Stop Touching My Hair!!!!!

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oh man my uncle will rough up my hair and it drives me insane. i can feel myself cringing and pulling away when he does it. my aunts like to run their fingers through it, which i don't mind because they are pretty gentle, but it still breaks up the curl and it gets poofy. both of them have pretty straight hair though, and the marvel at how soft my hair is because they "don't know anyone with soft curly hair." pffffff.
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I had this problem a lot when I was younger and in grade school. A boy behind me used to play with my hair all the time, even after I asked him to stop. The teacher refused to back me up in saying that my body and my personal space was my own.

So one day (after MONTHS of leaving school with missing patches of hair) I put my long hair in a braid down my back and braided a shooting marble into the end of my braid, and topped it with a bow. The second I felt hands on my hair, I turned my head very quickly. He got his nose broken. I never had to ask him to keep his hands to himself again.

This sort of thing is much less of a problem now that I'm an adult. Most people aren't willing to risk life and limb to pet the curly hair of a 6 foot Amazonian woman.
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There's this girl at my job who really ticked me off doing that and I'm normally pretty laid back. I talk to the girl sometimes so we're on friendly terms. I came to work with a good looking twist out and I was in a great mood because the humidity wasn't as bad so my curls weren't going to frizz too much. She comes up to me talking about how much she likes my hair, and proceeds to RAKE her fingers through it! I hate people touching my hair without my permission, my fiance doesn't even do it (unless it's during certain activities ). So I stop myself from getting really mad and tell her not to do that. Then she has the nerve to ask me why. I told her that what she was doing was messing up my curls and my hair would get frizzy. This girl seriously looked at me and said, "No it won't." I couldn't take it anymore, I told her, "I think I know my hair better than you do" and walked away.
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I can relate... at my school my hair proves to be a distraction because someone is constantly playing with it. On the bright side people usually don't run their fingers through my hair (They learn quickly...) but like to pull gently on the ends to make them spring.
There are 4 people who constanly do this... generally without warning.
This was a huge problem when I first started wearing my hair curly...People walking by me at school would just stick their hands out and run them over my hair. Now that it's longer, I find people are less likely to touch, but I do tie it back more often so I think that's a factor.

I've been asked if it was real, if it was natural, had people trying to tell me that "nobody has hair like that" and that I use products to get it that way, and people who acknowledge that some people do have hair like mine but that I don't have that naturally. People do touch it sometimes (without asking, of course) and get all offended and/or upset when I tell them not to do that, like they have a right to touch me or something and I'm just being mean by not letting them. Usually I get made fun of, by family as well as complete strangers who have no qualms about leaning out of a car window to yell at someone they don't know in the street.

It's all very frustrating...
Funny enough, just a few weeks ago I was at a competition with my middle school's jazz band and we were just goofing off before we performed and six people were running their hands through my hair and messing up my BSL 2c's.
By the time I went on to perform, I looked like a creature was growing out of the top of my head.

Only my friends touch is though. And my mom. She's constantly screwing up my hair and frizzing me up.
People can boing my curls (with permission, of course) but do not rake my hair with your fingers! Grrr!
My sister-in-law (hubby's sister) pets my hair. I kind of like it. She's gentle, it doesn't mess my hair. It's like hugging my hair.

I'm probably less "touchy" (get the pun? LOL) than many who have posted on this thread. I'm not as annoyed, but it's the raking part that drives me nuts. It makes my hair looks frizzy and poofy!

Only once in the past 5 years has that happened. I think if it happens again, I'll mess up their hair in return.
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This was a huge problem when I first started wearing my hair curly...People walking by me at school would just stick their hands out and run them over my hair. Now that it's longer, I find people are less likely to touch, but I do tie it back more often so I think that's a factor.

I've been asked if it was real, if it was natural, had people trying to tell me that "nobody has hair like that" and that I use products to get it that way, and people who acknowledge that some people do have hair like mine but that I don't have that naturally. People do touch it sometimes (without asking, of course) and get all offended and/or upset when I tell them not to do that, like they have a right to touch me or something and I'm just being mean by not letting them. Usually I get made fun of, by family as well as complete strangers who have no qualms about leaning out of a car window to yell at someone they don't know in the street.

It's all very frustrating...
Originally Posted by TheGnome


It's almost like if you have curly hair people treat you like some kind of animal. They want to pet you. I don't understand where the fascination comes from. I get alot of people wanting to touch my hair whenever I wear it out, and I always think why how is that normal? Of course maybe I'm just not a fan of being touched anyway
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I'm a pretty snarky person so if someone were to do that to me I would probably say something pretty horrible to them without realizing it.

