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Old 05-20-2011, 05:04 PM   #1
 
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I think I've just discovered what might be a huge pet peeve of mine: When you're in one persons company and they bump into someone that they know, and they engage in a somewhat lengthy conversation with this person without ever introducing you.

This happened to me just now and if the other person caught glimpses of my face, they probably thought I was insane because I'm sure I had this look on my face because I was in such deep thought.

I'm sitting there thinking that maybe I'm sensitive to weird things, but if I'm with someone and bump into someone else that I know, it's almost instinct for me to stop and go "This is my friend so-and-so", let them say hello, then continue the conversation. Because its just weird not to do that, right?

I always thought that was how it's supposed to go. Apparently not though. Apparently you can sit or stand there or wander off and wait until they end the conversation and never be acknowledge.

I'm not hurt or offended, just bewildered, I think?

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I always introduce people to each other. It's rude not to do so and I never want someone to feel left out. It is certainly odd and impolite to have a conversation with a third person right there and not include the person.

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Old 05-20-2011, 05:09 PM   #3
 
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Maybe they couldn't remember the person's name?
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I do unless I'm merely making polite conversation. Sometimes I'm too distracted thinking "omg you're the biggest moron!" in my head to remember. Generally though I'm pretty good cuz people do it to me all the time. My BF does it constantly which stinks because he knows EVERYONE. I swear.
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Oh no. They remembered.

"Oh my goodness Kellieeee! Hey girl!"

Ive seen this happen before and it has happened to me before this as well, for some reason this time stuck out to me.
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Old 05-20-2011, 06:03 PM   #6
 
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I always introduce people to each other. My husband, however, is terrible about this. I've learned to just take the initiative and introduce myself, usually with a snippy remark about how my husband forgot his manners.
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I hate when that happens Not because I want to meet the other person but becuase I feel so awkward standing there like a third wheel while they carry on their AB conversation.
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I don't care to be introduced, so I tend not to introduce. But I also hate lengthy "street corner" conversations or 2 way conversation when there are 3 people present.

What I do hate is when someone is on the phone with an undisclosed person and procedes to tell them that I am present and exactly what we're doing ("yeah, me and subbrock are sitting here eating cupcakes but then we're going to go to the grocery store by my house...."). If I know who they're talking to I'm fine but if I don't know them it drives me crazy, for no good reason.

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I agree w/ you..
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Old 05-21-2011, 07:33 AM   #10
 
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Yes, very tacky. If it's anything more than a "hey, how's it going?" an introduction should be made IMO.

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I have made the mistake of not introducing someone before. But its usually when i bump into someone i havent seen in years and am just so happy to see them i forget who i'm with, when i come back to my senses i introduce adn appologize for not doing it right away.
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I don't care to be introduced, so I tend not to introduce. But I also hate lengthy "street corner" conversations or 2 way conversation when there are 3 people present.
Agree with all of this; but, because I know others find it rude, I usually force myself to make introductions. I regard introductions to random strangers the same as chit-chat small talk with strangers ~ with loathing. 9.8 times out of 10, people never remember my name anyway. It's my problem, and I get that; that's why I go ahead and make the introductions myself when I'm in that position. I have trained my man not to introduce me to people I'll likely never see again, but he's such a gentleman that he often forgets.

Yes, to me it's far more rude to subject someone to being the 3rd wheel in a lengthy conversation like subbrock mentioned, unless I know that person absolutely won't mind or if the conversation is necessary but I still try to keep it brief.

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Old 05-23-2011, 11:33 AM   #13
 
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Horrifyingly bad manners. Unless you felt as subbrock does and had informed your friend you did not want to be introduced to random strangers (not being snarky, sb - my husbeast is the same way. Different strokes, I always say ).

My closest friend does this. It drives me batty, and I've told her so. Still, she forgets - I love her to death, but she's a little flaky sometimes. Or she can't remember the other person's name. In any event, if the conversation lasts more than 30 seconds, I just put my hand out and introduce myself: "Hi, I'm bluesheep." Kills two birds: I get introduced, and I elicit the other person's name if my friend can't remember it.

My husbeast only fails to introduce me when we've run into someone he doesn't like or doesn't want to see. He doesn't want to get further entangled, which is okay with me.
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Well I can't remember the names of a lot or people I've met. If someone's with me, I'm often silently begging for them to step up and introduce themselves so the other person will do the same.

But if I know the name, I make introductions. Personally I don't care if a friend introduces me to some random person they run into. I feel if they don't, they probably have a good reason.

I feel like my boyfriend should, though, but that's more because I feel like he should be telling people that I am his SO.

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I feel my SO should too a lot of the time. He doesn't even think about it though. Last time we were at a school event and on the way out he chatted with DsD's bff's parents for 20 minutes and I didn't get an intro. :/ What makes it worse is he can't end a freakin' conversation, he has a really hard time with that.

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It's not something that's second nature to me, but I try to be mindful of it, and remember to do so most of the time.
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wild~hair and missbanjo, ITA. Far worse (IMO) when an SO/spouse fails to do it. I say barge right in there and introduce yourself! Of course, that's my nature, and I realize not everyone is comfortable with that, and you shouldn't have to do it in the first place. mb, don't know what to do about the inability to end conversations. If you want to leave, you could just say sweetly, "I'm so sorry to interrupt, but [insert name here], we really do need to go." If you're only looking to move on to someone/something else, I've got no suggestions. Not that you were looking for any, lol. I really like men, but sometimes they can be so clueless.

Just my two cents, for whatever it's worth (probably more like $.005).
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yes i usually do.

now SO and i have this unwritten rule that we laugh about after the fact...cause we've bumped into folks and didnt remember for the life of us who the hell the person was but we didnt really have a long convo...or if it was someone we bumped in that we didnt feel like speaking to, we dont do the introduction thing. and neither of us takes it personal cause after the fact we're like "now who the hell was that?"
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yes i usually do.

now SO and i have this unwritten rule that we laugh about after the fact...cause we've bumped into folks and didnt remember for the life of us who the hell the person was but we didnt really have a long convo...or if it was someone we bumped in that we didnt feel like speaking to, we dont do the introduction thing. and neither of us takes it personal cause after the fact we're like "now who the hell was that?"
Been there, lol. Those are the times I think it's acceptable not to introduce someone.

Totally OT, but your hair is gorgeous!
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I always introduce people unless its a "Hi, how are you? Fine" type passing encounter.

DH is a small-town doctor, so to he is constantly running into patients who will stop and chat. That is always an awkward situation, since he obviously can't introduce me to them. Sometimes I pretend I've seen someone/something and wander away.
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