Seriously- Why don't men like Curly hair?

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I think curly hair is more likely to better suite people than blonde hair on Asian or Black women. I think we're so conditioned to believe that "everyone is beautiful" that Bruchilda's posts got pounced on, but I agree with her points about the hair color.

Yeah, there's always that .000001% of Black or Asian women with naturally blonde hair that it looks decent on but for the most part, when I see women of color dying their hair blonde or wearing ridiculous blue/green contacts they look sad and pitiful,esp. those Asian import car models with their obvious dyed hair and fake boobs. It's like, 'who are you trying to fool? you're not a white girl, and you're never going to be one!' leave the blue eyes and blonde hair to those it actually suites. it just reeks of self-loathing.

Lil' Kim, for example, was a naturally beautiful woman with good bone structure and pretty brown eyes but once she went overboard with the blonde weaves, blue contacts, nose jobs, etc etc she looked like a self-hating MESS. Nicki Minaj looks much better now after her 'make-under'. Ditching the colored contacts and blonde mess has made a world of difference in her appearance.

Yes, there are very few women of color who look good with blonde hair but for the MOST part, it does not.
Originally Posted by CatitudeBoo
I agree here, and I would say it's silly to think Asians, blacks and other non-Caucasians will be able to look good with blonde hair or lighter eye color. There's been enough research to support the stance much of it is a cultural push to blend in with the Caucasian standard of beauty. In fact, in Asia the Caucasian standard of beauty-- with straight hair-- is the norm. It's one thing if a black or Asian person has natural blonde hair-- it doesn't look like "bottle blonde." But they are a very, very small part of the population and should not be used to extrapolate to the majority.

The truth is curly hair is not acceptable as a societal norm unless it's non-natural curls. The "beachy waves" look with wavy curls is popular but it involves styling to get the curls to be somewhat flat and the hair at the crown is way too flat for my liking. Back in the 1930's and 1940's, curls were popular but they had to look a certain way and the waves had to sit together in a pattern that doesn't occur naturally. But these things don't exclude men from liking curly hair. It's just that some men prefer straight hair and I don't think we should demonize men for having preferences.
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Very true! Ah, the issues only curlies like us can understand...

I very often have to plan things "around" my hair, which can be annoying, like if I need to wash my hair but need to go somewhere not long after I get up but since my hair takes so long to dry it wouldn't be practical... I must then think about things ahead to decide whether I should wash my hair the night befor or take the chance of "refreshing" again. I can't just get up any day and think of going anywhere if my hair looks bad, I don't ever put my hair up (don't look good) and I refuse to give curly hair a bad name by walking around looking like a witch if I can help it
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This may be tmi but have any of you had experience with hair pulling while your hair was curly? If so, was it any more or less an issue compared to when your hair was straight?
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This may be tmi but have any of you had experience with hair pulling while your hair was curly? If so, was it any more or less an issue compared to when your hair was straight?
Originally Posted by CatitudeBoo

It just gets tangled instantly lol. But it's fine bc you can just WnG and carry on with life


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I think straight hair is part of a "preferred" idea of beauty... That if you were going to describe a beautiful person or the perfect woman, they would have that quality, but in reality you see people who don't fit this ideal and you still find them attractive. Regardless, it's definitely not uncommon for men to like curls. I will admit that I rarely get compliments on my hair when it's natural... but I've had men and women tell me I'm pretty, or even beautiful, regardless of how I wore my hair that day. I've never really had a guy complain about my hair, it's always been me that complains about it My boyfriend actually has long curly hair too (though his is much prettier than mine since he doesn't abuse it), and he always encourages me to embrace my natural hair.
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When it comes to curly hair, it's all about a person'a preference I guess. Like some of you have already said, there are men out there who have this vision of a beautiful person already formed in their mind, and usually that may involve a women who has straight, or maybe slightly wavy hair. Women with hair like that are advertised so much, and mostly in a sexual way which makes then more appealing to men (for example, the hair flipping, wind blowing through the hair making it look all flowy, etc.). I've been lucky enough to find someone who loves me for who I am, and adores my curly hair. My fiancé has lived in the same small country town his whole life, so he's told me that he grew tired of seeing girls that all look alike pretty much. He likes the fact that I look "exotic" in a way since I have curly hair, and that's something not really seen here. But after us living together for a while, he's starting to see that having curly hair is no easy task, and finds it amusing how long it takes for me to do my hair, hahahahaha (:
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I just went curly about 2 months ago. My best guy friend asked me why I didn't wear it curly when we first met in college. (It was naturally straight then. Talk about a happy surprise!) He seems to really like my hair curly and has been making lots of comments about how much he loves running his hands through a woman's hair... It's too bad he's not the person I want running his hands through my hair.
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I just went curly about 2 months ago. My best guy friend asked me why I didn't wear it curly when we first met in college. (It was naturally straight then. Talk about a happy surprise!) He seems to really like my hair curly and has been making lots of comments about how much he loves running his hands through a woman's hair... It's too bad he's not the person I want running his hands through my hair.
Originally Posted by naomilena
This feels like the story of my life. I have male friends who frequently compliment me on my hair, and while I appreciate the sentiment, I can't help but feel disappointed.

