curly it is or how straight it is, I just want it to be soft and frizz free.

I think men love to run their hands through women's hair. Heck, I love it when my boyfriend does that! Can't say I blame them for that. I think that's why there is a perception that they like straight hair. It's not that they don't like the curls- most guys wouldn't like heavily sprayed and styled and product heavy straight hair either.

BUT also, I have thought about it like this: there are millions of us with curly hair. Therefore, obviously some of our ancestors had curly hair – and obviously, they all had sex. So someone found all these curly haired people attractive enough for sex.

Didn't mean to make it sound like I'm anti curl. I'm not! I love my curls! I am just saying that the most common thread I see on these boards and what every single persons know in real life wants is touchable hair. I was pointing out that maybe people have been trained to THINK that means straight but if you put soft straight hair next to soft curls, I don't think as many people would say they prefer straight.
Agreed that plenty of straight haired girls have damaged hard hair- that was my point when I said that its a soft feel that people generally like, it's not anti curl. I don't think you'll find any guy (or girl) who would choose straight but damaged and crispy hair over soft touchable curls.
I know everyone is not lucky enough to have this hair (I'm not!) but I don't think it's because we are all indoctrinated by the evil media. People are tactile and sensory. We (generally) want soft hair for the same reason we like soft sheets, fuzzy socks and soft tshirts. It feels better than wearing burlap.
It wast an attack on coarse haired curlies at all. The vast majority of us would prefer soft and touchable products to hard and crunchy.

SO HAPPY to have found this thread and to know I am not alone! I have been frying my hair with color and heat to please my fiance'. He is Spanish and always teases me about my hair. All of his girlfriends have had long straight or wavy Caucasian hair. He even nicknamed me "naps" because he thinks bi-racial or ethnic hair =NAPPY. I can never tell if he thinks he is funny or really means it He's the only person who doesn't like my curls... I've been getting so many compliments and other mixed women asking me about my hair, so I am inspired to show him that curly can be beautiful too... (considering HIS hair is quite curly too)