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Old 12-31-2006, 09:48 PM   #1
 
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Default SO wrong! 67-year-old mother gives birth to twins

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That's so sad to me... what kind of mother can she be at that age?
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Old 12-31-2006, 10:47 PM   #2
 
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What a selfish woman.
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Old 01-01-2007, 01:08 AM   #3
 
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Why is she a selfish woman?
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Old 01-01-2007, 03:21 AM   #4
 
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Why exactly would you question what kind of a mother she would be? Are you saying older people are not capable of being good parents? Or do you think she's so old she could die any day, leaving her children orphaned? If she gave birth at this age, I would imagine she's in pretty good health and has many good years ahead of her. I think the risks of birth defects are too high at that age, but that's my personal belief that I would not impose on others. Some people think any woman that gets pregnant after 35 is selfish and irresponsible, but we really have no right to judge. If this woman went through as much as she did to have these children, I think that shows she wanted them very badly and will be a good mother to them.
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Old 01-01-2007, 09:28 AM   #5
 
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You could get hit by a bus ande die or become physically disabled tomorrow. There are many physically disabled people who are wonderful parents. There can be and are many absolutely crap 25 & 30 yo parents. There are many good poor parents. There are many 30 yo women who don't get pregnant without medical help. There are many infertile couples who use surrogates or adopt.

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Wow, that is really incredible that the doctors would approve the procedure on a woman over 50 because the risks to both baby and mum after that age are magnified.

But, maybe she wasn't in a position until later (financially and technology wise) to be able to concieve at all...
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Ok, WITHOUT knowing this woman's situation, the first thing that comes to mind is this is utter insanity.

Again, I don't know the whole story, but I am shocked and actually a little dismayed at the fact the doctors would approve this.

I wonder if maybe she tried to adopt and they refused her because of her age? That would be interesting to find out.

???
bizarre.
So many kids in this world...that need help.
Why a 67 year old woman would have in-vitro is just beyond me.
But then again, I really DON'T know the situation, so maybe I should just shut up.
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Old 01-01-2007, 11:22 AM   #8
 
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Quite frankly, is a 70-80 year old woman capable of taking care of teenagers?
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Quite frankly, is a 70-80 year old woman capable of taking care of teenagers?
I worry that the teenagers will be taking care of her.
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"???
bizarre.
So many kids in this world...that need help.
Why a 67 year old woman would have in-vitro is just beyond me."

Couldn't this exact same point be made for anyone "young or not so young" who becomes pregnant and decides to give birth or becomes pregnant through invitro or who decides to have "natural" children instead of adopting.?

There are a ton of 16 yo who are probably doing the equivalent of taking care of or raising their 35 yo parents.

No one who decides to become a parent knows what is going to happen to their lives after they have a child. I have a friend who's 35 SIL died of brain and (a second bout of) breast cancer. She left three children between the ages of 6 and 13.

As far as plenty of children who need help, how does the argument that a 67 yo woman shouldn't give birth b/c she might not be around or might be extremely old at some point not also hold true?

My mother has a friend who never married or had a child and decided at 50 or 50+ that she wanted to adopt. She tried desparately to adopt a child domestically and was repeatedly turned down b/c of her age (sometimes it was said and other times it was heavily implied). Finally, she wound up adopting a Russian girl from an orphanage.
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Old 01-01-2007, 01:04 PM   #11
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I am all for liberalism and it sounds really nice to defend this sort of thing.

The reality is that a 10 year old should not have to be worried about the mortality of her mother or her mother's nursing home situation or any such thing and the hundreds of other reasons that human beings were not designed to mother offspring in our senior years.

Yes, people die at all ages. Accidents and terrible diseases happen. Those are unexpected events that cannot be prevented.

But making the conscious decision to have a child decades beyond what nature ever intended for any human female...when your chance of mortality is exponentially increased, your chance of not being able to care for this child even into her early childhood years, etc....is most assuredly irresponsible and certainly not an act designed with the child's best interest in mind.
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If anything, she should think of how embarrassed her kids are going to be when they're 15 and their 82 year old mother shows up at school.

Think of the children.

ETA: (this was written slightly tongue in cheek).
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Personally, I feel bad for the children. I know what it's like to be faced with your parents' mortality at a fairly young age. I was in high school when my mother had her first heart attack, I was 22 when she almost died from an infection, 24 when my dad almost died from congestive heart failure....I could go on. Any way, they are now in their early 70s and I'm thankful that they are still alive and I've had 30+ years with them in my life. I have a chance of making the grandparents, my mother cried when I graduated from college and my dad has been able to see me have a successful career. Her children will not have that with her, and that's sad. She may not live to see them graduate from high school, let alone get married and have children of their own.
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Old 01-01-2007, 01:44 PM   #14
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Honestly-I don't care.
I just hope she has made provisions for thier care in case something happens(which,of course parents of ANY age should do)
Being older doesn't make you a bad parent.My grandmother was sharp as a tack well into her 80's,and physically fit as well.
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I'm with Mar; this just isn't one of the things I can get worked up about.

Parents (young or old) who neglect their children, mistreat them, don't bother to train them how to be decent human beings -- THAT I can get excited about.

No one knows how long they are going to live. All parents (as Mar said) should make provision for their children in case something happens to them.

My dad died when I was five years old. He was 38. Go figure.
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Quite frankly, is a 70-80 year old woman capable of taking care of teenagers?
In all honesty, is anyone capable of handling teenagers these days? I know plenty of parents in their 30's and 40's whose children run all over them. I stand by my belief that having children is a strictly personal decision and is none of anyone else's business. We know hardly anything about this woman, so what gives us the right to jump to conclusions and judge her for wanting to be a mother?
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Two words for you:

egg. donor.

Absolutely NO way those were her own eggs.
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Old 01-01-2007, 03:46 PM   #18
 
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This is shameful, with all the children in the world waiting to be adopted or fostered or mentored who need loving homes or the support of someone living in the west. It's too bad that this woman preferred to use an egg donor than help some existing children.
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Quite frankly, is a 70-80 year old woman capable of taking care of teenagers?
As the psychologically scarred adopted child of much older parents, I'm going to say not very likely.

My parents were not psychologically, financially, or physically capable of dealing with two teenagers--even in their 60s, and, yes, we basically ran the household...and not very well, I might add. And just imagine how much more difficult teenagers will be in 15 years....
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Old 01-01-2007, 03:52 PM   #20
 
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I can see both sides of this. I tend to agree with KCL and with Bailey422 almost equally.

It isn't something I get worked up about at all, but it does strike me as being selfish, and let us get real - the chance of that woman dying before her kids are grown IS higher than the chance of a younger mom not living to see her kids grow up. It just is.
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