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Old 12-04-2006, 06:21 PM   #1
 
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Just have to rant a little :x Every now and then I look at the MySpace profile of the last guy I dated whom I have not really had any closure with. I am over him in the sense that I would never date him nor trust him again, and I dislike the person he has turned out to be, but I just can't help but give his profile a glance every once in a while (or a mildly drunken call every now and then which I have to stop doing...) Stupid me! I checked his profile today to find him and the much younger girl he has been dating in his main picture with a gingerbread house that they had obviousy made. I have no doubt in my mind that this is the same gingerbread kit that I had bought with him at AC Moore last year when we were together, around the Holidays. What nerve! I don't know...this just upset me a little.. and I'm almost inclined to message him asking to give me the $5 or so that I paid for that stupid thing!!!!!

Serves me right.. But still! grr....

Have any of you had this kind or a similar experience?
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Old 12-04-2006, 06:22 PM   #2
 
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save yourself many headaches and stop looking at his myspace page.

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Oh I definitely agree. I know it is something that I just should not be doing, and have not in a while. I have not seen him for some time now, nor looked at his profile, and saw it as a way to see how he was doing. I now know that it will only cause trouble, and have stopped. I'm more curious, by posting this, to see if anyone has has similar situations....where one's ex has been seen/heard/etc... using something, like MY GINGERBREAD KIT! :x
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Old 12-04-2006, 06:28 PM   #4
 
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Yeah, I'd be upset as well. But I agree with mayim here. I'm sure it is really hard, but try to stop contacting him in any way or looking at his myspace page. It would save you a lot of grief. (((HUGS))))

ETA: Sorry, you posted while I was! I don't have any similiar experience, sorry. I'm sure others will though. Good luck.
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Old 12-04-2006, 06:44 PM   #5
 
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He used a gingerbread kit that YOU bought him with another woman??? Its a good thing you've already dumped such an insensitive bast@ard.

For what its worth, he should have his man card revoked for posting a picture as proof that he'd use such a thing.
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I think I have a story that relates...

This guy I was dating bought me a ring. When we broke up he asked for the ring back, which was fine with me as it was ugly anyway. However, before breaking up I took the ring to get cleaned one time and brought the warrany and the receipt with. When we broke up I still had this stuff. A few months later he called me to ask if he could have the warranty/receipt back because his new girlfriend wanted the ring sized and he was thinking of possibly returning the ring and "trading up" to something better, yes, something better, for his new girlfriend and needed the receipt to do so. Yeah...he was a classy one. I was really upset about that though.

I think you need to stop looking at that guy's myspace and just forget about him. I know it's hard, but why keep making yourself upset about it? I used to do the same thing. I'd look at ex boyfriend's messnger profiles and see what the "relationship status" part said. It only made me upset.
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I have a similar story, too...

I was dating this girl from my junior year of high school through the first half of my college freshman year. She was an utter freak! She had a couple of pair of crotchless panties (only wore them a couple of times) that she left at my house....and then we broke up.

A few months after dating the next girl, I gave her those panties (she didnt know they were used) and she'd wear them on "special occasions" for me.

Does that make me bad?
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I look at my ex's fiancees myspace page. I can't help it. I am nosy liek that. I can't WAIT to see the wedding pictures next month!
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I think I have a story that relates...

This guy I was dating bought me a ring. When we broke up he asked for the ring back, which was fine with me as it was ugly anyway. However, before breaking up I took the ring to get cleaned one time and brought the warrany and the receipt with. When we broke up I still had this stuff. A few months later he called me to ask if he could have the warranty/receipt back because his new girlfriend wanted the ring sized and he was thinking of possibly returning the ring and "trading up" to something better, yes, something better, for his new girlfriend and needed the receipt to do so. Yeah...he was a classy one. I was really upset about that though.

