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Old 02-23-2011, 03:08 AM   #141
 
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Just to say - I haven't sat and read this thread but..

Who cares if people with 'wavy' hair get called 'curly'? It has a curl to it

If it's one thing I've learnt from this site is that there is such a gigantic, broad spectrum of curls and kinks and waves - and they are all beautiful.

Why drag anyone down about their hair? It seems a little unnecessary and rude to call someone out on this and go, 'well actually you can't belong to the 'curly' club because you only have 'waves'. Come on people - thats not what this site is about.
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Wow hella drama! To the OP: I accept wavies as curlies.
Agreed!

My hair is mixed and changes often; I have spirals and "S" waves, but I've always considered it curly. My boyfriend's little sister has very pretty wavy hair and she says hers is curly as well. I've never said "NO, your hair is wavy."

It's like if I have a friend who is white but says she's tan just because she's a tiny bit darker than most white people, and I had to get all insecure about how I'm the tan one because my skin is naturally olive-toned.

Not trying to call anyone out or cause more drama, but if you're going to get uppity and say someone with wavy hair is arrogant or jealous for describing their hair as curly, you've got to be a liiiittle crazy.

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Okay, so...I'm really bored....and I passed by this thread. Don't hate on me for posting. Well, either way it's happening so yeah. Cuz I'm bored.

Anyway, my overall opinion of this entire thread is that some people take things very seriously, maybe even too seriously [[shocker]]. Some people get offended over just about anything, especially if they feel strongly about a certain topic. So, in saying that, I don't think that this thread needs to "die" or that it's even terrible for that matter. I honestly saw the OP post as being a mini-rant that had the possibility of turning into a controversial and opinioned topic. GOOD topic, actually. Life would suck without interesting threads such as these.

I don't feel the need to get hostile over what people justify as being "wavy" or "curly" nor do I get offended when it comes to talking about my own hair. Maybe it is because I have never taken it so seriously for no reason. I actually always thought of myself to be a high-strung individual with a short temper, but when I joined this site I realized that there are lots of people that get offended much easier than I do. And that's fine. You do you and I do me.

But I do believe that this topic is quite interesting and I would never hate on someone for having a different opinion on it as I have. What would a post be if I did not state my own opinion? Well, that being said, I don't get irked or pissed off or offended, or any of that crap when someone with wavy hair refers to it as "curly". To be honest, I have better things in life to get pissed off about (like maybe the piece of sh1t guy in my life at the time or something). But, if that person with wavy hair is complaining about it, for example, "When my hair is curly it's SOOOOO frizzy omg I hate it, seriously" (especially if it's in that valley-girl tone of voice) then yeah I might do an eye-roll off to the side, but I literally forget about it in .0005 seconds.

I guess "hair" has never really offended me. Whenever I glance at the hall of shame boards, it always shocks me to hear of people getting harrassed or hearing negative comments about their hair. I mean yeah, I used to get bullied at times when I was younger, but I suppose maturity has allowed me to not let "hair issues" bother me now. Maybe my confidence allows me to brush things off more easily, I don't know. At any rate.....just love your hair. If you think that "wavy" and "curly" are two separate categories, then so be it. Who cares. Everyone is entitled to their own opinion, and to me it is silly to get riled over it. BUT THAT'S MY OPINION.
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Old 03-21-2011, 11:19 AM   #145
 
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Sometimes people really get to me when they scrunch their hair and call it curly. Maybe I'm just envious because their "curls" look so nice, and mine are frizzy cork-screws. But, I just don't like it when people are always telling them how pretty their "curly" hair is, but people always ask why I don't striaghten mine. But, I usually just keep my mouth shut and don't say anything.
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this annoys me sooo much. i guess you can consider some wavy hair to be kinda curly. but it bothers me the most when girls with pin straight hair have their hair in a bun, and they say like "when i take my hair out of the bun it's going to be so curly!" but it's just a little wavy..
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i thought the whole point of this site was for ppl who want to embrace their hair, i have combination wavy/curly hair and was so excited to find a place where i could learn from other women how to better care for my hair i have been loving theese forums but im so sad to see this caddy highschool type of labeling. i have seen women on here that started with wavy or undefined curl patterns and after help from this site now have hair curlier than they thought possible so if they were banned in the first place where would they be? i think there are much better things to worry over than how a wavy could steal your thunder.
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My hair fits into the 'wavy' category, but I would never call it wavy.

I call my hair curly because people seem to think wavy hair is just straight hair with a few natural waves that can be brushed out. And my hair- if brushed- turns into a huge puff with waves and curls.

There's a difference between waves and curls.

Waves, the non ringlety version of curls. They can go from loose waves to thick, tight waves. But they aren't ringlets.

Curls, the tighter version of waves. They can go from loose ringlets to corkscrews.

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Old 07-05-2011, 10:03 AM   #149
 
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There is something interesting about this thread, and it has nothing at all to do with hair.

It has to do with humanity.

What right does anyone have to stand in judgement of anyone else? And why should any of this matter?

I think the fact is, our world is too damned easy for everyone. There is no life struggle so many of us are constantly looking to find ways to exert our egos. We need to feel a fight of some kind and we need to succeed at surviving. This is an innate need we all have. Some people have no idea this is what they are actually doing (exerting their egos to feel gratification) when they attack others in a self-righteous manner. It's actually a very normal and very common for those that are not really self-aware. And even for those that are aware of this phenomenon, old habits die hard and you can still get caught up in inane arguments that give you the thrill of struggling to survive.

We are all human, after all, so this is just where the OP is in her development and evolution as a human being. She will likely laugh at herself when she grows out of this phase and realizes that she need not waste her precious life energy on this kind of unproductive way of being.

