Seriously- Why don't men like Curly hair? - Page 9

omnia · 12-22-2011, 03:00 AM

It is true indeed, most men don't appreciate it.. I have been dating men who were mentioning straightening, I have dated someone who was trying to make my wild curls "sit into place" or wanted me to wear my hair in a bun all the time.

But let me tell you; the ones that do appreciate it, can really become obsessed with it... Usually they are people with sophisticated tastes. I have been dating this lovely, handsome, educated, cultured man, and he has made such sexy and loveable comments for my hair! Like "your hair does something to me", or "you hair is cult, kinky (sexual connotation), amazing, and in a magic way it completely suits you". Now, this is the kind of man I like to be around!

Galadriel · 12-23-2011, 07:21 PM

In junior high/high school I wondered why guys didn't like my curls and why they were in to the straight haired girls. In college, however, I have experienced the opposite reaction. Guys like my fiance love them lots and lots. He says it reminds him of mermaids, of fantasy, of elves, basically everything he finds heavily attractive.

GroYoFro · 12-26-2011, 03:30 PM

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Originally Posted by omnia

It is true indeed, most men don't appreciate it.. I have been dating men who were mentioning straightening, I have dated someone who was trying to make my wild curls "sit into place" or wanted me to wear my hair in a bun all the time.

But let me tell you; the ones that do appreciate it, can really become obsessed with it... Usually they are people with sophisticated tastes. I have been dating this lovely, handsome, educated, cultured man, and he has made such sexy and loveable comments for my hair! Like "your hair does something to me", or "you hair is cult, kinky (sexual connotation), amazing, and in a magic way it completely suits you". Now, this is the kind of man I like to be around!

i will forever be a fan of your curls

SusieSuze · 12-26-2011, 04:12 PM

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Originally Posted by wholelottalove

Ever since I was a little girl I thought curls made people look more fun and friendly!! Men and women. I don't know why, but curlies always seemed so much more approachable, and straight haired people just seemed somehow colder.

I have got to agree with you there! I think that when the hair texture is soft, it is assumed the person has more softness in their personality. It looks warm and cozy and so your psyche transfers that feeling to your impression of their personality.

Maybe it is also that curlies have had to overcome... we have had to deal with something straight haired people have not... suffering makes us just a little more accepting and more understanding of others, perhaps. Maybe it makes us better friends.

Being fat with curly red hair means I've suffered a great deal... and that makes me ABSOLUTELY FABULOUS imo. LOL

Noni863 · 02-01-2012, 11:54 AM

Hmm...well, maybe some guys just don't like too much volume?

Although, me, being a wavy, I would love for some extra volume! Maybe he really does want to run his hands through your hair? In that case, try making it silky, you know, more moisturized.

But really, this isn't your fault. How does he act toward you? If he just doesn't like it, but really LOVES you, treats you right, won't make you feel bad, than that's good!

Now if he's just being a blockhead, and will make you feel bad about it, talk it out FIRST. Ask why he doesn't like it. If you find that he's just doing it to make you feel bad, then by all means, DUMP HIM! If he really loved you, he wouldn't want to make you feel bad, now would he?

All in all, just talk it out with him. Most problems in relationships happen because of lack of communication. And what's there to hide if you fully love/trust the person?

He may not be doing it on purpose. Or he could just be stupid.

mdderm · 02-10-2012, 07:42 PM

Wow. I didn't expect this many responses to this thread! This is amazing! I posted this thread 4 years ago, and almost even forgot about it. So much has changed since then in my life. I realize now looking back at my post that I was very frustrated, and I seem defensive, as if a man isn't allowed to have their opinion. If there is one thing I could say to my younger self, its that everyone is entitled to their opinions, and not everyone will appreciate you the way that you are. The key to life is to ask yourself am I happy with MYSELF. You have to love yourself in order to be truly happy, you cannot expect happiness and reassurement from others. My hair can be frustrating, high maintenence, and time consuming - BUT its also versatile, full of body, and in my opinion, super sexy.

I know that this thread will continue to grow, and I love reading the posts! I am in a different place now, and my hair is the least of my worries

. Keep rocking those curls girls (and guys!) But remember to love yourself, and thats all that matters.

Mdderm

GroYoFro · 02-10-2012, 09:44 PM

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Originally Posted by mdderm

Wow. I didn't expect this many responses to this thread! This is amazing! I posted this thread 4 years ago, and almost even forgot about it. So much has changed since then in my life. I realize now looking back at my post that I was very frustrated, and I seem defensive, as if a man isn't allowed to have their opinion. If there is one thing I could say to my younger self, its that everyone is entitled to their opinions, and not everyone will appreciate you the way that you are. The key to life is to ask yourself am I happy with MYSELF. You have to love yourself in order to be truly happy, you cannot expect happiness and reassurement from others. My hair can be frustrating, high maintenence, and time consuming - BUT its also versatile, full of body, and in my opinion, super sexy.

I know that this thread will continue to grow, and I love reading the posts! I am in a different place now, and my hair is the least of my worries

. Keep rocking those curls girls (and guys!) But remember to love yourself, and thats all that matters.

