Catty Remarks, Cloaked in Sugar - Page 2

afrosheenqueen · 01-23-2011, 02:00 PM

^^^ I like those responses, VJ!

KindredGhost1983 · 01-23-2011, 02:32 PM

Ahhh, the funniest thing about catty remarks cloaked in sugar is that no matter what, they are ALWAYS based in a person's insecurity and jealousy. They can package it up as something different, but its just that.

Don't let her rent space in your head dear sis

missgee · 01-23-2011, 03:05 PM

I agree with Vane???Jane. I also would have added in how her statement was uncalled for, and ended the conversation by walking away.

slinky1 · 01-23-2011, 03:19 PM

When people do something like that, it is almost always about them, and not about you...which I'm sure is the case here.

Unfortunately, there are many ignorant people who would intensely admire the straight-shooting, honest qualities of this person. Many believe that it is important to say what other people can't...How dumb...Those people don't know it's simple as hell to have no self-control.

Sometimes, it actually is about you (not you you...but general you) being a total jerk, or coming off as arrogant and unaware. This is something we all need to check on.

xyziolo · 01-23-2011, 03:42 PM

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I've been in situations like this before. And I always think of the perfect comeback when I'm lying in bed that night, thinking about the situation.

I think the best thing you could do is give em a mean old stare, like missbanjo said.
Just stare into their eyes and don't break eye contact...

Like this? I love this gif:

LMAO!!!!!!! LOVE IT!

xyziolo · 01-23-2011, 03:45 PM

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or you could've said "do you feel better about yourself now that you made that comment about me?". when you put her insecurities all on blast she will be shamed and try to backtrack. ♥

roseannadana · 01-23-2011, 06:52 PM

Oh no she didn't! Her "let's be honest" comment could have been turned around as "You mean, let's be rude?"

automaticflowers · 01-23-2011, 08:59 PM

WTF is wrong with her, saying something like that?

The most I can ever manage when people pull that crap is a sarcastic, "Gee, thanks!" because the only other thing that I'm thinking in the heat of the moment is "A-hole!" and you can't just run around calling people a-holes. It still gets them to backpedal a bit, though, and I like to watch jerks squirm.

It sucks to have that kind of negative comment simmering in your mind whenever you run across that person, so if it'll help you feel better you could still call her on it.

Lotsawaves · 01-23-2011, 10:55 PM

I've had this happen before and I just look at them and laugh and then walk away laughing. No rude comments back, but they get the message that I'm not affected by their comments.

forbee · 01-24-2011, 01:00 AM

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Originally Posted by slinky1

When people do something like that, it is almost always about them, and not about you...which I'm sure is the case here.

Unfortunately, there are many ignorant people who would intensely admire the straight-shooting, honest qualities of this person. Many believe that it is important to say what other people can't...How dumb...Those people don't know it's simple as hell to have no self-control.

Sometimes, it actually is about you (not you you...but general you) being a total jerk, or coming off as arrogant and unaware. This is something we all need to check on.

Yeah, I hate how people are always saying rude things with the disclaimer "just being real." It seems to me like most of the time, they're just being rude.

I don't understand why people make these remarks. I do know that on days I am feeling particularly bad about myself, I am more prone to noticing bad things about other people, whether those things are real or not. But I wouldn't "be honest" and say it to them. Ever.

wavyblonde · 01-24-2011, 03:24 AM

Yep, I'd have said something like Vain???Jane suggested. The first thing that came to mind for me would be, "Wait, why would you even say something like that? We're not even talking about me...?" Or I'd make a joke like, "Wow, if that's the kind of stuff you say when someone HASN'T asked for your opinion, I'd hate to hear what you really think."

Women who say nasty things like that are usually counting on the fact that you'll be so stunned that you will just take the hit. Always, always call them on it. They didn't say it on accident.

murrrcat · 01-24-2011, 08:15 AM

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Originally Posted by slinky1

When people do something like that, it is almost always about them, and not about you...which I'm sure is the case here.

Unfortunately, there are many ignorant people who would intensely admire the straight-shooting, honest qualities of this person. Many believe that it is important to say what other people can't...How dumb...Those people don't know it's simple as hell to have no self-control.

Sometimes, it actually is about you (not you you...but general you) being a total jerk, or coming off as arrogant and unaware. This is something we all need to check on.

No no no no no. She didn't say what others thought, she said what she thought, didn't nobody else say she wasn't stunningly beautiful, only this heffa did. And this heffa opinion don't even matter, because she obviously seems to be a nasty little creature.

I just thought of another come back.
"I mean you're cute but lets be honest you're not stunningly beautiful"

and then you would say "well the same goes for your personality"

then run. (or walk fast)

curlylew66 · 01-24-2011, 08:31 AM

I only did one quick mean comeback in my entire life.

I was standing in line at CVS and a woman behind me said, "You know that make things to fix that?!" I said, "What?" She said, "Your hair."

So.....
I remembered I had a plastic surgeon's card in my wallet. A relative had their nose broken because of sinus problems. I was the hosptial transport person on the day of surgery and they gave me the card in case they had complications when I got them home.
Anyway...
I took the card out from my wallet and handed it to the woman saying, "Yes, and there are also things out there to fix your face."

I FELT LIBERATED!

Maybe, grab a couple magazines with the "stunning"
people of the world. Tell her, "I picked out my look but I was thinking of something like THIS for you!" Attach a plastic surgeon's card.

Saria · 01-24-2011, 08:36 AM

Bwahaha, curlylew! Awesome.

Cheetara · 01-24-2011, 08:46 AM

Next time you'll have a comeback AND a scathing look to give her.

curlylew66 · 01-24-2011, 08:54 AM

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Bwahaha, curlylew! Awesome.

She was totally shocked which gave me plenty of time to exit the store before she tried to kick my azz. There were other people in line too! They smiled. I was so ticked because I thought my hair looked pretty good that day.

I would have NEVER thought of it before but I was getting supplies for the person who just had their nose done. I think all should carry a plastic surgeon's card just in case of nasty comments like that!

WileE-Dead · 01-24-2011, 08:58 AM

Great story curlylew! haha

curlylew66 · 01-24-2011, 09:05 AM

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Great story curlylew! haha

TY...I think I have told it here before when another poster was treated wrong by someone.
Hubby's was like

and then

then

when I told him. He was just glad I wasn't in jail!

Amneris · 01-24-2011, 09:08 AM

First of all, kindred, you ARE stunningly beautiful!

Secondly, this person WANTED her comment to dig at you like this so don't give her the satisfaction!

Third of all... very sad that she ties marriage to what others think of your looks. Doesn't sound very happy.

Saria · 01-24-2011, 09:14 AM

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Third of all... very sad that she ties marriage to what others think of your looks. Doesn't sound very happy.

Yeah, I thought of this, too. It surprises me that people still think all it takes is being beautiful to find love/marriage.