Seriously- Why don't men like Curly hair?

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Update: I confronted my boyfriend. I told him how immature hes being when he says those things and that it annoys me. He apologized and has stopped saying all those annoying things but now he doesn't say ANYTHING about my hair. He doesn't say it looks good or bad. I don't know if thats still bad or not...now he dislikes it but now I won't know about it...
Update: I confronted my boyfriend. I told him how immature hes being when he says those things and that it annoys me. He apologized and has stopped saying all those annoying things but now he doesn't say ANYTHING about my hair. He doesn't say it looks good or bad. I don't know if thats still bad or not...now he dislikes it but now I won't know about it...
Originally Posted by mdderm
Maybe it's just not what he's used to...we are all bombarded by the straight haired girls on tv and magazines. It may just take some getting used to.
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I must be in the minority here, as I wouldn't waste my time on someone so superficial. If my boyfriend didn't love ME for ME, rather than how I looked, well he would no longer be my boyfriend.

My stepmom lost her hair when she went thru chemo. You think my dad loved her less? You think that curls or no curls were important to them?

Honestly, why make excuses for superficiality? Who cares what he is "used to seeing". ugh, that sort of thing makes me vomit. How will a guy who has a "problem" with how his girlfriend wears her hair deal with stretch marks from pregnancy, weight gain due to illness, scars from surgery or an accident...? Probably by leaving you for someone who is superficially perfect.

Good luck with that.
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i've never had a man that i'm dating tell me he doesn't lik my hair. I dunno but usually that's the very thing that draws them to me...because its so different from how most "mainstream" black women wear thier hair.
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I must be in the minority here, as I wouldn't waste my time on someone so superficial. If my boyfriend didn't love ME for ME, rather than how I looked, well he would no longer be my boyfriend.

My stepmom lost her hair when she went thru chemo. You think my dad loved her less? You think that curls or no curls were important to them?

Honestly, why make excuses for superficiality? Who cares what he is "used to seeing". ugh, that sort of thing makes me vomit. How will a guy who has a "problem" with how his girlfriend wears her hair deal with stretch marks from pregnancy, weight gain due to illness, scars from surgery or an accident...? Probably by leaving you for someone who is superficially perfect.

Good luck with that.
Originally Posted by oreosmakemehappy
I agree. And if he loves straight hair so much, he can go find a straight haired girl. That'll leave you to find a guy who loves you for who you are. There are many men out there who don't let tv dictate what they like.
The few times i've let a hairdresser straighten my hair my boyfriend (who i live with) has hated it - he says it 'doesn't look like me'. He says my curly hair is 'sexy' and really doesn't like the super well-groomed look, he prefers girls who look like fun, not like mannequins!

I love my boyfriend

There must be more like him out there...
oh wow. i've been wearing my hair only curly now for the past two months. i used to wear it straight 95% of the time and curly just once in a while.

wearing it natural, i get at LEAST 5 compliments a day. and my boyfriend LOVES my curls. says it looks MUCH better like this.

i'm so surprised that your BF would say this. i get approached wherever i go. not just girls but guys stop me to look at my hair and tell me how gorgeous it is.

sounds like your BF has no idea what he's talking about. no offense! haha
I've also dated a bunch of guys who think "straight hair is so much hotter". My boyfriend now says my hair is beautiful no matter how i wear it. he loves my curls because i can jump in the lake at his cabin or do whatever and i just shake my curls out when i'm done and its so low maintenance. always a plus to boys!
All my guy friends walk up to me and ruffle my hair with their hands....? I prefer to think positive about it; I believe they do it because they like my hair.

I've only had one guy tell me that I should straighten my hair. He tells me every other day. But you know you what? I've noticed that his taste in girls is quite cliche.

My hair seems to attract guys that aren't afraid of a spontaneous and wild woman. While some may disagree, I think that curly hair definitely projects a wild and independent image, or at least that's what it seems to project to guys.

An insecure man is going to be very afraid of a woman that appears to be strong and independent.
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They don't like short hair, either. It's strange.. when I cut my almost bra-strap length hair to just below my chin, I got compliments mostly from women wheras most men I know don't like it. What is it with men and freakin long hair, I ask you??