Mdderm

beautifully said : )

proudcurlygirly · 02-11-2012, 04:46 AM

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Originally Posted by GroYoFro

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Originally Posted by mdderm

Wow. I didn't expect this many responses to this thread! This is amazing! I posted this thread 4 years ago, and almost even forgot about it. So much has changed since then in my life. I realize now looking back at my post that I was very frustrated, and I seem defensive, as if a man isn't allowed to have their opinion. If there is one thing I could say to my younger self, its that everyone is entitled to their opinions, and not everyone will appreciate you the way that you are. The key to life is to ask yourself am I happy with MYSELF. You have to love yourself in order to be truly happy, you cannot expect happiness and reassurement from others. My hair can be frustrating, high maintenence, and time consuming - BUT its also versatile, full of body, and in my opinion, super sexy.

I know that this thread will continue to grow, and I love reading the posts! I am in a different place now, and my hair is the least of my worries

. Keep rocking those curls girls (and guys!) But remember to love yourself, and thats all that matters.

Mdderm

beautifully said : )

I agree. I felt all warm and fuzzy inside reading your recent post Mdderm. What a wonderful attitude to life you have. If more people thought as you do, the world would be a much happier place!

miranda banana · 02-11-2012, 05:45 AM

In grad school, when I met my husband, I ALWAYS straightened my hair. He saw it in its natural curly state about 3 months into our relationship, when we went to the beach with a bunch of friends. We sat on our towel and he started playing with my curls. I was SO nervous cuz I was very self conscience about my natural hair (thanks MOM!). He said "I thought you couldn't be any sexier, but I was wrong!" I've been wearing it curly ever since!!!

It was and is such a relief and time saver not to have to blow dry, flat iron my mid-back length hair! I think a lot of men love curls. I can't remember ever hearing any anti-curl sentiments from any one, male or female. After reading this thread, I feel lucky

Songstress38208 · 02-11-2012, 11:50 AM

This reply is to any woman who is with a guy that makes negative comments about her physically. I can't think of one reason where a man should say anything negative about a women's body unless it's for HEALTH REASONS such as being overwieght. He has the problem, not you and I know the post was made some time ago "why don't men like curly hair". I'm not sure what your ethnicity is but I dance on the salsa scene in Atlanta (which is very diverse with all colors and creeds) with alot of sisters that wear natural kinky curls and several of them have married white men on the scene. I wear my hair kinky with large afros at times and I swear, I never get more attention from ALL the guys. I'm not sure what's wrong with someones choice in men if they are going out with men that are critical of them physically. Men can spot insecurity miles away and maybe that is the problem. Work on your self esteem and that will be more attractive than any work you could do on the outside. Rock YOU to the best of your ability!! Kudos to all women of all shapes sizes and looks.

TriMixDiva · 02-11-2012, 09:29 PM

Real talk songstress ^

I had a really abusive ex boyfriend that told me he wouldn't take me out to dinner unless I straightened my hair. I can't believe I put up with his crap but I digress. I eventually realized I am worth much more than that and I know that self-acceptance is the most beautiful thing ever!

BellaCaramella · 02-13-2012, 09:38 PM

Wow, it's so crazy that so many men seem to not be into curly hair, because my experience has been the opposite. Men of every race have told me that they thought my hair was beautiful or sexy. Granted, I'm sure not EVERY guy is into it (just like not every guy is into any one type of woman...), but I've yet to come across one that doesn't love my hair. In fact, I actually had the opposite experience, with boyfriends and male friends wanting me to wear my hair curly more. I don't straighten my hair anymore (maybe twice a year if that), and my husband LOVES my curls. Ladies, keep hope alive, there are plenty of men out there who can't get enough of bouncy, beautiful curls!

curlyhoneyb · 02-16-2012, 09:39 AM

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Originally Posted by TriMixDiva

Real talk songstress ^

I had a really abusive ex boyfriend that told me he wouldn't take me out to dinner unless I straightened my hair. I can't believe I put up with his crap but I digress. I eventually realized I am worth much more than that and I know that self-acceptance is the most beautiful thing ever!

I love this post!

LindseyLoo003 · 02-16-2012, 10:02 AM

people like straight strands i guess because you can run your fingers through them easily. Big whoop. after that its still just straight and kinda plain. I think curlier hair and the curliest hair is even more fun to play with and touch when its taken care of and moisturized. my boyfriend told me that he prefers curly hair on me and mine gets frizzy and wild too sometimes. He aslo has curly hair and he used to wear it long and fluffy <3

Some people are just plain rude, or jealous, its not your hair.

whirlyhair · 02-16-2012, 05:49 PM

If you guys go to Yahoo!Answers, the whole "curly hair vs straight hair" questions and comments are terribly hurtful.

I would read men's answers saying that straight hair is sexier, "better", and more prettier than wavy/curly hair.

Whatever.

Nikki3b · 02-16-2012, 08:26 PM

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Originally Posted by whirlyhair

If you guys go to Yahoo!Answers, the whole "curly hair vs straight hair" questions and comments are terribly hurtful.

I would read men's answers saying that straight hair is sexier, "better", and more prettier than wavy/curly hair.

Whatever.

I don't know how I feel about this. I personally think I look better with straight hair but I also depends on my mood. The fact is that most women with curly hair don't know how to make it look it's best ( other than us of course &#128521

. And they're aren't that many curries around as is. People aren't expose to good curl enough lol. My ex liked curly hair and wanted me to keep it straight. I told him to kiss my a$$ and that's whats why he's my ex ( and wants me back curlys and all. Loser!). Stay off those threads. And thread that has to do with women coming from men with be negative most of the time. Men lack wisdom, plain and simple.