For whatever reason, I stopped getting emails about people posting to this thread, and for that I'm so sorry!
But, I'll try to respond to q's now..
I think a low-listed sulfate is fine, but no sulfates is ideal. The wheat and soy proteins caused build-up on my hair, but here's an article with more info on proteins The Best Protein for Hair
Honestly, most of it is guess and check. I tried all the different types (cream, gel, mousse, jelly, etc) and took pictures. ALWAYS write down all your steps. I looked back at all the pictures and followed the steps for the results I liked best
Right! When I first started cowashing it made SUCH a huge difference in my hair!! Fantastic
I'm a 3a, so I'm not too sure as to what would work best for you, but I would suggest having a look at the 3b and 3c boards - the 3a board helped me soo much when I dived in!
I know this isn't what you want to hear, but.. you have to experiment =\ I can't say that one will work over another, it's all guess and check. But it's fun! Take pictures, write down all your steps, and replicate the steps for the results you like best!
You're too sweet
Wow, awesome! I bet your waves will get tighter after this method!!