Eating Disorders & Your Hair

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I actually only eat dinner, and a little bit. I always make excuses like I ate at school and am not hungry.

To be honest, no one knows about my disorder, I am very ashamed... but I seem awkward most days. I fidget, I look as though I am not paying attention, I'll fall asleep, not be able to talk properly, trip over myself... and people assume it's drugs. My best friend calls me a steatopygous which is a term used to describe a figure with a fat ass, when I tell him to stop, he won't and will make cracks about my weight thinking it's funny because I'm "not fat".

Soy milk is wonderful! I can't handle dairy.

I'm scared for next week, my memory is shot and I'm always tired. I need to get through a Latin exam, Greek art exam and a Greek test...

I'm ranting again, it's a bad day.

I wish I had supportive parents and friends. When I had told my mother years ago that I am depressed, she told me to get the **** over it.
Originally Posted by InMediasRes



My psychiatrist, told my parents I was depressed and they chuckled while telling him I was only twelve. Years later in eleventh grade when I finally told them i had suffered from anorexia and bulimia on and off since 4th grade, they were baffled.
I was told, "you are half black, black girls dont have eating disorders." Surprisingly i hid it for so long even at my lowest weight they thought it was phase.

You know parents dont understand unless they have had that experience also.
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fotki:
The worst part is that this whole thing because of your dysfunctional parents in many cases - who do you turn to? I thought I was better, you know, self-healed. Today I nearly made myself throw up. How do you stop from relapsing into an eating disorder?
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The worst part is that this whole thing because of your dysfunctional parents in many cases - who do you turn to? I thought I was better, you know, self-healed. Today I nearly made myself throw up. How do you stop from relapsing into an eating disorder?
Originally Posted by CurlyEyes

When i was at my worst i turned to my friends
surprisingly i made numerous friends whom secretly
had ed's also. i never needed to share this part of me with my parents.



Gosh you sound like me, told after I ate a whole can of ravioli, a sausage and a waffle i had to sit in the bathroom telling myself one time couldnt hurt.

Its just that full feeling that makes me feel uncomfortable. Its really pathetic actually as many
times I relapsed and promised myself i wouldnt anymore.
fotki:
The worst part is that this whole thing because of your dysfunctional parents in many cases - who do you turn to? I thought I was better, you know, self-healed.
Originally Posted by CurlyEyes
Curlyeyes, you are absolutely right, i know the exact cause of all my eating/body images problems in one way or another they r down to my total lack of proper parents!

My mom reacted similarly to yours InMediaRes, she was totally dismissive and then got really patronising and angry about it... she would make me huge meals and actually expect me to eat them out of guilt!!! Then of course i wud say 'hell no' and she would rant on about how i was 'grown woman and shud stop behaving like a teeneage kid', etc,etc. Imagine her reaction when i told her what my consellor had said about it all being down to her being totally f**ked up... she said i was lying, didnt know why i had told my counsellor lies about her... and so on, so i just left and never mentioned any of it again. This made me feel even worse, so i simply moved away... within a week i was gone, and it was the best thing i ever did.


When i was at my worst i turned to my friends
surprisingly i made numerous friends whom secretly
had ed's also. i never needed to share this part of me with my parents.
Originally Posted by sillyellie
This is also so true! I coudlnt believe that BOTH of my best friends have eating disorders... as soon as i started telling them about my problems, they slowly came out with more of theirs that were the same in most cases, like laxative abuse, throwing up... but it was like we'd all been too ashamed to be honest about it before, and so we'd ended up going thru the worst bits all alone... its so sad. But sometimes i think we trigger each other tho... it is bad but if one of them stops eating i immediately feel fat and like i need to restrict too, although id never admit it and i try to encourage them to eat sensibly.

To be honest ive never found anyone to whom i can fully turn to about the ED thing... the people who shud be there are either too selfish (mom) or i dont want to hurt (rest of family, boyf), have similar probs themselves (close friends) or else i'm too embarrased (everyone else!). The only person who i found helped at all was my old counsellor... but shes a few hundred miles away now

Today I nearly made myself throw up. How do you stop from relapsing into an eating disorder?
Originally Posted by CurlyEyes
Oh curlyeyes i am so sad about this... i wish i knew the answer for you... i personally havent thrown up for a few months now, when i had a small relapse, but i think about it a lot... i think just remembering that if u are able to stop yourself from doing it just one time then you are stronger for it, and hopefully it will get easier each time to say no. Let me know how things go, and everyone, take good care xxx
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Hi there xtxscarletxtx!