Anyhow, I've definitely met more than a few men who actually liked my hair, much to my surprise.
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The beginning of the end for one of my more recent exes and I was when he asked me if I ever thought about straightening my hair, because he thought it would look "nicer". Truth is, I *did* straighten my hair every so often at that point, but the fact that he was asking for it made me feel inadequate in my "normal" state. Not the kind of relationship I needed.

The guy I'm engaged to now has said "well yeah, you look pretty with straight hair... but you look pretty no matter what, and I kind of like the curls better." Only downside is that my hair is still too tangly and all-over-the-place for him to run his hands through as often as he'd like. Working on that, though!
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I actually find that guys respond better to my curls and one of the first compliments I get is 'I love your hair'.
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I actually find that guys respond better to my curls and one of the first compliments I get is 'I love your hair'.
Originally Posted by BotticelliBrit
Same. When I straightened my hair, I just blended in with the crowd and was hardly noticeable.
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I find it's not the texture of the hair, but the length & color that many men prefer. I've never met a man that claimed to prefer short hair, but if a woman's hair is long, it can be straight, wavy, curly, whatever. When I asked my brother & his friends their opinions, they all seemed to agree that long hair is better, "but if a chick is hot enough & a cool person", short hair wasn't that big of a deal. When I asked them about texture, the consensus was that they liked soft hair (that wasn't what I was asking you goons!), with only one guy liking straight hair out of the group of 9. There was lots of various opinions on color though, although most agreed that the color should be natural. Then they went on lamenting the fact that so many 'redheaded' celebrities were fakes & debating if they would still sleep with them or not.

Men!
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It's definitely a preference, like preferring a certain body type or height. But really, why should we even care what kind of hair MEN prefer on OUR heads. If you like it, that's enough.

That being said, my boyfriend loves my curly hair and he's part of the reason I started the CG method. I've always loved my curly hair when it's actually been taken care of, but I got so caught up in society's idea of beautiful hair, that I just kept damaging it by straightening it.

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Idk..I used to have this opinion too as the girls that all the guys thought were attractive had straight/slightly wavy hair..but weirdly,I have many more friends now/guys thinking I'm attractive since I've gone natural(I have 3b hair) and get so many more compliments.even weirder,my so's don't really like it in the rare occasions(once every couple months) where I straighten my hair..*shrug* which is a very weird reaction,but I don't like straightening my hair/I'm glad people like what I was born with :P
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(and all my so's have been white if that's a comment as well)
This may be tmi but have any of you had experience with hair pulling while your hair was curly? If so, was it any more or less an issue compared to when your hair was straight?
Originally Posted by CatitudeBoo
I know I am late replying to this, sorry about that, but I do. I noticed that I didn't pull when my hair was straightened, but I did pull on second day hair if it was curly. When I thought about it, the first thing I noticed was that the products I was using made a difference, I use a whole different set of products to straighten. I started looking for alternative products to use for curly styles, so I don't pull on curly days either. Also, there are two areas where I pull the most...my scalp is damaged in one of those, and extra sensitive in the other, so on curly days I am specifically putting JCBO or grapeseed oil on those places (on my scalp, not hair).

I am only talking about the actual hair care side of pulling here, if you know that your pulling is connected to a trauma, please try to find some good help for that too. PTSD can be healed, and I just feel really sad that some people lose their hair before they find out life can be better.

I am sorry if this post is OT, if the subject is in the way of men and curly hair, Mods please move it. I am new here.
^^^^ I was referring to hair pulling in relation to MEN...the thread title...hair pulling...men or a man doing that...during SEX.
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I think I've said this before, but I have actually never heard any man complain about curly hair (in person).
I think length is a more important factor, along with something that looks relatively natural and not overly high maintenance. My boyfriend loves my hair and always wants to touch it, whether I let him is a different story. I guess he's not used to a girl with wavy/curly hair before as he still finds tugging pieces of my hair so that they spring back fascinating.
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^^^^ I was referring to hair pulling in relation to MEN...the thread title...hair pulling...men or a man doing that...during SEX.
Originally Posted by CatitudeBoo
I don't find it an issue at all, whether my hair is curly or straight. But I rarely straighten it and when I do, it's normally only for a couple of hours or a night so maybe I'm not the best to answer. But there's almost always...pulling, and my hair is always curly. And everything is just fine.

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This is a topic that I find very frustrating because I have no idea as to why this is. The boyfriends that I've had just hated my hair curly. My current boyfriend always jokes and says "ahh my hands are stuck" whenever he puts his hands in my hair. My ex hated how curly hair looks and actually made it completely clear when I wore it curly to university once. It seems like whatever guy I meet doesn't like curly hair. I probably know like 2 who actually like curly hair out of like 50 guys I know. It really annoys me because I don't think it looks bad. If you tell me the only reason guys like straight hair is because they can put their fingers through it, is just being unreasonable. You can put fingers in curly hair just be more gentle. When I straighten my hair my boyfriend is like "yes! I love straight, I don't like curly..." Funny thing is he met me as a curly and has the nerve to say something about it? I am angered...
Originally Posted by mdderm
Everyone one has a preference. Some guys prefer brunettes, some blondes, some dark haired and some red heads. Some guys like thin girls and some like large women. Some like Black girls, Some like white girls and some like Asian girls. No accounting for taste and it is something you cannot know or quantify.

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