I think you need to stop looking at that guy's myspace and just forget about him. I know it's hard, but why keep making yourself upset about it? I used to do the same thing. I'd look at ex boyfriend's messnger profiles and see what the "relationship status" part said. It only made me upset.
WOW...That guy was pretty tacky and jerky, huh? On that note..this same guy gave me one of those 3 diamond necklaces for X-mas (after being together for only 1 month too!) and I gave it back when we went our separate ways. he is very superficial and materialistic, so I figured I was saying that we were over, in a language he could understand. I should've sold it on Ebay..he's probably going to be giving it to his new girlfriend, if he hasn't already.
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Old 12-04-2006, 09:15 PM   #11
 
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Yea, thats pretty ****ty. Sorry, i know you cant help but checking up on him or wanting to hear things about him. I have a similar thing going on now with a guy i didnt have any closure with either. But he was very very short lived and we didnt buy anything together.
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You're upset about a stale old gingerbread house? Oy...

I have KIDS from my ex husband and he never sees them...doesn't seem to bother him a bit that I'm using those kids that we made together.
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You're upset about a stale old gingerbread house? Oy...

I have KIDS from my ex husband and he never sees them...doesn't seem to bother him a bit that I'm using those kids that we made together.
I think a few people on here misunderstood the intention of my starting this thread..I'm not all that upset about it nor am I here to get advice about it - just to clarify. If you all note the subject title, it generalizes MY individual experience..I'm just curious to see what experiences people have had with their ex's and anything like finding out about the ex and current s.o.'s..like in Zoe's case, with the jewelry. What actually triggered my interest was a dear friend of mine mentioning that she left an "adult boardgame" that she used to "play" with her ex at his apartment, just to over hear in great detail one day at work, a few months later (in a really large company - small world, huh?) about how great it was from a fellow co-worker who is currently dating her ex! :x
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My husband & I were both married before---there are lots of things that we've used w/ our ex's. It's really no big deal.
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Old 12-05-2006, 06:07 AM   #15
 
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I used to date a guy (a really really long time ago). One day, he walked into the place I worked (he didn't know I worked there) with his current girlfriend. She was wearing a baja jacket and a ring that he had given to me. I gave them back when we broke up.

I almost warned her about the black eye that she would soon have to match, but I didn't.

I dated a guy - again a long time ago - who had been married before me. He got half of everything in the divorce - I gurantee all of his things had been used with her.

I know it sucks, but don't torture yourself. People move on, you don't want to be with him, so just smile and remember that she is getting a used present....oh, and the gingerbread house too!
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Old 12-05-2006, 07:04 AM   #16
 
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Stop looking at his page, his gingerbread house, his anything. Let go and move on.

Life is too short to worry about what your x is doing with anything you gave him. Focus on the "now" and don't allow him to be part of that. That's worth more than any gingerbread house!
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Old 12-05-2006, 07:40 AM   #17
 
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Thinking about this...

My husband has a bathrobe that used to belong to my ex-husband. It was left behind when my ex moved out, and I just never threw it away. When my present husband wanted a terry robe, I said "here...do you want this one?" He doesn't care that it used to belong to my ex, and neither do I. It fits him and it's a nice robe.

We have lots of "stuff" that came from our previous ex's. Furniture, dishes, kids, etc. It's just part of stuff we've each acquired over the years. No need to throw it away if it's still serviceable.

I think I have a sweater that used to belong to his ex-wife. It's a good sweater...shrug...
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My husband & I were both married before---there are lots of things that we've used w/ our ex's. It's really no big deal.
No kidding. I have the washer/dryer that my ex-husband and I bought. Was I supposed to throw it out because it was from my first marriage?

And what about all those pots and pans? Are those supposed to be trashed too?

I'm wondering how "over" this guy you really are. I mean, you're looking at his myspace page AND drunk dialing him. That doesn't really scream "OVER HIM!!!" to me.
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We have lots of "stuff" that came from our previous ex's. Furniture, dishes, kids, etc. It's just part of stuff we've each acquired over the years. No need to throw it away if it's still serviceable.
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Just for laughs-

One year at a family gathering at my sister's house we were getting ready for dinner/cookout and my sister brought out a handful of printed napkins with her husband and his ex-wife's names on them from their wedding day years ago! My niece and I looked around like "does she know??" and even tried to discretely tell her. She didn't care, she didn't want BBQ getting on her guests and needed napkins!!

You gotta know my sister, she was probably completely oblivious and cared even less, but how's that for reusing something?
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