GIRLFRIENDS who try and COPY your style?

Are you flattered or irritated?
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I had someone (a former co-worker/friend) that used to buy the exact same outfits and shoes that I had. It irritated the crap out of me. She even tried to do her hair like mine . One day, I came in to the office wearing a new top with skirt. Guess who went out and bought the same exact outfit and whore it the next day?
If it's just little things, I find it flattering. (and even a little cute.) If it's all the time...hmmm. That has never happened to me. That would be major weirdness, and it would irritate me.


I had someone (a former co-worker/friend) that used to buy the exact same outfits and shoes that I had. It irritated the crap out of me. She even tried to do her hair like mine . One day, I came in to the office wearing a new top with skirt. Guess who went out and bought the same exact outfit and whore it the next day?
Originally Posted by CSI Gal
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Yep, in high school. It seriously ticked me off. She copied my style of dress, she'd buy the same music I'd buy (which was not mainstream), use the same slang words (some of which I made up) and she even dated two guys I'd broken up with. She was a great friend otherwise, but gosh, that was annoying!
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very very annoying!
And the end of the day , all you've got is yourself..
It hasn't happened often, but when it does, I find it irritating.
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Very annoying. Mine isn't withg clothes, but with perfume. I'll wear a new scent and my co-worker is like a bloodhound until she finds and buys the exact same one. :x
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Annoying if they just run out and buy the same thing with no explanation. Flattering if they compliment you and tell you they've been looking for something just like it.


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I don't understand why someone would be irritated with something like that. I mean, if it's a girlfriend of yours, what's the big deal if she copies something you do? Otherwise, why would you be like "hey, I love those jeans, where'd you get them?" if you weren't planning on getting them too? If I found that much irritation in a friend of mine copying some of my style, then I probably really don't like her that much as a friend.

A co-worker, or non-friend doing this would totally annoy me, as it would if my friend was trying to BE me, but that's never happened.
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I guess I should explain why I started this topic...I have a female associate/ part time friend, who tries to copy EVERYTHING about me. For instance..

My hair: I have, long, big curly hair...Now she has a long curly weave..

My clothes: Since my reduction in the summer I only wore tube tops..She never ever wore them till I did, even buying the same EXACT shirts..She buys the EXACT same jeans, belts, jewelry, boots as me..What REALLY REALLY pissed me off is when we were going X-mas shopping and I happened to see this VERY seXxy red very dressy tube top style shirt to wear this friday for girls night out. When we left the store she told me she was going to look for a RED shirt that was SEXIER then the one I brought..UGH!!!

Its to the point I dont even want to be around this chick because I feel she is in some kind of competition with me. I have a unique style, and I am sick of her trying to copy me!!
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I hate when the individual in question constantly derides your hair/clothing item/accessory/tattoo and sneers at it...but then will go out and get the exact same thing.

Someone who was just copying everything with no hostility? I would sort of feel weirded out, maybe it's because I've never experienced that before.
I always tell my girlfriends when I get something at a really great price, which is most of the time since I'm an excellent shopper (cheap or very frugal). If it's a really, really great price and I don't think whatever it is will still be there later, I'll just pick it up for them.

Most of my friends have similar taste in individual pieces, but we put them together totally differently (different coordinating pieces, shoes, accesories, makeup choices), have different body types, etc. So, things don't end up looking the same even if they are. I guess I probably wouldn't like it if we went places looking like twins. I've been out with two girlfriends and all three of us ended up wearing the same top I'd found on sale for $4. We had on three different colors, but we also didn't look like we had on the same top because of the other clothes we had on with the top.

If it bothers you, maybe you should say something. Maybe tell her you want to know what she's wearing before you all go out so that you can be sure not to dress alike.
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Some of you sound like bickering children. My kids whine like that "Mooooooom, she's copying me", "Wah, he's copying me".

I'll just repeat what I tell them all time: Imitation is the sincerest form of flattery. Take it as a compliment and spend your time worrying about something more important.
Some of you sound like bickering children.
Originally Posted by RedCatWaves
Maybe because I was a child when it happened...
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I do think some imatiation is a sincere form a flattery.

But if it goes too far and you ignored the warning signs, then you have to learn too. I had to learn the hard way. I have a friend (we're still friends, just not close) who not only would copy my clothes, but when we didn't have on similar clothes so would look for something to make herself feel that we were sooo similar.

For instance, she'd say, "Oh my goodness I have on a red headband and you have a red sweater. I guess we both just felt "red" today." I know it doesn't seem like any big deal, but the attention got worse until she ended up calling a friend of mine and basically telling her to back off because she and I were really really close, like sisters, and she could tell that this new girl was trying to break us apart. Of course, my other friend called me and was concerned because she didn't know what the heck my crazy friend was talking about.

Some people can get a little crazy with the copying and it's there way of ensuring you don't grow apart.
Maybe because I was a child when it happened...
But you're not a child anymore. And you still haven't put it into perspective.
My clothes: Since my reduction in the summer I only wore tube tops..She never ever wore them till I did, even buying the same EXACT shirts..She buys the EXACT same jeans, belts, jewelry, boots as me..What REALLY REALLY pissed me off is when we were going X-mas shopping and I happened to see this VERY seXxy red very dressy tube top style shirt to wear this friday for girls night out. When we left the store she told me she was going to look for a RED shirt that was SEXIER then the one I brought..UGH!!!

Maybe all the hooker clothes come in red this season?
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Some of you sound like bickering children. My kids whine like that "Mooooooom, she's copying me", "Wah, he's copying me".

I'll just repeat what I tell them all time: Imitation is the sincerest form of flattery. Take it as a compliment and spend your time worrying about something more important.
Originally Posted by RedCatWaves
Granted, if it's a couple of things that she is copying, no big deal.

HOWEVER, some of these stories sound like the copy-er is on the verge of stalking.

I had someone (a former co-worker/friend) that used to buy the exact same outfits and shoes that I had. It irritated the crap out of me. She even tried to do her hair like mine . One day, I came in to the office wearing a new top with skirt. Guess who went out and bought the same exact outfit and whore it the next day?
Originally Posted by CSI Gal
That's just freaky.
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I do think some imatiation is a sincere form a flattery.

But if it goes too far and you ignored the warning signs, then you have to learn too. I had to learn the hard way. I have a friend (we're still friends, just not close) who not only would copy my clothes, but when we didn't have on similar clothes so would look for something to make herself feel that we were sooo similar.

For instance, she'd say, "Oh my goodness I have on a red headband and you have a red sweater. I guess we both just felt "red" today." I know it doesn't seem like any big deal, but the attention got worse until she ended up calling a friend of mine and basically telling her to back off because she and I were really really close, like sisters, and she could tell that this new girl was trying to break us apart. Of course, my other friend called me and was concerned because she didn't know what the heck my crazy friend was talking about.

Some people can get a little crazy with the copying and it's there way of ensuring you don't grow apart.

I believe there was a movie about that very subject (Single White Female). If it gets to the point where your roomate throws your dog off the balcony and kills your boyfriend, then, yes it's a problem. Otherwise, groups of girls do tend to dress alike and there is always some conceited one in the bunch who thinks she started the trend and gets all assy that everyone is "copying" her...makes me go

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