College!!!

Hey I haven't visited NC in a long time!

I am extremely scared... This upcoming Fall I am hoping to attend an out of state college, however I am SCARED out of my mind. It just takes me a while to adjust to new things/people. I am extremely shy, and scared this will affect me while I am there. I know I probably sound like a little cry baby

I am just wondering, is it really easy to make friends in college? I am not scared about actual college work or even finding a job, but I am mostly worried about my social life

Sorry, I am being a baby...


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You're just being human. This was exactly how I felt when I was about to start my freshman year. The best advice I could give you is what my dad told me. GET INVOLVED! Join clubs that spark your interest, if you're school has activities going on go to them, go out for a team, anything! My school had an Extreme Frisbee Club lol. You need to not be afraid to put yourself out there and meet people. And there's a 120% chance that there are people who feel like you, and are from out of state as well.

I had a friend, when she was a freshman at a college in a state she'd never been to she wanted to meet some people. So when everyone was settling into their dorm rooms she got a deck of cards and went door to door asking if anyone wanted to play Bullsh*t. Sure she may have gotten a couple of weird looks but after asking a couple times she met some girls who wanted to meet other people to and played cards with her, they talked and eventually became friends. I could never be as bold as her but I think that was really cool lol. You can't be afraid to get out there. Another way is while you're in classes where there's a lot of freshman (i.e. Gen Ed classes) strike up a conversation with the person next to you if they're by themselves too.

It's only hard if you make it hard.
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Tuchie09, Thanks

I am very socially awkward, but I hope that with time and being involved in some groups, then I'll definitely meet some people that'll invite me to hang out with them.


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You are exactly like me. Making friends has always been like trying to do open heart surgery for me. It's ok to feel like this but you have to remind yourself that it's no big deal, you'll make friends and it'll all be ok. To be totally and completely honest it took a while before I found anyone I could call "friend". I started college August of 2009 and it wasn't until a month later that I joined a sorority and even while I was in my sorority I didn't connect with anyone until a little while later. But what I did was hang around my sisters, got involved, and tried to enjoy myself. Just stay positive! No one wants to hang around a downer lol.
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Remember: a lot of freshmen are going to be in the same boat as you! From my experience, most freshmen are eager to make friends.

Last edited by Saila; 03-19-2011 at 02:49 AM.
Remember: a lot of freshmen are going to be in the same boat as you! From my experience, most freshmen are really friendly and eager to make friends.
Originally Posted by Saila
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Curly in Okinawa, Japan where only the toughest curls can stand up to this heat and humidity.

My Arsenal:
Shampoo: Waiting on SM African Black soap shampoo to makes its way to me...
Conditioner(s): CJ Beauticurls Argan and Olive Oil, Curl Junkie Smoothing Lotion
Treatments: CJ Curl Rehab, CJ Deep Fix, CJ Repair Me!
Oil: Apricot Kernel Oil
Stylers: CD Loc Butter for twists, CJAF, CJCQ (haven't figured out how to work this though...)
Remember: a lot of freshmen are going to be in the same boat as you! From my experience, most freshmen are really friendly and eager to make friends.
Originally Posted by Saila
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Originally Posted by Tuchie09
Ohhhh, my. This just made me realize the redundancy of my post. It's almost 3am. Smh.
Hey I haven't visited NC in a long time!

I am extremely scared... This upcoming Fall I am hoping to attend an out of state college, however I am SCARED out of my mind. It just takes me a while to adjust to new things/people. I am extremely shy, and scared this will affect me while I am there. I know I probably sound like a little cry baby

I am just wondering, is it really easy to make friends in college? I am not scared about actual college work or even finding a job, but I am mostly worried about my social life

Sorry, I am being a baby...
Originally Posted by CurlyInDaBrains
Just get involved. Join clubs and work on campus. You'll be fine...
I so understand! I'm from Alaska and in the fall I'm going all the way to Pittsburgh, Pennsylvania for college. I can name at least a dozen kids from my school going to Gonzaga or Washington State or Oregon State, but none are going to U Pitt so I'm going to be totally on my own. I'm so nervous but in a good way! I'm sure we're going to be fine.

And I am so using that card game idea! (:
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I agree with the previous advice. I'm a college senior and I felt the same as you feel now. If you have already decided on a major, find others who share your major by going to your major's department and hanging out. For example, I'm an English major/Creative Writing minor, and at my school inside the English department's office area, there are two lounging areas where professors and students can relax and have a cup of coffee. If you do this, you'll find people who share your interests. Or, you can check your school's student activities website and see what clubs are offered.

Just remember to breathe and remind yourself that you aren't the only freshman. There are plenty that feel like you. Oh yeah, smiling can help. A simple smile can be a conversation starter.
I was (am) really bad for this when I was in university. So I would say hi and strike up a convo (any convo) with the person next to me. General stuff, ask if they wanna get coffee or lunch together, etc. I was pretty much hyperventilating when I did so, but I made a couple of really good friends that way.

I agree with the joining clubs and such too, maybe student associations for your program of studies (I studied Chemistry, joined the Chemistry Students Association). Having a similar interest and common conversation topic can REALLY help break the ice.

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