Amazing things lie in everyone's future when they let go of the bondage of ego and embrace the freedom of acceptance and love.
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Reading this thread, I have to laugh at myself. Whenever I said I had curly hair, my stylist always made sure to say I had wavy hair. I got a little silently defensive of my curls!

In all honesty, my hair didn't look curly at the time. I was not embracing my curl. In fact, I was fighting against it with heavy products and the occasional flat iron.

Anyway, now we know that we're both right - I've got a little bit of everything going on from slightly wavy strands to corkscrews.
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I think some of you are taking this too seriously. I don't think anyone was bashing wavy hair. I personally don't like it when girls at my School say they can't wear it natural because it sooooo curly when its just wavy. People have different definitions at things...doesn't mean their bashing it.

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I don't know if it's just me but i hate when my friends who have wavy hair or just anyone with wavy hair say "oh i like my hair better curly." Also when the complain the talk about there "curls".

And ppl go up to me and say oh how do you get your hair so wavy?!

"Its curly!"
I completely agree with you. It gets on my last nerve when my friends with a slight wave in their hair complain about their "curls". If they think their "curls" are hard to take care of, they should try taking care of mine!
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Old 07-30-2011, 05:39 AM   #153
 
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when i dont comb my hair, it has big ringlets

when i comb, it's slightly wavy
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I don't know if it's just me but i hate when my friends who have wavy hair or just anyone with wavy hair say "oh i like my hair better curly." Also when the complain the talk about there "curls".

And ppl go up to me and say oh how do you get your hair so wavy?!

"Its curly!"
I completely agree with you. It gets on my last nerve when my friends with a slight wave in their hair complain about their "curls". If they think their "curls" are hard to take care of, they should try taking care of mine!

This is so absurd.

1. wavy hair is no easier to deal with than very curly hair. In some way, I think it can present more of a challenge as an awkward wave is hard to flatten or rearrange, and waves are inherently unpredictable, whereas with curls you pretty much know what you're going to be dealing with every day.

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2. The abstract for the "Hall of Shame" section is (to paraphrase): a place to discuss curl bashing. And yet here is a thread which is little more than bashing--or in the very least belittling--people with a variation of the hair texture that this forum is intended to support.

It's basically, "My hair is harder and so therefore more worthy of consideration than yours, so do not speak to me about the tribulations you might have with your own hair, or in any way relate your hair texture to mine, because you have it all easy-peasy and do not know what follicular suffering is!"

It's hair martyrdom. And it's absurd.
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I don't know if it's just me but i hate when my friends who have wavy hair or just anyone with wavy hair say "oh i like my hair better curly." Also when the complain the talk about there "curls".

And ppl go up to me and say oh how do you get your hair so wavy?!

"Its curly!"
I completely agree with you. It gets on my last nerve when my friends with a slight wave in their hair complain about their "curls". If they think their "curls" are hard to take care of, they should try taking care of mine!

This is so absurd.

1. wavy hair is no easier to deal with than very curly hair. In some way, I think it can present more of a challenge as an awkward wave is hard to flatten or rearrange, and waves are inherently unpredictable, whereas with curls you pretty much know what you're going to be dealing with every day.

And

2. The abstract for the "Hall of Shame" section is (to paraphrase): a place to discuss curl bashing. And yet here is a thread which is little more than bashing--or in the very least belittling--people with a variation of the hair texture that this forum is intended to support.

It's basically, "My hair is harder and so therefore more worthy of consideration than yours, so do not speak to me about the tribulations you might have with your own hair, or in any way relate your hair texture to mine, because you have it all easy-peasy and do not know what follicular suffering is!"

It's hair martyrdom. And it's absurd.


Did you just call curly hair predictable? Lmao. Hahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahaha. Try having 4a and come back at me with predictable.
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Did you just call curly hair predictable? Lmao. Hahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahaha. Try having 4a and come back at me with predictable.
Hahaha your response made me laugh, I definitely agree curls are no easier than waves and waves can also be inherently troublesome. I think some people are getting a little too intense with this situation XD

As for my opinion yes I think it's ridiculous when girls with straight hair scrunch gel into it and call it curly. No ladies its not a matter of jealously I just honestly think it's ridiculous ^.^
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So, call me officially confused and slightly frustrated. Right now my hair is fairly long and after a lifetime of thinking that I was a curly girlie I am no longer sure. I clearly have a mix of s waves and ringlets (particularly I have spirals on the bottom) so I may just have a 2c , 3a/3b combo going. At the end of the day all that really matters to me is that I find products that work for me.

I will say that I was called out by a couple of people recently (a work) who said that I had too many s waves to be a true curly. Yet if I look at pictures of Alex Kingston my texture looks pretty similar ... -shrug - so much of my curl pattern is dependent on the products I use, the length and the humidity.
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are you kidding me kiki, look at that lusciuos head of curls,,, love it. The longer my hair got, along with, some really not curl enhancing trims...I wondered too.Also my hairs so fine, anything too heavu, I can (comb/smooth the curls practically to poofy-wavy.. Slightly shaping, curl friendly cuts, and your right diff products .make huge diff. But I love your hair,, and Im a big curl fan.
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Aww that is sweet, but yeah completely serious. I am now wondering though if the curls are being pulled down by too much weight. I think I need more layers!
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I always considered my hair to be super curly, being surrounded by almost only straight haired white people! And then I come to this site, being absolutely 100% sure I have curly hair, and someone suggests it might be a 2c wavy?
Just depends on who you'e comparing to really, maybe compared to a 3c my hair looks quite wavy but compared to a 2a or straight with some waves-person it looks super curly..
In the end it doesn't really matter to me, as long as my pattern looks nice and healthy
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