I haven't been wearing my hair curly for very long yet, only about about a month and I work mostly with a bunch a men. But one of cleaning ladies came up and was talking to me about my curly hair one day and asked if she could touch my curls. I thought that was nice of her. She is really sweet anyway so I said yes.

When I was straightening my hair my husband used to run his fingers through my hair when I drove us home at night. He doesn't do that now that I've been wearing it curly. He would lose his fingers in my hair.
Oh my...I had a huge issue with this in high school. People would play with my hair all the time, walking through the hall, sitting in class. It would happen at grocery stores, the mall, pretty much anywhere with complete strangers. Sometimes, they'd never say a word, others I'd get compliments. Don't get me started on family... >_< I still get this some now days, but not nearly as bad.

I had the same bubble issues when I was working at Walgreens, I ran the photo lab. My lip is pierced and a few times a week some old guy would GRAB MY FACE and ask me "how do you kiss boys with that mouth?" Um...creepy much? >_>

I am constantly telling my bf not to touch my hair when its drying and he means well but I constantly have to tell him to stop running his hands through my hair. My beautiful curls suddenly frizzy mess....thanks baby... love you too.. He loves my curlies too much not to play with him...frustrating but endearing.
Thank goodness that has lessened as I have aged, but it used to happen ALL THE TIME. It's a very unusual color red and very curly (4a) so people were constantly pawing at it. Talk about violating your space! It's SO rude, but yet they think if they are saying something "nice" it makes it okay. Wonder how they would feel if I went up and grabbed their "love handles" or belly fat or something?
Originally Posted by irishlass1029
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People touch my hair all the time. Track/weave check me and all of that. It is annoying and i feel like they're petting me...i under you touch a strand to see how it feel and you compliament...but dont pull, grab yank my hair.. and DONT SCRATCH MY SCALP LIKE YOU WOULD A DOG
unless your my man, or someone close dont try to track check me
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I don't mind if people randomly 'boing' my hair, but touching it while it's drying???? J-JUST... NO. I don't mind that little halo of frizz when someone puts their hand through my hair AFTER it's completely dry, but while it's drying, um, OFF-LIMITS. I get all tetchy :I
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I have mixed feelings about this... People wanting to touch my hair instead of recoiling in horror is a good sign, but I have an sensitive scalp, and tugs are really painful to me. The only person I let actually play with my hair is my husband... he understands that he has to be gentle, and it *must* be dry, but I will let him touch it (I even let him cut it twice... best 2 haircuts I have ever had, and he is untrained... he just loves the curls!) People at work touch it a lot because there is a lot of honest hair envy... people who wore their hair straight all the time started curling it after I was working there for about 5 months, and they always want to touch... none of the shoving fingers in roots bs or anything, just separating out a few curls to admire the pattern. It does tug though, and it hurts my head.
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I have the same thing I guess it's just because some people are good and handling curly like just touching it and then there's people who try and run their fingers through it I mean really how dumb to ya have to be to not know running ur fingers through curly hair just doesn't work and for the persons hair ur touching it can be pretty painful too!
So, I can hardly go to the grocery store without someone wanting to touch my hair! I really don't mind much, I guess b/c I'm used to it. I'm also pretty outgoing, and I know there are not a whole lot of people with hair like mine, so I take it as a compliment. It's totally different than someone wanting to touch your fat rolls, as one person stated. I used to get made fun of so much (as I'm sure many of us curly girls have), especially b/c my hair didn't get this curly until middle school, so I didn't even know not to brush it! If someone was getting creepy about it, I'd tell them to stop, but it's never gone that far before! Anyhow, just my 2 cents! If someone was being mean, or stroking it, that'd be odd, plus, it's impossible for anyone to run their fingers thru it, and it can't really get much frizzier But most people don't see hair like ours very often, and I think people get enthralled! What a compliment!

Last edited by edotgirl80; 05-17-2011 at 10:15 PM. Reason: Updated date
Well, I guess I'm more on the evil side. I don't like for strangers to touch me on the best of days and since my hair has begun to curl (chemo) it actually makes my scalp sore. Yesterday I was at the grocery store and from behind me I hear "look curly hair" and someone jams her hand in my hair. It really hurt. When I turned around I found myself facing a complete stranger. I seriously wanted to punch her in the face. Instead I placed both my hands on her chest and said "look ****". Needless to say she wasted no time in getting away from me. My mother almost fell to the ground she was laughing so hard.
LOL!!!! I am so sorry it was painful when she grabbed your hair, but your response is the best I have heard so far. Stay cool!
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That used to happen to me. I kind of say nicely, "I don't like my hair being touched". I don't like to be touched in general. But if I know the person then yeah they can touch my hair. People also say I come off as "stand offish" so maybe that's why that doesn't really happen anymore.

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