Didn't mean to detract from the original topic. In my experience, men don't seem to care much either way about curls. I've had a few guys tease me about it in high school, but I find that men care much more about the woman's overall appearance.
oh wow. i've been wearing my hair only curly now for the past two months. i used to wear it straight 95% of the time and curly just once in a while.

wearing it natural, i get at LEAST 5 compliments a day. and my boyfriend LOVES my curls. says it looks MUCH better like this.

i'm so surprised that your BF would say this. i get approached wherever i go. not just girls but guys stop me to look at my hair and tell me how gorgeous it is.

sounds like your BF has no idea what he's talking about. no offense! haha
Originally Posted by mixed_mama
Woah! where do you live? I'm moving there for sure! Haha
They don't like short hair, either. It's strange.. when I cut my almost bra-strap length hair to just below my chin, I got compliments mostly from women wheras most men I know don't like it. What is it with men and freakin long hair, I ask you??

Didn't mean to detract from the original topic. In my experience, men don't seem to care much either way about curls. I've had a few guys tease me about it in high school, but I find that men care much more about the woman's overall appearance.
Originally Posted by MistressM.
Funny, recently my husband ran across a picture that was taken of us a few years ago. My hair was a bit past BSL, and it didn't have any layers in it, so, well, there was a lot of hair, lol. When we were getting ready to go to bed that night he asked me if I thought I would ever grow my hair that long again. I was like "oh no!" (it's just past shoulder length right now). I told him that I go through phases, I'll wear my hair long for a few years, get sick of it, then cut it short and wear it that way for a while, till I get sick of that.

He was like... well, I really like your hair much better this length, I don't think you should grow it again! I always knew he didn't like super-long hair... this confirmed my suspicions that he preferred shorter vs long cuts. Anyway, I assured him that, should I grow my hair again, this time it will be cut in layers... so there won't be quite as much hair as there was before!
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And FWIW, I've never had a guy tell me he wanted me to straighten my hair, or that he preferred straight hair. I never straighten, so I'm not sure how or why the topic would come up- unless the hypothetical guy just felt like being an insensitive jerk.
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When I met my husband I was straightening my hair and it was pretty short. We dated almost 2 years before he knew it was curly. I figured he would surely dump me for some straight haired girl. He didn't; he actually liked my curly hair curly and still does. If I straighten it he just looks at me and says yes I see it is straight I will like it better tomorrow when it is curly again.
My husband was actually the one that suggested that I try my hair natural. He says "That's what a black woman's hair looks like, so why should you do anything different". This always makes me chuckle because I assumed that he liked my hair better straight because he is half white and dated mostly white women before me, I figured since that is what he's used to that he would like it better. Boy was I wrong.

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The few times i've let a hairdresser straighten my hair my boyfriend (who i live with) has hated it - he says it 'doesn't look like me'. He says my curly hair is 'sexy' and really doesn't like the super well-groomed look, he prefers girls who look like fun, not like mannequins!

I love my boyfriend

There must be more like him out there...
Originally Posted by fluffles
I married one of them....DH doesn't like me with straight hair...actually, none of my family does. My youngest sorta does as she can then brush my hair, but I don't look like me so....
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I could definately be with a guy who doesn't like my hair. So what? My current boyfriend doesnt like my hair straight while I do, he likes it curly. I dont like his current haircut, but so what. it makes him happy so I accept it. I don't need any guy's approval anyway, including my boyfriend's on my hair. he is entitled his own opinion and just because he thinks my hair is lame doesnt mean I should go cry a river and dump him.
My ex-husband (the one with the small willie - I always work that in whenever he is mentioned) HATED my curly hair. He also hated my clothes, my hair color, my friends, and pretty much everything about me. My point (other than bringing up the small willie) is that it isn't worth changing yourself to make someone else happy. Be true to yourself (and your hair!), and the men will follow.
Originally Posted by LoloDSM
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They don't like short hair, either. It's strange.. when I cut my almost bra-strap length hair to just below my chin, I got compliments mostly from women wheras most men I know don't like it. What is it with men and freakin long hair, I ask you??

Didn't mean to detract from the original topic. In my experience, men don't seem to care much either way about curls. I've had a few guys tease me about it in high school, but I find that men care much more about the woman's overall appearance.
Originally Posted by MistressM.

not true! I recently got my hair cut short (look in my fotki for pics) and my mate jack said I had "sex hair". ...I love jack lol
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Yeah, I hate Bee's, OK?


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