I have had a similar experience, my hair turned dry and brittle (well even more than usual) and thinned considerably... but the weird thing was that it only thinned on one side of head! It was only on the right side, which is usually where my hair is the thickest and is the side that grows faster (I'm right-handed), so i really noticed the difference when i was going through anorexia and bulimia. I think i noticed a greater change during my bulimic phase, which was horrendous to say the least.

It is scary when u realise just how much what u do/dont put into your body can affect your hair.

Thanks for sharing your experience, I am glad to hear you are recovering and are well. xxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxx
Originally Posted by Lillu
This is exactly what happened to me! And I've recovered from bulimia, also. Thanks for giving me hope.

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My hair just damn straight stopped growing and became really brittle and dry. After three years of anorexia it jsut started falling out and im not suprised my body was brutalised so much in those years. I cut my bsl+ hair to chin to save what was left when I started getting better.
The worst part is that this whole thing because of your dysfunctional parents in many cases - who do you turn to? I thought I was better, you know, self-healed. Today I nearly made myself throw up. How do you stop from relapsing into an eating disorder?
Originally Posted by CurlyEyes
CurlyeyesI'll tell you something. I suffered severe anorexia (full blown for three years, was probably underlying formany years before that) and everyday I stilltry to challenge what is left of my eating disorder.Something .Anything. I know it will NEVER really be gone, but by eating that cookie I wanted or something as simple as not letting myself do those 5 extra mintues in the gym letsme know that I am the one in the control.Me, Hannah the person, and not anorexia.
Look at what you wrote, you said 'nearly'and thats so important. The fact that you resistant,that you didnt let the eating disorder win is a huge step, and if you can say to yourself everyday: I am ME, I am what I am and I am beautiful beacause I am me, then your are well on your way to recovery.
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Back in my teenage years, early 20s, my hair suffered because of my diet. I exercising a lot and really limiting the food I consumed. I believe the lack of proper nutrition is the reason my hair fell out. Thankfully it grew back.
During high school, I dropped weight quickly. Like many of you, my parents were oblivious. To this day, unless my mother has experienced it, it just can't/doesn't happen. She had easy pregnancies so mine had to be easy.. when in fact, my first was HORRIBLE.
I now have lupus and she doesn't believe it when I'm flaring.. I must have the flu, need to take my vitamins and wear glasses (I have 20/20 vision)
People handle situations differently and while we yearn for sympathy and understanding, it's not always there, sadly.

That's one reason the internet is a great thing. We can meet other people with similar experiences.
From my experience, I didn't feel worthy. My weight was the one thing I could control while the rest of my life felt out of control. Eating and exercise were all under my control. What I've learned now that control is just an illusion.
When we don't eat, we don't function well so our life goes into a downward spiral. Talk about lack of control. And what you do in high school greatly affects your adult life.
Believe that you are worthy of taking care of yourself. If you relapse, it's ok. Start over. We learn by mistakes.... pick up and start over. It's ok.
You can get better. Find your triggers. Explore your emotions. Fine someone to talk to. There's a lot of free counseling out there.
If your parents don't understand, don't talk to them about it. It'll just upset you more. One day, maybe a counselor can talk to them for you. They still love you. They just don't "get it". Hang in there. And if you need to talk, we're here.
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I'm not sure what made me read this thread because I don't suffer from ED but it made me so sad for everyone here. ED isn't my problem, but I've had my share of psychological and physical illness so I can relate in a way.

I wish all of you the strength to conquer your demons. Hang on.
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Well I've never had an eating disorder, but there was one year that I didn't gain any weight. That year my hair was a lot thinner. Once I gained the weight I needed it went back to the way it was. Hopefully this will be the same to you
I didn't have a true eating disorder but had gallbladder disease that caused extreme all day nausea and I couldn't eat and lost 60lbs in just a few months. I went from a size 10 to a size 00 (could fit in child size 10s).

My hair fell out in huge clumps, especially around the temples. I had bald spots right up front. My skin also turned sallow yellow green and I had huge bruises covering my skin. It was horrible.

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I eat of thing is not much, not enough nutrition, and now my hair is very wither, no brightness, I very worry, think that diet or important.
Good hair style, with good dress in, and that is perfect........
my hair was never much affected and did come back to normal (thick and coarse) once I was over 100lb consistently.

