GIRLFRIENDS who try and COPY your style?

If you look good in them, why not wear them? I think it IS valuing yourself to have confidence that you look good and feel good and can be yourself. It's not valuing yourself to hide your assets and try to be inconspicuous.

There is a middle ground between inconspicuous and tasteless. Bodies have surpassed brains in terms of value for many women. It does not empower women to be praised only for their beauty and bodies. It devalues them, and it devalues women as a group.
Originally Posted by RedCatWaves
So why, pray tell, have you surmised that the OP is tasteless and is devaluing herself by wearing a tube/tank top? Call me dense.
Yeah, and you don't have any context as to Zaria's situation or any pictures or anything to back up your assertion that she must look like a hooker or whore or be trashy.

Unless the tube top is silk and a part of formal attire to attend formal events (every day?), I think there is enough context...
Originally Posted by RedCatWaves
LOLOLOL. Ok,RCW, how many did you smoke today?????? Seriously!!!
If you look good in them, why not wear them? I think it IS valuing yourself to have confidence that you look good and feel good and can be yourself. It's not valuing yourself to hide your assets and try to be inconspicuous.

There is a middle ground between inconspicuous and tasteless. Bodies have surpassed brains in terms of value for many women. It does not empower women to be praised only for their beauty and bodies. It devalues them, and it devalues women as a group.
Originally Posted by RedCatWaves
So why, pray tell, have you surmised that the OP is tasteless and is devaluing herself by wearing a tube/tank top? Call me dense.
Originally Posted by SaKkeh
To follow on from this, you insisted that context was the main reason for your accusation of whore-ish dressing. When Amneris pointed out that there was no real context, you said that knowing that it wasn't for a ball dress was enough context, which really is no context at all.

I entirely agree that any accusation or labelling of whore should, firstly, not be thrown around wildly, and secondly, be based on a complete understanding of character and not on one item of clothing.

So when you demand context, don't then turn round and say the context is rather loose and vague and therefore unimportant.

ETA: all this seems to stem, IMO, from an urge and desire that women do not flaunt their skin and push beauty over brains for worth - this would seem to be a 'girl power' type theme which I entirely agree with. So why attack another woman for wearing an item of clothing she favours?

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If you look good in them, why not wear them? I think it IS valuing yourself to have confidence that you look good and feel good and can be yourself. It's not valuing yourself to hide your assets and try to be inconspicuous.

There is a middle ground between inconspicuous and tasteless. Bodies have surpassed brains in terms of value for many women. It does not empower women to be praised only for their beauty and bodies. It devalues them, and it devalues women as a group.
Originally Posted by RedCatWaves
So why, pray tell, have you surmised that the OP is tasteless and is devaluing herself by wearing a tube/tank top? Call me dense.
Originally Posted by SaKkeh
To follow on from this, you insisted that context was the main reason for your accusation of whore-ish dressing. When Amneris pointed out that there was no real context, you said that knowing that it wasn't for a ball dress was enough context, which really is no context at all.

I entirely agree that any accusation or labelling of whore should, firstly, not be thrown around wildly, and secondly, be based on a complete understanding of character and not on one item of clothing.

So when you demand context, don't think turn round and say the context is rather loose and vague and therefore unimportant.
Originally Posted by jennyfurrens
Well said.
If you look good in them, why not wear them? I think it IS valuing yourself to have confidence that you look good and feel good and can be yourself. It's not valuing yourself to hide your assets and try to be inconspicuous.

There is a middle ground between inconspicuous and tasteless. Bodies have surpassed brains in terms of value for many women. It does not empower women to be praised only for their beauty and bodies. It devalues them, and it devalues women as a group.
Originally Posted by RedCatWaves
So why, pray tell, have you surmised that the OP is tasteless and is devaluing herself by wearing a tube/tank top? Call me dense.
Originally Posted by SaKkeh
To follow on from this, you insisted that context was the main reason for your accusation of whore-ish dressing. When Amneris pointed out that there was no real context, you said that knowing that it wasn't for a ball dress was enough context, which really is no context at all.

I entirely agree that any accusation or labelling of whore should, firstly, not be thrown around wildly, and secondly, be based on a complete understanding of character and not on one item of clothing.

So when you demand context, don't think turn round and say the context is rather loose and vague and therefore unimportant.
Originally Posted by jennyfurrens
I agree with this. I also think we devalue women when we insist on calling each other names like "whore" or "whorish" especially based on something as unimportant as our individual clothing choices.
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I will admit that I copied what other girls were wearing/their style. I'm pretty sure I did it because I was insecure and wanted to fit in. I had to wear a uniform at school so when it came to wearing normal clothes I would always stand out (and in my teenage mind that was a bad thing) because I didn't dress anything like the other girls. I got picked on a lot. So I started copying what the other girls wore.

Now I don't care, I wear what I want. I don't get uppity if someone copies what I've got or I'm wearing the same as someone else, mainly because I've done the same thing. Also I doubt many people are so unique in their clothing choices that they are style setters. When it comes down to it, we are all influenced by what other people wear.
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