Join Date: Jun 2012
A history of hair
Hello everybody! My name is Michelle, and I've known about this website for a long while now, and I'm always being redirected to go back to your forum for all sort of useful information, I've finally decided to join myself to get more experienced insight on my crazy curly hair.
Part of this comes from my, semi, slow acceptance of my naturally 3a/2c (I'm very on the fence about this, continue reading to find out why,) coarse, dense hair. Here is some hair history...
From a child I was always the kid with the 'giant' hair. Moms loved it (go figure!) I would make my mother slick it back into the tightest bun or ponytail she could make every morning. For a few years I wore a bandana all the time.
I have cut my hair shorter that an inch 3 times in my life. The first time when I was 7 years old and wanted a 'boy cut.' The second time was after getting a chin length, curly curly hairstyle (I would use gel to hold up the maximum curl,) it turned out to be too girly for me, so at 14, I chopped it off again and kept longer bangs to straighten the crap out of every morning (I also died the back.)
From that hairstyle, I grew it out, and for probably a good year and a half I would straighten it every morning. After a shower, it would take me 2-3 hour to straighten my hair, and then in between I would do it every morning, for about 30 minutes. At that point, I was straightening out my hair to keep it looking how I liked it while I grew it out.
Despite all my chops, I have always wanted long, luxurious hair. At the bare minimum, I wanted a hairstyle I could wear down and not cringe when I looked in the mirror. What saddened me always was the fact that my curly, ugly, frizzy, coarse, dense, dry, much despised hair just did not suit me. I didn't like it simple as that, for starters, but everyone always says how pretty curly hair is and I look at gorgeous woman who do pull it off and I just sit there thinking, I'm not one of them! Straighter, smoother, wavy, relaxed hair I felt always best suited my personality. I'm discovering now later in life that I was always spot on about the relaxed, casual, effortless part, but what I was missing was 'healthy' and accepting it...
2 years ago, when my straight hair reached below my shoulders (slightly less than APL, I would say,) I decided it was time to go to a hair stylist to get the chop I've always wanted; one that I could wear down, one that would make my curly hair look more wavy and relaxed, one with romantic and casual bangs, one I did not have to abuse to feel happy with! Long story short, I cried home from the stylist, hating my hair. The woman twisted my words, telling me to accept my curly hair. Bang? She gave my bangs; bangs that were ugly and short, blunt stopping mid-way across my forehead that she said I would have to straighten! The top layer of my hair seemed too long to give the overall shape of my hair much body, and the last half-foot of hair all curled and layered up and, yep, you guess it-- triangle head. I was so sad. I gave up. I wore a hat 24/7 until I, again, chopped off all my hair, this time, an inch short all around.
I kept it that way for about half a year. Since the beginning of this year, I have topped cutting it and am letting it grow out again. I'm going to give it yet another chance. This time it's going to be different.
My hair right now, pulled straight from the top of my crown reaches the bottom of my nose, almost 5 inches, thought this was where even in the short style my hair was the longest, so it varies slightly all around my head. I've been wearing a tuke 24/7 since growing out my unstylish afro. When I say this time it's going to be different, I mean it.
First off, I am going on 19 this year. It is hard to tell with hair so short, but I believe it is possible that due to the time in my life my hair may be changing. At 5 inches, dry, I'll comb it, run my fingers through it, and it does about 3 waves. At the side of my hair where the hair is shorter, it manages to loops itself. I feel a difference in my hair though, like if it was long how I would like it to be, it could be naturally loose and wavy/curly. I wouldn't mind 2c one bit! Ive recently been inspired by some beautiful people with long beautiful hair with nice big loops and waves.
Secondly, for obvious reasons after I chopped off my hair, it's naturally healthier. I've only use a straightener on it twice since beginning to grow it out, and this wasn't for fun, this was for two special occasions where I couldn't wear my tuke. I don't plan on doing this ever again if I can help it.
And thirdly... in the past half year I've fallen in love with natural products. I battle with acne, but my love for this is baking soda after reading about sing it for a face scrub. I also use honey, and apple cider vinegar. Well, one thing lead to another and I learned about silicones, and the 'no-poo' regime. It must be now about 3 weeks since I've used shampoo on my hair. I stopped using shampoo, only rinsing with warm water and still continued to use condition, Pantene Pro-V nature fusion smooth & silky. I was aware of the same chemicals used in shampoos in the conditioner. Also something I've been doing for about 2 months now is putting olive oil in my hair after a shower. Yes, after. I leave it in, and it dries, and it's fantastic. It's not overly oily to touch, after one night, it's not oily at all but with all the benefits of being hydrated, shiny and super soft! Right away after I stopped using shampoo, I noticed a difference. My hair just seems healthier! I've wanted to kick the conditioner as well and only a couple days ago discovered I can not only shampoo with baking soda, but conditioner with apple cider vinegar?! Fantastic! I use those daily!
Yesterday was the first time I conditioned with ACV. Yesterday I was between baking soda (I bought new stuff today,) so I didn't shampoo but rinsed as always, then used the ACV. Wow, did it ever leave my hair oily. I was shocked to finish my shower though, and find that instead of looking like it normally would after using olive oil, my hair was intensely curly and looked very frizzy and wiry. In a panic, I put in olive oil and it seemed to remedy the problem... or did it... The entire rest of the night, my hair did not dry. It was as slick as the oil itself! I was very distraught. This morning it was dry, semi-back to normal because one thing I'm still upset about is that it seems more curly still. I realized soon after I shouldn't have used more oil after conditioning with the ACV, but what went wrong...
Tomorrow I will use both baking soda and the vinegar, and see what happens.
So, hello naturally curly community. Sorry for my long-winded introduction, but here is where I'm at! I'm waiting to grow out my hair. One thing I've learned indefinitely is that my face does not go well with bangs, never mind my hair. Other things I have to worry about is a semi-large forehead, a bulbous nose with wide-nostril, ears that stick out, glasses, and a long neck ('an oval face shape goes with anything' stylist say! Yeah yeah yeah.) But I'm again growing out my hair, I want it to be as healthy and natural as it can be and see what happens! Any idea on how long it will take to grow? My ideal length when natural is BSL... I have future college plans for 2015... do you think my hair could reach that length before then? Just as a curiosity.
Also for my plans to grow it out that long, what would be the best cut? Layers? What kind/how short/how long how far between? I would like as wavy (vs curly) as possible... I'm all for relaxed/casual effortless I would even rather not use any product (besides oil if I continue with it, it's hard to say at this point...) Also, what are tricks on thinning your hair besides layers? Thinning scissors? What do they actually do? Don't worry, I'm going to dish out some real cash to go to a hugely professional stylist in the city when the time comes, and not let a single scissor blade touch my hair until I feel me and the stylist see eye to eye.
Thanks guys! I look forward to being part of this community!
Peace and love,