On fats, healthy fats, what helped me was a summer when I was dancing a lot and ate a lot of avocados, and actually lost weight. Which I guess wasn't exactly healthy thinking but it did make me less afraid of fat in food.

On body image (way off topic now) really it got completely resolved when I got pregnant (which didn't happen until I was at 125lb - i am 5'9" so wasn't fertile at lower weight - at that time I was still kind of worried about food but not crazy) because i saw the big round belly and it was just PRETTY, you know? My thinking really changed. Ever since then no relapse into bad feelings about food. I was still kinda controlley about it but definitely not to where it was making me too skinny.

I am 43 now, 4 kids and 130lb. Still thin and still attached to being thin but definitely focused on eating healthy and I do have a good relationship with food now, not playing at weight loss, if I get under 130 I eat more and do not feel icky about it.

I hope you ladies have a lasting recovery, best wishes to you.
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Eating disorders can change hair. I know this isn't really an eating disorder but I have anemia. My hair was really dry and frizzy. On top of all I am very depressed. My parents are not supportive at all either! They just act like it's normal to feel "sad" but they don't know the difference between "sad" and "depression". My mom is the even bigger ignorant fool. All she cares about more than my depression is cleaning and her dumb plants. I've been battling depression for 3-4 years. My hair keeps breaking off and has been the same length for 4 years. I put olive oil and two eggs in my hair and my hair looks way better. To think that the fact that my hair looks dryer than before I had depression and that I am always sleeping my parents would think for once. But try olive oil and egg.
I actually only eat dinner, and a little bit. I always make excuses like I ate at school and am not hungry.

To be honest, no one knows about my disorder, I am very ashamed... but I seem awkward most days. I fidget, I look as though I am not paying attention, I'll fall asleep, not be able to talk properly, trip over myself... and people assume it's drugs. My best friend calls me a steatopygous which is a term used to describe a figure with a fat ass, when I tell him to stop, he won't and will make cracks about my weight thinking it's funny because I'm "not fat".

Soy milk is wonderful! I can't handle dairy.

I'm scared for next week, my memory is shot and I'm always tired. I need to get through a Latin exam, Greek art exam and a Greek test...

I'm ranting again, it's a bad day.

I wish I had supportive parents and friends. When I had told my mother years ago that I am depressed, she told me to get the **** over it.
Originally Posted by InMediasRes



My psychiatrist, told my parents I was depressed and they chuckled while telling him I was only twelve. Years later in eleventh grade when I finally told them i had suffered from anorexia and bulimia on and off since 4th grade, they were baffled.
I was told, "you are half black, black girls dont have eating disorders." Surprisingly i hid it for so long even at my lowest weight they thought it was phase.

You know parents dont understand unless they have had that experience also.
Originally Posted by sillyellie
Oh, sweet anus. I HATE THAT. When I was struggling with cutting, depression and EDNOS (Eating Disorder Not Otherwise Specified) I was always belittled or told that black girls don't have cut themselves or have eating disorders. It's enough to drive someone even crazier. People were always making me feel bad about the entire thing because EDNOS is already kinda seen as the joke of all eating disorders (someone seriously told me this) so i felt as though I was oerexaggerating. But when I was always cold, always sick from overexercising and undereating, and my hair's few sheds a day turned into clumps in my comb, I knew that just because everyone else thought I didn't have a real "problem", it wasn't going to get much better if I didn't change.

But the point is yeah, my hair started falling out and was extremely dry. It's basically back to normal now, but it still sheds much more than it used to.

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woow great to read so many lovely story's! my parents were the other way round, when i was 13-14 they thought that i had bulimia, cause i was a bit fat, but in a few months i lost alot of weight.... i was even cutting somthing n that, they didnt believe me that i wasnt, didnt matter how many screaming sessions we had, or how many times mum sent me to the school nurse...... i didnt have an eating disorder but i never really ate properly n would spit my food out when i could. n i would count how much i would eat. then last year i was really sick, n couldnt eat for about a month..... still since then i somtimes dont feel like eating or wont.

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Well I used to suffer with eating disorders, specifically anorexia and purging. I pretty much never ate and when I did I usually purged it back up.
Well I am better now. I eat very healthy, lots of fruits and veggies and I also take 1000mg of Biotin a day b/c I heard it helps with hair growth. I also quit smoking and exercise 3 times per week. I am still a bit small, 104lbs at 5'6 but I am working on it.
I remember noticing before how I could never get my hair to grow long. Could that have been from my poor diet? Will my hair start to grow faster/longer now since I'm eating? Thanks!
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